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International Transgender Day of Visibility - Trans Megathread from March 30th, 2026 to April 4th, 2026 (thelemmy.club)

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International Transgender Day of Visibility (TDoV) is a day for celebrating the lives of transgender people, recognizing the contributions we make to society and rallying against the discrimination we face. TDoV also functions as a counterpart to the International Transgender Day of Remembrance (TDoR)^[TDoR is observed on November 20th and memorializes those of us who's lives were stolen by transphobic violence, particularly trans women of color. TDoR was initially founded in 1999 in remembrance of Rita Hester, Chanelle Pickett, and Monique Thomas, three black trans women who were murdered in the Boston area.]; with TDoR being a somber occasion and TDoV having a more celebratory nature.

For this week, in observation of TDoV, I invite you all, the posters in our community to write a little bit about the celebration of trans lives.

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[-] gaystyleJoker@hexbear.net 3 points 1 month ago

HELLO THIS IS THE MEGA SIGN UP POST/LIST POST

if you have a preferred week please tell me

Carcharodonna* (4/6 - 4/12)
GayTuckerCarlson* (4/13 - 4/19)
Busgirl (4/20 - 4/26)
SwitchyandWitchy* (4/27 - 5/3)
Disaster_of_Passion* (5/4 - 5/10)
sodium_nitride* (5-11 - 5/17)
peanutbuttercupola* (5/18 - 5/24)
Shaleesh* (5/25 - 5/31)

* after name denotes someone who has posted before and will be skipped by first-time posters

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[-] OffSeasonPrincess@hexbear.net 26 points 1 month ago

Finally just got estrogen!! trans-ferret bridget-vibe

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[-] RION@hexbear.net 24 points 1 month ago

Yo I got ma'am'd at the grocery store? And I wasn't wearing makeup or anything??

Older ladies at the money order counter truly are my strongest soldiers

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[-] Hestia@hexbear.net 23 points 1 month ago

I’m happy that I’ve reached a point in my transition where I can encourage other comrades to be their true selves. I’ve come very far from the timid little egg I once was.

[-] RondoRevolution@hexbear.net 23 points 1 month ago

CW: Gender dysphoria and depression

Comrades, I know this is a celebratory occasion, but I feel like I'm choking and need to let this out somewhere, I have no one to talk about this.

I know I'm not cis, it's not cis to literally wonder what gender I am every single day of my life for the past I don't even know how many years, all I know is that I don't like being a man. I don't like looking like a man, sounding like a man, presenting as a man, being perceived as a man, having a beard and having chest hair.

Some days it's easier to deal with, and I sometimes don't care that much. Others it is not, today is one of those, probably the worst one yet. I have been meaning to comment or post here for a while, but always tossed it aside.

I have been depressed for a long time now, I'm medicated, but it's not working nearly as well as I hoped. I'm also autistic, ADHD, shy and have a lot of social anxiety. I have mentioned this to my therapist before, but it's hard for me and I haven't been able to talk with her for almost a year now too, because neither I nor my mom work and we both depend on my dad's money for everything, and his insistence on trying to be a businessman keeps fucking him over. I can't tell him this tho or he will get angry and we will fight again, which just sucks. In the last year we have moved twice, both because we have little money and because the past 2 landlords were both pieces of shit, the most recent was less then a month ago and now me and my mom are in a house far away in the middle of nowhere, but we don't have to worry about rent at least.

Today one of the only few friends I have told me he is having a child. I felt so happy for him!!! Genuinely happy!! But soon after I realized I haven't changed in a long time, I'm the exact same person with the exact same issues unable to change, I'm still unemployed, still depressed, still doing the same things I do daily, still unable to read a single book or study because I can't focus and I start yawning non-stop, no matter how much I want to do that, let alone even being able to find the motivation to start 9/10 times. I'm still stuck, and that triggered me wanting to post this comment here, the dysphoria came in like a truck alongside that.

When I made this account I set my pronouns to [any] because of that, it was a chance for me to try something else while just getting rid of the [he/him] pronouns without actually committing to it, yet I haven't even posted much because most of the time I'm too depressed or anxious for that. It also doesn't help that I always had issues with my body. I'm obese now, and haven't been able to lose weight, but I have been overweight ever since I was little too.

I want to change so bad, yet I feel like I'm unable to, feel like I'm stuck, and with no motivation.

It's been at least an hour since I started writing this comment, and I have read it multiple times already instead of just hitting post.

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[-] meler@hexbear.net 22 points 1 month ago

People have started calling me a name my name is commonly short for. I haven't asked anyone to do this but I'm not complaining. I kinda really love it

[-] tithonis@hexbear.net 22 points 1 month ago

It's been 8 years since I started HRT. I don't know what else to say, really. Everything is better than I ever imagined it could be. It can, maybe it even does get better for you given enough time. Whoever you are reading this. Yeah, you. It gets better.

cw abuse

Spent about 5 of those years in an abusive relationship that I only very recently got out of and life looks so much different with some room to breathe. I don't feel like I'm dying all the time. I'm not scared to leave the house anymore. I have my own life that is mine and I don't have to lie about who I am to survive anymore. I didn't spend as long as I did in the closet to get shoved in another equally shitty closet. I'm done. I'm free. Now what?

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[-] Wmill@hexbear.net 21 points 1 month ago

Despite everything I learn and go through the world will never take my wonder or whimsy from me :3

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[-] The_Dawn@hexbear.net 21 points 1 month ago

Real gender fluidity has never been tried because people are incapable of having a fluid view of someone. Like I basically can never be a real man in most people's eyes because I've tried being/am a woman sometimes. Im so tired of being third gendered when I'm totally cool being a MAN or a WOMAN, but never something in between/neither. Frustrateddddd. Think I'll just go back to being a butch lesbian and give up on manhood.

[-] sodium_nitride@hexbear.net 21 points 1 month ago

How it feels like to insult people on the internet

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[-] nemmybun@hexbear.net 21 points 1 month ago

My pill era is almost over. First vial is arriving soon, maybe even by tomorrow. Wouldn't it be perfect if I could do my first injection on TDoV? niko-wonderous

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[-] meler@hexbear.net 20 points 1 month ago

Someone just came out to me as trans. It's wild how many people in my life have transed their gender since I came out

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[-] FourteenEyes@hexbear.net 20 points 1 month ago

Went to the local gay bar for their trans day of visibility fundraising event with my nb partner tonight, we had a good time and they even bid on and won the movie night basket. We're gonna make a night of it lol.

Love all of my trans comrades on Hexbear. You make this place wonderful.

[-] BountifulEggnog@hexbear.net 20 points 1 month ago

A friend actually did reach out to me about today, that was very nice of him.

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[-] Busgirl@hexbear.net 20 points 1 month ago

I think I'm gonna start getting into exercising daily! I already wanted to be outside more, but I'm realizing now just how much strength I've lost from transitioning and want to build it back up.

Also want to lose weight slowly, I'm a big girl I'm 300+ pounds and want to get to around 230 by 2030.

Gonna read some books so I can exercise the best I can especially at my weight(don't wanna hurt my joints)

They also started doing morning stretching exercises at work and I've been really liking it, I feel less tired at the end of the day now.

horny

Also wanna be able to bridal carry my girlfriend and shove her face in my sweaty pits

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[-] rando895@lemmygrad.ml 20 points 1 month ago

I had never known another trans woman, and Ive been out for less than a year. After meeting someone else (irl) and just hanging out, I had such a visceral response the next day when I reflected on it (so many tears but thats my life now I guess lol). Basically, that one interaction (and a new friend!) broke down almost all of my deeply entrenched transphobia.

Its really nice. <3 I hope y'all have a great day being yourselves

Also some of my friends seem to think they are supposed to buy me pizza tomorrow. I'm not going to say no.....

[-] meler@hexbear.net 20 points 1 month ago

frustratedposting

I asked someone to stop treating all of our social interactions like a business contract and they told me I should "touch grass and talk to normal people more." I'm so tired of being treated like my feelings don't matter

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[-] segfault11@hexbear.net 19 points 1 month ago

homebrew hormones are actually better because it's artisanally crafted in small batches instead of being mass produced in a factory

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[-] sodium_nitride@hexbear.net 19 points 1 month ago

catgirl-heart transgender day of visibility!

Even on my worst days I'd rather be myself than mutilate my existence to "fit in"!

Every single painful experience I've ever been through, I'd go through it again to protect whatever little happiness I collected up. Ain't much at all, but it's still mine! (And for you kris-love sans-wink )

Wow, I'm in a positive mood these days. Funny how that happens when you don't get kicked repeatedly in the crotch by random nonsense for a while. catgirl-smug

[-] Ananasova@hexbear.net 19 points 1 month ago

hi! i am trans and visible :o

[-] lilypad@hexbear.net 19 points 1 month ago

I never explicitly updated here (or I did and forgot? I've been really confronting memory issues lately...). But. I have a job. I can't say what it is cause its kinda niche, but I'm supporting social workers, and its really nice. I'm doing something socially productive. And I'm kinda proud? I can go to work and know that I'm a thread of sticky fiber behind a gauze pad on a bandaid stretched too thin across a gaping shotgun wound. But I'm a part of that bandaid. I'm doing things that help people (well, I'm doing things that help people help people). I'm tired and happy. I like my coworkers. I'm getting treated kinda like I'm nongendered by them which sucks. But. They're chill. And. I can deal with that for work. And they're super supportive. I'm relieved. I'm not gonna starve. I'm not gonna live out of my car. I'm kinda sorta safe.

[-] inTheShadowOf@hexbear.net 19 points 1 month ago

Insurance is such a fuck. I have to end up paying hundreds of dollars just to have people agree to maybe one day do surgery. I've been trying so hard to save as much as I can before moving too.

Money is so stressful catgirl-flop

[-] meler@hexbear.net 19 points 1 month ago

FUCK

[-] meler@hexbear.net 15 points 1 month ago

Is it too much to ask for a gay pair?

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[-] XiaCobolt@hexbear.net 18 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago)

I interacted with a trans woman who transitioned 22 years ago and has been stealth for most of them. And it was a disquieting experience.

She had good advice about burnout but also seemed very ashamed about being trans and was actively discouraging of me publicly identifying as trans (let alone enthusiastically).

I don't know where I'm going with this. Just made me sad. The cis have really done a number on us over the years.

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[-] Wmill@hexbear.net 18 points 1 month ago

All the little bees come up to me see I'm not a flower and leave kiryu-pain feels bad

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[-] BountifulEggnog@hexbear.net 18 points 1 month ago

I know it's tomorrow but I don't expect anyone I'm out to will say anything about it to me, kinda dumb to be upset/whatever about it but it would be nice. I mean I obviously don't blame anyone and don't expect anyone will but idk. I do wish they'd recognize my bravery about coming out to them. A couple did at the time though which was nice. Idk.

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[-] Trying2KnowMyself@hexbear.net 18 points 1 month ago

trans-heart tdov!

[-] Grownbravy@hexbear.net 18 points 1 month ago

hello trans people of hexbear.

you have been seen.

that's all, enjoy your day.

[-] lilypad@hexbear.net 18 points 1 month ago

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I might lose my health insurance, because I'm offered other health insurance, and I'm probs gonna lose my whole care team, have to pay more for meds ($150/mo), pay more for doctors visits ($30-$50), pay more for "specialist care" (I dont even know how much, and that's assuming they're in network), pay more for everything, all while making roughly 1500/month. Gender care, 200/mo at best, mental health, 200-400/mo, doctor visits, 100/mo. So I'm going from making 0/mo to 1500/mo, and now I have to spend $700/mo or so on healthcare. That's not even counting surgeries!! I'm gonna have so little left over, I dont know what to even do here.

Why do I have to do this? Because I got a job and am no longer unemployed. If my employer didn't offer me healthcare this wouldn't be an issue, but they are so I'm getting kicked off the thing I was on that let me do all this for free/minimal cost.

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[-] Salah@hexbear.net 17 points 1 month ago

Very weird thoughts are popping into my mind.

I socially transitioned to a man a few years ago, but only recently started hrt. In reality I’m probably some form of gender fluid/non binary leaning masculine, but I go through life as a guy because I’d rather not explain my unconventional gender experience to everyone I meet. The hormone treatment is making me realise that I’m sort of making this transition thing permanent, and now I get frequent flashbacks of me being a woman and it’s making me nostalgic. I really loved the way I looked as a young woman, and I was very good at exploiting my femininity for social and political gain. It’s just that in my day to day life I feel much more comfortable as a man.

Soon after I transitioned socially I became a labour organiser. It’s only now that I start to question if I would be a more effective organiser when I present as a woman. I haven’t tried it so I have no idea. It probably depends on where I’m organising, but generally I think as a woman I’d be able to kind of seduce people to a first meeting where it would be easier to get them to engage. On the flip side I would also be taken less seriously when I teach people about organising.

This is a super weird train of thought but generally I think my position is that I have already devoted my life to organising and have sacrificed a lot for it. What if I didn’t go through with hrt so I can potentially organise more effectively while I present as a guy in my private life with a bit more effort?

My first reaction to that thought is that I’m probably better at organising if I feel most comfortable which is as a guy. But I still can’t shake the thought of wanting to seduce people towards organising because it sounds so fun and romantic. Maybe I can learn how to seduce as a guy.

Would love to know if other people have similar thoughts about using their gender expression for efficiency or gain.

[-] TerminalEncounter@hexbear.net 15 points 1 month ago

You can be a romantic guy seducing people into labour organizing and also, as a trans woman that is active in her union, people absolutely take you less seriously when you present femme instead of masc

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[-] meler@hexbear.net 17 points 1 month ago

dysphoria

Ugh I can't stand to look at myself in my zoom calls today because I feel like an ugly man. Usually I'm better at not comparing myself to other people but alas

[-] Le_Wokisme@hexbear.net 17 points 1 month ago

happy trans 364 days of invisibility to those who wish not to be perceived

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[-] rafflesia@hexbear.net 17 points 1 month ago

estrogen is really something else. i have never felt. so much.

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[-] gwysibo@hexbear.net 16 points 1 month ago

Tomorrow is also the 4th annual Mira Bellwether Buy a Trans Woman a Pizza Day*, for all the gals who don't feel like being visibly trans or just love pizza* <3

* or other food of her choice!

[-] MusicOwl@hexbear.net 16 points 1 month ago

down with cis leslie-shining

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[-] TerminalEncounter@hexbear.net 16 points 1 month ago

Im feeling so good today ☺️

I looked so cute in the mirror~

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[-] Arahnya@hexbear.net 16 points 1 month ago

I'm very happy that I can be in community with other trans people :) I appreciate everyone's posts, and the sharing of our lives and experiences.

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[-] transition_property@hexbear.net 16 points 1 month ago

I hear you all keep things pretty gay in these parts

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[-] kristina@hexbear.net 16 points 1 month ago

Always thought day of visibility being before April fool's was a great idea in case coming out backfires

[-] inTheShadowOf@hexbear.net 15 points 1 month ago

Life isn't perfect, but I love being trans and wouldn't change it for the world.

Happy (early) trans day of visibility! transshork-happy

[-] Busgirl@hexbear.net 15 points 1 month ago

brain worms

Eternal genocide on the terms AGP/HSTS and all associated theories I was just reading through this elder (70s) trans woman's blog and oh my God half of this shit is two steps away from phrenology

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[-] sodium_nitride@hexbear.net 15 points 1 month ago

nsfw

So apparently, the secret to getting an E orgasm is to be relaxed and patient. Let the wand work its magic. Take your time. Enjoy the process.

Meanwhile I was rubbing T orgasms out like I was a fast food worker and some customer ordered a serving of girlcum but there were 10 fucking orders of girlcum in the backlog so you kinda gotta like pump em out. And then you'd collect the lil droplet each time and serve it and it would cost $6.50 because capitalism was in crisis and you were like, just trying to survive but lowkenuinely you peaked in highschool and were going to die alone.

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[-] Shaleesh@hexbear.net 15 points 1 month ago

up with trans!

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[-] Kuori@hexbear.net 15 points 1 month ago

visibility is cool and all but i could really get shit done with a single day of invisibility

[-] peanutbuttercupola@hexbear.net 15 points 1 month ago

Attention Transgenders: Trans Day of Visibility has ended. Please remember to reengage your cloaking devices.

[-] Bolshechick@hexbear.net 15 points 1 month ago

Been happy crying every time I see myself in the mirror lately cuz I'm so beautiful now. Liking how you look is so magical

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