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submitted 2 years ago* (last edited 2 years ago) by Cloak@lemmy.ml to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml

There's been an influx of content surrounding lemmy here. Some of it is open ended:

  • "What kinds of things from reddit would you like to see Lemmy avoid as the user base grows?"
  • "Lemmy, what do you call users of Lemmy?"

And these are a-ok! There's also been a lot of questions like

  • "How do I block a user?"
  • "How do I join a community on a different instance"

These aren't open ended (at least, relatively). They are objective based, and just need a resolution, rather than discussion. These sort of questions are more relevant to !lemmy_support@lemmy.ml.

I know there's also questions like "What are you guys doing when there’s multiple communities for the same thing across instances?". I'm inclined to let those stay, there is lots of opportunity for discussion. It's a game of discretion from a moderation perspective, but I assume most can easily guess what is cold hard support.

At least from me, moderation of support posts has been sporadic at best, despite the long standing rule. I will begin redirecting these questions to !lemmy_support@lemmy.ml, however I'm of course willing to listen to the community here if that's not what is wanted, as well as other feedback.

edit: support posts will now be removed, not locked

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submitted 15 hours ago* (last edited 15 hours ago) by Corkyskog@sh.itjust.works to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml

I will go first.

I hate how so many people act like every kind of art or media is now derivative because someone else out of billions of people and thousands of years had a somewhat similar idea.

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submitted 23 hours ago* (last edited 10 hours ago) by RememberTheApollo_@lemmy.world to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml

Approximate location, price and date?

Edit: report back in a week any change if you remember.

E2: went up 9¢ since I posted this morning. $3.19 now.

E3: $3.30 now. ~20¢ in a day, 50¢ in 4 days.

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Mine:

  1. Learn a second language and keep up with the language your parents speak. You will regret being a brat about not wanting to speak this language especially as your family members pass.
  2. The only opinions about you that really matter are from the people you respect and who respect you back
  3. Being a kind humble person, who leads their political convictions with curiosity and not self righteousness is important. As that one person said: "I am no hero and neither are you."
  4. Don't throw out your old media (mix cds, tapes, records, photos, zinee, etc) because you think they're embarrassing. They either will not be embarrassing later or they will become expensive and you can tell them for mad bucks.
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submitted 1 day ago by may_be to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml

So I am reading this book for school. When I went on an MBTI database, I saw a comment for the main character's profile saying something like, "I haven't hated a character so much in a long time". When I looked, I saw a lot of positive reviews on the book and Daunis, as well as NEGATIVE. Many people have criticized the writing, calling Daunis misogynistic, a pick-me, etc.

Basically, from my understanding, she kinda wants to be one of the "guys", is a tomboy, likes hockey, criticizes other girls, specifically the girlfriends of the hockey guys as being "anglerfish" that just leech onto them. She also is 'different" in the way that she does things like recite the scientific names for things and recite the periodic table to help her sleep.

One thing I didn't like, though I do like how she's a strong woman lead who deeply cares for others, though I do understand why, is her on-and-off behavior towards the love interest, Jamie. She sees Jamie as a liar, which is kind of true, but he does it to protect people, and she switches between being head-over-heels for him and being angry at him.

spoiler

At one point, I think they were about to have sex, and she said she wanted to do it. She was head-over-heels for him. However, he said he loved her, and she immediately had a mood whiplash and got angry, telling him not to lie to her because "I love you" is a promise and everyone breaks it or something like that.

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submitted 1 day ago by may_be to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml

Not that it matters, mostly, but I do want to get the words right. So we are reading a book on someone who is mixed Native American Ojibwe and white.

Some people in my class, let’s say, are Indian (from India) and white. We agreed that would be mixed, but for example, someone who is English and Swedish would not be because they are just white.

Would they not be mixed race, mixed ethnicity, or be neither?

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submitted 1 day ago by may_be to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml

For example, I know that in the Midwest, where I live, there is a dialect called "American Norwegian". However, my family didn't grow up speaking Norwegian or that dialect of it, so when I do learn Norwegian, I'll be learning the European version. I grew up with some European Norwegian and a bit of Icelandic & Old Norse.

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submitted 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago) by may_be to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml

Sorry for the dumb question. If you don't embrace any other cultures or languages except your own country, then just say country.

I will never be a "Norwegian Norwegian" as I wasn't born or raised in Norway. I'm American, so my neighbors would be Canada and Mexico.

However, my cultural neighbors would be Sweden, and Finland I guess. I'm not a true Norwegian, for the record, but we embrace our heritage a lot and have been raised around videos of the language since I was little but didn't actually remember anything so I'm learning more.

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submitted 2 days ago by xiao@sh.itjust.works to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml
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submitted 2 days ago by may_be to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml

When researching a variety of Norwegian spoken by some people in the Midwest known as "norst" or American Norwegian, someone commented that it was like the Quebecois of Norwegian.

My native language is English and I am American though, so I guess my own dialect of English would be the Quebecois of my language, or Canadian English too.

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submitted 2 days ago by sangeteria@lemmy.ml to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml

I guess some of the equivalents for reddit would be r/popheadscirclejerk, r/rupaulsdragrace, and r/queensofleague (to a lesser extent, the subreddits for a lot of female pop stars fall under this umbrella as well).

Here are some spaces that, while I do think are valuable in their own right, are not necessarily what I'm talking about:

  1. General LGBT spaces. These are important for like news and subculture and common experiences; I'm just looking for something a bit more niche (though I do want to be in both).

  2. Masculine queer men's spaces. These correspond to subreddits like r/gaybros, r/askgaybros, etc. I never personally vibed with them, though I understand their necessity for queer men who find themselves on the more masculine end of the gender spectrum.

Also, if this is the incorrect place to post this, please let me know where I can instead. Thanks!

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Why i'm supposed to care less about iranian children being killed in war? Is it because their government is evil? Isn't our government bad too?

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submitted 2 days ago* (last edited 2 days ago) by nicgentile@lemmy.world to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml

This feels wrong posting this here, but I could not find a sub to do this in, so feel free to point me in the right direction.

My dad is an Old Spice Guy, I am an Old Spice Guy, but I am done with P&G and what I think is poisonous and wasteful products.

I am looking for recommendations for organic safe healthy body washes, lotions for dry dark skin and deodorants. I've not had to look for anything other brands for over 25 years, so this feels overwhelming. I just tried Native, and that won't work, so, please, any directions to point me to?

Thanks.

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I was curious what to call the sub communities on Lemmy because I would assume they are not called subreddits. Are they called sublemmies or lemmlits? Thanks for the help!

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submitted 4 days ago* (last edited 4 days ago) by pir8t0x@lemmy.ml to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml

What are your opinions on homeschooling?

My opinion: Both have pros and cons.

I have heard that homeschooled kids are often better academically and more intelligent compared to average students. But they have bad social skills and have a lot of anxiety.

In normal school, you might have better social skills for sure. And you might grow up good if you don't get influenced by the rotten people at school and if you don't get into drugs or stuff due to peer pressure. But that's IF YOU DON'T GET INTO THESE. If you get into these, good luck getting outta these. And there's the concern of getting bullied too......

So I personally think homeschooling might be a better choice.

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submitted 4 days ago by Surp@lemmy.world to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml
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submitted 4 days ago by gray@lemmy.ml to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml

When eating Ethiopian food, you get some kind of stew served on top of a large flat injera bread. You're supposed to scoop the stew and eat it with the bread. But what do you do when you are out of bread and have more stew left? Just eat it with your hand?

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It feels like topics I used to only see on r/conspiracy—like Epstein and the deep state—are now all over mainstream subreddits.

The US is doing what it always has done, only now the pretexts are weaker than ever. Did things really have to get this obvious before people finally realized that western governments only care about what's best for the oligarchy?

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submitted 3 days ago by LarryStern@feddit.org to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml

Native English speaker here who celebrates Norwegian heritage with my dad. I myself am not Norwegian or a native speaker of it, but since I'm already a native English speaker, we have sjokk (shock) I guess???

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submitted 4 days ago by yizus@lemmy.world to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml

There are some moments in life in which a sudden self-awareness of happiness hits - a moment in which you step back from yourself and realize that, in that instant, everything is good. A feeling of your consciousness pulling away to make an emotional snapshot of that moment to care for and examine like one would a wounded bird or a nugget of gold.

While I don't consider my life as a unhappy one, I only have a few of these moments guarded away. The first being at around age 6. My parents were giving me a group hug while we were all singing a family lullaby. My mother was expecting my baby brother at the time and that was the first time the baby's name was included in the song. I remember feeling detached and floating away while taking in the moment.

The last time I experienced it I had just finished changing the sheets on a new king bed I splurged on after a small windfall. I remember laying on the bedspread and my 2yr old pup hopping on to play around the newly made bed. Instead of ushering him off as I usually did, I just watched him mess up the bedspread.

(I know happiness is not a fixed concept and everyone can have their own definition and experiences, but given my ignorance of the specific word to refer to the instant moment of self-awareness described, I just went with it)

Curious to read your thoughts and experiences.

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submitted 4 days ago by may_be to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml

I know it’s just neutral, I mean, he’s asleep, but how would you describe his face? Relaxed? I’ll be writing another character with a similar expression

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submitted 4 days ago by may_be to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml

So I don't know my exact PERCENTAGE of Norwegian in me, but I consider myself to be Norwegian-American due to a bit of my upbringing. I feel connected to Norway and the language, I wanna learn more about it, and my dad raised me to think of not only Old Norse and the mythology, which is old stuff because he's kind of nerdy with the ancient Viking stuff, but also wanted me to learn the Norwegian language and go to Norway some day with me.

I don't know why, I can't really explain it, but I do feel Norwegian and it's not like I'm "trans-identifying" as a certain nationality like some people do, I have a reason for it.

However, I wasn't born in Norway. I wasn't raised in Norway. I was raised with pride of being American with Norwegian ancestors, that was it, but whatever. I took more of an interest in the language when I was about 9. I can sort of understand Norwegian and read it sometimes, maybe it's because it's kinda close to English though, mainly. I don't particularly look "purely" Norwegian or Scandinavian either, I mostly look English due to being mixed with English and German.

I consider myself a bit German-American due to being raised by a German grandfather, even if he's not blood related to me. But my mom had recent relatives who came from Germany and recent relatives spoke the language and all that, she just didn't grow up with it nor did my Grandpa.

Well, that's why I get highly happy when I think about how I was raised to be proud of and respect mostly Norwegian culture, but I don't feel Norwegian enough due to not natively speaking it [though I did grow up with Norwegian YouTube learning videos :,)] and not looking or growing up with pure Norwegian genes.

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