[–] 4 points 2 days ago (1 child)

I have friends Ive dated then figured out we're better as friends, I have had relationships out of friends, Ive got friends I wouldnt date (both because we just arent attracted to eachoyher but also because although we're compatible we're better off platonic), I dunno if I would tell people to just go up to their friends and ask them out though over and above asking a stranger or acquaintance out intentionally lol. I think if the advice is, like, you're probably better off getting to know people before jumping in to asking someone out, thats all well and good - but I definitely wouldn't rate asking out friends higher than a stranger.

The Friend Zone, conceptually is one party has a huge crush on the other and is intentionally or unintentionally strung along - unintentionally being strung along isn't really a thing but you get it. It does seem like way more a thing cishet dating than anything queer fwiw. Its definitely better to like ask someone out if you both know each other at least a little but Ive also been out on dates and had a relationship with people Ive asked out off the rip and people whove asked me out as a stranger. I definitely wouldnt say it is necessary to be friends first. Actually, Id find it a bit rude if I had someone I considered a dear friend reveal they only wanted to be friends to pass some imagined necessary middle stage of being a friend before asking me out.

Also, who's to say a dynamic is easier or less confusing just because you were friends first? I don't think that's accurate to be honest, it's a big change and new if someone makes the leap between friends to dating - who knows, it could be just as mysterious as meeting a stranger you really fancy and asking them out.

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  • [–] 5 points 5 days ago (1 child)

    Maybe, everybody's liver metabolizes drugs differently. If you want an actual trough level you get tested the same day you usually inject but before you actually inject that day. Maybe you just could go down, save money. Theres a lot of variation in how liver enzymes do their thing, and ultimately what matters is how your body takes it not what the WPATH says it ought to be.

    Lots of things alter the metabolism of estradiol. Some antifungals, some HIV meds, smoking tobacco, smoking/using cannabis, grapefruit, etc. Some speed it up, some slows it down. Anyway, you can get a retest at your next trough and see if its any different.

    Im sure youre not, but this is the basement level "turn it on and off again" that you gotta get through - is there any way you mixed up mL instead of mg? Like accidentally took too much? Are you sure they reported in pg/mL and not pmol/L? Cause if randomly this lab reported back 540 but it was pmol/L then in pg/mL its way lower.

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  • [–] 4 points 6 days ago (2 children)

    spoilerMaybe some time being single would be good! You dont have to date and being single isnt a failure state. I can see not wanting to date while living with your parents (I imagine itd be awkward bringing people to your place) but if theyre accepting it doesnt have to be a big deal. Dating apps do suck

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