The treatment for gender dysphoria is transition. You have to start transitioning socially, publically, or else it will contribute to you feeling depressed. You've tried going slowly and quite sporadically in girl mode for a year now, if you're not happy with where you are then Im going to suggest you start transitioning socially and see if thats better. You're in what is presumably a better more accepting place, now. It is time.

I know you moved and are looking for work - that part is hard, all your previous irl social life got changed and obviously money troubles suck. I think if you make a good effort to meet in real life with people you will feel better. Seek a trans support group locally, meet with them, make some friends who have a better idea what you're going through - and start going to places en femme (bring a change of clothes in a back pack if you have to). The alternative is doing what youve been doing and you've been very explicit that the status quo is not working for you and youve felt miserable. It is time, now, to start changing that.

I think right now you should focus on, like, self esteem? I get feeling horny and everything but the negative self talk and apprehension about doing things online or offline seem like theyre whats getting more in your way than just feeling horny.

Anyway, I used Taimi and there was a sapphic one (it had trans men and enbies in it as well). Ive never had much action off apps, Ive had more just meeting people or at munches or friends of friends. Thats longer term than what you were thinking anyway... Apparently people on hexbear have success from sliding into DMs, I couldnt imagine something worse but its worked for them.

I have no idea what the online cruising anonymous site is besides, honestly, craigslist is still out there