Some of it is "simple" but if youve never done it... it aint. Like raising your soft palette? Is a legitimately weird hard thing to do. But it helps with voice. Some is actually not difficult per se, like putting your tongue up behind your teeth and taking up more space in your mouth in general but it takes concious effort at first which can be a bummer (eventually i swear it starts becoming automatic)

When I was at my worst, I had a method, plan, and time. The only that kept me from it was not wanting someone else to find my body, and that my ex wouldnt take care of our cats (like litterbox or feeding). This is not failure, these are protective factors.

The way youve talked about it is close to someone who is actively bleeding or has a visible tumor. And if I tell you to see a team to get a handle of it, maybe emergency care, and you say no its not that bad. This is like having a visible tumor and saying "eh its not that bad." If you can't or won't see a doctor about it, there are things you can do on your own - but this is getting close to putting bandaids on a tumor. You have to prioritize good sleep, 8 hours, and getting it every single day - even if youre busy or whatever, sleep has got to start coming first in your priority list. You have to eat healthy. You have to start recognizing these cycles of automatic thoughts, and working on alternate supportive thoughts. If you dont know how to, I would redirect you to see a therapist or doctor

Presumably you would have no judgements against anyone doing either. Maybe some internalized stuff going on? Or yeah, just bottom dysphoria.

I was never bedbound or strict bedrest, closest was the first day after. I didn't move tons for the first month, besides bed or couch. Sitting did hurt - they had little cushion rings for us at the recovery house but I do wish I had my own for the flight home and then for the first few weeks. I took a class during recovery, it was only an hour but it definitely felt a little sore the first couple weeks.

I had my mom with me the first week, my sister helped with groceries or chores, I also had a lot of friends who helped with tasks for the first couple months but I stopped needing much of any help after about 6 weeks. It was a strict 10 lbs lifting limit, which can be like a big house cat - so it doesnt take much to stress the surgery site and stitches that first critical month. I showered at the recovery house! It was very nice. So maybe a few days or a week in?

I didnt start working out again until after the first month, and then it was very gentle bodyweight stuff the next two months. But I stayed active with walking, stairs, etc. I stayed active the whole time, starting from post op day 1 or 2.

As much as recovery sucks, it is a temporary part of your life - and then the rest is, you have a vagina, and jts just there~ ♡