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Hello everyone! Hestia here with a new Megathread! Years ago, before I transitioned and when I was still in college I took an anthropology class. My favorite part of the class was when we were covering different gender customs across the globe and got to make a report on one of them. I can't remember exactly which one I chose for that project, but what I do remember is a map with different pins scattered on it with various forms of gender-queerness. I decided to track it down and share it with you folks!

https://www.google.com/maps/d/u/0/viewer?ll=8.016975588774075%2C64.4248907814756&z=2&mid=1zDWxhBN5aOofwpE-FkZWQsiFDlE

Edit: you have to open this in a browser, if you're on a phone it will automatically try to open it in Google maps and won't bring up the info.

This map provides a brief summary of these genders, but does not go in depth. If you find any you're interested in, feel free to do some further research and share your findings here. I'll pin a comment to this post you can attach them. I'm going to share a couple that I found interesting and decided to look further into myself, both of them are non-binary and native american in origin.

The first one I want to talk about is the Winkte, which is a third gender role that was particulatly notable in the Lakota tribe The Winkte are seen as half-men, half-women, and considered sacred. They are typically AMAB and historically have served unique roles in matters of romance and matchmaking and often served as intermediaries for prospecting couples and their families. They also participated in war parties, functioning primarily as witnesses to battle and as doctors to care for the injured. They were also seen as seers, able to forsee paths to victory.

https://www.sdpb.org/blogs/arts-and-culture/the-winkte-and-the-hundred-in-hand/

This next one I'm going to talk about seems mostly local to the Zuni people called the "Lhamana" and I find the Zuni culture to be particularly fascinating, even just doing a cursory glance at it.

Gender roles were well defined in Zuni culture, but the Zuni also valued the concept of a "middle" as it represented stability. This originates from their creation myth, which I won't go in detail here because I don't feel qualified to summarize it, but it's in the link down below.

The Zuni culture is pretty neat and they don't refer to gender when talking about children. They believed that gender wasn't an inborn trait but something you acquired as you approached puberty. I wish this was the western approach, but alas.

As children approach puberty they begin to differentiate through different hair styles or clothing choices. AFAB Lhamana would grind corn and make a bowl of stew when they get their first period. There's probably some cultural significance to this, but I'm not going to do a deep dive on it right now. AMAB Lhamana would start to wear dresses once they hit puberty and start performing women's work. Both AMAB and AFAB Lhamana were allowed to switch between male and female gender roles as they pleased.

https://owlcation.com/social-sciences/The-Middle-Gender-in-Zuni-Religion

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[โ€“] [email protected] 32 points 3 days ago* (last edited 3 days ago) (3 children)

Gender research findings go here

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[โ€“] [email protected] 2 points 20 minutes ago* (last edited 19 minutes ago)

first thanksgiving as a t girl. time to ruin it by openly reading settlers

[โ€“] [email protected] 3 points 39 minutes ago

I hope all the USians here are able to get through the holidays with minimal family induced harm.

[โ€“] [email protected] 5 points 1 hour ago (1 children)

Currently very jealous of those who are part of a gestalt consciousness.

[โ€“] [email protected] 2 points 42 minutes ago

Being part of a collective consciousness?

[โ€“] [email protected] 3 points 1 hour ago

A steam friend I played cs with a couple of times randomly gifted me webfishing a couple days ago and I'm so grateful. Being in queer spaces that are also small enough for me to not be too wrecked with social anxiety to participate in them is great and I already am making good friends and that's somehing I really needed. Just yesterday that same friend told me she's just started HRT and we hadn't talked about our gender and I came out to them as well but I think they already had the vibe considering trans people generally clocked me very easy before I even knew myself lol

[โ€“] [email protected] 5 points 1 hour ago (1 children)

Most things are going well in life minus health and my jobs are working me half to death. I didn't even know it was legal to be working 12hr days in retail, I'm so used to being scheduled like 6hrs daily at best. The pay isn't even there to justify this and there are no benefits. Tomorrow is going to be another fun 12hr day.

I found out my cats are afraid of googly eyes which I've used to protect my knockoff aliexpress 2.99 'roombas' from my cats swatting the bots off course or dragging them into places like the kitchen or litter box, so I made a biblically accurate angel themed Xmas tree, haven't had a tree since I was a small child, this was just a DT 5 dollar special with some glued on googley eyes and pipecleaner angel-biblical buddies on it. Eyes on everything, lol. They won't tip over this tree.

And health is an obvious CW warning for everything;

spoilerBody's war against other parts of itself continues. Had a uterine biopsy done the other day, one its painful AF, easy contender for top 10 most physically painful experiences so I have no idea why they don't drug you for them, two the fact I had to get a biopsy makes me nervous if I require a procedure the soonest it will be done will correspond to my yearly medical cut. Also, if I need a procedure of any kind I'll be let go from my main retail gig since I can't miss days or weeks like that, I worked yesterday a day after my biopsy and I left wanting to cry. I shouldn't have done that, but the way the doc made it sound like it was a mild procedure and I would have been fine yesterday to work, while in reality I was writhing around in pain unable to do anything notable.

At least I'll still have my online gig and my flipping laptops side gig that I hope will cover basic utilities and rent though I'll be hosed for medicines on the impending cut.

[โ€“] [email protected] 2 points 40 minutes ago

That really sucks about the health stuff but it sounds like your bs Job is making it so much worse ๐Ÿ˜”.

The Biblically accurate Angel sounds amazing though!

[โ€“] [email protected] 4 points 1 hour ago

blog, social anxiety, fitness/weightloss/gymrat shit, crushpostingHad a busy day yesterday, finally took care of a financial thing I've been putting off for ages and it was a stressful commute but I'm glad to have finally gotten it donemeow-bounce

Had my consultation with a personal trainer and a body composition scan, in better shape than I was expecting based on how I've only really been taking better care of myself for a couple weeks and had been pretty sedentary for a long time prior to that

Was really nervous about it but the trainer was pretty nice and accommodating to my nervousness and has good interpersonal skills and we had more in common talking about dealing with different injuries and our athletic backgrounds growing up than I was expecting and it went pretty well despite me being a little late to the meeting and being a little exasperated from doing shit and rushing to get ready for it by the time I got there

Saw crush, starting to think the interactions we had that I weren't sure if they were flirty or not weren't and they're just a friendly person, seemed less like that running into them yesterday and I don't think there's anything there which kinda made me sad, but I think it's better than having a false expectation and getting my hopes up to get hurt later

Who knows, maybe they were just having a bad day and weren't in a good mood to chat yesterday and there might still be potential there but I'm not gonna put too much hope in it and set myself up to be disappointed, but I do like seeing them

Idk they're really cute and sweet and I'm gay and lonely and weird

im-fuckin-gay

[โ€“] [email protected] 4 points 1 hour ago* (last edited 1 hour ago)

slightly better-formed whiningThe more I go on the more I am convinced that taking a monthlong sabbatical from life (almost my entire life is queers in the computer) broke something catastrophically in my brain. I am now pretty sure that leaving everyone and everything for longer than like, two days was a huge mistake.

I don't seem to be real normal about it anymore, which might be due to the realisation that talkin' to people is both something I need else my sense of self will melt, (no I don't know why) and a difficult tiring spoon-loss activity. Idk, but it seems like I'm not real capable of thinking about social matters without bursting into tears anymore. What even is wrong with me? badeline-concern

It's possibly true that being on the receiving end of a landleech rentdue notice has ended my ability to relax, which, sucks if true. The chronic pain bs is definitely cutting into my spoon supply. But more broadly it feels like what small scraps of emotional regulation I had just disappeared. My journal entries all look like Nevada paragraphs, and while your Ash will usually sprinkle in Nevada-esque embellishments because the orange book is her entire personality, if she starts writing entire paragraphs of weird dejected overly emotional snarky bullshit, that may be indicative of a problem! catgirl-sorry

It could be withdrawal from a single 37.5mg tab of tramadol causing this too, which I am having muscle twitches and shit, but Idk if "bawling your eyes out at the slightest provocation" is a tram withdrawal thing, it's been like four days or so. If yes I hate it.

I'm also bad at time management, I am told, which is true because I have some kind of brain issue where I haven't been reading Psycho Nymph Exile enough. Mostly making time for reading takes effort, and also bending my brain around weird things takes effort :3 so it's been a few days and I need to YELL AT MYSELF to read gay slop.

TL;DR my feet hurt I wish I had spoons! catgirl-flop

[โ€“] [email protected] 9 points 3 hours ago

Scientists studying entropy could learn a lot by analyzing my hair rn

[โ€“] [email protected] 11 points 3 hours ago (1 children)

What's with all these stores offering weak ass 20% discounts? Either make it like 40%+ or don't bother tbh.

[โ€“] [email protected] 8 points 3 hours ago (1 children)
[โ€“] [email protected] 6 points 3 hours ago

they need to do better

[โ€“] [email protected] 11 points 4 hours ago (7 children)

Pikachu is a dumb rat and Eevee should have been the mascot

[โ€“] [email protected] 1 points 29 minutes ago

Clefairy and Oddish are also pretty cute

[โ€“] [email protected] 1 points 1 hour ago

Eevee is very cute and cool and I want plushies of all the Eeveelutions

both-sides Pikachu is cool too though even though he likes ketchup

[โ€“] [email protected] 6 points 3 hours ago

Eevee was the mascot for a bit in Let's Go, Eevee and I loved my Eevee to bits I gave them little glasses and pet them so much

[โ€“] [email protected] 7 points 3 hours ago* (last edited 2 hours ago)

Raichu is better anyway, and Eevee is better than both. In fact, Eevee's better than most pokemon erm-this-you

[โ€“] [email protected] 6 points 4 hours ago

This isn't badposting

[โ€“] [email protected] 11 points 5 hours ago (1 children)

just shaved the side of my own head that was scary

[โ€“] [email protected] 8 points 5 hours ago (1 children)

i had it done professionally a couple of months ago so i just had to follow what was done before

[โ€“] [email protected] 2 points 1 hour ago (1 children)
[โ€“] [email protected] 1 points 1 hour ago

oh for sure! i look great

[โ€“] [email protected] 5 points 4 hours ago

I think that re-dyeing my leather jacket went well. I will probably give it a few touch-ups this weekend, but the color looks pretty consistent. It was already dark brown, but now it's basically black, so it'll match the rest of my show outfit better.

I also found a choker on Hot Topic that would match, but they don't have expedited shipping so it won't arrive in time, so I'm probably going to drive an hour to the city to check the several locations there tomorrow. Just hope it isn't sold out for black friday.

[โ€“] [email protected] 11 points 5 hours ago (1 children)

americans are so horny for marching bands it's weird

[โ€“] [email protected] 5 points 3 hours ago

We crave the death of people trampling on us.

[โ€“] [email protected] 11 points 6 hours ago (1 children)

lesbiam boyfriend spilled my soupI cried

[โ€“] [email protected] 10 points 6 hours ago (1 children)

meow-hug she sounds like a horrible person

[โ€“] [email protected] 9 points 6 hours ago

No, just stupid

[โ€“] [email protected] 14 points 7 hours ago (2 children)

I used to think of myself as some sort of mildly sex repulsed ace but nowadays I feel more like some sort of CisHet relationship repulsed demisexual

[โ€“] [email protected] 2 points 1 hour ago

Mood

maybe TMI, libido/demi stuffBeen somewhat sex repulsed lately but still have a sex drive?? Kinda sucks tbh, feel gross after doing anything and it feels like a chore to take care of so it doesn't distract me when I don't want it to

aubrey-sad

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