I mean those people who you look at them and they have the body and responsibilities of a 43 year old but then you hear them talk about other people or other ethnicities or other situations that people are experiencing elsewhere and the person had might as well be a remorseless 3 year old that was raised wrongly.... The thing that floors me is hen you meet a very old person, Im talking in their 60s or older, and they start spewing some of the most idiotic, narcisisstic garbage a person could ever talk of... 'How have you spent all these years learning nothing?!'

Is it really THAT hard to break free of the chains of your terrible childhood and develop just a little empathy , understanding and humanity towards others? I DEFINITELY didnt have the best childhood seeing as how I was bullied and ostracized for decades , even by my parents lol, but I came to realize that 'Hurt people will hurt people.' so why am I going to go out of my way to be selfish and make more people who are hurt? But on the other hand I see , and Im sure most of you also have seen, that humans are not a very logicsl species sometimes. We have the potential to be more logical than Einstein but it doesnt always play out like that... We as a species do A LOOOT of things based on anti-logic, emotions, our pains, our traumas, or our cognitive distortions and this in turn sometimes creates more 'hurt people' ...

Im not saying that humans have gotten worse over time cause anybody here can open up wikipedia and read about all the awful things we used to do to each other , if anything we have gotten better just a little bit. But why are there STILL in the year of 2026 people who choose to just not 'grow up' ?

TL;DR too many adults , and even seniors , Ive emcountered have illogical and sometimes psychopathic opinions . Why do so many people choose to not grow up and be more understanding?

What is your take on something like this?

I need to quench my thirst for knowledge and learn something new just for the sake of it.

I've already learned:

• Equations and pivot tables in Excel

• Vector graphics in Inkscape

• Music mixing in rekordbox

• Personal VPN on a raspberry pi 4 with OpenVPN

• LAMP stack web hosting

• Streaming & video capture with OBS

• Manual & automatic backups with FreeFileSync

Things I'm open to:

• FOSS (even beta) or free-as-in-beer software

• A high or low learning curve

• Tools for niche fields that I'd otherwise have no reason to learn

I'm thinking things like "Same-sung" For Samsung, because all their products look kinda generic and boring, or Ford standing for "Fix Or Repair Daily" because of the engineering and build quality, or "McDiabetes", for obvious reasons.

Or any lesson for that matter

My go to would probably be the 7th generation (i.e Xbox 360/PS3) just for the community alone.

Also, what value do you place on pragmatism?

I'm lucky to own/operate a small farm I live on. It doesn't produce almost any real money for me but it serves as a good collection of hobbies/food. My primary income is industrial and doesn't scratch that itch. But, it pays the bills and affords me a schedule that let's me maintain the farm. So, what would your ideal small farm setup look like?

I've noticed that if I listen to a song I loved but haven't heard in a long time, I'll get goosebumps. I'm not sure why exactly but I'm wondering what other kinds of experiences people find they get goosebumps from.

I'm still undecided, and I'd say reading some opinions would help me.

I was walking yesterday afternoon in a fairly busy suburban commercial area. I took a turn by a car stopped at a stop sign. When I was about five or 10 feet away, suddenly I heard a noise it sounded like rattatatta like a machine gun, though not loud like firearms. I was struck in the back with several somethings very lightly… Just enough to feel it, not enough to remotely hurt at all or even sting. Didn’t mark my clothes. I looked down on the ground and didn’t see whatever the projectiles were. I looked at the car and didn’t see anyone, just an open back window. Then they took off from the stop sign.

Does anyone know what they were using?

I'm kind of 50/50 on this. Some days I want to work alone, not be bothered at all, do the work and go home. But sometimes I actually do want to be collaborative and offer up ideas and solutions.

However I'm also one of those people who internally groans when the company starts some new "goal" that is buzzword bullshit, wastes a bunch of time in meetings, and ends up only making processes worse.

Do you keep your head down, or do you actively engage in your workplace?

I’ve noticed a pattern. Every now and then, someone leaves a rude, mean, or snarky comment on one of my posts. Occasionally, out of curiosity, I’ll check their post history, and it’s almost always nothing but negativity. They never seem to have anything positive or kind to say about anything, whether it’s politics, hobbies, personal anecdotes, or whatever else. It’s just a constant stream of bitterness and hostility. After seeing so many accounts like this, it got me wondering: what do people actually get out of being like that? The idea of willingly immersing yourself in that much negativity is genuinely alien to me.

Also anything you generally find relaxing that isn't intended to be.

For reasons I cannot articulate, I never liked intentional ASMR videos, but give me an upload of a three hour video course about a word processor from the 80s or a training video about how to take a sonogram of the kidneys and I'm all in.

As for generally relaxing stuff, for some reason I find recordings of radio comms, like storm spotter nets, to be relaxing. Also local news coverage about major weather events.

And to you UK lemmings I know about the shipping forecast.

I love audiobooks and consume them frequently but I personally don't call it reading. It doesn't feel like the same activity to me. What do you think?

I (23M) am becoming increasingly aware that my regular exposure to political content seems to be incompatible with my own mental well-being.

I was raised by two narcissistic parents, one of whom was violent. I have very few positive or loving memories. My trauma turned my brain into a 24/7 threat detector. I'm constantly thinking about everything and everyone that could kill me or take everything I have.

The Internet has taught me that the world is less awful than the hellish place I came from. But I've hit a wall where I can't get better because I am constantly being reminded by well-meaning people that everything in the U.S. is going to shit.

My trauma narrative eats this stuff up. It sees fascists on the streets, impending financial and ecological crises, the dangers of cars, widespread hyperindividualism, the decline of third spaces, and constant phone and social media use. Then it says, "Nobody can be trusted because capitalism makes everyone shallow and selfish. Going outside is dangerous because of cars and fascists. Most people don't want to socialize because they are too busy. There are no good places to meet anyone. Everyone who does socialize is just a fair-weather friend because support is outsourced to paid therapy and the eroding welfare system. I'll never be good enough for a partner because I can't build a stable life and dating apps are designed to not work. Any job I get won't last long because of the collapsing economy. Going to college is too financially risky. There is no stability. Nothing good ever lasts. My progress will be wiped out by systemic forces far beyond my control."

It seems like U.S. politics is about instability and collapse at this point, and because I have so few positive memories, it feels like life itself is about instability and collapse. Your money, your job, your social circle, your health, everything you've worked for -- all of it could just go up in smoke tomorrow. I can't take anything for granted or have any confidence in the future. I can't fully enjoy anything because I'm too busy thinking about how I'll cope with its inevitable loss.

Is this really what life is? Just watching every good thing disappear? Being born into a mostly-functioning society just to watch it fall apart? Knowing you'll have to weather every struggle alone because people only care about themselves? Being promised a stable life and career all throughout school only for the rug to be pulled at the last minute?

There has to be more to life than this.

Is staying on the Internet really worth it?

(Also yes I go to therapy, I'm working on myself but that shit is hard af sometimes)

Automod bugged out and banned me forever from reddit, i want to explore more Lemmy now but am not sure if Im missing anything good im not directly looking for--i am also kinda autistic and oblivious so if there are instances with a bad history or full of chuds or something a heads up would be swell

Would you like to share your current reading list?

I just finished Never Flinch- one of Stephen King's Holly books. Was good.

Currently reading Knife- Salman Rushdie's book about his attack.

I think Catch-22 is next. I've never read it.

I tried Dungeon Crawler Carl but gave up on about page 16.

My son gave me a book called How to Live with Objects. I tend to pick it up when I want something non-scrolling. It's pretty good.