To frame this precisely: do you think that distinctions between cis-homosexuality/bisexuality/heterosexuality, trans-homosexuality/bisexuality/heterosexuality, and other gender-specific or gender-exclusive sexual orientation labels are necessary, or should we keep it minimal, or even abolish labels completely?

Just to make everything clear, I have to disclose that I'm NOT part of the queer community, though I try to be ass allied as humanly possible (I have three trans friends [two gay trans males, one lesbian trans female], one genderfluid friend, etc., and I support and help all of them in all I can). So precisely because of this, I want to learn and know more about your ideas, feelings, experiences, philosophies and beliefs; as I know queer community isn't a monolith, I want to hear as many voices as possible so I can make more well-founded and well-informed opinions, questions and actions. I equally support your rights, and hate all the reactionary conservatives.

That said, and back to the question that opens this post as its title, I ask that because I've noticed that it is a problem on queer discourse, semantics and semiotics, and I want to know how different people try to solve it.

For example, I have mixed feelings because, in one hand, I think that creating more specific labels would help both as a recognition of the different experiences and identities that conform the queer spectrum, and also make communication more clear, respectful, clever and less prone to errors, misunderstandings, misinterpretations or conflicts (for example, I only like cisgender women, and I'm a cisgender male, but if I say that I'm heterosexual, I feel that it's not clear if I like cis women, or if I like trans women, or if I instead like both kind of women, without further explanation that's not always possible, or a more specific term). But at the same time, in the other hand, it feels like it over-compartmentalize and overatomize sonething that's not completely discrete (althought it's also not completely continuous), and can lead to division, or even to other kinds of exclusion and discrimination both inside the community and outside it.

I know this is not an easy problem, so what are your thoughts on this?

Please, maintain this respectful, civil and in-topic. To all the moderators of this space, I kindly ask you in advance that f this turns out in a conflict or a fight, then please lock it.

Love and peace.

Now that I express it, it feels kind of obvious; anything with a small enough subculture will start speaking English for it. specifically I've really stopped watching german minecraft videos, and am only in English-Speaking Discord servers, and maybe this is only so non-obvious to .e because Germany is relatively big. I've heard smaller countries don't even have literally every TV programme dubbed in the local language.

I know that Jury Duty in the US (across all 50 states) is mandatory for citizens when they're given a summons (names are selected at random from the electoral roll) and it's an offense for failing to appear at the appointed date & time (ranges to fines or imprisonment). Usually, the courtroom allocated is based on where you live (i.e. if you reside in Oceanside, CA then the adajcent court is under San Diego) you get the picture.

Have you ever received a summons in the mail? If so, how many people showed up to the courthouse in your area? You bring the summons with you in court (as in the physical form) or show a email from a digital copy. People who also have the summons line up behind and in front of you waiting for each turn at the court clerk asking whether you're capable of serving a 2-3 week trial or longer (you can apply for excusals).

That is only, if you have evidence to back it up (it varies from caring for an elderly relative, mental illness, physical medical ailments, etc). when wanting to be excused and exemptions apply to certain jobs (member of congress / white house, a DA or attorney, cop / sheriff, active member of the military) & ex-cons who are charged with felonies or related offenses are disqualified from ever being subjected to JD.

Now, if you have waited in the jury panel in court: where your number is picked at random in which if it's called, you acknowledge your presence (it's up to lawyers to decide whether you're designated as a juror). You can't leave the venue unless you're told so. If you've showed up for JD: have there been cases of people deliberately failing to show up even though it's mandatory by law to appear (as they received a summons)?

If you managed to wait there the entire duration of the day without being selected, what is the payout like? Is it below or within minimum wage? However, if you have served as a juror: what is the total payout for a trial? Also, are you allowed to discuss the case mentioned outside court or is there a strict NDA (they explicitly say you cannot brag or mention the case on social media or to any other third party).

I have a huge crush on this guy. He’s one of the closest new friends I’ve made since moving abroad. Last night, sometime after midnight, I was bored and couldn’t sleep, so I called him. He was asleep when he picked up. I asked if he wanted to come over, and surprisingly, he said yes.

We played Baldur’s Gate 3, watched YouTube, listened to music, snacked, and chatted until 5 a.m. Poor guy couldn’t even stay over and had stuff to do early in the morning, so he barely got any sleep. I was honestly impressed by how willing he was to spend the night with me.

Would it be safe to assume that he likes me too?

I just stumbled upon an article on a German IT news website mentioning that you have to pay to be able to set (a still very limited number of) hyperlinks in your posts.

But I couldn't find any other sources mention it, except some dated articles referring field testing of such a restriction on Facebook.

Has anyone some info on this or even firsthand experience as a Facebook or Instagram user?

One thing I always look at in post-apocalyptic literature is how they treat transportation: notably, are people still driving cars and how long can they do so and under what conditions?

Entering our current oil crunch, I think it's obvious how fragile the ecosystem around cars are, but just letting the car sit unused and untreated for as little as a month can start to introduce\ problems. The idea that you can just pop into a car that's been abandoned for 3 years, pull the keys out from behind the visor, and start driving is unrealistic.

• Best: The Postman. We're back to walking and riding horses.

• Good: The Last of Us, Season 1. People walk or ride horses, when our heroes DO find a working truck, it is treated as the jackpot it is--and I think it even had a spare gas tank in the back to maximize distance traveled to harvest gasoline. Realistically, gas as a fuel for fires would be a valuable enough commodity that it would have been scavenged, but they need to do some traveling and high speed dragons are not available in this genre (Reign of Fire aside).

• Worst: Jericho. Nuclear explosions in the US pretty much wreck everything and despite the town of Jericho being completely isolated, people just drive their pickup trucks around all seasons long without comment. Horses and bicycles are maddeningly present but rarely used. I think the show thought American audiences could accept a premise where the federal government collapses after multiple nuclear strikes, but not where people in Kansas got off oil dependency--that would be too out there.

I had a discussion recently where someone accused me of not being a "real vegetarian" because I eat eggs. I know that's kind of a grey area, and it differs for each person and their reason for being vegetarian (religious, texture, health, environmental, ethical, etc); but what do you personally eat?

For me, personally, I keep it simple. If it looks and tastes like meat, I don't eat it (except special occasions like religious holidays). It makes me feel bad, and I dislike the texture anyway. Feels like an animal died specifically for me, and I didn't even enjoy it. A waste of a perfectly good life. But I'm ok with "regenerative" animal products like eggs and cheese and honey and such, as long as the animals were treated with respect (hard to find dairy that meets this criteria).

Probably the most contentious is bones. Someone once gave me some ramen, and later told me they were surprised I ate it because the broth was made with chicken bones. I didn't know, but also it didn't really disturb me either. Those bones would have been thrown out if not put into soup; and the end result was soup, not a drumstick or something obviously meaty. If nobody told me, I wouldn't even notice. For some reason, occasional bone broth is fine by my books. I'm not an extremely strict vegetarian in the first place though, and everyone I asked said that bones are not vegetarian.

It makes me think about Blood & Bone fertiliser. If you grow tomatoes with it, are those tomatoes not vegetarian…? Where is the line? Curious on others thoughts.

Assume left handed driving, right handed drivers please reverse the direction lol.

What i meant was that are you able to leave perfect spaces on the left and on the right? Or you tend to drift little more to one side e.g. 51/49 drift toward the left instead of 50/50 exactly?

I notice that experienced drivers drift to the side too. So i am curious and i have my theories for this:

1. Drivers are more likely to drift just a bit toward their driver side. E.g. for left hander driving that means drifting toward the left. This is because the wing mirror is the closest to the driver, so it is easier for the eyes to follow and track.

2. I've been to places where we have to share roads with bikes and motocycles. So a lane road is literally 2 lane: cars need to hug the left lane to create spaces on the right. So drivers from those countries are keen to drift to the left; even when they are on the highway without any motocycles.

3. For left handed driving, you usually dont drift to to the right UNLESS you are on the phone or using the giant touchscreen while driving.

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I'll accept a brutal course of treatment or poor treatment at the hands of medical professionals for this question.

and how would an elder start looking for friends or recreational activities for seniors? I don't even know what's available.

my father has always been republican, never a maga type, just old school republican.

The last message he sent me was more a rant against everything that's wrong with the world together with some immigrant blaming and talking about an invasion. He also wrote how he misses when I was 5. He is usually more articulate, this message was all over the place.

My mother is Mexican and I'm half Mexican. Make it make sense.

On my answer, I asked him if my mother should be deported, if he is feeling lonely or angry and if he meets people in real life other than my mother or he spends his time watching slop and listening to right wing media.

I also told him talking about immigrants the way he did to me is the perfect way to end up alone or in a right wing bubble because nobody sane wants to talk to somebody with so much disregard for people wanting a better life.

He also wrote something about how AI makes people stupider, which I agree with and asked him if he is sure this isn't something exactly happening to him right now with the message he sent me, just hoping he snaps out of it.

I suggested, if he feels alone he may contact social services, but I have no idea if they actually help seniors find new people.

I also wanted to suggest he goes to a nursing home but it doesn't seem to be the ideal place for a competent senior to meet new people, does it?

If you ever did this, what worked for you?

cross-posted from: https://lemmy.ml/post/52778326

to download content I run yt-dlp, current version: stable@2026.08.19

I don't have an account with either google or youtube nor plan I to.

the content I look for doesn't exist on other platforms.

I was at a public lecture and later saw photos of it. In one photo I held my index finger across my lips. A guy sitting before me, whose face I couldn't see at the time, did the exact same gesture, and the resulting photo looks pretty funny, as if we're all consciously posing to signal that we're thinking real hard.

There are other poses of this sort, the thinking monkey meme, Rodin's Thinker statue... even the sidebar of this very sub has a picture of a lemur whom we recognise as "thinking" because it has its hand on its mouth.

Are these gestures just culturally conditioned? But regardless of whether they're just cultural or universal – why do they exist?

I want to see what people on Lemmy are reading. Can be unique in terms of lore, concept or even the cover. Mine are invisible monsters, battle royale and horrorstor. What about yours?

I'm not a gamer, but I like some casul games from time to time, like Timberborn or Shapez. Yesterday I wanted to start a game again, after a period of not gaming since february or so. I've been getting used to sitting in my comfy chair in the evening, doing some programming or some online ciurse. I would like to game in my comfy chair as well, instead of sitting behind my desk where I've been working all day. But games demand much more intense mouse usage. A mouse does not work very well on an armrest. Have any of you solved that problem?

The oldest tech I have are laptops from 2006, 2008 and 2009, a pc from ~2010 and an android phone from around 2012. I also have lots of newer stuff.

I've already built a home server from the most suitable pc. What other real use cases for old tech would you suggest? What is your experience?

The all feed on YouTube is completely useless now, so for those that only use the subscribed tab, what's your favourite channels?

I'm liking the PBS channels, Ryan Georg and pitch meeting, stuff made here, animagraffs, map men, practical engineering, tasting history, and couple of more but kinda similar theme.

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Some folks in parts of the world are very reliant on gasoline, while some are more dependent on electric. Petroleum based products however are still in absurd demand by almost all parties. How do you stand to fair if the oil situation continues to worsen? Plastics. Nylon. Jet fuel. Tires. Asphalt. To name just a few things that heavily rely on oil byproduct.

I really dislike illymation. She happens to have every disorder under the sun, leans hard into her "trauma"/abuse, and just...isn't very intelligent. This mixed with her lazy art style really put me off of her.

This is coming from someone who typically enjoys neurodivergent creators.