20, trying to figure life out . doing trading, learning dispatching, studying too, its a lot at once. feel like im always in grind mode and forgot how to just enjoy stuff. currently im financially dependent on my parents...

had some bad losses in trading lately, took a short break and now trying to actually fix my risk management before going back in

if you're older and already been through your 20s, what do you wish someone told you back then? like what actually mattered vs what you thought mattered at the time

also anyone here into manifestation/law of attraction, does it actually work for you? not asking to like wish for money lol, more curious how you actually get into a good headspace and stay there day to day

any advice helps, thanks for reading

[like attracting money , travel etc ]

I think they are meant for people to believe they do something so they'll feel better and wait. I used to walk a lot and encounter lots of crosswalk with buttons and I got used to how fast I should go in order to catch green every time and I could predict when the next crosswalk was going to turn green. If they truly worked then they should have been out of sync. I never pushed the buttons and I saw the light turning green even though no one pushed the button, if the buttons worked then why would the light turn green?

I also asked gemini about this and he said I'm not going insane, strange because I never mentioned if I was insane or not, but good to know I'm not.

Maybe some buttons work and other don't depending on where it is?

Third Eye Blind popped into my head this morning and I always thought their name was pretty clever. I started thinking about a few others I like and got stuck on "modified birth names"

City & Colour - stage name of Dallas Green

Corto Alto - stage name for Liam Shortall (Corto Alto means "short tall" in Spanish)

Dora Jar - stage name for Dorothy Jar (door ajar)

I don't love when artists pick names based on other artists, though. I love Chet Faker's music but wish he stuck with Nick Murphy.

Are there any that you really like?

[Edit] Please explain why you think a name is clever! I've looked up the origins of the unfamiliar names getting posted but I'm definitely missing what's clever about some of them

The internet is a brutal place at times. To some, it can ruin someone's well-being. To others, it's a Tuesday. But the apps I just listed can have stuff that makes you question humanity. So which one of them has the most comments that shows you the worst of humanity? And feel free to share examples and your reactions

Many countries include 'Democratic' or 'People's' in their names, even though they are not democratic and do not serve their people. Examples: Democratic People's Republic of Korea Lao People's Democratic Republic People's Democratic Republic of Algeria Democratic Republic of the Congo And German Democratic Republic (East Side) in 1949–1990. None of these states are democratic, power and wealth are concentrated in the hands of a small ruling elite. Who are they fooling with these names?

I left Lemmy to come here to join the fed not too long ago. I went through the setup and joined a bunch of communities. The most active one I spend reading is Selfhosted. Besides that I’m on my home page using the default “hot” and “subscribe” sorts enabled and I see the same thing all day every other day. I see people say it’s not that active and I know this isn’t Reddit with its volume but it can’t be that inactive here. I’ve tried “hot/new” and “all” just it seems to be a bunch of RSS feeds with no human context or interaction. With I’m doing something wrong or the communities I’ve joined aren’t active enough or both.

just to get it out of the way: yes, i know i can use a spam email/phone number. yes, i know i can opt out of promotional emails/texts. that doesn't make it any less frustrating. i don't need a growing list of empty accounts for websites i only spend an hour (or less) browsing through. don't even get me started on restaurants that ask for your phone number when you scan their QR code...

Every food commercial, advertisement, and packaging in the US is currently protein obsessed. I just bought 3 burritos, and the most noticeable thing on the entire package is its protein content. TV commercials about waffles are advertising that they have X amount of protein per serving. The products in my jobsite's vending machine have protein all over every package.

Did America have a protein thing recently?

I remember when Reddit announced it would begin charging commercial developers for access to its API, and in response, thousands of subreddits went dark in protest. I think it lasted for a couple of weeks. The CEO threatened the Reddit mods that he would replace them if they didn't reopen the subs, so nearly every mod reopened and everything went back to normal. The CEO won easily without offering anything, and he was right when he said that 'this too shall pass.' Those third-party apps offered accessibility features for disabled people that Reddit still hasn't implemented today. Now Reddit is getting even worse. How come there wasn't a protest like that when they made even worse decisions?

The method demonstrated in the video is problematic for a commoner like me to apply, since it not only comes with serious electrical hazards when handling the high voltage capacitor in the microwave, but it also comes with the risk of endangering other peoples electronics, causing fire hazards or affecting radiological infrastructure that is protected by law.

Our entire house, containing eight households, are furious at our neighbors living across the street, because they are flying their drone up to our windows and hover. It is equipped with something that resembles a lens.

I'd shoot it down, but that leaves a trail and is not subtle. I really don't want to risk my gun "career", since I want to get licensed for heavier caliber sometime next year.

The police don't do nothing about it, since it's not illegal to maneuver in populated areas. It's neither directly illegal to film people, even though they indirectly could be charged with harassment. I don't have or want to spend the funds for a civil lawsuit.

What are my offensive and defensive options?

I'll just leave the question at that, because I can't even speculate.

cross-posted.

!fuck_ai@lemmy.world

I just noticed it now, what is the reason?

…or whatever meal it is. Is it something magnificent you made at home? Is it Spaghettios? A gas station burrito? Take out/delivery from a local place?

Honestly asking to see if I can get some new ideas for food to take to work.

What happened to the Stop Destroying Video-games initiative?

I'm middle aged. Since I was a teen I've had bouts of my life where I'd rather feel nothing at all than continue to be depressed. I'm on meds for anxiety already and have had depression throughout my life. I have never been on strong enough dose to make me feel numb but I hear people talk about it. Honestly, it sounds appealing. My life has been mostly negative with small periods of positive. On the whole, I think I'd be better off a robot than permanently end things, IYKWIM.

tldr - people sometimes complain depression meds make them numb, as a bad thing, but that sounds appealing to me. Has anyone done that on purpose and how was your experience?

Nothing in the world seems to help. I spent forever trying to find something to watch, but literally nothing felt good. Even when I eventually put something on it felt empty and I just ended up staring at the wall. I tried playing videos games, some of which I really love, and I turned them all off after a few minutes. I've tried other things too. Half the time I don't even eat. Time passes in slow motion, like some kind of purgatory. The worst is I can't even sleep. I have the next few days off and they're going to feel like an eternity. It actually scares me. How do you get through this? I'm desperate.

For what it's worth, I see a therapist weekly and I'm on a few different medications. This particular bout of sadness is caused by an especially painful rejection.

"I never tried it, I never experienced it" - .etc These are things that are sometimes said in some posts where someone is about to criticize something people have at certain lengths, done or experienced said things. It's an uninformed opinion that offers nothing except to detail how incurious someone is to learn about it.

"I just turned 18" - This is a small detail that could say that someone is still figuring out the world around them, but they just go on a banter about something that they haven't crafted a full thought about. You've still got much to learn before tackling big subjects or even big wonders.

"I'm a Non-American" - This is commonly found whenever a poster is criticizing America at any degree, without studying about it or even knowing someone from there to get an idea about it. Of course it's easy for Non-Americans to get entangled about things in another country they don't understand about - because they don't live in it!

Tell us about it!

I'm often in the position that I want to refer to an old post. I try to scroll through the feed but often give up before finding what I was looking for because I'm fed up as I don't remember the community. It might even have been on another platform like mastodon.

On mastodon and pixelfed you can view your favorites and likes, respectively, but I can't seem to find the equivalent button in lemmy. A hacky workaround would also work for me.

thanks

I matched with a guy on a dating app, and we seemed to get along well from the chemistry and conversation down to humor. The first date was great and unlike others I've had, although I noticed he was very straightforward physically, kissing me several times. I've had to deal with guys with wrong intentions in the past so I was cautious and told him on our next date that I prefer to move more slowly after he was trying to cuddle a lot, smelling my hair, and kissing my neck - even though he stated that he is looking for a long-term relationship after getting to know people and seeing who is most compatible. He was strangely quiet and didn't say much once I communicated that. Then he pulled back and seemed less interested when I asked if he was free to meet again, ghosted me for a few days, and then finally sent a transactional text saying he didn't see long-term romantic potential and didn't want to string me along. I felt so sad and confused at the sudden shift, and asked if we can have a call just to talk for a bit but he completely ghosted me again and removed his entire dating focus description (it was "Long-term relationship" at the time of our dates, previously "Long-term, open to short-term", and was not publicly shared at all before that)

Should I follow up? There are some topics I thought may be good to clarify and address through a text message in case those were what turned him away or are areas he thought I could've done better. For example, he was patient with my response speed in our early conversations while I was especially busy and intermittent on the app. Also without being too specific, there was something he may have felt I should've done during our first date, but I saw it differently (relating to traditional chivalry), and maybe he feels like I should apologize for that. I really have no idea and feel like I didn't get closure, but I also feel betrayed that he didn't even think that I deserve one call. Is this a lost cause? What exactly happened, and was he ever intentional (he also had a few situationships recently)?

Any advice, help, or even just empathy would be appreciated!