Preferably books but anything will do.

She had said in her memoir and I'm paraphrasing here:

"For the last few years I'm waiting for two people to return, my dad and Jesus Christ. I've now realised they're not coming back. At least, I can't be held responsible for death of Jesus."

No, she didn't kill her father, she lived a wild life, and is blaming herself and her lifestyle that made her father stressed about her. (Just stating that for people with low media literacy.)

Search engines are absolutely awful at this. They keep giving links to bible sites or Jesus movies.

Context: I didn't read the original quote in English, it is a translation by me.

I read it in an essay/opinion piece in my mother tongue. The writer was also lamenting about not caring for his father when he was alive and I guess he was writing about the universality of that regret? Been a long time since I read that but that quote has stuck.

so reddity

Let me begin by saying, I drink very rarely; few times a year.

When I drink, i get the feeling that my brain in running on powersaving mode; only the most basic functions are operational. It's a fun feeling when I'm drinking, but I can't imagine doing that regularly.

I'm not sure if this constitutes as bragging but I am proud of the fact that I can recall information quite well, and any activity which hinders this is not to my liking. The hangover is also bad, where the brain is slow for the next entire day.

I want to know the community thinks about drinking and how it effects/doesn't affects their work and life and how they get around it. Any alternatives and tips?

Let's imagine that AI will become cheaper and more efficient, it will not differ from humans in terms of the quality of its work, it will replace almost all intellectual workers, and only the operators of these AI models will have jobs, that is, one person or several people monitor the entire office of AI workers for a small salary. Yes, the AI bubble will burst, but the problems of ordinary people will only get worse from this, jobs will not return, no, automation will continue anyway.

Is it worth retraining as a mechanic, plumber or something like that?

Had an interesting conversation on the science of consciousness a while back and realized there is a lot I don't know.

Can anyone recommend a recent book that covers the overall basics, such as the different theories (like antenna/etc) and physics overlaps?

My only requirement is scientific references. I dont want or need cited peer reviewed papers, but I don't want an author's sole opinion, either.

Do not buy one of these for their smart features unless everything else is worse.

I'm in a rural area and my options for garage door service people are limited. They only install liftmaster. I have 2 garage doors, and wanted a simple external pad to operate both, while also letting me program temp codes for when i have someone performing work.

Somehow the dealer programed one PIN code to both door motors. I told them I would take care of it using the app.

These liftmaster devices are the worst. Some wireless pads simply dont pair to the app, so programing PINs from the app won't work. This was the first sign of trouble. I contacted their support, which was available on the weekend, a real human, and was honestly very helpful.

Program the wrong PIN, or want to change one? Can't do it through the app. You'll need to get a ladder out so you can unplug the motor power, disconnect the built-in battery, and do a full reset.

A full reset means you'll need to program the door max open and max close locations. You'll also need to reprogram the wired pads (why???). The learn button on the wired pad? can't be used to program the remotes. oh don't forget the homelink buttons on your vehicles.

Here's what i had to do to remove a single PIN and get the wireless pad minimally working:

1. Disconnect battery on door motor 1
2. disconnect power door motor for 30 seconds.
3. reset door motor 1
4. program door motor min/max locations
5. program wired pad (why??)
6. futz with wired pad screwdown connectors because they don't ground to the screw, they ground to small pads around the screw (why???)
7. program wireless outdoor pad to motor 1.
8. program remote 1 to door motor 1
9. program remote 2 to door motor 1
10. program car1 homelink to remote 1
11. program car 2 homelink to remote 1
12. reconnect battery.
13. set up wifi using mobile app.
14. Disconnect battery on door motor 2
15. disconnect power door motor for 30 seconds.
16. reset door motor 2
17. program door motor min/max locations
18. program wired pad (why??)
19. futz with wired pad screwdown connectors because they don't ground to the screw, they ground to small pads around the screw (why???)
20. prorgram wireless outdoor pad to door motor 2
21. program remote 1 to door motor 2
22. program remote 2 to door motor 2
23. program car1 homelink to remote 2
24. program car 2 homelink to remote 2
25. reconnect battery.
26. set up wifi using mobile app.

I made a blender model and animation of this thing I experienced to show how it looks like and moves, and to use that as a way to find out if someone knows what it is, where or why. I don't know much more and am wondering what others know based on their encounters. It's somewhere at some time, seems huge. The discs are flattish and don't reflect light other than from the edges. I've tried posting in a few communities and get mostly aggravated answers, or overtly focusing on how I got this knowledge (almost like I've done something forbidden when it's not an aspect I care about), and one got modded hidden.

There are loads of stereotypical behaviours in hetro-parents. E.g.: Dad is there less, but when he spends time with the kids alone, everything goes. You'll order take-out and watch crazy ageinappropriate movies till way past your bedtime.

Mum runs the show. She wakes you up, puts out clothes when your younger. She cooks, makes appointments, organizes your hobbies and playdates.

And whenerver you ask if you can get something a little more expensive, or if you can go see your ffiend it's "ask your mother".

Are there comparable common dynamics in lesbian or gay parents, or are they percieved less, because both parents are of the same gender which automaticly dissolves these gender-roles from the beginning.

By "spoil," I mean things like:

• Smothering him in kisses
• Stroking his hair
• Using a soft or warm tone of voice associated with "puppy talk" or "baby talk"
• Telling him he's cute, precious, or any number of cutesy and diminutive pet names
• Praising him for who he is, not just what he does
• Holding and reassuring him when he's scared or sad
• Being the big spoon when cuddling
• Cherishing his soft or vulnerable emotional expressions
• Initiating affection and sex
• Treating his emotional well-being as equally important to her own
• Being playfully affectionate -- overwhelming him with kisses, tickling him, squeezing him, etc

My ideal relationship is one where she spoils me about as much as I spoil her, and we support each other and make decisions together as a team.

So, what do you think? Are my desires some kind of strange Oedipal amalgamation that doesn't really exist in real relationships, or is believing so just another cognitive distortion from my upbringing?

Looking for a little insparation for a wordbuilding project I am working on. I am curious what supernatural/ witchy ritual you have experienced, how you felt and if you'd do it again? :3

Throughout my adult professional life, I've encountered people who have a (to me, at least) very curious way of interacting with other people. They look at individuals as 'resources' and relationships as 'transactions'. Picture a spider's web of contacts where 'Bob' is replaced with 'has tools I can borrow' and 'Melissa' is replaced with 'can get me into my favorite club without a cover charge'.

I'm trying my best to articulate this. It's like these people only create relationships based upon what material gains it can offer them. They aren't really interested in the PEOPLE so much as the ADVANTAGE a relationship with them affords. Does that make sense?

Now to me, this is very bizarre. I just don't think this way, but I'm told that it's quite common - almost 'the norm'. Is this true? If so, I'm really bewildered by it. What do y'all think?

Lemmy is so Linux-focused and people are surprisingly opinionated about it.

I've struggled to be musical all my life--took lessons, took college classes, did ear training, etc.

I think I finally cracked the code, and it's surprisingly simple:

1. Learn to play melodies by ear (starts with singing)
2. Learn only enough theory to:

• know your way around your instrument (scales, arpeggios)
• understand chords
• understand song structure

3. Experiment (ie have fun!)

The most anal formal exercise I'd recommend is learning to hear relative scale degrees (two very good apps available for that)--though I think that skill would be developed by transcribing (playing by ear), it's helpful for your confidence level to have graded exercises you can have some success with.

But my experience with most of my music teachers is they fall into one of two traps:

For classical music, it's:

1. Learn how to translate written notes into notes on your instrument.
2. Go to 1.

For instance: I was taking clarinet lessons and I remember my teacher saying goodbye to his last student--a kid--and the teacher said, "If you bring me the sheet music for it, we can learn to play it." And I thought what a missed opportunity that was for that girl to learn to hear and transcribe music--obviously not a skill he thought was important to the teacher at all. And I'd understand now wanting to do that for piano, which is really complicated, but learning to play a melody by ear on a single note instrument is a very achievable goal, especially when you have someone that can tell you what key it's in and what the first note is.

The trap for jazz music is:

1. Learn what are the "right" notes to play.
2. Play them in any random order.

I used to blame teachers for just being bad at their jobs, but I think students (and maybe parents/administrators) are also to blame.

I ran across a senior guy who was trying to get back into piano. He'd played for a few years and it was clear he had no idea of how to be musical--no idea of how to construct a simple bass line, no knowledge of how to define a chord. So I said, "Hey, I'll work with you even though I don't play piano, I think you need to learn this song and just play the root and the five in the left hand, and sing the melody while you play, and use a metronome." What an amazing exercise I thought: it would help teach him timing, develop his ear, develop his feel, let him be expressive with his voice, let him embody the melody, lear to work the bass, etc. Aren't I brilliant teacher?

You know what this guy did? He pulled out his phone to show me some recordings he did of him playing the song the way his music teacher had written it out for him; it was what I expected--just haltingly reading the music with no sense of time. I wasn't sure, but I think he wanted me to praise him for playing such a complex piece.

For him, and maybe for a lot of students (and certainly for parents and administrators), they don't actually want to master music, they want to impress people. And maybe for the musically disinclined, haltingly playing a complex written piece is more impressive than a 2-note bassline in time with an expressive voiceline sensitive to dynamic; since most people in charge of music education (parents and school administrators) don't know music, maybe they would promote a teacher who taught the former and fire a teacher who taught the latter..

For jazz programs, I think they've got a lot of theory they've got to cram into the kids heads, and we can learn theory a lot faster than we can develop musically, so if you're going to be judged on "performance" of your students, you'll be rewarded for having them be able to pass essentially paper exams set to music more than for having them skillfully play pentatonic blues.

I don't know what the answer is, but for some reason, actually mastering music is very low on the list for both teachers and students.

What's all y'all's experience with music and music education?

So a month or so, I watched This Video STEAM Education: Putting an A in your STEM and i really liked the Idea. The basic gist is to teach science in creative ways, for example, instead of just being show the Bohr model of an Atom, you are given the know facts surrounding the the element, and are asked to reduce how they come together to form this specific model and shape.

At the moment, i am taking High School Calculus for the first time and its all going over my head. Suddenly Math feels like its more vibes than anything else, and its alot. The closest thing i ever took in normal math, that wasn't just an equation with an answer, was Simultaneous equations, and not gonna lie, While i didn't used to have math anxiety in high school, this stuff sure as hell scares me.

Some people in YouTube video mentioned how different ways of learning Calculus worked for them, that they were actually able to understand the topics

Some quotes:

As an adult I came to realize that math isn't taught very well in high school. In High School I got good grades in math, but I realize I didn't actually learn it very well. For example, I didn't actually understand what a Sine and Cosine are, I just learned how to plug them into a formula without understanding why the formula worked.

I got a much better understanding of Trigonometry when I started learning how to do some programming for making video games. I had to write code that would rotate a little space ship in the game, which required me to learn how the Trigonometric formulas actually worked.

Many of us think of games as just being arts and entertainment, so it's kind of funny that they ended up teaching me math better than school did. I realized I had a bias that I think a lot of people have, where they assume that math is supposed to be boring and difficult, but it doesn't actually have to be that way.

And

It was not until I got to college, took my first programming course, and learned about binary, octal, and hex that I understood how numbers work. It was a true lightbulb moment. I took CALCULUS in high school and this was the first time in my life that arithmetic made sense.

After the awe finally wore off, I just thought of the years of rote memorization I suffered through, the overwhelming confusion that came from staring at pages of complex notation because the fundamental building blocks were never explained to me. I could do the math, but I always struggled because I didn’t know WHY I was doing things this way. It made me think of the kids who had the same feelings as I did with even more basic math, and my heart hurt. It’s messed up.

And

I'm in Math, and every time I tell someone outside of Math I did my PhD in it, they invariably respond something along the lines of "oh, you like math? is it because there's always an answer and it's straightforward?" or "oh, you like math? I hated math, it's too rigid". It's kind of funny that people seem to have a perception of this massive divide between "hard" or "definite" sciences and everything "creative." There is so much more to math than algorithmically determining a solution.

All to say, as an Adult ^TM^ who isn't restricted by the rigid system of school, i have subjects and topics i want to delve into. Originally, i downloaded a bunch of High School Books that i thought i could start with, but i am now thinking there are better resources out there

Here are some subjects i am interested in:

• Cactus/Math
• Geography
• Physics
• Sociology
• Religious studies
• Pharmacology
• Linguistics
• Computer science
• Geo-politics politics and international relations
• Art Theory

Despite the infinite amount of information on the internet, just googling stuff is Ass. Not to mention the huge amount of misinformation surrounding basic concepts(at least High School Textbooks are reviewed by some form of experts). And i don't have the option of going to a library.

Also, lectures are said to be very ineffective for learning(they are more about cost than anything else). And i am not cuffed to any exams or expected to memorize every fact, so i am very flexible in the activity i can do(barring cost and time)

The copies would retain their memories and the previous version was quarantined and disposed of.

Edit: BTW your answer will dictate how the AI overloads will judge you.

Looking for stories of times you interacted with a criminal organization in any capacity. Were/are there any infamous locals frequently talked about in your area (please don't dox yourself). Please give a genuine answer not a political stance. The only one I think I've had was a story I've told here before about having met an Aryan brotherhood guy when I was 12ish.