I don't even know where to start.

I have known them for over 10 years, it always been very clear to me they are neurodivergent, I've known that from day one.

A few months ago they were given a formal diagnosis of autism. I can completely see it, I can completely understand the diagnosis, and I think it is in perfect alignment with many of this person's characteristics.

I really do not know what the hell is going on in their mind, if the diagnosis has triggered some deep feelings or...

But the problem is this... Ever since they got the diagnosis, they have started to mimic the behaviors that are often seen in people with Down's Syndrome. She has started to mimic the speech patterns, and tries to crunch her face and squint.

It's just annoying as fuck. They are purposefully acting like somebody they are not. I am becoming absolutely exhausted with this behavior, especially because they have not changed as a person, they are the exact same person as prior to the diagnosis, they've just started acting like an idiot. (E: and I'm also getting SICK of her besmirching people with Downs by ACTING like she has the IQ of a cat)

I am at the point where I don't want to be around them anymore, but before I limit my contact, what are some compassionate ways I can have a conversation with this person?

For me it would have been buying the steam frame (but I am still in the waitlist). Also, I recently gotten into the 40k lore, but there is no way I can find the time and physical place to get into wargames.

Brain-based management is getting too exhausting, and isn't even fully possible with a larger quantity of online accounts.

I would also include anything that was initially a flop on its original release but then found a following later such as movies like Momento. This still counts as commercial failure for the sake of this question.

Celebrate holidays. Cool, it's halloween, eh I'll eat a couple pieces of candy. Cool, it's christmas, let me chug down at least some egg nog. I just can't get into the habit of decorating because to me, it's just more work.

cross-posted from: https://piefed.world/c/questions/p/1436427/where-can-i-upload-videos-to-embed-them-here-on-piefed-lemmy

I mean other than making surfing the web slow as molasses.

I’m developing a cross-platform desktop/mobile application for Windows, Linux, macOS, and Android.

My company already has an official digital certificate issued by Telekom. It is recognized for legally binding electronic signatures and document signing. In other words, the state recognizes the certificate and the identity behind it.

Yet that apparently isn’t enough for the major software platforms.

Apple wants an annual developer fee if I want normal macOS signing/notarization and distribution without scary warnings.

Google wants developers inside its Play Store ecosystem for normal Android distribution and updates.

Microsoft expects software publishers to use its accepted code-signing trust infrastructure, which usually means paying a commercial CA or using Microsoft’s own signing services if you want Windows to recognize the publisher without warnings.

So my question is: Why are these companies allowed to create their own private definition of “trusted developer,” even when a developer already possesses a legally recognized digital identity certificate?

I understand the technical argument that document signing and code signing are different certificate purposes. But from the developer’s perspective, the result looks like this:

“Your identity is legally verified, but we still won’t treat your software as trusted unless you participate in our approved ecosystem and, in many cases, pay.”

Why isn’t there a vendor-neutral mechanism where a legally recognized organizational certificate can establish publisher identity across operating systems? Is this mainly about security, liability, PKI design, platform control, commercial incentives, or some combination of all of them? And more importantly: what prevents Microsoft, Apple, and Google from abusing their position as platform owners to turn “trust” into a paid gatekeeping mechanism?

Gaming. I'm in my 30s and the 30s was the age bracket I've heard where few can carry on gaming through, because it has a tendency to die here. I piss away so much time doing other things that gaming just takes a backseat. I'm not even married or have kids.

These days, it seems that I am feeling love again and getting more nuanced on love. I just wondered if people here once had a life outside screen and fall in love with someone. When you met your first love for the first time in your life, how did you meet them? Were you classmates, co-workers, neighbours, or what? I was in 7th grade when I can say that I felt that for my female classmates. I could not tell them cuz they were already interested in another guy. I was a very weird person so they were more annoyed with me but never knew what I felt for them. Although they forgave me and we remained classmates and they are doing fine (one is posting about her university life on Insta, another one is anonymous), but yeah this experience just makes me realize that how much time has passed.

I want to just delete my Discord, FB, Reddit, Second Life and other social sites so I can just be focused on myself. But I can't because the guilt of seemingly deserting those I have left, will be hard to deal with.

For me it's time signatures in music. I grew up playing instruments, played in several orchestras, etc. But no matter how many times someone tries to explain time signatures to me, it makes no sense. I don't understand why people place such importance on it. To me, notes have a pitch and a duration, maybe some dynamics. That's it. I don't understand why people try to needlessly complicate it. It doesn't give you anything.

My wife will hear a song and go "Oh neat, it's in 5/8." And I'm like "How tf do you know that, and why does it matter?"

Looking up stuff re the horror film The Gorgon (1964), I found this pressbook supplement for that film & The Curse of the Mummy's Tomb .

https://archive.org/details/pressbook-col-the-gorgon/mode/2up

My guess would be Black Stamps were some kind of loyalty program, where cinema patrons could exchange the stamps for something.

• Were the stamps only for horror films from Columbia?
• What are some examples of things you could get in exchange for Black Stamps?
• What was the Columbia Exchange (bottom of page 2)? A physical store, chain of stores? Mail order? Something else?

I'm trying to de-Google, and that means finally getting off of Gmail. I need a new email address for shopping/corporate spam. Where should I park all the emails I get about coupons, shipping updates, new product features, policy changes, etc.?

Considerations:

-I don't want to just give all my shopping data to another big AI company. (So, not Outlook/Microslop.) I don't want a provider that will sell my data to third parties, either. These emails don't need top-level privacy protection, but random third parties don't need to know whether I buy cheap or expensive shoes.

-I'd like to use email aliases for different companies so I can figure out who's the leak if I start getting emails from an unexpected source. (Although maybe that can be a separate service from the email provider?)

-I don't care what country the email provider is based in. I don't care if the CIA can theoretically find out what shoes I buy, I just don't want businesses giving me higher "personalized" prices because of those shoes.

-I'd prefer to stick with a free email provider if possible, but maybe that's not compatible with the first point, IDK.

Suggestions, please!

What was your motivation for seeking out non-mainstream platforms? Why did you choose this platform?

Maybe they are, maybe they aren't, share anyway.

Like the Romans used to drink from lead cups. Something like that.

(it appears that the moderator is removing any replies with which he disagrees. It might be a piefed issue. But all the removed replies are top level and upopular. Stranger coincidences have happened I suppose.)

I've been writing reviews since my Reddit days, and I posted a couple here on Lemmy (primarily Mecha anime). However, since I can't post for reddit for reasons I don't want to into detail for and since Lemmy is too small, I'm thinking about just making my own website to post reviews on. So should I go for it? What should I know before doing it?

For whatever reason I've never been a huge chatroom person, but the recently renewed conversation over Discord's identity verification system has got me thinking once again about free, open, and community-run alternatives--with Matrix being the one that I think stands out the most.

For those who aren't familiar, for better or worse Matrix isn't a 1:1 clone of Discord (like you mostly see with Stoat or Fluxer), but an open protocol for federated messaging and voice chat. Instead of a centralized service run by any one company or group, Matrix is a lot like email or "the fediverse": a network of different servers, run by different people, communicating with each other using a single protocol and visualized through various apps (like Element or FluffyChat).

But for as much as Matrix feels like the fediverse in spirit, to me it also feels very separate from the fediverse, like it's not a part of the "same conversation", so to speak. The ethos is similar. The background is similar. The mission is similar. But, despite that, I feel like I don't see as much overlap between fediverse communities and matrix communities as I would expect.

Maybe it's purely because of the near-ubiquity of Reddit and Discord in modern net culture, but it seems pretty common to see Reddit communities that advertise links to Discord communities. Whereas it seems a lot more rare for "threadiverse" communities to advertise links to Matrix communities. Which leads me to my question...

What do you all think of Matrix?

Have you been aware of it? Have you tried it?

Are you an active Discord user? Are you an active Matrix user? If so, what do you like/dislike about it? If not, why not?

Broadly speaking, do you think there is value in what Matrix is doing? How do you see it fitting in with the rest of the Fediverse?

For me: I am one of the foremost experts on Team Fortress 2 video recording/editing and automated clip gathering within tf2 specifically. Even more specifically within the context of competitive play but the knowledge applies to casual play as well.

Of course kids should eat healthy, but a quick web search seem to disprove that higher calories snacks have a negative effect. Papers I found are https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/abs/pii/0195666390900519 and https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/abs/pii/S003193840200882X

School goes as far as preventing the kids to eat their snack if it's not a fruit or a vegetable which I find excessive, as many healthy snacks exist today that still contain some (more) carbs (the two papers are even about candies...)

Are there some studies out there for what would be an optimal snack (both health and performance wise)?

Do you use a brown bag, or do you have an actual lunchbox? Is it insulated? How much food do you bring, and what types of food?

Thanks in advance, I'm super interested by this type of relatively mundane stuff.

For myself I usually bring some kind of sandwich in a paper bag, nuts/dried fruit in the bags they come in from the store, and tea in a thermos. All of those things in my backpack.

I have always done some kind of work out in my life, however, as of the last two years i’ve stopped caring about it and had no interest in it. I did swimming from 4 to 14 years old, and from 14 to 16 i went to the gym pretty constantly, but now as an 18 year old i don’t do anything. I’ve found myself missing swimming, but mostly just giving up on the gym because i stopped finding enjoyment in it. However i am well aware that i should probably do something, it’s just very hard to want to do it in the first place. I don’t really care about being strong or handsome, but i’ve always been overweight since i was a little kid and even tho i’m on a diet, i struggle with losing weight and the advice is always “go to the gym”. How do YOU manage to find motivation to work out?