I often feel like a loser. I don’t do any sports, but i’ve been wanting to get back into swimming since i used to do it as a kid and i kind of miss it, i don’t play any instruments, and there are days once every two or three weeks where i’m just home all day. I am addicted to my phone, or rather addicted to YouTube, i am watching YT videos most of my day, not even watching but often just leave them in the background and go on with my day. I have accomplished some cool stuff, like i just recently got out of morbid obesity by following a diet, i got my English C1 certification and i’m learning Spanish and Mandarin with surprisingly good results. I have been studying stuff i’m interested in, mainly politics, philosophy, and most recently I’m getting more into maths and physics. However, even tho i did achieve those things, i feel like i should do more.

I have always envied people that play instruments but never got around to do it myself (one friend of mine proposed to borrow me his old guitar, i might accept), i don’t workout currently because for the past 2 years i got a gym membership but didn’t care enough to show up consistently because it’s just boring to me, i’d like to go out more but many of my friends are always busy or just out of reach, and i live a bit far from the city so i can’t just “take a walk”, because i’d have nowhere to go and for a big portion of the road near my house there is no sidewalks at all.

I feel like i’m just making up excuses, but idk, do you know how i can stop feeling that way?

Hi Lemmy! It is obvious that being a fast learner is advantageous. People like people that can get up to speed quickly and contribute to a project or team. Heck, I could put 'fast learner' on a resume and no one would think that's weird. But what about slow learners?

Is there ever a time where it would have been better to learn a skill or get acquainted with something more slowly?

Are there any general benefits across all circumstances where being a slower learner can be advantageous?

And if there are any positives to taking more time to learning, is it something you could ever bring up on a resume or job interview? Would you ever find yourself saying to a hiring manager "I'm a slow learner, and here's why that's a good thing for your organization." Or is it some abstract, unquantifiable positive thing like "I struggle to get good at things and that has built character," or something like that?

TL;DR: In Avatar the Last Airbender terms, if you could have a choice between being a slow learner and struggling with everything (child Zuko) or learning fast and dominating at everything (child Azula), why would anyone ever choose the former?

Seeing this referenced everywhere the past few weeks. No idea what is about? Is it a new social media trend or something?

Edit: This is a bonus check, he is not hurting for cash. He has a regular union pension plus social security.

My father is an expat living in the Philippines. My half-sister was dealing with his mail and financial stuff but has stopped/went no contact with him. I have no clue why, but I'm guessing they had a fight over something (I have zero contact with her). He is asking me to receive a paper union pension check and either take a picture and send it to him so he can sign it and use an app to deposit or forge his signature and deposit it. It's bank fraud and for 600 I'm not willing to risk the consequences.

He says the union won't direct deposit and it costs too much to send to him via mail or whatever. I asked why he didn't set up a remailing service and he said something about trust and thieves as well as not wanting to pay.

He was not in my life 98% of the time and had ample opportunity to handle things before moving. He moved there to be with his new girlfriend while still married to another Phillipino. He said It was no big deal they do it all the time. She went with him then came back and sold everything she could and drained the accounts. I told him then I wouldn't be dealing with stuff I have no legal standing in.

He tried guilt tripping me about the check and playing it off as no big deal and how desperate he is.

This is what I sent him:

​I want to address this clearly so we can put it to rest.

​When you chose to move overseas, I advised getting your affairs settled first, which included making sure that your banking and mail situation was handled properly. That was your decision to make.

​We haven't been in touch for months, and you chose not to reach out until an emergency landed on your lap. That was your choice as well.

​When things fell apart with your previous living situation, you expected me to step in and deal with things. I told you then I was done dealing with this kind of chaos. I have no legal standing to handle your paperwork, and I will not do so. You have not formally provided legally binding documentation giving me explicit power of attorney, so I cannot and will not touch any financial or legal matters for you.

​You have always spoken highly of the unions and their benefits. They have the capability to handle direct deposits or wire transfers the same as any other business. They are on your side, not mine. You and the union created this administrative issue, and you will need to work with them to resolve it.

​My life experiences have taught me that family obligations do not override legal boundaries or personal safety. I will not commit check fraud, forge a signature, or take and transmit photos of negotiable financial instruments. Family, money, and legal issues do not mix, and I will not risk prison time or a federal banking violation over $600. There are people who get paid to deal with this type of thing.

​This situation cannot be my responsibility to fix. I wish you the best in figuring it out directly with the trust or finding someone who can assist you.

In an attempt to better understand Lemmy I’m wondering if some of you can shed a light on what the deal is between.ml and .world. The history, any significant event or a betrayal, how did we all run away from spez only to come here and throw mud at each other?

I’m sure it confuses a great deal of Reddit refugees who just signed up with the largest instance because of (in my case future proofing) reasons.

I’m wondering how this historic feud came to be and how I can be called a “Zionist” just because of my instance, and they are called “fascists” even though I’ve come across some pretty levelheaded people from that instance too.

Please, keep it civil!

I’m not trying to start a fight or mud slinging, it would be good if several people could say their piece and nobody shame or attack them for it no matter how much you disagree.

Thanks

I love the guy and the courageous left-leaning progressive stances and slandering he's doing to the you-know-who administration atm.

I think he's up there with Ruby Setnik, Romesh Ranganathan and Stephen Colbert as my favourite leftist satirist, and his podcast is such a fun time-waster of a audio frequency too.

But I respect your opinion if you aren't a big fan of his.

cross-posted from: https://lemmy.world/post/53177215

I thought I might share a small phonetic game/challenge with you. All 3 individuals in the attached clips were born and raised in the same country and speak the same native language. Can you tell, based on the peculiarities of their English pronunciation, what language it is?

1. https://vimeo.com/1205985914
2. https://vimeo.com/1206296678
3. https://vimeo.com/1206827782

The reason why it's difficult to pre-order: scalpers. Besides that, if you managed to secure a pre-order for both the console and game in either the US or EU, how much did you end up paying (with sales tax / VAT included)? Although, the price for both varies in your region and how much the retailer sells it for.

The Zelda Themed Switch 2 itself is ¥64,607 ($410 / 364€) which includes a screen protector and a pre-order bonus while the physical copy of the Ocarina of Time Remake is ¥7,755 ($49 / 44€). I've pre-ordered mine via Amazon (Japan) for ¥72,362 ($459 / 408€) which is way "cheaper" than in the US & EU.

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For me, 2 things come to mind; Berserk & the Long Walk

Berserk may sound controversial, but I just didn't have a good time watching the 90's anime. I felt angry while watching it. I just didn't like the characters for how dickish they were (especially Guts & Casica) and the setting was too miserable for me. And some of you may go, "but the comic is 10x better" (I know it's manga, I'm just calling a comic to piss of people) I also just don't like dark fantasy in general, since they're edgy, pretentious, and worst of all... they're ugly. There's a reason why I never played the Dark Souls games, outside of the difficulty

The Long Walk movie is really well made movie with amazing acting. But man was it a miserable movie to go through. Seeing all those kids getting shot by soldiers for being slower was painful to watch.

Side note: there's a lot of critically acclaimed stuff I like (Cowboy Bebop & the Dark Knight). It's just that entertainment is so subjective that it's not mutually exclusive to writing.

I often see on here that someone that says they are Center just means they are right wing.

Eg. this post https://piefed.social/c/wikipedia@lemmy.world/p/2492350/centre-party

Center Party = Far right.

And I get that that is often true, but that got me thinking, when is someone actually "Center?"

or eggs or other insect parts

I know that residents of Oregon, New Hampshire, Delaware, Montana & Alaska have 0% sales tax for goods and services and can apply to have it rescinded when they're out of their states upon them visiting one that has ST (with valid ID to prove residence). But does that privilege carry over for international purchases, in this case, all goods are priced in ¥ from the seller as they're based in Japan.

For example, when buying a new video game console & physical game combined is ¥71,960 ($455) which heads to a warehouse first (owned by a forwarding agent in Japan, since the seller doesn't ship across borders) then shipping costs are calculated separately (like would it cost $40 to ship from Yokohama to Oregon). The thing is, can you still pay 0% ST since the item is not only out of state, but abroad?

The same counterpart in US (even 0% ST) is $590 MSRP via a official retailer (it's more expensive when paying ST) if you've bought the console and game (you've saved ~$135 when buying either from out of state). Shipping across borders always costs money but the item itself costs less than buying within state just because of region pricing. Although, would that alone guarantee that you're not paying any ST?

I decided to make a new personal website. The last time I did this kind of thing was before the pandemic, and I did it with WordPress before, so my first instinct was to try WordPress again. But WordPress seems to have changed a lot since then. Or maybe I just forgot how annoying it is? Anyway, I found an interesting-looking theme to start with, but building on it is really frustrating.

Style changes don't apply throughout the site when it seems like they should. I can't change the font in the footer even though there's a place where you can supposedly do that (you can select a new font but it changes nothing). I can't move design elements around smoothly in the block editor, and I can't seem to get out of the block editor either (although maybe that's just a theme issue?). I'd like to make the background different on different parts of the same page, but I can't figure out how to do that.

Am I going about this the wrong way? Do I need a different theme? A plugin? Should I use something other than WordPress? I'm annoyed with all of the AI stuff WordPress is pushing at me anyway. Do I just need to bite the bullet and teach myself CSS or whatever, given that I don't want to vibe-code this site? Advice please!

edit: also, if there's a better Lemmy community for this kind of question, please point me there!

TLDR - You can reply to any of the questions below that you have a citation or knowledge about please and thanks. But basically I hang dry my clothjng and have had a problem with them getting that mildewy smell . Please help

1. Im talking about a whole 2 cups of citirc acid per a load of clothing. What notablw effects on the clothing wll this amount have? Also I plan on leaving the citric acid solution on the clothing after rinsing away as much detergent as possible. Bad idea? Should I do a 24 or 8 hour citric acid soak? Nope ?yes?

2. Also it should be noted that most of the clothing is heavy cotton as in 325 GSM or more cotton. Only like 1 or 2 of those peices of clothing are made of wool or polyester or spandex.

3. Also citirc acid may lighten the clothing no? Or will the citric acid only lighten the clothing if it clothing is out in the Sun for too long, right?

4. Will the citric acid impart its own smell to the clothing? Will it destroy it?

5. Can I combine this solution with placing the citirc acid solution on the clothing and l then once its hang dried a bit I can then use a drying machine to dry it even more thoroughly to ensure that rhe mildew is like double dead? Also I cant dry my clothing when its wet as Im super skinny and that would make my clothing stretch far too much.

6. Could the problem be that Im using too much detergent?

7. Ive tried to look for other solutions to this and apparently drying the clothing after the mildew is already there will not have a drastic enough effect to get rid of it. Is this true please.?

8. Should I just dump boiling water onto the clothing after it has washed or will this make it stretch?

Ive found I have this problem when I hand wash the clothing or machie wash it but surprisingly hand washing and then hand wringing it makes the smell of mildew less prominent.

Also I live in an apartment that has a public laundromat and the cleaning of the machines' filters is a sporadic frequency as of now so....

And yes I do now know about mangles to wring dry clothing. I live in canada so if anyine knows any brands that arent absolute garbo please do link

Ive deided to not use the washing machines until. the maytag mechanics fix the problem of to dirty filter and the mildew. I live in an apartment with a public laundromat and the maytag mechanics for the machine come in sporadically

Thanks to all who answer.

A hacker was once a computer enthusiast, and the media made it into a name for criminals who break into other people's systems.

Decades ago, people started using baud when they meant BPS. Not many technical people back then, but it wasn't possible to correct the few who made the mistake. Even one top member of the CCC (Chaos Computer Club) said it's just “baud” now, no matter the real meaning.
(baud = symbols per second. A symbol can transport multiple bits, so a V.32 modem with 9600 bps worked at 2400 baud, 4 bits per symbol.)

GIF is an image format. Multiple frames stored in such a file can get played like a video. But today every video without sound gets called a GIF.

AI is an old term. But today most people say AI but only mean genAI.

It's even more absurd: There are gamers who demand computer games without AI. WTF?

AI was always part of computer games. Even the early computerized board games. I remember Half-Life fans loving the enemy AI. And I think one of the games in the Wolfenstein franchise had enemies that found cover when shot at. That's normal, old AI. Not genAI.

If AI is really lost, how do we discuss the thing that was once considered AI?

I've recently played Resident Evil 6 for the 1st time after playing Resident Evil 4 (an absolute masterpiece) & Resident 5 (a pretty good game). I was already aware of the hate this game got over the years. But after experiencing it, it's only bad in an artificial way. Like yeah, it's nothing like the classic games and it's too much in the action category.

Otherwise, as someone who loves action games, it's a pretty fun game. Especially in Mercenaries Mode, where it's fun to mow down body-horror themed enemies. As a Resident Evil game, it's pretty bad. But...as an action third person shooter with splatter punks, it's quite well executed

Inspired by this post: https://piefed.blahaj.zone/c/2meirl4meirl@piefed.blahaj.zone/p/1014996/2meirl4irl

I often come across posts where people are discussing the logic of a movie or comic book. An example could be Star Wars, where they discuss how a light saber works. Or which superheroes would win in a fight against each other. To me, it seems pointless to discuss such things as it is fiction. Just an insight into someone else's imagination.

Would it just be pitch black? Or have streaks and stars like you rubbed your eyes for too long?

Ghostly misty white? Like in a fog?

Would it be a flat colour or shade or something that moves?

Perhaps some sort of specific background like a Tv static? Or a room/building you like similar to what some vr spaces do but recreated with splotches of colours maybe?

Or something more exotic like a constantly changing rainbow?

Would like to hear what you’d choose and why that specifically

The assumption would also be that you can’t really change it later, the choice and all the variables would be locked in, barring some minor variation perhaps ( brighter/darker or more/less vibrant for example)

Is anyone here from a country NOT called USA where they pile up a bunch of people in the background of a politician who then gets applause for everything?

I have literally never seen this in Europe. In Germany, we'd probably consider this "weird" in case our politicians did that. Feels a bit like clicking the thumbs-up button of my own social media post...

I have 3 but would LOVE to hear more....

You can always have more but you can't have less

This one's from my dad and it really stuck with me. You can, and really should, apply this to any intoxicant.

On the pitch is off the streets

This is about getting restless kids, or kids who might be in a bad situation, into sports.

The axe forgets but the tree remembers

Translation on this one: People who cause hurt are less likely to remember than those it affected.

Few weeks ago, my friend and I decided to meet at Starbucks but I was a bit early so decided to order and wait for him. I'm not a coffee person but no big deal for me if we're meeting in a coffee shop cause you know, Starbucks (like other shops) have non-coffee drinks. But i felt awkward when I asked the cashier for a hot choco - some people in that shop looked at me. No over reactions, but i feel like they were surprised with what i ordered.

I have. And I think folks should be able to talk about it without being stigmatized or harassed for sharing their experiences.