The title says it all. Basically, a truly free alternative to r/SomebodyMakeThis that is not on Reddit (or should I say Reshit? 😎), to basically connect people who have time, and/or money, and/or skills (but no ideas of what to do with them) with people who have ideas and perhaps theoretical knowledge (but not time, and/or money, and/or skills).

I'm very good (I think) at programming theory, as well as broader computer science theory... But in practice I can barely make a (ugly and clunky) "Hello world" program in Python, and I have some pretty interesting and good (or at least I think so) ideas about software that would be really good if made (apps/programs, extensions, plugins and scripts for existing software, frameworks, libraries, algorithms, etc.).

Is there something like this on the Threadiverse? And if so, could you give me the abbreviated identifiers/handles of some of those communities? That is, your [!community@instance.tld](/c/community@instance.tld). I thank you in advance.

I'm aware the premise makes no sense.

Over the years I've been in and out of therapy. In my teens I had a serious enough depression to necessitate medication to somehow level me, a few years after that I went back because I felt I wanted to unpack a few things from my early years, after that I went back to pick up on the work I left behind, after that I went back to try to find a way to cope with the eminent loss of someone very dear to me and very recently I went back because I felt the need to give it another try to unpack a lot of wrongs in my head.

Unfortunately, every single time, as I try to go back and pick on the process - and I feel the need to stress that I've been received by multiple professionals over the years - I'm always directed, more or less openly, not towards what I want to resolve but towards something completely unrelated. And no, I am not a professional in mental health but I think I am minimally qualified to know what I think/understand is bothering me and want to explore and try to find a solution/rationalisation for so I can drop that issue or at least drop it in value in my mind so I can move forward.

Instead, my concerns have constantly been ignored or overlooked and all type of approaches been tried to deviate me, as such:

• hypnosis (went horribly wrong)
• cognitive and behavioural shift (as in "You are acting/feeling/thinking wrong.")
• completely ignoring my concerns
• openly antagonising me
• a very veiled attempt to create in me a notion of "faith in a higher power" (I'm laic)

The last approach is to try to teach me how to meditate.

I have always been received by licensed professionals, two of them through my NHS; no spiritual counsellors nor anything in the like.

I've been able to make more breakthroughs by reading philosophy books than by sitting in a chair and talking back and forth with a therapist. But I always get the feeling that I really need some degree of counselling I am not getting.

Am I being paranoid, unlucky or just expecting something that isn't at all aligned with reality?

Not like races or nationalities but niche groups or subcultures.

I have been using gmail/google for a long time now (decade or more). But the systems I have come to rely on have been getting enshitified. With their new AI advertisements popping up like crazy...Im just done.

Anyone have a good alternative to gmail? Im looking for something that will not break the bank.

For a bit there, I was running my own email server, but spam and issues with my internet provider (other email servers kept thinking my domain was spamming others) made it hard to keep up. I just dont have the patience anymore for that.

I was thinking of trying out proton or namecheaps offerings and seeing if I like them.

I am used to working with thunderbird but can use online portals if needed. If they have ac alendar that might be a bonus. Personally, I want minimal or no AI. And I want the company to be trusted and in business for at least 5 years.

Any good recommendations?

What does open source itself mean?

Does it mean anybody can access information about lemmy like upvotes?

Can any person access lemmy data to know what I upvote?

I recently saw "Rampage" from 2009. Its basically a movie where a spree shooter is portrayed as the good guy/anti-hero. Several parts gave me that pit in your stomach, teeth gritting uncomfortable moment. I really hated it. Although I'm not surprised there are sequals I am disappointed and will not be watching them.

cross-posted from: https://lemmy.ml/post/47692342

Not OC question, but rather copied this from the pragmatic programmer

As a user, would you rather (1) wait for them [the software dev/company] to get all the bugs out, (2) have complex software and accept some bugs, or (3) opt for simpler software with fewer defects?

The school has already given us a schedule for what we can do. We're going to museums, factory tours, that sort. So no suggestions for any activities to do or places to go to.

I would like some tips on some things I should know about Germany, perhaps some German phrases I should understand, cultural differences, or laws I need to know. Anything important that I should be aware of?

It will be about a weeklong trip

If someone didn't understand, I mean something like this, not quite so bad, well, sorry, I just found this picture:

It could be an album, movie, tv show, whatever.

When I switch the box fan in my kitchen on/off, the stove igniter fires once ("clicks"). The box fan is plugged into a different kitchen outlet than the stove is, though they're probably on the same circuit.

Should I be worried? What the heck would even cause this?

edit: ah beans. guess I'll text the super

The hot days have come, I am wearing a teeshirt with "Let me sleep" on the back, shorts "I am retired, you are not" and flip flops. I am going to my work (a bank)

In a comment I've made a little bit ago, I mentioned that I was tasking myself to discover music that was played on an old radio program that I listened to from the 2000s. And it is looking to be a lot more prolonged and tedious than I had thought. I've been able to find a program that has done an amazing job at removing the host's voices to where, I can't tell where they start or stop talking, I get hints that there were points of voices being there, but it's non-existent.

I've tried before in the past to use Audacity, but being that all recordings were done in Mono and not Stereo, no matter what I tried, the voices would still remain. So now that hurdle is done with, the next task is to go through all 139 episodes and all episodes average 1 hour to 2 hours. That's a long time if you're doing radio or podcasting, it's a lot of talking to do. Then it's a matter of listening back and forth at one points certain songs begin and end, marking times to point them out with.

I might pick out some standout favorites, episodes that contained the most songs that I would have wanted the most from them. Then once all of that is figured, the next course of action is to clean up the sample audio, because most of these episodes were recorded in Mono so there's going to be a lot of distortion and muddiness.

Then once all of that is done, the next challenging task is, actually finding someone who'll be able to identify what is played. I don't know electronic/techno music too well, I'm not entirely familiar with artists outside Daft Punk, Celldweller, 3Teeth and Pendulum to name a few. The only thing that sortof helps narrow things down is that they were all played on DI.FM at the time, so it may or may not help.

From there, it's just hoping I find them out there online.

It's a big project, but I've listened to these episodes for 18 years now and what kept me coming back to them besides nostalgic purposes, was the music played in them that never got identified.

Why do you prefer the Fediverse over other Social Media?

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Let's say you're a "benevolent dictator" with complete power over legislative and judicial processes. What laws would exist involving speech(public square and private)? What would punishments look like (if any)?

I must have noise to go along with going to sleep. Usually thats an audio book or long-form video essay type YouTube videos. I wear one earbud to bed if I'm sleeping at night with my girlfriend or just blare it from the TV if I'm sleeping alone during the day (rotating shift). I feel like when I don't have engaging audio and I'm trying to sleep I can't quiet my mind enough to sleep. A fan or random ambient noise isn't enough for me.

We bought our house three years ago and everything seemed fine with the septic system. The inspection report said it was "functional but aging" which we thought was no big deal. Fast forward to last spring and we started noticing a few things that we completely ignored at first.

The grass over the drain field was greener and growing faster than the rest of the yard. We actually thought that was a good thing. Then we started getting a faint smell near the back of the house after heavy rain, nothing terrible just a slight sewage odor that would go away after a day or two. We figured it was normal for an older system. Then one morning after a week of rain the whole back section of the yard was soggy and spongy to walk on, and there was grey water pooling near where the drain field ends.

Turns out the drain field had been slowly failing for probably over a year and all those "minor" signs were the system screaming for help. The septic tank itself was fine but the soil around the drain field had become completely saturated and could no longer absorb anything. We had to get the whole drain field replaced which was not cheap. Looking back the signs were all there and if we had caught it earlier we could have probably saved a lot of money by just doing maintenance and partial repairs instead of a full replacement. The guy who did the work told us that most homeowners ignore the early warnings because they don't know what to look for.

So for anyone with a septic system what warning signs did you miss or catch early? And for those who had to replace or repair theirs what was the process like and how much did it end up costing? Would love to hear other people's experiences so nobody else makes the same mistakes we did.

People crying about Nintendo Online pricing. First off, it's for an entire year, not by monthly, so I don't know how that's a negative. That's just an example.

Figured someone on here might know or know how to fins out.

Anyone out there with real medical knowledge, or industrial hygiene knowledge, of how much heat a human and their society can take before people just die and society crumbles?

Because looking at the situation from the USA, things are looking grim in India. Severe weather about to get worse and the closure of the straits of hormuz means less power for Air conditioning, no pumped water and no way to handle sewage. All this in a country with lethal air quality levels.

Better yet, is anyone on this site actually there, and have some ground truth they are willing to share.

How much heat can we take before things fall apart and we just die.

I'm not looking for a political discussion, or doomer porn, this is more of a concern for humanity question.

https://yaleclimateconnections.org/2026/05/whats-a-super-el-nino-and-other-el-nino-questions-answered/

https://www.lemonde.fr/en/environment/article/2026/05/20/heat-strokes-are-part-of-the-job-in-delhi-construction-workers-endure-43-c-heat_6753631_114.html

Been doing some digging. Answer seems to be "it depends".
https://www.nbcnews.com/science/environment/how-hot-too-hot-humans-record-temperatures-rcna160261

I know with the current administration and oligarchs, things seem pretty bleak. I want to scream sometimes. But we don't have a lot of control over that. Focus on making your own bubble pleasant. There's so many people doing the same, that if you could see a visual of all the good bubbles, you'd be astounded.

On a personal level, I've been where you are. For YEARS. Most of my life actually. When I was 40, my marriage and community life were stale and empty. I felt hollow, unfulfilled, and hopeless. I knew I wasn't going to make it another five years. So I adopted a dog, even though my spouse said no. That baby got me out in the world and talking to neighbors, she was like a superstar, drawing everyone's attention. It ignited a spark that I thought was completely out.

I came to the realization that divorce was an option, so that's what I did. I moved across the country near family and life has been incredible. At first it was terrifying. Going through a divorce is brutal and things didn't get better immediately. But it was like I crawled out of a cave and saw an expansive world I wanted to explore.

A few years later, I met my current spouse. Every day im so happy and fulfilled. If I could go back to the person I was when I was in that dark place, I would show them how much stronger and resilient I've become and thank them for somehow finding the bravery to make that terrifying jump.

This was my journey. Yours will look vastly different. But I'm so grateful that I didn't end things when I wanted to.

So I guess the answer is, we don't know when things will get better. Life really can surprise you. And there are so many people along the way who want to help you. If you're thinking of ending your life, then shake up your life and go on an adventure before you do. Don't die in the cave, but somewhere amazing, hopefully sometime in the distant future.