Do you prefer your water bottle to be made of metal, plastic, glass, or something else? Straw or no straw? How big would you want it? Should the bottle taper down in the bottom, or do you think the sided should stay vertical? Are any of you one of the few people who would like that weird rectangular bottle? Or maybe one of those squishy fold up ones for travel? No handle, flip up handle, mug style handle, or little loop?

Note that I am not affiliated with any water bottle company

Ok but in all seriousness I do kind of want to know how it was to grow up with a Philips CDI in your house

Ones that come to mind for me are Vegas, Toronto, Paris

You're allowed anything on the planet

No there is no clever way to use this meal to escape your fate

i’m exhausted man.

tired of getting told i’m the problem with no explanation

i’ve been having trouble with my bestfriend .

We’re both guys, and he’s a bit homophobic (like won’t even sit in the same bed as a guy because it’s “gay” homophobic) which is why i’m having a hard time processing this. (Only when he got a girlfriend was he semi-okay with sitting on a bed with me. His direct quote “it’s still pretty gay but i have a girlfriend now so i’ll allow it)

I do want to say that I am a big advocate for male friends to show eachother physical affection, and i’m no stranger to that at all.

We’ve had an extremely deep emotional bond. He was my very bestfriend in the world and I his. One night I had a mental breakdown of sorts, and his way of calming me down was repeatedly rubbing my back, pulling me down to cuddle (with him in his back and me on top of him with my head on his chest. which i rejected after a few seconds of shock) lots of hugging and pressing his fingers into the of my arms back of my arms repeatedly.

A few days before this I was having a hard time in school (which was the reason for the mental breakdown) and left our hangout early. he asked what was wrong and then proceeded to ask if i was into him to which i said no, and he responded that he was just joking to lighten the mood. Later on his reasoning was that he didn’t mean it, but he knew i had a hard time saying things important (which is true) so he was just guessing

Now usually I wouldn’t think twice about this. but it was around the same time that i found out that he sexts men online regularly and watches gay porn regularly. He admitted shame, depression and disappointment overt this. If a girl did this to me i’d most definitely take it as a sign, but I also was having a bit of a breakdown, so i’m not sure how to look at this? i’m genuinely lost and confused and more hurt than i like to admit.

(after the night he distanced from me and blamed it on my breakdown) :/ right after my breakdown he went to pursue a girl romantically who had a crush on him for a long time, but he had always refused to date her one of the reasons being her body proportions are off (among 20 other reasons he said some pretty gross things about her.)

i talked to him yesterday. Where he looked me in the eyes told me he isn’t gay and isn’t into me and that he loves his girlfriend. and no had no solid answer as to why he broke our friendship off. Just “i’m a horrible friend to you i’m so sorry”.

We got to talking a little less serious in between the serious conversations and i mentioned that im leaving for a week driving 11 hours to go see all my family. (sometimes i get bad anxiety driving home which is a 3 hour drive he’s offered multiple times to drive me home too. declined all of those)He asked me to my face if i wanted him to drive me there. He was being dead serious.

I don’t know what he wants from me and i’m exhausted. he won’t explain why im so impossible to be works and im exhausted.

At the end got Told it’s too much to hangout with me and made a bunch of other accusations and reasons

It's not my thing and I truly don't get it. That said, I'm curious about the initial draw, how you started and why. What does participating look like to you? Do you consider it an interest, hobby, kink or some combination/something else? I support you doing whatever you like so long as everything is legal/consensual. If you're going to comment and you're not a furry please be respectful.

Is it impossible to have a private community without running your own Lemmy server? Is it impossible to have n private communities without running n Lemmy servers? And to be part of multiple private communities you'd have to have an account on each server?

Is this true?

I used to love these threads on reddit. I'll go first.

This one is kinda mundane and is most likely a hypnogogic/pompic hallucination but it used to happen A LOT when I was younger and I kinda realised earlier that it's been a long time since I last noticed it.

So from about the onset of puberty till my early mid twenties, at least a few times a month I'd be falling asleep, drifting in and out of sleep, or even woken up by- my bed shaking.

Usually it was a steady-ish rumble, almost like being on a train, but like 1/10 times I'd wake up to my bed rocking like someone was shaking it.

It scared me a few times when it was particularly violent, but as I freeze up when scared I'd just be lying there terrified, wondering why the fuck this was happening and hoping the bed didn't start squeaking. Usually when this shaking happened though it was just a thing I noticed, filed away as a curiosity, and tried to go back to sleep.

This happened in probably every place I lived (which was a lot of places as I was moving like 2 or 3 times a year most years from about 11 till 16, then less so as I got older) and mostly around the south east of England. And I very rarely lived on a main road with heavy vehicles on it or by railways either, so it wasn't environmental. We do get the occasional very minor earthquake here every ten years or so, and it's a similar feeling!

this was my last year doing igcses (year 12) so that means if I’m not mistaken that I missed out on so many opportunities and activities that I could have done before in school because yes I’ll go to university of course (its not that bad) but its ESLSCA (the egypt branch too) which I think is not as prestigious as going abroad for a bachelors or going to the AUC in egypt

basically is it over for me given I’m going to a less prestigious university I think like well yes its an european (French) uni and all that but still I wanted to go to the AUC because of the stuff they offer like I think the competitions and stuff plus the prestige

my grades too I think are average its like 1 As 2 Bs and ig 2 or 3 Cs that kind of thing basically grades like mixed up which is what also worries me if you for example won’t be seen as that strong acedemically

Could be a one liner or a long drawn out thing I don't care. I like all kinds of comedy.

I'm currently using discord for practicing English speaking with strangers. Is there any alternative?

I am trying to Quit my "Listening addiction"(e.g podcasts, YouTube vids, Creepypasta). It started when my family moved away and I was alone in a really big house for a couple of months, so I would have Earphones on with something turned on, at all times. Now its become such I a problem that I can't get anything done without something blaring in my ear at all time(never mind what this well do to my hearing in the long run)

Most task, like cleaning or grocery shopping dont need my focus, but then there is studying and work.

I know that, really, I would eventually have to give up my earphones at some point, but I wanted to start by replacing what listened to, with white Noise or brown noise

For example

Most of the searches for background noise on YouTube, bring up rain sounds and I just dont like the sound. Actual rain droplets make my skin crawl. Anyone got other recommendations?

P.S: I did delete my YouTube and podcast apps, so I can only listen to them on the Computer. I can listen to white noise from the mobile browser.

Any ideas how to do that, preferably in a GUI program? I'm not good at CLI or scripts.

CONTEXT

I uploaded a video in Matroska mkv format (~1gb) to Internet Archive. IA added its own converted mp4 of much lower video quality (~500mb) & that's the only video it will stream. The mkv only available by downloading.

As I'd prefer streaming availability, I used Handbrake (on Linux) to convert the mkv to mp4 myself, hoping to make a better quality mp4 that IA would stream.

Seems successful, plays fine locally, much better quality than IA's mp4, & smaller file size (~800mb) than original mkv.

But I can't upload it to IA as I get an error

There is a network problem

400 Bad Data

BadContent

Uploaded content is unacceptable.

Resource>video file has improper extension, try one of these: .mpv .mkv

I'm not sure I want to die of a heart attack if I live to old age. I thought maybe I'd use a gun to relieve my suffering so that everything would end quickly, but I'm too scared. Are there any recommendations on how to die without suffering or something like that? Maybe I should leave this world during a happy dream?

Or should I humble myself and go through suffering before I die?

I'm clarifying: it's not that I want to commit suicide when I'm young or right now, no, I mean when, let's say, I have one day, a week or a month left to live suffering from an illness, or I know that after a while I'm going to have a heart attack that will definitely kill me.

In my mind I almost think we need to go on a general strike and become homeless together. Homeless in a sense that we migrate to a location where we can get sensible people together in a location.

Then we can rebel against the for profit system by protecting each other with weapons, food, community.

Go back to a system that protects nature, people, and land.

But I’m curious what everyone else thinks. I know congregating in one location would make us vulnerable to domestic terrorism from our government. But in all honesty who wants to live in an oppressive regime anyway?

To be clear, the time probably needs to be expressed via UTC / GMT or other time zone labels.

I regularly post across ~half a dozen communities, the most frequent being to my own, where I post at 9AM (UTC-4 / EST zone) so as to hit early risers in the States and afternoon surfers in Europe. But with other posts, I get the sense that it would be better to post later in the day to hit more viewers. I'm just not sure when that would be.

TBC, I usually use the PieFed scheduler to post, so it's no problem for me posting at any time of the day.

Thanks for any insight!

I do not believe in the supernatural, magic, ghosts or anything like that. However, I can be very superstitious about tempting fate and won't make jokes or flippant remarks that could be interpretted as such.

For example, my partner made a dark joke about how she'd rather have cancer than such and such. I begged her not to say such things, not because the thought of her having cancer upset me (although it did), but because it feels as if saying stuff like that could make it happen.

Growing up in Canada, I had to contend with learning two different spellings and pronunciations for words like "schedule", "colour", "omelette", "zed" vs "zee", "-ise" vs "-ize", and so on and so forth, so I had to come up with some little tricks to remember how to spell things. Sometimes I'd put on a mental Quebecois or English accent.

Other ones like diarrhea was "Die-err-HEE-uh", and now that I'm in Australia, it's most definitely "Die-err-HOE-uh". 😂

I also recite the ABCs more often than I should. I know a lot of you do, too.

What are some ways that you thought of to help you remember how to spell things? Any language counts.