Not necessarily a neuralink specifically, just any genre or type of cybernetic implants, if they were or will become available. I'm super hesitant on anything interfacing with my brain so I'd probably stay organic, except like if I lost my eyesight or hearing.

We met on a dating app, have had two great dates so far, and I've been unplugging while traveling on and off. While I am really glad he is making plans for a 3rd date (I first alluded to it when I texted him after my trip), I'm totally confused and wondering if I should ask why he potentially unmatched me on the app and the mixed signals. Are there red flags? Yellow flags? Or is he just trying to play hard to get a little and it's fair because I've been unplugging intentionally during my time off? For full context, please see my previous post. Any insight and advice is appreciated because I am even more flummoxed now than before. Thanks!

i dont know what to put in there

I know lemmy world does here old.lemmy.world but it is down right now and has been spotty for a while. This is 100% my preferred way to use lemmy while I am on my desktop.

Any one know if any other instances set up this UI?

https://github.com/rystaf/mlmym

I was amusing myself mildly while making tea, doing random freestyle songs, as you do. Came up with a couple lines that really grabbed me, started writing more. I'm kind of hitting a wall though. Anything you'd add to this? Hope this kind of question is acceptable.

Here's what I've got so far:

The beauty of this world is a curse to smite your heart

A fractal hypersigil undetectable in part

Though you may understand it as a timelike hologram

The wisdom of the ancients predates the voice of Man

The truth is never ugly, no news is never bad

And when you're dead and gone it'll be the best you've ever had

Sunburned by the darkness at the gods' own twilight

You'll thrash in frozen ecstasy when the stars are right

Try to imagine this as a Lovecraftian lounge song, slow and comfortable in tone. It's basically like if Richard Cheese covered a chant from the Necronomicon. Would love to workshop this with any randos who want to join in, if it grabs you too. Also open to punch-ups on the lines I've already written. If we can get it to a good place, I might upload a demo.

Context: I was a Boy Scout for a number of years, making Eagle in 2020 right as COVID was really kicking off.

It was right afterwards, however, that the CSA scandal started popping up everywhere (which thankfully I was never exposed to or involved in during my time), and lately it seems like the organization & movement as a whole has fallen by the sociocultural wayside.

I would say that my time as a Scout did me objective good; I learned a decent amount about first-aid & survival-craft, participated in a number of volunteer & civic projects, and it generally made me a more well-rounded person. However, there’s no denying the impact that something “bigger than the Catholic Church scandal”, as I’ve heard it described, has on an institution such as this.

I’d like to get the community’s opinion, however; were any of you Scouts? How was your experience? What is your opinion of the institution today?

Basically just something people say that indicates a position indirectly, like how seperatists from a given region might always say they're from [region] and not [country] or how trump supporters call AI "SI" now.

I obviously have none, so I'd like to see if I can mooch off of you lol.

Please don't leave any pessimistic top level comments. Or do, I'm not your mom 🤷‍♂️.

We met on the dating app, and our 1st two dates were amazing. He even said he's impressed by how naturally we clicked and conversation flows. I felt this magnetic pull and wondered if it might be what I hear about when it comes to the real thing. It felt different, and I was so excited for our potential future together. I'm very attracted and couldn't stop thinking about him. I felt seen and heard.

For context, I've had a rigorous career-focused few years, and vacations were overdue. I really needed to take more time to myself for my overall well-being and health before my next role starts, so I recently booked two trips: a long one with family and then a short solo one with two weeks at home in between. During those weeks, I met up with this guy in person after we messaged back and forth for about a week leading up to my long trip a couple months ago.

Our chemistry and banter is great, and I thought we had a strong connection, but I feel like I'm being faulted for things I didn't technically do wrong and it seems to be a pattern. He followed up prematurely during my long trip after I made sure to give a heads-up that I would be unplugging (I replied as soon as I could and didn't apologize for the delay or think of him as crossing my boundary at the time, just glad he followed up and showed interest). Then he arrived 15 minutes early to our 2nd date and I was apologetic saying I may arrive 5 minutes after the reservation time due to traffic after an important professional meeting but I'll be there ASAP; I ultimately arrived right on time but he later half-jokingly said that I arrived late, to which I half-jokingly said I was on time per the original plan. He also complained about parts of the venue (I initiated/planned this date). He did hold my hand and kiss me but it was all tongue which threw me off (I thought maybe that's just him wanting to be warm so I didn't flag it right away). I was relieved he didn't try to be physical on our first date as I'm tired of guys trying to get me to be casual with them. We briefly mentioned our intentions, and he said he wouldn't continue with someone if he didn't see the long-term potential.

Our date wrapped up with me saying I was going to unplug during my upcoming solo trip but I would text him as soon as I was back and he said "we can plan something". That same night, he did initiate the goodnight text and liked my first text but ignored the second one saying enjoy the event he asked me to attend with him but I said early on I may be traveling during that time which turned out to be true. I tried not to read into it because it's still early in our interactions and maybe he went with another girl or felt a bit bruised that I couldn't drop everything - even though it's just that I meant what I said.

As promised, I warmly texted him as soon as I could after my trip before realizing he had unmatched me. I was shocked to see that. My phone got water damage while traveling but I highly doubt that erased only him from my app. I'm also unsure if I possibly missed a text from him in the few days between losing my phone and getting a new one, but most likely not. Either way, his tone is colder now and he said we "could possibly" plan something once he's done packing for his upcoming move, but it doesn't sound reassuring and he literally said "will do" aka it fizzles out and he's hoping we don't need to have the clarification talk.

Please help me out, friends! I would really appreciate any help or advice. What exactly made him change his mind? What should I do or say to him? Did I do anything wrong? I don't want to be made to feel guilty/ashamed of the time I needed to take off, and I thought it was the right thing to start the conversations earlier versus wait. Should I ask for a call if he doesn't follow up for a 3rd date? Should I keep trying with him even if I have to "chase" a bit since my schedule has been a bit unpredictable and abnormal?

So many online services, so much legal information, usually written in confusing ways.

For example, in data processing addendum, Porkbun uses the term "Controller", which is defined as:

(d) “Controller” as used in this DPA, means Customer.

Why not just call it Customer?

Worse yet, just like many services, Purelymail has this in their ToS:

The Company reserves the right to change this agreement at any time. You are responsible for regularly reviewing these Terms. Continued use of the Service after such changes shall constitute your consent to them.

In this case, there isn't even a date of last update. Am I supposed to have some scripts scraping all legal documents of most services every hour and comparing checksums to figure out if something has changed?

But how should I even keep track of legal agreements of many many companies including any affiliated third parties I implicitly agree to use?

Because it sounds like I should also be concerned about those:

Sub-processors authorised under Section 7 of the DPA process the personal data described above for the purposes listed above and only for the duration necessary to perform the sub-processed activity.

If I was to read, understand, and keep track of everything, I feel that would in fact just become my full-time job. Especially since they often also reference laws, something I would also need to know and understand.

Subject to applicable law [...]

Which is what?

When I go to this website and I choose the upcoming general election and I put in today's date, it gives me the number of early voters in each county. There's a button to make a statewide report and when you hit that it gives you a list of voters, their county, and their voter ID numbers. What's that about?

do you want lemmy to have a different userbase and culture than reddit

or NO

mine is yes, since i dont want the fediverse users to bring their former platform's bad habits with them

Mostly the title. I try to keep my apps inside relevant folders, but this is getting tedious.

I'm wondering if it may be better to keep apps of one kind (e.g., maps/navigation) on their own screen and other apps (e.g., social media) on a separate screen.

Is it easier to swipe by screen or to keep similar apps in folders? What do you think?

Can be from fandoms, local acquaintances, niche community forums, social media bubbles, whatever. What's a big to-do going on that you just don't care about?

It's been showing up in eerie conversations I can't legally share

In the last week I have seen solar punk go down and aussie.zone owner talk about stepping away.

I've not seen two places down at once that has made it to my feed in the last 3 years.

Is the self hosting aspect of lemmy a detriment to the entire environment? Admins getting burnt out or the costs becoming too high is absolutely an issue.

I know this is kind of rambling but what would happen to Lemmy if the major hosters all went down, and we all spun up our own personal services?

I don't know where to post this, so I'm posting it here.

I need to gain some weight because I'm borderline anorexic. But I can't afford much more than bread, potatoes, eggs and cheese, That is my diet. And I hate eating it. It's the only thing I can stomach that is cheap, but I hate it. I don't want to eat eggs and potatoes for the rest of my life. I would rather die of malnutrition, like I am currently doing.

I have no appetite, but that is a symptom of something else. Ideally, there is a way to gain weight while eating less mass. Something calorie dense.

I might be slightly exaggerating. But for the last couple of years I've been eating potatoes and eggs for almost every single meal of the day. And yes, I eat one warm meal a day. Sometimes I suppliment with some bread to stop the hunger pains. Sometimes I also eat a piece of vegetable.

The main topic lies more on data retention after a person is deceased from stuff such as bank cards, driver's licenses, pay in 4 installments, PayPal account, social media presence, rental lease, etc. so does the privacy aspect of it become all public information for everyone to see since they consider their right to privacy rescinded as they are dead or will the person's relatives & close friends take ownership (via their estate)?

For instance, what happens if that individual still has remaining debt from After Pay with a catch: they're no longer alive to settle the remaining amount? They also have left over debt from their CC but the holder is dead. He or she may be an influencer with a large following, their recent post marks as a unofficial obituary as they're no longer posting any updates after (they're dead) but fans may say their condolences on the comments.

In terms of social media, should a dead person's account remain active (under the condition that a close friend or family member must take full ownership his or her account as their "digital" will) or be permanently closed (so the platform deletes it from their database, to avert hackers from impersonating them). What about his or her bank cards, passport or driver's license after their passing? Do they have any validity or is it rendered null?

cross-posted from: https://programming.dev/post/58416724

I’m a German nurse unhappy with nursing and I’m in my 40s.

I wrote I need because my current job as a nurse is physically extremely demanding and I know I don’t want to do this till I retire. My life cannot be to hope to advance in this field by moving up to a position within the hospital where I don’t actually have to work bedside. In Germany nurses don’t need a bachelor to practice, they only need an apprenticeship (Ausbildung).

Something I always liked as a child is music, either the classical guitar or the piano, so I talked to 2 professors, one for piano, the other one for classical and electric guitar. There is no question that east Asians dominate the piano market, they are insanely good and securing a spot in a piano bachelor would be very difficult, but a bachelor of classical and electric guitar is not as looked after like the piano, which could be my way to do something I enjoy, earn more than now with regular, predictable working hours, small groups of students when I finish the bachelor and stop doing something that’s physically destroying me.

About job options after I finish the bachelor, the professor I talked to, a classical guitarist with several prizes I’m not naming said that nowadays all kinds of music teachers are retiring and he constantly gets calls asking for new guitar teachers, that all his students who finish the bachelor have contracts even before finishing the bachelor and the figures he offered regarding salaries are higher than what I earn now, because I’d have a bachelor.

Now I don’t know if this professor is overselling his program, but this is a renowned music school in a city next to mine, which means its close, I wouldn’t have to move and the bachelor would cost me nothing but 100 Euros per semester, provided I prepare for a year for the admission exam, checking my progress every 3 months with this professor, something this musical school offers free of charge and actually passing the exam.

I don’t believe this professor was lying: salary figures I checked match what he said and he proposed I prepare for the exam, check with him my progress and if I get admitted, study for a year to see if I like it, because I can always use my apprenticeship as a nurse to work nursing, radiology instead of bedside nursing or work for a healthcare insurance company. If I do this I’d work part time during the bachelor.

I’ve been playing the classical guitar for the last 8 years if that helps and I learned musical theory and piano as a child.

The other option would be to study a bachelor of science and become a physician assistant, but to do this on a respectable public university and not with a private, online diploma mill that only wants my money I’d have to relocate, which is something very risky (new city, new hospital, no social contacts), or pay for a second flat for 4 years, which would be expensive. The medical side of nursing has always interested me and I enjoy explaining organs to patients, and I’m not ready to simply ignore the last 7 years of my life, the time I’ve been working as a nurse, but bedside, as said, is killing me, but relocating 3 hours away for 4 years...

I’m split. Both paths offer a way out of my current situation. I wouldn’t mind working as a guitar teacher for the rest of my life, nor would I mind working as a physician assistant.

ETA: thanks to all of you for your input, including those post I didn't comment on.

I have a MIDI controller keyboard that I have cleaned in the past with disinfectant alcohol wipes, which I know is a bad idea because it degrades the rubber over time.

Well, the rubber on the pitch bend and modulation wheels has indeed degraded, and the surfaces texture is awful, uneven and sticky now. My fault... I know.

So does anyone know of any way to fix, or even improve, this kind of nasty rubber surface degradation once it occurs? Sanding? Applying oils? Is there any way I can even slightly restore these controls back to their original soft-touch rubbery glory?

Obviously, there is a lot of big efforts out there, from feeding the hungry, to political activism, to creating and sharing free/fair resources for others.

At the same time, there's plenty of important smaller efforts people make on a day to day basis. These efforts go underappreciated, but make a huge difference too, so I want to celebrate them.

For example, I recently went to a medical clinic, and they were unable to help me. As I was preparing to leave, the manager come out to apologise and helped direct me to a bunch of other resources that may be useful. I never paid for any services, and will likely never return to that clinic. It was purely a small kindness, but it really helped me feel less stressed, less alone and less hopeless in my suffering.

As in, they give you a contract to sign or lay out a set of terms of conditions hidden behind a language barrier as you don't understand the written fineprint since they just say "sign here" in broken English. It's a loophole that employers or sponsors of domestic workers (who are hired from "third world" countries) use as leverage, the indentured servant is stuck in limbo as they later found out "I didn't consent to this nonsense!"

The right approach would be asking for a localization (as in a translated copy of that document) if they have one, or hire a professional third party who is fluent in both the contract's language and the signee's language rather than relying on AI translation (since legally binding documents have nuance that LLM's can't grasp, since terminology can connotate different definitions or outcomes based on context).