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I matched with a guy on a dating app, and we seemed to get along well from the chemistry and conversation down to humor. The first date was great and unlike others I've had, although I noticed he was very straightforward physically, kissing me several times. I've had to deal with guys with wrong intentions in the past so I was cautious and told him on our next date that I prefer to move more slowly after he was trying to cuddle a lot, smelling my hair, and kissing my neck - even though he stated that he is looking for a long-term relationship after getting to know people and seeing who is most compatible. He was strangely quiet and didn't say much once I communicated that. Then he pulled back and seemed less interested when I asked if he was free to meet again, ghosted me for a few days, and then finally sent a transactional text saying he didn't see long-term romantic potential and didn't want to string me along. I felt so sad and confused at the sudden shift, and asked if we can have a call just to talk for a bit but he completely ghosted me again and removed his entire dating focus description (it was "Long-term relationship" at the time of our dates, previously "Long-term, open to short-term", and was not publicly shared at all before that)

Should I follow up? There are some topics I thought may be good to clarify and address through a text message in case those were what turned him away or are areas he thought I could've done better. For example, he was patient with my response speed in our early conversations while I was especially busy and intermittent on the app. Also without being too specific, there was something he may have felt I should've done during our first date, but I saw it differently (relating to traditional chivalry), and maybe he feels like I should apologize for that. I really have no idea and feel like I didn't get closure, but I also feel betrayed that he didn't even think that I deserve one call. Is this a lost cause? What exactly happened, and was he ever intentional (he also had a few situationships recently)?

Any advice, help, or even just empathy would be appreciated!

I'm often in the position that I want to refer to an old post. I try to scroll through the feed but often give up before finding what I was looking for because I'm fed up as I don't remember the community. It might even have been on another platform like mastodon.

On mastodon and pixelfed you can view your favorites and likes, respectively, but I can't seem to find the equivalent button in lemmy. A hacky workaround would also work for me.

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I say the day Mozilla bends the knee to advertisers and do what Chrome did by phasing out ad-blockers with Firefox. That'll be the day when I look around my apartment and realize "man, I need to start getting into some hobbies now."

Bored waiting in queue. AMA

That when you block someone, their comment vanishes from your sight. It is like they don't even exist. That's how blocking should be done. It isn't like where on Reddit, you still have the option to click an icon next to their name and see what they've said that got you to block them. Why the hell is that a thing? Why should we care? If we want them blocked, we don't want to see them ever again, including the ability to re-read what they've said.

Just to start with I am not looking for anything sappy or "life is beautiful you need to wait" type things.

So it is just 6:36 am, and I am lying in bed. Its hot and humid, there is no electricity, only mosquitoes. It is just another one of those things that is making me wonder why do I live? I mean what is the point. I genuinely have no idea. I know if you "wait" things will get better. But why should I wait.

I want a guitar, I am trying to save up for it. But idk how long will it take. (If anyone wants a recommendation btw of some great song, try "odorouze" by yorushika, these days I am just listening to that on loop).

Anyway if I tell this to my parents I guess they will just say I am ungrateful; that I should be glad I have a roof over my head. I guess they are right. So many have it worse. I am ungrateful. But that doesn't make life feel any worthwhile to me. It is just the same chore always. Go to school, college whatever. Do your responsibilities, please people, sleep, wake up repeat. Get sick sometimes for a change, and of course countless daily annoyances. From the bathroom lock getting stuck to your phone running out of charge midway, or your earphones when you need them the most.

It is not like I do not try to "live life" as others say. But everything requires money. What if you do not have unlimited of it? Then you have nothing. I guess coz I am a young student and I do not have any "family" for which people go through worse shit than me. I have parents and an elder brother. My brother already earns very well. I am not sure what any of this has to do with me.

I have also tried making friends. But what do I do with friends? Most of them hang out on instagram and shit like that anyway. Stuff I do not want to use. Even if I do make friends what do u do with friends? You just joke around with them or get a cup of tea.

People also sometimes to say to believe in god. I am not against that but I do not get god. How can I get anything anyway that is outside my own comprehension. Outside the laws of the universe, my brain cant visualize it. And I do not think the man in a sky god can be real.

"Life is like a machine gun, thats all I want to say. Sing it with refrain, hey, all at once from the throat"

When I try to think of my reason for living. It is just because I am alive. What else should I do? Do nothing? I have done that too when I was depressed for a year. It is not really much of a choice. Does anyone else relate?

I wish I was good at music and could make a song out of my feelings that is not delusional pop. But my parents think music is a distraction and bad, and I remember asking my teachers multiple times when I was in school. Once when I was 10years old. Once when I was 16. But they pushed me away because the rich charismatic kids get all. I was shy and I couldn't even introduce myself. Maybe I am a pushover. Yeah I was. I am better now however. I just do not ask anyone for favors anymore. And after that sentence my earphones ran out of charge. I do not have the motivation to write in silence.

I swear I think I teeter-totter between belief and disbelief year after year. I remember when things first starting coming out people said they heard explosions, and no one knew how debris could make building 7 also collapse so efficiently. Then the myriad of conspiracy information from the "dancing israelis" scandal (Mossad agents posing as art students) and previous attempts to take the towers down, the ease of which nearly completely in tact passports were conveniently found, presence of thermite on the ground, supposedly testimony that the twin towers were built to withstand the very thing that took them down, the suspicious insurance purchases by the Twin Towers owner and some other company at the port. I don't trust my government to tell the truth, at all, so I am certainly not ruling out a major conspiracy. However, a conspiracy so large would surely have more cracks or more leaks from people involved? Not sure. I still like to peruse this site from time to time, seeing the new posts from Architectural Engineers for 9/11 truth. https://www.ae911truth.org/ Would love to see takes from people on this site, whether you think the conspiracy is dumb or has some merit.

Personally I've only ever written two. One that created multiple textfiles in various folders under windows that all grew exponentially. This was in the age of HDD so it could actually caused some serious problems. I created it because a guy in my class stole my homework by copying my files. So i created this virus, named it something fitting and "forgot" to close my laptop when i went to the bathroom.

And another that once every 40 minutes + (5 to 50) minutes would open your cd tray and then close it after 2 seconds. No one used CD's at this point and i just wanted to prank some colleges.

Edit: Well this thread went well.

I've got an elderly cat that became my responsibility through... circumstances.

He's a lot of work. He has zero personality or charisma. Worst of all, he harasses me for wet food his whole waking existence. Food motivated is not the word, it's the only thing he knows, or cares about.

I'm not going to be sad when he dies.

I'm currently going through the junior year of my high school, that was 20 years ago exactly. It has been 22 years since my favorite baseball team, the Boston Red Sox, had finally broken their Curse of the Bambino in 2004. The Harry Potter main book series ended 19 years ago while the film series ended 15 years ago.

Anyone have an ideas on what app(s) could be the culprit? It seems to be regular enough to have it be 469 hits a day! Which is nuts. I would ask her, but as many children of a parent know’s, that’s like pulling teeth lol… But I figured some more tech savvy folks here might actually already have the answer as Reddit and search engines aren’t as reliable these days. 😣 Thanks in advance for any help as I’m stumped to figure it out as she complains about the battery drain incessantly.

Dating apps are designed to keep you on them and are malicious by nature. What are the best ways to meet people these days?

20 , been doing intraday trading for a few months now. Something I've noticed about myself — when I take a loss, I skip meals, stop talking to people, basically shut down for the rest of the day. Tried a few things to snap out of it but nothing sticks long term.

Sometimes I think I should just enjoy life more, but honestly I don't even know what that looks like for me anymore. Also catch myself comparing my progress to others way too much, which doesn't help.

I'm 20, trying to build something real and make good money, but I don't want to burn out or lose myself in the process. For those of you who've been trading (or just grinding at something) for longer — how do you separate your mood from your results? What actually worked for you?

Would genuinely appreciate any advice.

I don't mean Average person vs war hero or serial killer, I mean average vs average person.

no hobbies. sad.

nothing expensive, or with an unreasonable learing curve. something easy to start doing that requires little setup so i can pick it up anytime i want

you guys got any ideas?

I still can't stop but think how stretched out the Hobbit films were, for an otherwise short book. That's a sin that stains forever with me. The Lord of the Rings films, do have their own flaws, but they're fairly contained and can be debated as to whether they were good or not. I have so much trouble excusing anything with the Hobbit though.

And I hope we never, ever see anyone tackle The Silmarillion. Simply because, there will be so much improvised fluff in that would-be film, that it'd make the Hobbit films blush.

To be succinct and private.. My incubator worked me for weeks to build rapport and trust with me in my younger days, to get me to tell her a something that she would ultimately, and immediately use and weaponize against me and others.

This wasnt the first time I tried to have a relationship with her, but it did finally open my eyes and become the last. In the many many decades since, I've not so much as acknowledge her existence when crossing paths.

Scenario: It's night, and a man is walking home. He sees ahead there is a woman going in the opposite direction as him. Knowing not to stop or approach her, but his presence makes her nervous. What would help further in this scenario if anything?

First, I want to say that I will be talking to a vet about this as soon as I can. In the meantime, I am hoping someone here might have experience and could help ease my mind. These spots all of a sudden showed up on my dog under her front-right leg. It does not appear to bother her when I press on it, and has not grown in size. She is less than 5 years old, and spends most of her time inside. There do not appear to be any indications of a bite mark or other laceration. As far as I know, she has not been exposed to any chemicals. I bathed her two weeks ago.

Any ideas?