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The fact I've not had anything like that in as long as I've lived, and I'm no teen anymore
The clean up!
Not having them but having to hear other people talk about them constantly.
The actual dating part. Aside from 2 relationships I had in my high school days, everyone I dated I met through dating apps and it just feels forced. Like, we didn't meet naturally and know literally nothing about each other, so it just feels like work to accomplish a goal and not having fun with a friend. So much effort is spent getting to know the other person and it kinda feels like a job. I wish I could skip that part and just be in the "best friends that have sex" phase forever.
The expectation on me to be the instigator/aggressor in all interactions. In either connotation of that statement
it also means all fault and responsibility is in your camp, and the other person considers themselves blameless in all things.
In certain places and frameworks. It's happened the other way around where I live to where dudes got to walk free after SAing a child. But either was seems to not be as much of a thing in cultures that are less focused on punitive justice
The fact that not every hot person wants to fuck me. It is truly the great tragedy of my life.
the fact many folks complete lose all moral compass, common sense, and reason when it comes to romantic relationships. and thus end up in destructive patterns to themselves and others.
blows my mind how like, many of my exes were upstanding folks to the outside world, but when it came to me and our relationship, lying, cheating, stealing, hypocrisy and all that was 100% justified, because feelings.
the terrifying thing is that now on first dates people like straight up lead with how hypocritical and abusive they are and think there is nothing wrong with it, because the internet told them it was good to be that way.
My least favorite thing about love is losing the people I love, no matter how they were lost
Uhh... you... you didn't murder them did you?
Uhh… No, this world did
Right now, I've gotten attached enough to get sad when he leaves. And like, we live apart, so he has to leave every time.
Time to wife him then.
The "getting to know you" phase. All the same questions and answers, where are you from, what are your hobbies, how many brothers and sisters do you have, giving the same answers as always but pretending not be bored by it.
Things are much better once you either get past that stage or mutually decide it doesn't matter and just get to what you came for
You can just skip that if you want. No one is making you do it.
They’re like, a whole different person with different wants and needs than me, so like, I have to listen to them and communicate and sometimes I even have to do things I don’t want to just because they do? It’s all very annoying and it would be much easier if they just thought and did everything just the way I wanted all the time.
I have 2 kids as well as my wife, so I now have 3 other whole separate people whose wants and needs I have to consider. I love my wife and kids dearly and wouldn't want to live without them, but single life was much easier in some regards.
That is why dating your own clone will be all the rage in the future.
I want my romantic clone to be the opposite sex
At first I agreed, then realized I would make a quite ugly woman.
also why AI companions are going to be a huge thing in the near future and already exploding in popularity.
The scams.
Knowing that one if us will be without the other when one of us eventually dies first at some unknown point in the future hopefully from old age. It certainly beats the alternative though of not having met and fallen in love.
The risk of swimming through an ocean of crazy people, scammers, bots, and worse to find the right partner.
At this point, most all of it.
Everything about relationships suck except for the step where they feel like your best friend (or one of)
It takes a lot of effort to get there and most relationships do not make it there
First intimate milestones are always fun
can be worse. that step it can be all based on a lie.
Oh yeah the months to weeks long buildup the eventual climax of that first fuck can be utterly intoxicating.
Letting myself get too comfortable and cycling between fat and healthy every 6 months.
Isn't this normal ? You slim down for the summer & fatten up for winter.
The fact that the people I like never like me and my options are always settle for someone who likes me or be alone.
this post was submitted on 31 Jul 2026
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