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it's hot. also i'm growing cacti from seed which is new to me and i'm excited, a few of them are sprouting now. how are you?


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[-] [email protected] 4 points 1 day ago* (last edited 18 hours ago)

hi, does anyone wanna make the mega in the upcoming weeks? if so, reply to this post and i'll add you to the list!

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[-] [email protected] 1 points 3 minutes ago

YesterdayYesterday was upsetting. I'm done spending 2+ hours typing comments. It's literally not good for my psyche to spend this much time focusing on this site, this problem. It's amounting to its own internal issue for me.

I thought talking would make it better. It has not. I thought I could make friends by being genuine. I have not. I'm surprised that people here are so comfortable with someone getting worked up this often, if I'm being honest.

There's probably some other thread where you all exchange Cool Trans Secrets idfk. It is what it is. I'm not worthy.

As someone early in their transition, I am filled to the brim with questions and concerns and thoughts about gender and sexuality. I don't know if this is normal. I've been single for years, no sex life to speak of. I'm a blank slate, I am so eager to learn.

But people make me feel like I should keep these things to myself. There's no discussion to be had, I guess. I should just read old Reddit threads where someone else describes what I'm talking about.

I'm putting a few ventilations in one comment. I literally have to limit my screen time or else I'll post all day until I get a response.

gender envyIt's frustrating dealing with gender envy with one of my friends' girlfriend. Her fashion, the stuff she posts is very much my vibe.

So it's weird because she graduated, I don't see her anymore, but the connections are mutual enough that I'm just aware of this person and have no idea how to have friendship, or even a conversation with her.

I think I'd faint if she talked to me. I know that's pathetic. I feel this way about a percentage of the women I go to school with. It's envy, attraction, then shame, then I am invisible. Like a woman would laugh me out of the room for thinking I could ever look like her, be like her.

It's hard. I shut down because I'm like, "well she sees me as a guy, and she has a boyfriend, so she probably isn't going to want to talk to me because she sees me as a guy so she assumes I'm a horndog because straight men only reallybefriend women for sex and I'm not a man so I don't know how to befriend women"

I think we could've been friends. Unless she's still in town it's probably too late.

couplesI just want for a woman or someone to teach me how to be more feminine. I'd be so willing to learn. I'm like a blank slate. I can barely function as a guy. I don't know if anyone has ever been as ready as I am.

I'm also jealous of literally every couple I see. Any time I see two women especially I'm like "WHAT DO THEY KNOW THAT I DO NOT" and I think this comes from the fact that I think people who are able to have friends and keep people around do know something that I don't.

Like you, reading this, if you have someone you just casually text and don't ever really wonder about the consistency of the back and forth, congrats, I'm jealous of your ability to keep people around. You are a social Adonis as far as I'm concerned.

If I'm out and I see two people, my mind is immediatelywondering how they know each other, how long they've been together, how much fun it must be to be together.

[-] [email protected] 1 points 20 minutes ago

I went on a date with a reaaaaalllyyyy cute guy last night. We talked for like 3 hours and he kissed me goodbye. So forearms were like double the size of mine I was in a puddle at the end, this is my first time that I’ve had a guy make me feel this way and I’m like what the hell, how have I missed this my whole life 😭

I feel like I’ve always been attracted to men in kinda a different way, like they were my friend and we were the same, while women were like this other species, but i really like it flipped around lol. 😝

[-] [email protected] 5 points 4 hours ago

One of my nipples grew bigger than the other since starting MTF HRT half a year ago. How long until they become the same size again? The areolas are the same size.

[-] [email protected] 3 points 2 hours ago

That's 100% normal, it might never, but that's being a woman, I guess

[-] [email protected] 4 points 3 hours ago

They might never be the same size, unfortunately. Back when I had tits one of my nipples was bigger than the other (areolas were the same size) and the other never grew to match it. Tits are rarely entirely symmetric, so you're probably just going to have to deal with this.

[-] [email protected] 3 points 3 hours ago* (last edited 3 hours ago)

should i drive over to saudi arabia and see if i can meet any trans ppl there

[-] [email protected] 16 points 9 hours ago

Shout-out to the people who encouraged me when I posted in the trans megathread when my egg was cracking like 7-8 months ago. 6 months on hrt now and Im so much happier :D

[-] [email protected] 2 points 53 minutes ago* (last edited 25 minutes ago)

oh hey look it's where i was like 8-9 months ago. the E is great, isn't it?

[-] [email protected] 4 points 4 hours ago

How could you get on HRT so quickly?

[-] [email protected] 4 points 2 hours ago

If she's in the US, there are states where you can just go to planned parenthood, say you're feeling gender dysphoria and want hormones, and they'll prescribe them for you.*

*May no longer be true with the damage the Trump admin is doing to trans healthcare.

[-] [email protected] 2 points 2 hours ago

Here in the Netherlands you have to wait on year long waiting lists or start doing DIY HRT.

[-] [email protected] 2 points 2 hours ago

Damn, wtf? I have to get 1 (one) whole year with a fucking endocrinologist to get a prescription

[-] [email protected] 7 points 8 hours ago

I had two drinks over the course of several hours, how am i somehow drunkish? Like, im not drunk drunk, but im more than tipsy??? Granted, i havent had alcohol in weeks, but still two drinks (not even super heavy pours either, like an extra 20% cause the bartender likes meeee) shouldnt hit me like this???? New calibration point for alcohol ig?

[-] [email protected] 3 points 3 hours ago

If you started hrt semi-recently, it's probably that. I know when I started T my alcohol tolerance increased quite noticeably, so assuming the timing makes sense, you're probably experiencing the inverse of that

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[-] [email protected] 10 points 9 hours ago

Is it possible to do HRT badly enough that it permanently messes up your transition or is it a kind of thing where it would just mean it takes more time?

[-] [email protected] 13 points 9 hours ago

just takes more time

unless u seriously mess up for like years n get osteoperosis

[-] [email protected] 11 points 11 hours ago

Got a few web friends to use my real pronouns and my new name. It just makes me feel euphoric, but somehow still feels wrong. Maybe some internalized transphobia or just the disphoria (probably because I haven't started any part of the transition yet). But I'm happy anyways for getting some validation.

[-] [email protected] 5 points 10 hours ago

I have absolutely been there. In my experience is does get better the more you experience it

[-] [email protected] 12 points 12 hours ago

transphobiaImagine deadnaming someone in your birthday message to her

I wish I could thanos snap these people into a pocket dimension so I don't have do deal with them. Fucking hell

Up with trans. Down with cis

In other news I got invited to a thing on Friday that I'm suuuuuper excited about. I'm going to get to flex my gay muscles

[-] [email protected] 13 points 14 hours ago* (last edited 14 hours ago)

Coworker gave me a hair tie and another put my hair up for me kitty-cri

Low key have shed a few tears about it... just really nice of them to help me and feels kind of like something women would usually do for other women. Not out to them or anything but still you know.. needed something nice to happen to me today too.

[-] [email protected] 7 points 13 hours ago

this is sweet i have memories like this

I keep some hairties on me all the time (on my keys, in my wallet), gettining to help out someone, is a good feeling in return. I think i gave one to some random retail staff who were getting chewed out by a manager in front of me once

[-] [email protected] 6 points 14 hours ago

that's really nice!

[-] [email protected] 8 points 14 hours ago

I've been passing at work and wirh all my patients, weird feeling. Besides a little voice work all I did was move to a city.

[-] [email protected] 6 points 14 hours ago

AAAAAAAHHHHHHHHHHHHHH!!!!!! That is all.

Addendum:

screm-aaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa

[-] [email protected] 4 points 13 hours ago

hot? yeah i guess it was a little toasty overnight now i've had to crack out my second blanket, its the middle of winter! This is southern hemisphere erasure!

im doing okay, someone in the vague 'activist scene' in my city is kinda making my life hell atm, theyre not well, but neither am i. So i'm fading out of existence. For how much people all talk about 'community', i'm yet to have many people check in with me.

Theyre going to be living in a worldwithoutlawyers.jpg now i'm gone. no one else is going to tell them to reexamine their preconceptions, theres going to be unexamined racist shit going down, i tell you what.

i kept being told 'well remember what you were like when you were young!', and i kept thinking, yeah damn, they should all be doing drugs instead of crowing themselves godking of the 'movement'.

this has all really destroyed my confidence i'm actually too anxious to even check replies here atm, for a while i couldnt even comment because i felt like everyone was so mad at me lol.

The 'scene' is good for them, but has been a disaster for my mental health. so i'm dropping everything so i can rekindle my energy and re engage myself with my union organising.

i dunno this feels like too much, maybe im too much. I'm getting echoes of an ex telling me 'i'm not availible to do emotional labour for you'. haha hehe hoho yes

if people are treating you like shit, you should leave, its not easy, but its for the best

[-] [email protected] 9 points 16 hours ago

Male tomboy with a little bit of E busts it down agender style, are they goated with the sauce?

[-] [email protected] 3 points 13 hours ago

O Jamesy let me up out of this pooh

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