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[–] 35 points 1 year ago (15 children)

taking about assimilationists and patriarchyI'm tired of this genre of posts I keep seeing on other sites where they'll say something like "trans people existing doesn't affect you" or like "no one is asking you to change your beliefs, just to treat others with respect" or did stuff like that.

Trans people (and queer people in general) existing IS a threat to the gender system, and so is a threat to people deeply invested in it. I DO want people to change thier deeply held beliefs. I am a radical, I hate society, I want to change it, I want to destroy patriarchy. Assimilationism is not a path to liberation.

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  • [–] 20 points 1 year ago (1 child)

    spoiler

    "no one is asking you to change your beliefs, just to treat others with respect"

    This one in particular, like no your beliefs are literally just wrong and unfounded and should be changed. The whole "treat people with respect even if you disagree" thing is such bullshit, at least in this case. You can't "respect" me if you think (whatever horrible transphobic thing you can imagine). Respect isn't not calling people slurs.

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    [–] 34 points 1 year ago (6 children)

    Chat.... The date did NOT go well, we had a lot in common, had good conversation, and he was really attractive, but near the end he basically just came out and said he was 'dating' multiple people and wasn't looking for a serious relationship, in spite of the fact that I literally told him that I was looking for a serious, monogamous, relationship beforehand. πŸ™‚πŸ™‚πŸ™‚πŸ™‚πŸ™‚ Then he, very clumsily, all but asked when we should meet up for sex cuz he 'doesn't like going on too many dates and becoming friends with the person' - his words πŸ™„

    Fucking epic. At least this was the normal kind of guy being an asshole instead of the transphobic kind. I actually kinda appreciate that he treated me poorly in the same way he treats his cis-women dates! XDDDD

    Dudes rock.

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  • [–] 32 points 1 year ago (13 children)

    bottom surgeryIt is incredible already to have a vagina, and wow does this healing process hurt.

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    [–] 27 points 1 year ago (9 children)

    transphobiaWhen I wasn't looking one of my students left me what looked like a wedding invitation which I thought was weird but when I opened it it was a freaking religious thing telling me to stop being gay and give my life to Jesus. It referred to me as a son of God all the way through and every time it put SON in all caps.

    I don't want to let them win but I've been feeling discouraged all day ever since.

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    [–] 27 points 1 year ago (6 children)

    I scored big time today. One of my profs is retiring at the end of this semester and he pulled me into his office and told me to take as many books from his bookshelf as I wanted

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  • [–] 25 points 1 year ago (4 children)

    needles n stuffDid my first DIY injection yesterday. I was kinda anxious before if i could pull through because i've never shot up anything, but i had some of my friends around to support me and it seems i'm more cold blooded than i thought, even got told i have a steady hand and that everbody else present had a harder time during their first try. Haven't felt this much like a big girl since my first laser session.

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    [–] 23 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (1 child)

    bottom surgery euphoriaCatheter is finally out, and I am officially part of sit to piss gang, or at least squat and pray gang. Everything so far has not been as bad as I feared, and so much better than I hoped. I already love having my vagina so much.

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    [–] 23 points 1 year ago (2 children)

    I want this outfit, I want this hair.

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    [–] 23 points 1 year ago (4 children)

    almost 4 weeks post-ffsMost of the swelling is down. I'm very slowly regaining feeling in the areas that were previously numb. It feels like when novocaine wears off, and the pins and needles sensation is most mild except this sensation is extended over several... um... I hope just weeks. No pain in my lips or chin or inside mouth or it's low-level enough where I can ignore it. There's mild pain on my scalp primarily along the sutures. They're still sore to the touch so I'm trying to sleep on my back which is very unnatural to me. Besides the sleep deprivation, I'm pretty much back to pre-surgery energy levels and have honestly been for a week already. I'm fighting the urge to go out and be active when I should still be resting.

    I've started messages and silicone strips for the only visible scar and these treatments have already had effect. Minoxidil for the transplanted hair and obviously it hasn't been long enough usage to have visible hair regrowth but it has slowed down shock loss.

    Now that the swelling is down and my vision is back, I can look in the mirror and appreciate the results. And yeah. The struggle was worth it. I love the changes, looking into a mirror and seeing my face now is euphoria-inducing. I dunno think I'm kinda hot now too... I can't wait until the hair grows back and the healing process is fully complete. I'll be unstoppable catgirl-smug

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    bottom surgery postingAbout a week post operative now, and I have never felt so comfortable in my body in my life. I didn’t think that I had that much bottom dysphoria, but now that is just completely gone, and I’m still so early in recovery. I already love having a vagina so much, ya’ll.
    aubrey-happy

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    [–] 20 points 1 year ago (7 children)

    There’s 2 thing I would have NEVER expected as a teenager:

    1. That I’m a woman

    2. That I would join a knitting group (well not yet. I still have to wait a few weeks)

    I was looking for a new hobby and thought I would give it a try, because I found crocheting quite enjoyable as a child and I REALLY want some nice, custom sweaters.

    But holy moly is yarn expensive. meow-knit (perfect emoji lol)

    I just spent 100€ for 2 circular needle pairs, some basic tools and 22 skeins of wool, and almost all of those things were on sale. Like, it’s legit cheaper to just buy a sweater, unknit it and use that as a source of wool, because the prices in the fashion industry are just that insanely low.

    Prime example of how ridiculous capitalism is. meow-tableflip

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    [–] 19 points 1 year ago (2 children)
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    [–] 19 points 1 year ago (9 children)

    My fiancΓ©e didn't like the name "girl bag" for my balls doggirl-cry

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    [–] 19 points 1 year ago (3 children)

    the county im in sent me a invitation letter for cervical cancer screening catgirl-huh

    it's kinda affirming in a way tbh catgirl-heart

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    [–] 18 points 1 year ago (2 children)

    gonna book an appointment at a lgbtq clinic, they'll set me up with psychiatrist who will diagnose me with gender dysphoria no worries according to my friend. but that sounds scary and hard. doctors are scary.

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  • [–] 18 points 1 year ago (6 children)
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    I'm still cute, which is, of course, pretty cute doggirl-happy

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  • [–] 18 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (2 children)

    Went to the doctor today, but they were surprised to see me, because apparently my appointment is in 2 weeks.

    Welp! Returned right back home contemplating on how I could’ve done such a dumb mistake.

    When I arrived at home, I immediately looked at the appointment card: It’s today’s date.

    I feel so stupid now, even though it wasn’t my fault. catgirl-flop

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    [–] 17 points 1 year ago (1 child)

    2 months on hormones today. Feeling better and better as time goes on. I've been having a hard time eating lately so it's not helping the girl gains, but all things in time or whatever.

    I dyed my hair blonde recently also after contemplating it for months and it's the second best decision I've made this year.

    Anyways, HRT rules and it's never too late. I didn't start until after 30 and I have 0 complaints so far. Other than wishing I could skip the blood work, ha.

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    [–] 17 points 1 year ago (7 children)

    there's only one thing more annoying than trying to buy cute boots that fit, and that's buying HATS

    my dome is so freakishly large and all of the hats are like ONE SIZE which translates to "HA HA get fucked freak" aaaaaaaahhhhhhhhhhhhhh catgirl-flop

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    [–] 17 points 1 year ago (2 children)

    I'm happy to say I've rejoined cute gang

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    [–] 17 points 1 year ago

    Been exercising more and eating more healthily this week and I'm starting to like my body just a little more :)

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    [–] 16 points 1 year ago (1 child)

    Telling myself I am going to actually play my rom collection this time and not just spend hours and hours just downloading and organizing them like some kind of hoarder and then doing that anyway.

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    [–] 16 points 1 year ago (3 children)

    we built this shitty

    we built this shitty on butt with hole

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    [–] 16 points 1 year ago (2 children)

    putting "OSINT expert" on my resume because I'm terminally online

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    [–] 15 points 1 year ago (3 children)

    Does anyone else feel like everyone has this unspoken expectation that, eventually, you'll be okay? I feel like I'm going to let people down and it's hard to navigate.

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    [–] 15 points 1 year ago

    I'm writing every day now and it's helping my mental wellbeing so much. aubrey-happy

    Got addicted to a video game for a few days earlier this week (why can I not like things normally instead of feeling like I have to spend 12 hours a day on it) and lost the habit which made me feel terrible, but now I'm back into it. doggirl-thumbsup

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  • [–] 15 points 1 year ago (4 children)

    Give my rizz some energy please... spirit-bomb

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    [–] 15 points 1 year ago (1 child)

    Chat I think I'm falling in love again. I must have the kind of swag that trans guys love, because in addition to all my closest friends bring trans guys, every one I have matched with on a dating app for the past year and a half has been a trans guy. I'm pan, so I feel this is statistically unlikely, but I'm not complaining lol. But, I matched with a new guy recently and it's going so well and he's completely my type doggirl-kiss

    Idk how I keep pulling cute boys, I am hideous. But I'm happy

    God I love boys!! I could never have imagined that 5 years ago, lol. My love for non-boys has always been there, and hasn't gotten any less. But it wasn't till I figured out that I wasn't a boy that I realized I like boys

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    [–] 14 points 1 year ago (4 children)

    went to the gym yesterday and had a good workout all things considered given I hadn't been regularly in awhile recovering from my hand injuries and was feeling pretty good and saw some friendly regulars I hadn't seen in awhile

    dysphorialooked in the mirror before I left and that was a bad idea

    hate how large I am and how... idk what to call it. Frumpy? Blocky? My silhouette is

    I'm not like a super tall or bulky muscly type but ugh

    I wish I was more slender in my frame and shorter

    I wish I could be described as "elegant" and that's pretty far from the actual truth of my appearance

    My face is kinda femme and I have kinda feminine legs and hips but I hate my fat distribution and it's like I'm a big work truck with a girly paint job and the women I wanna look more like are like sleek little sports cars or something

    Physically I've felt just too big lately and have been bumping into shit accidentally a lot lately and it sucks

    My voice and dealing with my hair and body hair and everything have gotten worse and I've felt a lot worse bottom dysphoria than I usually do and bleh

    I've known I'm not cis for a long time at this point but keep beating myself up mentally like "why can't I just be a queer cis guy, it'd be so much easier than dealing with how far away my body is now from where I'd like it to be"

    ugh

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