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submitted 3 months ago* (last edited 3 months ago) by [email protected] to c/[email protected]

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[–] [email protected] 11 points 3 months ago (1 children)

very horny post

Why the fuck are there not more t4t trans guy posts on tumblr. There's plenty of MLM trans man posts (good for them!), plenty of transfemme posts, but maybe I wanna drool over a bi/straight T4T trans guy? Ever think of that tumblr

Hand over the hot guys, where the fuck are you hiding them

[–] [email protected] 10 points 3 months ago (2 children)

The answer is the same as always when people ask where the trans men are, they are out in the woods and make naturalist oil paintings.

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[–] [email protected] 10 points 3 months ago (4 children)

genital stuff, sex stuff

So I have virtually zero sex drive. It's never really bothered me, but part of me has always wondered if it was a low testosterone thing, and that wonder has increased drastically since I apparently had a history of that when I was way younger and my mom didn't tell me 'til very recently.

So all of that to say, I'm kind of wondering if I will gain a sex drive as my hormone levels approach what they should be. I'm also told that if I don't use my penis while on HRT it'll hurt a lot if I try to again. That's something I want to avoid, but I have quite literally never masturbated or anything out of a lack of interest. So I'm at this weird spot of maybe being horny and wanting to do sex stuff later but not really having any good way to keep my member from the edge of death.

I'm not sure how much sense I'm making. I don't really have a specific question outside of "is this a legit worry", but I'm looking for thoughts from the infinitely wise trans council

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[–] [email protected] 10 points 3 months ago

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[–] [email protected] 10 points 3 months ago (5 children)

does "DIY HRT" mean synthesizing it yourself, or can you also buy premade stuff outside of prescriptions? I want to try to stick with prescriptions as long as I can, but I kind of want to keep some extra around just in case things get desperate here in amerikkka. if it's the former... well let's just say I'd strongly prefer the latter, if anyone can recommend reputable vendors.

[–] [email protected] 9 points 3 months ago* (last edited 3 months ago) (1 children)

it usually refers to the latter, buying grey-market HRT online that usually comes from pharmaceutical manufacturers but there are reputable "homebrew" suppliers too, usually of injectable esters. it's been a while for me and i'm not american so i don't have much specific advice. i think this is still considered a good resource: https://hrtcafe.net/ if you scroll to "pharmaceutical vendors" you can see some reputable options, where they ship to, and what payment options they take. it's a great way of building a stockpile of HRT which is a very valuable thing to do, i wish you luck with it! worth noting that by far the most cost-effective option is definitely going to be buying the "homebrew" injectable esters. stockpiling factory-made pills or patches or gel is very possible too but will come at a relatively more premium price.

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[–] [email protected] 10 points 3 months ago

I'm really annoying today, sorry everyone

Sleep deprived and kinda fucked up off pain meds for the hand

Honestly weirdly having a really good time? Like "okay cool, I'm wounded and people expect less of me irl now for awhile and are all really nice to me"

Feel like I exorcized something losing my shit the last time and everything's coming up Milhouse now

[–] [email protected] 10 points 3 months ago (4 children)

Planet fitness lunk alarm is discriminatory toward lunks like myself catgirl-cry I've no other means to compensate for my inadequate life than through being toxic at the gym

[–] [email protected] 9 points 3 months ago (2 children)

get strong enough to throw the weights at anyone who is complaining about you dropping weights

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[–] [email protected] 10 points 3 months ago (1 children)

If you happen to live in a deep blue state, exactly how much fear should you be feeling right now? My first impression is that not a whole lot will change for me except being unable to change legal sex on my passport

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[–] [email protected] 10 points 3 months ago

Had a very productive day and decluttered and took recycling to the dump that they don't take on the street pickup, went to the gym, did my grocery shopping and took Rosie and Goggles to their first vet appointment and got their shots and microchips (they did really well! Goggles wanted to hold onto my shoulder and grumbled a little bit they were very good in the car and didn't scratch or anything) meow-bounce

mental health, positive mostly but ahhh stress

Can tell I'm on the verge of being really burned out though

Almost road raged at slow distracted dipshits multiple times today and have been really irritable and got really overwhelmed shopping today

Lately I've felt more competent and grown up overall than I ever have before but holy shit I'm exhausted.

I'd do reprehensible things to have a competent sibling to help me take care of my parents

I'm pretty much a lone wolf and it's taking a toll

two-wolves-1

[–] [email protected] 10 points 3 months ago

Churches should sing more hyrns and themns

[–] [email protected] 10 points 3 months ago (2 children)

Hmm, maybe I should go on a hike today. checks temperature oh that's right it's really cold. I still might do it, tbh.

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[–] [email protected] 10 points 3 months ago

Scammers on redbook continue to try to scam me by enticing me with shit from steam or google play, I merely keep talking about how they stopped making good sonic games after sonic and the black knight saul-stare

[–] [email protected] 10 points 3 months ago (2 children)

BDD

Breast Driven Development 😎

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[–] [email protected] 10 points 3 months ago

My mind seems to be calming down now. Thankfully. Seems that PMS may have exacerbated my negative feelings a small bit there, but I'm coming down from it thanks to everyone sharing their stories with me in the last thread. That said...

CW: Dysphoria and family talk

I still feel a severely profound sadness when I see a pregnant woman or woman with her child(ren). And I still feel super fake, but not nearly as badly as I did.

Furthermore, my mother just canNOT understand why I've been so depressed. I try to explain it to her and she feeds me lines like "Kids suck. You should feel lucky." I don't care. You simply just can't grasp it. JFC she just keeps trying to add gasoline to the fire.

I also measured my breasts for the first time since surgery about 2 months ago. My bra size is apparently 38K, but I want to try on some bras to ensure that that is actually the case. That just seems overly large to me. Granted I was a small 38F prior to surgery, but still. 38K is like true awooga territory and seems unrealistic.

[–] [email protected] 9 points 3 months ago (4 children)

rant/vent/whatever about change and hrt

Its been like six months since I first committed to myself to getting on diy, missed every timeframe I set myself, just can't do it. Can't bring myself to change. I don't understand why I can't change. Why I can't progress. I just can't. I'm stupid I guess. Scared. Honestly don't deserve the help.

spoiler suicide Never going to be able to change. So incredibly unhappy with how things are but still don't do anything to change it. Should just kill myself and get it over with. I'll never be happy, I'll never be at peace, and I'm never going to change anything. I wish I had someone to take my snakes. I wonder what will happen to them.

self harm

Going to try and distract myself again, like I do every fucking day, and if that doesn't work I'll cut myself. Already broke my streak and I don't care. Going to kill myself anyway. What a sad, pathetic end this makes.

I remember people telling me from the time I was a child life was hard. It is, it sucks, I hate life, I hate living. Why would anyone force this shit on someone.

I don't want it to be over but I don't want to keep struggling. This sucks and I hate it and I can't change any of it. Why can't I do anything ever. Why am I a useless, pathetic sack of shit. Why am I this way and my sister is fine. Literally just bad genetics or some shit. Who gives a fuck. Someone kill me.

I take back what I said the other day, I do blame autism for this shit. NTs can change and work on themselves. I have always struggled with change and risk, no matter how small, and this is just too big for me to cope with.

[–] [email protected] 9 points 3 months ago (4 children)

What’s stopping you from doing diy?

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[–] [email protected] 9 points 3 months ago* (last edited 3 months ago) (3 children)

Consult for laser hair removal is going pretty well. The nurse doing the consult has worked with trans patients before as was understanding (was very nervous about potential transphobic reactions). Just waiting to see the quote.

EDIT: Looking like $200/session for face + neck. I don't know if that seems high or is ballpark. I can afford it, but I am still shopping around.

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[–] [email protected] 9 points 3 months ago

does the pope shit in the woods?

[–] [email protected] 9 points 3 months ago (2 children)

mild vent, slight drug mention

cis friend of mine messaged me for the first time in a little bit. saw the noto and was kind of hoping he was gonna be checking in, seeing how i was doing given the Everything of Everything going on. he was just complaining about how cold it is outside. yeah, sure, thanks for checking in buddy, guess i'll just go back to getting high alone doggirl-cry

idk. maybe i'm being uncharitable.

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[–] [email protected] 9 points 3 months ago

I don’t know if I’m put together enough to deal with the facial hair I’ll get from hrt.

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