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[–] [email protected] 13 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago) (1 children)

CW: dysphoria, family, transphobia, religionMan, having to performatively boymode for the family (not out to any of them) for Christmas is already wearing me down, and I haven't even left town (they came for my commencement yesterday, and are going back today). Not doing makeup really sucks. I do want to spend time with my siblings, but I may have to figure out an excuse to duck town earlier than I hoped. I am glad that my adult sister isn't coming home until after Christmas: she's tolerable and can even be sweet sometimes 1-on-1 but is a nightmare when we're with the broader family. I know it has to do with her own stresses/anxiety towards our parents, but she ruined Christmas dinner for me last year by going off on transphobic rants so it's hard for me to sympathize.

It also sucks because I've wanted to make the family watch Tokyo Godfathers for years, but it was never accessible on their streaming apps. This year, it's on Amazon Prime but with the climate I think it would cause a fight with my dad (and maybe even mom) who would accuse it of "confusing/corrupting" children. It would be a good way to test the waters and gauge the family's reaction, but I don't want to get in a fight.

Also not looking forward to getting dragged to church (of the "non-denom" evangelical variety). Would be another reason to skedaddle early to at least cut down the number of that experience.

[–] [email protected] 7 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago) (2 children)

spoilerMaybe if I can stretch out my packing/cleaning all day and stop myself from leaving I can at least avoid church tomorrow.

Edit: Accomplished. I thought I was fibbing to the family when I called to tell them, but I think I actually feel to tired to drive today, and I still have a few more hours of cleaning I want to do today.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Fibbing would also be 100% justifiable and valid in this case. Hoping the holidays don't suck too bad for you.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 day ago (1 children)

I feel a lot better about the whole thing, and I am resting up with my sleepy kitties and watching Bottoms (2023).

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[–] [email protected] 13 points 2 days ago (1 children)

what is it about protestantism that makes them post the worst memes you've ever seen

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[–] [email protected] 15 points 2 days ago (1 children)

unrestrained gushingy'all just spend all day with someone and then have to part to go to bed and shake your fist at the sky and go "WHY DO WE HAVE TO BE APART FOR EVEN ONE SECOND???"?

i need to buy some plane tickets

[–] [email protected] 14 points 2 days ago (1 children)
[–] [email protected] 6 points 1 day ago

thank you :) you too

[–] [email protected] 16 points 2 days ago* (last edited 2 days ago) (1 children)

today has been complete and utter dogshit so I think I'm finally going to get around to telling that one girl I like her today to go double or nothing on making this either a really shitty or a really good day

edit: oh fuck this it's almost midnight i'll do it tomorrow morning

[–] [email protected] 10 points 2 days ago (1 children)

exercise/gender shitpostGRTGB (gym rat to gym bunny)

failure right-arrow reisen-dance

(self crit: I need to be more disciplined about my Bulgarian split squats, Cossack squats, hip stuff, lunges and my core day. Been a bit of a cardio and leg day sicko lately on the treadmill and leg press and have been neglecting other stuff)

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[–] [email protected] 6 points 1 day ago (1 children)

my Bulgarian split squats, Cossack squats

You’re just making stuff up, right? catgirl-huh

[–] [email protected] 6 points 1 day ago (2 children)

No lol

lady-doge

I'm a heavy leg press sicko and neglect other lifts to some of my own detriment but those are both very good for butt

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 day ago

I found YouTube links in your comment. Here are links to the same videos on alternative frontends that protect your privacy:

Link 1:

Link 2:

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[–] [email protected] 17 points 2 days ago

parentsTalked to my dad as well and he was more chill about me taking DIY. He was still against it but said it's my decision. He showed more understanding, compared to my mom who was visibly upset. We then spent some time talking abolut my social transition as well


[–] [email protected] 12 points 2 days ago* (last edited 2 days ago) (1 children)

crushposting

The grape flavor sucks

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago) (1 children)

agree, anyway i am envious of your crush so i'm getting one of my own. thoughts on the cream soda flavour?

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 day ago (1 children)
[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 day ago (1 children)

agree, but this pizza place only had orange, so i couldn't get both

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[–] [email protected] 9 points 2 days ago (1 children)

Half-sister made a comment about the people running on testosterone that implied I was in that group. I corrected her. Does that could as coming out to her (and my sister who was also there)? We're a pretty queer family, so I assume they would realize it's an intentional choice vs a medical issue.

[–] [email protected] 9 points 2 days ago (1 children)

Consider it SchrΓΆdinger's coming out. Some people can be quite oblivious, and among those that aren't, many will just ignore the elephant in the room.

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[–] [email protected] 10 points 2 days ago* (last edited 2 days ago) (3 children)

would it be weird to go to a clinic like Planned Parenthood for gender affirming care but to only ask for finasteride? I will likely get on proper HRT at some point, I'm still thinking about it, but my hair needs to be fixed NAOW. Would a trichologist/dermatologist be more appropriate?

the thing I'm worried about with more conventional doctors is that I'm still closeted/"boymoding" so I feel like they might discourage finasteride or encourage other less effective treatments because they think I'm actively trying to avoid feminizing side effects when really it's a plus lol

[–] [email protected] 5 points 1 day ago

I think that would be fine. In my experience, PP seems very willing to provide treatment that suits your needs. During my first appointment they asked me what my transition goals were.

[–] [email protected] 7 points 2 days ago* (last edited 2 days ago)

I’d go to planned parenthood hood and explain your situation. Normal dose would be fine (1mg). There’s not much data about higher dose use of finasteride in trans or NB/GNC people but it’s probably safer than for cis people. I actually take 5mg. Have been doing so for a couple of months. After a year of 2.5mg.

Also generic finasteride is often very cheap, many hair loss places are scams to get you to pay several times more than what it actually costs, which is 20 dollars AUD here for 30x5mg tablets which you can halve or quarter or 30 dollars for 30 x 1mgs. If that seems odd that the bigger dose is cheaper, I don’t know why but supply and demand or something.

[–] [email protected] 6 points 2 days ago

Ask for what you want now. Going to PP seems like a good way to make it more comfortable.

[–] [email protected] 15 points 2 days ago* (last edited 2 days ago)

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[–] [email protected] 11 points 2 days ago* (last edited 2 days ago) (1 children)

The item description for the Cup of Coffee in Earthbound where it's like

Harsh and bitter. I guess it tastes good to adults.

and I mean yea thank u game, that shit is stanky

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 day ago (1 children)

at this point i wouldn't know myself without a morning coffee, but i defs add a bunch of sweet oat milk to it, lol

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 day ago

Oat milk in coffee is awesome, because the weird slight oatmeal-cookie taste of all oatmilk means it isn't always a 1:1 replacement for regular milk and some things using it smell or taste slightly different.

Coffee feels like it was crying out for oat milk all along though, it's an objective improvement on disgusting dairy milk and a better alternative to creamer, too. It results in what almost tastes like a chocolate chip oatmeal cookie... drink.

Yeag.........

As far as morning coffee goes Idk, it does literally nothing but make me slightly tired, it's also expensive but I will drink it habitually for months at a time and then stop cold no problem. I like it mostly because I actually think it tastes good and hot drinks are a weird stim for me, but coffee feels weirdly evil on many levels so I tend toward black tea more.

[–] [email protected] 17 points 2 days ago

Pronouns update bleh

[–] [email protected] 18 points 2 days ago (1 children)

Six weeks of monoing E's made my nips fat as fuck and also turned me into a soy liberal who cries watching sad films

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[–] [email protected] 14 points 2 days ago (2 children)

big sad dysphoria postingi went into today's voice therapy session ready to absolutely get to work and really drill myself and get the hard stuff done and about halfway through i just fucking broke down crying and couldn't go on. why the fuck do i have to put in all of this fucking effort into maybe sort of sounding like a cis woman when there's fucking billions of cis women out there who have never had a single problem with having their voice sound male and never put an ounce of effort into it why the fuck does testosterone exist why the fuck is there no surgery out there that can fix my fucking resonance why the fuck do i have to put in all of this extraordinary effort jamming my fucking tongue down the back of my throat just for people to call me a man anyway what the fuck

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[–] [email protected] 11 points 2 days ago

doomed yuri

new transition milestone: partner now makes noises of distress when I ask for help clothes shopping

[–] [email protected] 15 points 2 days ago* (last edited 2 days ago) (2 children)

transphobia, parentsMy mom found out I'm taking DIY HRT and confronted me about it. I defended myself while she kept saying how it was dangerous because there's no oversight. She also brought up hormonal changes like getting a temper, bringing up how I already always had a temper and that this would make it worse. I mentioned that I think that I will have less of a temper because I'll have less gender dysphoria. I also said this would be the same on official hormones, which she is not against, and she agreed with me. After a while I started crying and kept crying. Luckily she feels like she can't decide for me even if she's against it, so she lets me keep it. But the thing is, that she forcing me to tell my dad since she doesn't want to keep a secret from her husband. He's supportive but anti-DIY as well. I'm afraid that maybe he will try to take it away so I need to figure out how to hide in the worst case scenario.

This bullshit is exactly why I was hiding it from them in the first place. I was thinking of telling them but this shows me exactly that I made the right decision keeping this from them. I shouldn't have put my hormones in my toilet bag, which I will take to vacation. She found out because she wanted to see if I still had anti- cat allergy pills for this vacation.

[–] [email protected] 15 points 2 days ago (1 children)

β€œThere’s no oversight” and the oversight is taking a blood test and seeing if the numbers are within a certain range.

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