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[–] [email protected] 84 points 1 week ago (4 children)

"Cis, he/him"

"thanks I think we are done here"

o-ok

[–] [email protected] 81 points 1 week ago (3 children)

put on the thigh highs if you want more questions shrug-outta-hecks

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[–] [email protected] 38 points 1 week ago

Lmao I had no idea there were more questions.

[–] [email protected] 34 points 1 week ago

Hath thou considered adding pronouns to engage with additional questions? sicko-power

[–] [email protected] 55 points 1 week ago (6 children)

Wow, you think I will voluntarily put myself on the cis list to be marked for execution when Commiela steals the election?

[–] [email protected] 40 points 1 week ago

Self-reporting cisness to the nearest political comissar is mandatory, failure to comply may be weighed against you.

[–] [email protected] 35 points 1 week ago (2 children)

Its ok man, i listed myself as cis in the last survey and nothing hap

[–] [email protected] 28 points 1 week ago

So you didn't notice eh?

Interesting.

[–] [email protected] 32 points 1 week ago (2 children)

yes, then you'll be revived back up by juche necromancy, then executed again

[–] [email protected] 26 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago)

And then you'll be revived again and realize how wise it is to be trans 🙌

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[–] [email protected] 24 points 1 week ago

Fuck it. Whatever helps me leave this pitiful existence faster. I'm super mega extra cis if that bumps me up in the list.

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[–] [email protected] 49 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago) (8 children)

you should mention if you check yes on "are you cisgender" there will be no other questions i thought my shit was broken at first lol

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[–] [email protected] 27 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago) (2 children)

The Gender SWAT team is on its way to your house the moment you click yes

[–] [email protected] 26 points 1 week ago (1 children)
[–] [email protected] 24 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago) (1 children)

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[–] [email protected] 45 points 1 week ago

I didn't study but I think I aced it

[–] [email protected] 40 points 1 week ago (9 children)

god, things like this always confuse me. like yes i'm a cis woman, but i use he/him/she/her or hy/hym pronouns when i can (read: online or dnd), crossdress 24/7, have visable facial hair, and honestly i'd go on testosterone if it were free. i was looking at binders recently (because i had them recommended as a heavy duty sports bra and also the silhouettes are just nicer) and the only reason i didn't get one was that my measurements are weird. a lot of my mates keep saying that i should just become a man already and are "waiting for the gender drop" and new people assume i'm already transmasc or nb.

like despite the fact that i'm cis, i am apparently trans by a LOT of people's definitions. idk how i feel about that. it feels like people are trying to limit what woman are and are not allowed to be. there is NOTHING wrong with women who look like me or go into my field or reject the beauty industry or crossdress or date women or anything else. there isn't even anything """un-womanly""" about us, we just don't dignifiy the sexist society in which we live with a response.

but then again, the people who assume i'm trans or nb don't think for a second that they're reinforcing misogynistic ideas about womanhood, they're just trying to be nice

so yeah. idk. i am not by defintion trans in the slightest, but in practice it always seems like i am. sorry if i invalidated the results by classing myself as cis instead of "?????????" lol. i guess theres a reason people treat butches as trans-adjacent

(BUT hexbear is one of the only place i've ever got the idea i can say any thing remotely like this and not get instantly clowned on, so shout out to our trans comrades for making a space thats also cool with miscellaneous freaks lol)

[–] [email protected] 21 points 1 week ago

There was a cis woman with a very full, luxurious beard who had a social media presence a while back and among other things she'd talk about what it was like being a woman with a beard and how that challenged and completely upended some people's notions of gender and sex.

And this also makes me think of an interview I saw with an Afghani cis man who didn't grow a beard and would wear a prosthetic beard to keep the Taliban fashion police off his back.

Folks do be policing gender, even when they're informed and trying to be supportive and well meaning.

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[–] [email protected] 37 points 1 week ago (5 children)

me checking both "Binary" and "Non-Binary" because I'm an enby but I'm also literally just a girl

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[–] [email protected] 21 points 1 week ago

this is the dialectic in motion

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[–] [email protected] 36 points 1 week ago (5 children)

after you realized you were trans/gender diverse, how long did it take for you to begin to act on it?

the earliest answer is less than a year? I was doing shit about it after like a week

[–] [email protected] 21 points 1 week ago (4 children)

That was a hard one for me because the realization was so gradual and it took me years to fully integrate the belief that I was trans into my conscious mind even though it was sitting there

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[–] [email protected] 34 points 1 week ago (1 children)

Remember to respond even if your cis

Im gonna be mad if this isnt a ploy to identify and ban all cis users

[–] [email protected] 23 points 1 week ago (1 children)

big sister is watching you

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[–] [email protected] 34 points 1 week ago (2 children)

I think the latter part of this survey is just bad.

  • Asking "at what age did you begin transition?" before any other timeline questions puts the importance and emphasis on actions taken instead of starting with self acceptance. This feels like framing I'd see from people that are less knowledgeable of the trans experience as a whole, which I know isn't the case of the people who put this together.
  • The bigger issue is the follow up question, "after you realized you were trans/gender diverse, how long did it take for you to begin to act on it?" The entire self acceptance moment of realizing you were trans is an after thought to "how long did it take to do something about it?" At no point are we asked about the first big moment in someone's transition, only relative to what many people wrongly assume is the start of a transition.

The combination of these questions in this order and nothing about the beginning of the journey is really unfortunate. I filled out the survey up until that point, but didn't feel like continuing after that. I know there's only so much that can be asked, but I don't think the way this was formatted was an issue with not having enough room for questions or overloading a survey.

[–] [email protected] 23 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago) (1 children)

Asking "at what age did you begin transition?" before any other timeline questions puts the importance and emphasis on actions taken instead of starting with self acceptance. This feels like framing I'd see from people that are less knowledgeable of the trans experience as a whole, which I know isn't the case of the people who put this together.

imo beginning transition is a process, yeah. and it can be different per person. some people have a harder start and some people have a fuzzier start (and is why i put an age range). thing is someone wanted to see what people said to this question so i tried to phrase it as well as possible, i felt like the survey was kinda long already and alternatives to this question means writing like 3 or so extra questions i think

[–] [email protected] 24 points 1 week ago (1 children)

i felt like the survey was kinda long already and alternatives to this question means writing like 3 or so extra questions i think

It's not nearly long enough. It should be 50 questions minimum

[–] [email protected] 30 points 1 week ago (2 children)

gender is a test and if you get it wrong you will not gain entry into college very-smart

[–] [email protected] 28 points 1 week ago

boohoo BUT I WAS TOLD THAT'S WHERE GIRLS GO TO GET MORE KNOWLEDGE!!!

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[–] [email protected] 33 points 1 week ago

Easiest test I've ever taken

[–] [email protected] 32 points 1 week ago (2 children)

preview of how its going so far

[–] [email protected] 23 points 1 week ago (3 children)

146 of us are getting sent to the camps niko-concern

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[–] [email protected] 31 points 1 week ago
[–] [email protected] 30 points 1 week ago

Okay, that's a hundred votes for Hillary Clinton from me. im-doing-my-part

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[–] [email protected] 28 points 1 week ago (1 children)

ooh we finally found a way to do surveys that isn't fedposting

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[–] [email protected] 28 points 1 week ago (3 children)

Some "Yes/No" questions seem kinda gray to me, but I still answered them to the best of my ability.

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[–] [email protected] 26 points 1 week ago (2 children)

us selecting binary non-binary agender and other because we are plural (it can be very confusing)

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[–] [email protected] 26 points 1 week ago (1 children)

2 questions:

Would you recommend Hexbear to any of your transgender/gender diverse friends that do not visit Hexbear?

Is it a general question about hexbear or specifically in regards to the trans/gender diverse atmosphere? There are all kinds of reasons someone might not fit here e.g. being a lib/conservative, not being interested in fediverse, not being online etc.

After you realized you were trans, how long did it take for you to act on it?

Shouldn't there be an option for "not trans"? "Have not yet acted" isn't exactly the same thing. Unless you are trying to make a political point ala "not yet disabled"....?

[–] [email protected] 29 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago) (1 children)

Is it a general question about hexbear or specifically in regards to the trans/gender diverse atmosphere? There are all kinds of reasons someone might not fit here e.g. being a lib/conservative, not being interested in fediverse, not being online etc.

if you say no there are further questions to specify

Shouldn't there be an option for "not trans"? "Have not yet acted" isn't exactly the same thing. Unless you are trying to make a political point ala "not yet disabled"....?

good point, this was a question added by someone else and I had to interpret it. i'll add 'trans or gender diverse' to the question. cis people cannot see this question.

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[–] [email protected] 23 points 1 week ago (1 children)

The crazy thing is that part of me always knew my whole life. But because there wasn't a word for it I just saw it as something to suppress and ignore.

[–] [email protected] 21 points 1 week ago (1 children)

Same! And for me, "when did you start to transition" is a difficult question to answer. Because I started and then repressed it again, a few times before it finally stuck.

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[–] [email protected] 20 points 1 week ago

very gender

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