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Because well, I am Asexual, and well.... it is incredibly rare to find another Asexual person anywhere. Not to shame people for their interests, but I am not comfortable with a lot of posts, even if they are meant to be for a joke, implying that everyone gets horny, and/or that apparent "Peak Hedonism" or whatever it's called, is about having lots of sex. Again, something I am not interested in.

I have seen no signs of any Asexual friendly spaces on this site, not even in the LGBTQIA+ Subcommunity for this site. Although I have been socially isolated by otherwise queer friendly spaces before, for "only" being Asexual.

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[โ€“] [email protected] 41 points 1 month ago (2 children)

Hi! If you're looking for a community specifically for asexual people, we at Lemmygrad have one over at [email protected] ๐Ÿ˜Š

Always nice to meet a fellow asexual person! ^^)/ ๐Ÿซ‚

[โ€“] [email protected] 25 points 1 month ago (1 children)
[โ€“] [email protected] 35 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago)

Your username and this comment and the incongruity are sending me lol

Loathsome Dong Eater promoting the ace community is just really fuckin funny

[โ€“] [email protected] 8 points 1 month ago

Thanks for this link. I have never met other asexuals before I am starting to feel like the only one lol.

[โ€“] [email protected] 34 points 1 month ago (1 children)

Are you looking for a space to specifically discuss asexuality, or a space about general things minus references to sex?

[โ€“] [email protected] 3 points 1 month ago

Kind of both.

[โ€“] [email protected] 33 points 1 month ago (3 children)

Not sure what you are asking. Like is there a comm where nobody ever talks about sex?

[โ€“] [email protected] 36 points 1 month ago (1 children)

the volcel police are only a post away

[โ€“] [email protected] 15 points 1 month ago

The VOLCEL POLICE are on the scene! PLEASE KEEP YOUR VITAL ESSENCES TO YOURSELVES AT ALL TIMES.

ู†ุญู† ุดุฑุทุฉ VolCel.ุจู†ุงุกุง ุนู„ู‰ ุชุนู„ูŠู…ุงุช ุงู„ู‡ูŠุฆุฉ ู„ุชุฑูˆูŠุฌ ู„ุฃู„ุนุงุจ ุงู„ููŠุฏูŠูˆ ูˆ ุงู„ู†ู‡ูŠ ุนู† ุงู„ุฌู†ุณ ู†ุฑุฌูˆุง ุงู„ุฅุจุชุนุงุฏ ุนู† ุฃูŠ ุฃููƒุงุฑ ุฌู†ุณูŠุฉ ูˆ ุงู„ุญูุงุธ ุนู„ู‰ ุญูŠูˆุงู†ุงุชูƒู… ุงู„ู…ู†ูˆูŠู‘ูŽุฉ ุญุชู‰ ูŠูˆู… ุงู„ุญุณุงุจ. ุงุชู‚ูˆุง ุงู„ู„ู‡ุŒ ุฅู†ูƒ ู„ุง ุชุฑุงู‡ ู„ูƒู†ู‡ ูŠุฑุงูƒ.

volcel-police

[โ€“] [email protected] 26 points 1 month ago (2 children)

Yeah, I'm confused. This site is one of the least horny places I've ever seen on the internet.

[โ€“] [email protected] 26 points 1 month ago

i definitely see stuff i would define as horny posting fairly often

but the horniness level tends to be lower than it is in other places, which for me personally means it's fine bc it doesn't trigger my sex repulsion. but it's def there

[โ€“] [email protected] 16 points 1 month ago (2 children)

Ehh i dunno about that chief, there's more horny posting than you think.

[โ€“] [email protected] 7 points 1 month ago (1 children)

That's what VOLCEL POLICE is for

[โ€“] [email protected] 4 points 1 month ago

The VOLCEL POLICE are on the scene! PLEASE KEEP YOUR VITAL ESSENCES TO YOURSELVES AT ALL TIMES.

ู†ุญู† ุดุฑุทุฉ VolCel.ุจู†ุงุกุง ุนู„ู‰ ุชุนู„ูŠู…ุงุช ุงู„ู‡ูŠุฆุฉ ู„ุชุฑูˆูŠุฌ ู„ุฃู„ุนุงุจ ุงู„ููŠุฏูŠูˆ ูˆ ุงู„ู†ู‡ูŠ ุนู† ุงู„ุฌู†ุณ ู†ุฑุฌูˆุง ุงู„ุฅุจุชุนุงุฏ ุนู† ุฃูŠ ุฃููƒุงุฑ ุฌู†ุณูŠุฉ ูˆ ุงู„ุญูุงุธ ุนู„ู‰ ุญูŠูˆุงู†ุงุชูƒู… ุงู„ู…ู†ูˆูŠู‘ูŽุฉ ุญุชู‰ ูŠูˆู… ุงู„ุญุณุงุจ. ุงุชู‚ูˆุง ุงู„ู„ู‡ุŒ ุฅู†ูƒ ู„ุง ุชุฑุงู‡ ู„ูƒู†ู‡ ูŠุฑุงูƒ.

volcel-police

[โ€“] [email protected] 5 points 1 month ago

And itโ€™s still not that horny. You have no idea how much I can horn it up

[โ€“] [email protected] 16 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago) (2 children)

They probably mean a place they can talk about lives and experiences of asexual folks. In a word rife by sexuals (not sure this is the correct term) being asexual could be isolating.

[โ€“] [email protected] 16 points 1 month ago (1 children)

In a word rife by sexuals (not sure this is the correct term)

i think allosexual would be more accurate here. they're like, the complete opposite to us asexuals lmao

[โ€“] [email protected] 7 points 1 month ago

Yeah looks correct

Allosexual, sometimes shortened to allo, is a term used to describe a person who experiences sexual attraction and does not identify as asexual.

[โ€“] [email protected] 16 points 1 month ago (2 children)

idk if there's a term for this, but I assume OP feels alienated by the assumption that experiencing sexual attraction is the norm. Like heteronormativity but for sexuality in general, I suppose.

[โ€“] [email protected] 10 points 1 month ago

Allonormativity is what you're talking about. Amatonormativity is the assumptions related to romantic attraction/relationships.

See Chen's book Ace for a primer on asexuality https://www.angelachen.org/ace

[โ€“] [email protected] 24 points 1 month ago

[email protected] has a rule against aphobia. hexbear-asexual

Feel free to post some memes from Reddit's r/aaaaaaacccccccce or whatever โ€” we just don't have as many active Fediverse users to sustain active communities.

[โ€“] [email protected] 8 points 1 month ago

I definitely think ace comrades (and aro comrades too!) should get a space or regular thread somewhere for themselves, to talk and share what they want to share.

I guess there needs to be a minimum amount of people/interest in it, but I think even if it's not many people here it should be an option.

[โ€“] [email protected] 7 points 1 month ago (2 children)

I do think Asexuals should get a space of their own. I donโ€™t think the entire site should have to repress its sexuality when itโ€™s already weirdly puritanical on that end. I also find it odd for asexuals to be incorporated into LGBTQ comm when sexuality is literally the defining criteria for the comm.

[โ€“] [email protected] 16 points 1 month ago (1 children)

I think GSM (gender and sexual minorities) is perhaps a more accurate label. The community is about being different from the cishet majority, unless you're suggesting straight trans people should be excluded too?

[โ€“] [email protected] 4 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago) (1 children)

Iโ€™m not sure I understand. Why wouldnโ€™t straight trans people be part of an lgbtq comm?

[โ€“] [email protected] 8 points 1 month ago (1 children)

when sexuality is literally the defining criteria for the comm.

Are you suggesting being trans is a sexual thing?

[โ€“] [email protected] 2 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago) (1 children)

They probably forgot to write the "straight" part when you were replying to the comment.

[โ€“] [email protected] 4 points 1 month ago

That's correct. The criticism is still valid though.

[โ€“] [email protected] 2 points 1 month ago (1 children)

Because Asexual people aren't heterosexual. Nor are they necessarily adverse to sex and sexuality. They experience and engage with sexuality differently to allosexual people. They're not just people who are sexually repressed.

[โ€“] [email protected] 2 points 1 month ago

I didnโ€™t say they were sexually repressed

[โ€“] [email protected] 3 points 1 month ago (1 children)

It depends. Are you looking for:

  • an asexual-centric thread where you can talk about your experiences with asexuality?
  • general discussion threads where nobody is horny?
    • I find that sexuality can often be an inescapable persistent undercurrent of online discussions, which really frustrates me. this definitely happens on hexbear sometimes, but I think it's not too bad, as you can always invoke the magic words to get that out of here
      the magic wordsvolcel police!
  • or have you experienced outright ace-phobia on the site?
    • if so, use the report button or inform the mods, and they'll purge the perpetrators
[โ€“] [email protected] 1 points 1 month ago

The VOLCEL POLICE are on the scene! PLEASE KEEP YOUR VITAL ESSENCES TO YOURSELVES AT ALL TIMES.

ู†ุญู† ุดุฑุทุฉ VolCel.ุจู†ุงุกุง ุนู„ู‰ ุชุนู„ูŠู…ุงุช ุงู„ู‡ูŠุฆุฉ ู„ุชุฑูˆูŠุฌ ู„ุฃู„ุนุงุจ ุงู„ููŠุฏูŠูˆ ูˆ ุงู„ู†ู‡ูŠ ุนู† ุงู„ุฌู†ุณ ู†ุฑุฌูˆุง ุงู„ุฅุจุชุนุงุฏ ุนู† ุฃูŠ ุฃููƒุงุฑ ุฌู†ุณูŠุฉ ูˆ ุงู„ุญูุงุธ ุนู„ู‰ ุญูŠูˆุงู†ุงุชูƒู… ุงู„ู…ู†ูˆูŠู‘ูŽุฉ ุญุชู‰ ูŠูˆู… ุงู„ุญุณุงุจ. ุงุชู‚ูˆุง ุงู„ู„ู‡ุŒ ุฅู†ูƒ ู„ุง ุชุฑุงู‡ ู„ูƒู†ู‡ ูŠุฑุงูƒ.

volcel-police

[โ€“] [email protected] 1 points 1 month ago

We've had the VoPo as part of this community's culture since at least 2 years before this site even launched. It's a clear enforcement of "neither horny nor a coomer be". Or does "asexual-friendly" mean "asexual-centric"?

I have at least two ace friends and they're great.