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Is there an Asexual friendly space in this site? (hexbear.net)

submitted 1 month ago by [email protected] to c/[email protected]

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Because well, I am Asexual, and well.... it is incredibly rare to find another Asexual person anywhere. Not to shame people for their interests, but I am not comfortable with a lot of posts, even if they are meant to be for a joke, implying that everyone gets horny, and/or that apparent "Peak Hedonism" or whatever it's called, is about having lots of sex. Again, something I am not interested in.

I have seen no signs of any Asexual friendly spaces on this site, not even in the LGBTQIA+ Subcommunity for this site. Although I have been socially isolated by otherwise queer friendly spaces before, for "only" being Asexual.

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[–] [email protected] 16 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago) (2 children)

They probably mean a place they can talk about lives and experiences of asexual folks. In a word rife by sexuals (not sure this is the correct term) being asexual could be isolating.

[–] [email protected] 16 points 1 month ago (1 children)

In a word rife by sexuals (not sure this is the correct term)

i think allosexual would be more accurate here. they're like, the complete opposite to us asexuals lmao

[–] [email protected] 7 points 1 month ago

Yeah looks correct

Allosexual, sometimes shortened to allo, is a term used to describe a person who experiences sexual attraction and does not identify as asexual.

[–] [email protected] 16 points 1 month ago (2 children)

idk if there's a term for this, but I assume OP feels alienated by the assumption that experiencing sexual attraction is the norm. Like heteronormativity but for sexuality in general, I suppose.

[–] [email protected] 10 points 1 month ago

Allonormativity is what you're talking about. Amatonormativity is the assumptions related to romantic attraction/relationships.

See Chen's book Ace for a primer on asexuality https://www.angelachen.org/ace