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Informal Site Survey: Pride Edition! Are you a cisgender heterosexual? Yes, no, or unsure? (hexbear.net)

submitted 5 months ago by [email protected] to c/[email protected]

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Hey, we still haven't been able to find a secure way to poll everyone yet. I've really been wanting to ask (in the negative, to be more inclusive) what proportion of Hexbear is queer. This isn't going to be super scientific or anything as a result, but just a quick guess.

Please respond to this post with the following emojis :

For yes, you ARE a cisgender heterosexual (cishet):

dean-smile

For no, you are NOT a cisgender heterosexual (cishet):

dean-frown

For unsure, as in you are UNSURE or QUESTIONING if you are queer, transgender, a cisgender heterosexual (cishet), etc:

dean-neutral

If you have anything to add, please use a spoiler tag below your answer like so:

spoiler

hi!

Remember to respond even if you are cisgender, queer, or otherwise. Everyone should try to respond, if you feel comfortable!

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[–] [email protected] 34 points 5 months ago (1 children)

what is this honeypot

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[–] [email protected] 33 points 5 months ago

waltuh

[–] [email protected] 30 points 5 months ago* (last edited 5 months ago)

Hexbear has more lgbt people than the liberal lgbt instances and it's not even trying. fidel-layup fidel-balling

The one neat trick: Visible pronouns that aren't buried in a performative section of the profile page where people can ignore that they exist.

[–] [email protected] 21 points 5 months ago* (last edited 5 months ago) (2 children)

dean-frown imagine being on Hexbear for any length of time and still being cisgender kombucha-disgust

[–] [email protected] 22 points 5 months ago (6 children)

:sadness:

does being non-conforming to the colloquial understanding of masculinity count?

[–] [email protected] 15 points 5 months ago* (last edited 5 months ago) (1 children)

I mean, that is basically the asterisk I put after I call myself cisgender. And even then, only in the sense that I don't identify with the stuff that the boomer men around me consider to be masculine (ie: steaks, football, and diy auto maintenance culture). Signifiers that are frankly becoming dated at this point.

[–] [email protected] 9 points 5 months ago* (last edited 5 months ago) (1 children)

The only thing that I can call traditionally masculine that fits me, is that I like working with shit. If it's something I can get inside of and understand, you better be damn fucking sure I'm tinkering and fixing it on my own terms.

Friends and family tend to call me Złota Rączka

[–] [email protected] 7 points 5 months ago (2 children)

That sounds good. I never really looked into getting into mechanics. Idk, I never tear myself apart over it like some folks do these days. I'm just me, I guess. We're all ourselves.

[–] [email protected] 16 points 5 months ago (1 children)

We're all ourselves.

No, I'm a collection of various personalities I've copied over the years in an attempt to seem more normal

[–] [email protected] 10 points 5 months ago

Duuuude, a plural system that's just all the Ryan Gosling characters would be so cool. I'd hang out with them all day.

[–] [email protected] 7 points 5 months ago

Yeah it's hard work, and without experience or good habits, or just knowledge in general one is bound to hit a wall or possibly even break the thing even worse.

That's why I don't really like the guys who are in it "to prove something", because they always end up making the situation worse. This is one generically masculine thing that I don't like in other men, because rarely anyone's good at it. At least from my experience.

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[–] [email protected] 12 points 5 months ago

Nobody's perfect

[–] [email protected] 20 points 5 months ago (1 children)

dean-frown

miku-gun hello cisgenders

[–] [email protected] 10 points 5 months ago

Hello :33333

[–] [email protected] 17 points 5 months ago* (last edited 5 months ago) (2 children)

dean-frown big showing from the five cishet guys on here

[–] [email protected] 13 points 5 months ago

There's not even a full podcast of us.

[–] [email protected] 12 points 5 months ago

kirby-wave

There's also like 3 cishet women which is great, love that for them.

[–] [email protected] 16 points 5 months ago (2 children)

dean-frown

it feels wrong frowning at something that brings so much joy and is the morally correct thing to be

[–] [email protected] 8 points 5 months ago (1 children)

Yeah I wish we had a poll service I'm just trying to get things done faster

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[–] [email protected] 7 points 5 months ago

ikr

[–] [email protected] 15 points 5 months ago

dean-smile but everyone's a little gay innit

[–] [email protected] 15 points 5 months ago* (last edited 5 months ago)

:dean-frown: literally scheduled to start HRT soon, but who knows? Probably still cis. /s

[–] [email protected] 14 points 5 months ago (1 children)

dean-frown

[–] [email protected] 11 points 5 months ago

Love the flag btw.

[–] [email protected] 12 points 5 months ago (1 children)

YOU POOR, CISHET FOOLS - YOU'RE ALL GETTING ONE-MONTH BANS NOW dean-frown

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[–] [email protected] 10 points 5 months ago

dean-frown

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i tried to be cishet though. good lord, did i try to make that work

[–] [email protected] 10 points 5 months ago

dean-smile

[–] [email protected] 10 points 5 months ago

dean-frown

Though only like two people in my real life know because that feels scary to share.

[–] [email protected] 10 points 5 months ago* (last edited 5 months ago)

dean-smile

Spoiler

For all practical purposes? Yes. I'm a cisgender man who is in a relationship with the mother of my children and I want to keep it that way.

If I for some hypothetical reason were to find a new partner I feel like I could be with any gender, they're all hot in each their own way so I guess I'm bisexual at heart although I feel like applying that label to myself is done form of stolen valor.

As for gender I feel fine about presenting as a guy although it could be fun experimenting from time to time.

[–] [email protected] 9 points 5 months ago

dean-smile I've said it before, I'm bi and very much not attached to my manhood. But for any poll's sake, it's not fitting to ignore that I live in and experience the world as a cishet.

[–] [email protected] 9 points 5 months ago

dean-smile

[–] [email protected] 9 points 5 months ago (1 children)

dean-neutral pete

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[–] [email protected] 9 points 5 months ago

:dean-smile:

[–] [email protected] 9 points 5 months ago

dean-frown

I mean, it's in the name.

[–] [email protected] 9 points 5 months ago* (last edited 5 months ago)

:dean-neutral:

oh I should spoiler this

realistically I might not be cis, given the amount of time I spend in the trans mega. Maybe next poll I'll upgrade myself again.

[–] [email protected] 9 points 5 months ago

dean-neutral

spoiler

I am afab and present as cis and het. I was in love with a girl in high school but haven’t really been attracted to another woman since though I’ve had like romantic-adjacent feelings. I think I might be somewhere in the nb space but I don’t have dysphoria or anything I just don’t particularly feel engaged with the idea of femininity or gender at all

[–] [email protected] 9 points 5 months ago

dean-smile

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just the cissiest little cissy hetting all over the place

[–] [email protected] 8 points 5 months ago

dean-frown

[–] [email protected] 8 points 5 months ago

dean-frown

[–] [email protected] 8 points 5 months ago

dean-frown

spoiler

some days I'm like "am I really queer though??" and then I remember I got a gender affirming surgery

[–] [email protected] 8 points 5 months ago* (last edited 5 months ago)

dean-neutral

spoiler

In a very long term cishet relationship (probably longer than many hexbears have been alive), so I don't really consider myself biderman

, but that would likely change if my relationship status did. Note: this is just something I apply to myself, not others, so I still think you're valid in your identity if this same thing applies to you but you think differently.

[–] [email protected] 7 points 5 months ago* (last edited 5 months ago)

dean-frown

[–] [email protected] 7 points 5 months ago

dean-smile

[–] [email protected] 7 points 5 months ago (1 children)

dean-frown tfw cishets smh

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[–] [email protected] 7 points 5 months ago

dean-frown

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