You know posts like this annoy the hell out of me because people with this mindset put identity before character, and I really hate when that is somebody's list of priorities.

Before coming out as trans, people ditched me when I was mentally unwell. I'd done more than enough to prove the kind of character I have, but say one stupid blanket statement about women in a severe depressive episode, and people treat me as a dangerous man. This despite the fact that I've been open about how the women in my life to that point had either abused me, severely betrayed my trust, or both.

Then I come out as trans and suddenly now the full context of what happened then is understood by others? It's frustrating as hell and makes me feel extremely tokenised. Like wow guys, feels fantastic that I'm being judged by how I identify and not by the merit of my actions or the circumstances I've grown from.

it isnt all men bc they would or wouldnt do something. its all men bc if they chose to do something or avoid doing something as the post states, they wouldnt be held accountable in any meaningful way by anyone. they might get raise, promotions, whatever for such behavior more often than accountability.

the reason its not all women isnt bc women cant do bad things. the reason is who gets away with it or gets advantages for it

statements like these arent a competition of what gender or group can have the most bad people. its who society allows the most to be bad

ik it makes people feel attacked to hear such statements like "all men". but against a group that is advantaged by society, its hard for us minorities to really hurt them using these statements. and it makes us be weary and remember to be weary around men. again not bc all men are all bad, but because if they are, there's nothing to be done about it. all we can do in an oppressed society is remember to be weary

This kind of talk literally harms non-passing trans people and causes us to be excluded from LGBT spaces we should be welcome in.

Like I spent all of college desperately wanting queer friends and not being able to make any because people perceived me as a threat because I looked too masculine.

Not everyone misandry hurts is a man. But also, men are people and we shouldn't be hurting them.

Very real conversation, very productive dialogue

There is a large number of men that stand by when something is happening, or are the perpetrators of violence. I think the reason that men are offended is because it also paints over the men who are trying to be allies. If transfolk started using the phrase "all cis" to describe who is inflicting violence, it would be overwhelming cis people causing violence towards them. It's factually correct. It also wouldn't help framing themselves as a culture war issue.

The issue isn't that its correct, it's the prevalent idea in online communities that "I ought to be right" without some sort of call to action or creation of community. If a person posting about any social issue, whether that be this or immigration rights, or black lives, is simply writing a post with no means for action behind it to simply drive home a point isn't benefitting their community, but stoking outrage to increase engagement on social media.

By using "all men" rhetoric, not only are you alienating men that are sympathetic for the cause, but you're actively driving away men that are teetering on the edge.

I understand how dire of an issue this is. If you really want to make change, stop posting culture war rhetoric and start promoting and volunteering locally. Start to make an actual change instead of getting random men angry online.

This is a straw-all-men argument. I am a man. I have routinely stood up for women at parties when other men are being a problem. I have called it out, cut offenders out of my social groups, given safe rides home, and made it clear I would not tolerate predatory behaviour. I believe a meaningful percentage of men would do the same.

As a parent, it would depend on if I know the parents and kids, not the sexes. Just saying...

So no, not always a man. Some girls can be pretty mean...

The advantage of the bear is predictability, but dead is dead.

If you were at a party with 20 girls and three of them start insulting the appearance of another would you step in? Exactly. All humans.

Goddess bless you, Miisha <3