This is gonna piss some people (men) off, I can already tell...

This is an excellent point and I think it demonstrates really well what people mean by "all men"

Even tho I love men as much as the next straight girl...bear for me, please

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I'm sorry that's been your experience.

I really don't know if it's healthy to reduce issues because it may indirectly affect others. I wouldn't attribute that to misandry more than I would transphobia.

(just to note though I'm aware that I'm not particularly masculine, so that may influence my experience)

In my experience as a (I think?) non-passing transfem, girls (my age that is) have been the nicest to me and are pretty much the only group of people who by in large gender me correctly first try, while guys (my age) honestly don't seem to have the slightest clue or are knowingly being transphobic.

It sucks that depending on your circumstance people can turn out so transphobic toward you, and again I wish it weren't that way, but I think maybe my experience can convince you that it doesn't have to be like that. I'm almost certain girls are generally less comfortable around me than a more passing or cis girl, but at the same time I don't think it'd be fair to try and minimise the violence men (not trans women) by in large are responsible for. I feel less safe around guys, but that's not going to go away as long as this pattern exists.

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