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Anon's lil bro goes through his first break up
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Anon's brother be like:
Guys need to learn how to deal with their emotions. Repressing them does not make them go away.
Go to therapy. It saves and improves lifes.
I've had a therapist for >3 years.
I think MDMA is far superior.
(I would enjoy combining the two, but the law doesn't allow that yet so.)
((Also it's been almost 10 years since I took ecstasy, so it's not like I'm an addict or anything.))
(((In fact, some serotonergic drugs actually have anti-addictive properties, believe it or not.)))
just got to find the right therapist (to combine it woth pyscedelics)
Sometimes it's a "church"
Off topic, but what do I do when my kids go through their first break up? I never asked my parents for romantic advice—which I think is quite common in Asian families such as mine—so I would have no idea what to say if one day one of my boys came to me crying about some stupid little girl that broke their hearts. Any Lemmy dads with sound advice?
One of my first jobs was an Avid tutor where we give guided tutoring to the students. We’re not allowed to show them how to do something we have to ask them guided questions like “what do your notes say about that?” Or “when the problem says this, what’s the next step your teacher told you to take?”
I thought it was stupid at the time but now that I’m an adult I find myself using it in normal conversations. It’s helps people get out of their head and kind of look at a problem head on and keeps you from yapping. It doesn’t really work with my 5 year old but my 8 year old it works really well. Try doing this with any issue they have and you’ll help them a lot
got show that horse where the water is, so to speak.
don't give them advice. just listen to them. don't try to 'fix' things. just allow them to figure it out on their own.
I have teenager nephews who have had a few teenager relationships. The best thing was to let them process and come to their own conclusions. that way they figure out there are no 'easy' answers to any of this, but there are lessons to be learned.
Thanks friend. I was scared that I would do the ol', "you know when I was your age..." I'll definitely listen and acknowledge their feelings without judging or trying to correct them.
also, realize that shit's crazy for kids these days. the level of bullshit kids have to deal with these days is pretty wild, and the bullying never stops thanks to smart phones. when i was a kid if you had issues or conflicts at school... they stopped once you left the building. Today it's not like that.
Anon forgot about the posting of random incel-coded anime "motivation" clips on their social media.
The kid may still come around some day, but it's probably going to get worse before it gets better.
I have no idea what it feels like to be a horny teenage boy roiding up to get muscles, but I can say for a fact that messaging girls and having nothing to show but a muscled-up body and roid-induced anger isn't going to work the way he seems to think it will. When I used dating sites, seeing a guy's shirtless, muscled profile pic was always a turn off, if not a red flag in itself. Include the picture if you want, but put it amongst all the other normal pics you might have, because seeing it as a default pic smells of desperation. If that's what you want to put out, don't be surprised when your only responses are from shallow people (if you're lucky) and (if you're unlucky) catfishers that can sense your need for validation from a mile away.
This isn't hating on muscle bros. I'm sure there are plenty of good guys that just like exercise, or who get caught up in the idea that big muscles are what women want to see. But when they get burned by shallow women and/or scammers that just want to use them, it often reinforces misogynist beliefs, making the cycle of manosphere nonsense harder to escape from.
I'm a guy. when I posted gym shirtless dude bro pics, I got way more attention. Often from women who said on their profiles they 'weren't into guys who most gym selfies'.
People's behavior is what matters. People will chase what gets them rewards. In dating the point is to get sexual attention.
Lots of studies show this, but people on reddit/lemmy seem to live in alternative world I guess. I got zero attention when I was a skinny unmuscled guy, once I started workout out and show it off, I got way more attention. Just like when I point out I went to Harvard, women give me way more attention than if I don't.
Women are people. People are shallow and mostly care about appearances before everything else, and often it's all they care about.
Agreed thought, it's going to get way way worse. Women and men are moving towards these gender extremes the past decade, that have been extremely normalized and seem completely weird compared to how people conceived of gender 20 years ago. Social media is the culprit. A lot of folks increasingly are in this desperation spiral of gender performance and seeing the opposite sex as an enemy they must conquer and control through manipulation and 'value' displays.
There's a big distinction between people's self-image and their behavior. One's confidence in telling a story doesn't come from its adherence to reality, but from its internal coherence. It's why, in user interviews, you stay away from questions like "how do you generally use feature xyz?" but rather ask things like "tell me about the last time that you did xyz". If you ask the former, they'll essentially tell you about their self-image, and how they think of themselves, and with the latter they'll tell you something that actually happened, and they're much more likely to tell you something real about their behavior. It's an unavoidable aspect of talking about yourself, and I'm not calling anyone a liar, but it's something to keep in mind when talking abt stuff like this.
Yeah I know.
The issue is that most folks internally can't see the hypocrisy in their behaviors vs their self-reports, especially in dating.
Hence the prototypical problem of 'why can't i find a nice person to date'... and yet when you see them chase/get excited it's only for folks that treat them like crap. Men and women both. I've also had plenty of friends over the years get utterly disgusted by someone treating them well, and had that same reaction in dating experience. I've also deliberately treated people like crap, and was shocked and horrific how positively they responded to that treatment.
People largely behave emotionally and irrationally. Though in their heads, it's all very rational and logical and makes total sense.
And in the moment it's hard to think about things. I had once date where a woman slapped me in the face for being 5 minutes late. I was so shocked it like just didn't register, and I went on the date anyway. Took her slugging me in the face with a closed fist, on the next date, for me to register that this person was physically abusive. And of course when I walked away and broke up with them... well came to my home and pounded on my door and tried to threaten me into staying with them. And at that point I realized they were not just abusive or angry but just a total psycho.
Yeah in retrospect it easy to see that I should have never gone on that date after the face slap, but in the moment I simply dismissed it. And she passed it off as 'playful' too. etc. etc. Our first two dates prior to all that had been more or less boring and normal and they had been very sweet and fun. But in their mind, I hadn't upset them and until I did there was no reason to hit me. If only had I had not upset them, they would have no hit me! So simple, all I had to do was not upset them!
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When I used dating sites, seeing a guy's shirtless, muscled profile pic was always a turn off, if not a red flag in itself.
I always felt this way too. Not only did I assume they would nit pick my body, because they seem to want perfection, I couldnt help but imagine they would at some point scare me if they ever got upset with me.
A friend of mine had a 17 year old son who just got broken up with for the first time. My son, was only 5 at the time, but the teen said to me, "make sure you teach him how to handle a breakup, I wasnt expecting any of this". He shortly after tried to tell me the earth is flat, with split screen tiktoks as his reference. So, we know what road he was on. The kid was angry, confused, and hurt. It made me very sad. Ive now opened the conversation with my 13 year old about dating and break ups just recently. Im do my best to prepare him.
The chances you meet your life partner in the first shot is SO low. Everyone gets broken up with at some point, best to be prepared for it.
Pics with a pet cat were always green flags, and pics doing an activity
The most attention I ever got from a pic on an online dating profile was when my main pic was me on a unicycle.
Activities, yes! Shows you have interests/a personality
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When I used dating sites, seeing a guy's shirtless, muscled profile pic was always a turn off, if not a red flag in itself.
So bizarre that people would do that. When I was single and on social media and on dating websites (before smartphones), I did want to show off a bit that I worked out, but I had the discretion to, like, wear a T-shirt or a polo in the right lighting to show that I had strong looking forearms and a hint that there's something pretty solid under that shirt. Actually taking my shirt off would have felt way too desperate, and besides, just isn't something that I'd naturally have a picture of myself in.
Just seems to be a mix of validation-seeking insecurity and confidence in one's own muscles. Seems like a lot to unpack, and that combination probably doesn't really send a message that "becoming intimate with me is going to be a rewarding and fulfilling time."
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Could be worse, my older brother had his fiance dump him and he went from feminist democrat to manosphere MAGA.
So after he lost he committed to losing? What would you call someone like that?
an Incel. The manosphere lures them in by making all the problems belong to the woman.
They prey on insecurity. I would have been easy prey for those assholes if I was just a bit dumber.
My brother is pretty dumb but very persuasive so he can pass as an "intellectual". His gateway drug to the manosphere was Jordan Peterson.
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Depending on how far out he's gone, be kinder to him. I have had a few friends who went into the manosphere after their breakups. And, some of them came back. During our chats, one of the things that kept coming back was how easy the manosphere makes it to channel their anger.
For someone in an emotionally vulnerable state, it can get hard to figure out when they moved from, "Fuck her, I want to focus on myself" to "its all women's fault".
Tbf, couple of them really kept going deeper into that cesspool and now I have no contact with them 😅, so ymmv.
It's true, the manosphere can look quite tantalizing when you've got no support network.
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Jesus, he really wanted to prove the Joker right I guess
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Thinking of my partner is terrible motivation when I’m mid-set. It just makes me want to leave and go hang out. The transactional view of relationships feels pretty gross. Which is the point, but verbalizing it helps me see where it gets weird
I mean, have you seen dating advice in 2026?
Everything is ultra transactional. I date actively. Most ladies I meet... simple care about what I can provide for them in terms of money and entertainment... they don't care about much else.
10-20 years ago women I met used to care way less about that stuff and more about our common interests and values and building a relationship. Now the game is more about resource-extraction and people tend to view prospective partners purely in these terms. basically it's all about getting that paper these days.
Last time I was on a date and she asked me what I wanted and I said to be happy and build a life together and be supportive partners, she looked totally confused and asked me 'no like what kind of arrangement do you want?' The concept was completely foreign to her and she got hostile when I said I am not looking for an 'arrangement'.
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Is Omegle still a thing?
No, It's likely the greentext is a few years old
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yeah isn't that from 10+ years ago?
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