TubularTittyFrog comments on Anon's lil bro goes through his first break up

[–] TubularTittyFrog@lemmy.world 7 points 2 months ago* (last edited 2 months ago) (5 children)

I mean, have you seen dating advice in 2026?

Everything is ultra transactional. I date actively. Most ladies I meet... simple care about what I can provide for them in terms of money and entertainment... they don't care about much else.

10-20 years ago women I met used to care way less about that stuff and more about our common interests and values and building a relationship. Now the game is more about resource-extraction and people tend to view prospective partners purely in these terms. basically it's all about getting that paper these days.

Last time I was on a date and she asked me what I wanted and I said to be happy and build a life together and be supportive partners, she looked totally confused and asked me 'no like what kind of arrangement do you want?' The concept was completely foreign to her and she got hostile when I said I am not looking for an 'arrangement'.

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[–] Gullible@sh.itjust.works 2 points 2 months ago (4 children)

It legitimately sounds like you saw a prostitute without intending to. Which- people can be sex workers and that’s fine, but finding that sort of language bleeding into the everyday is a faux pas, to say the least. I personally haven’t met anyone that far gone, but I’ve seen plenty of people interested in only money and entertainment, which seems less unsightly to me. An interest in living life is the barest minimum for seeking someone, after all

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[–] TubularTittyFrog@lemmy.world -1 points 2 months ago* (3 children)

No dude. These women are doctors, lawyers, and other high income highly educated professionals.

That is how they view relationships. their end-goal in a relationship is not happiness or personal satisfaction, or any of that, it's about getting more money. they see relationships as just another career move and if you aren't going to increase their net-worth substantially, they have no interest in you as a human being. if you cant provide them with a massive increase in their income or lifestyle, you are not worthy of them.

it's cold and calculated and careerist, but this is often how they grew up and their entire life is about the score in their bank account being bigger than someone else's. they also see children this same way, there is no point to having children unless the children will be able to attend Harvard and become wealthy professionals themselves. if you ask them what they'd do if their kid coudln't only get into a state school they basically say they would disown their kid or otherwise be ashamed of them.

everything to them is about dollar signs and social prestige that comes with it.

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[–] Gullible@sh.itjust.works 0 points 2 months ago (2 children)

I can’t say I’m entirely convinced, considering this conversation is taking place in a greentext community, but I am fairly glad im past my dating woes

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[–] TubularTittyFrog@lemmy.world 2 points 2 months ago* (last edited 2 months ago) (1 child)

you don't have to be convinced. lots of people doing lots of thing exists that you don't know about.

I've also had women of this ilk ask me to be part of their male sex harem and flip out telling me i'm a horrible asshole when I politely declined. i doubt you ever encountered that while you were dating either and you are free to assume that is also a fabrication/lie.

but also I doubt think you are in the same circles I am. But there are plenty of New Yorker and NYT times articles about these people, because they tend to only exist in a few select cities in a few neighborhoods in those cities, and they are often the same class of folks who dominate the media industry. These are the people who 'network' their toddlers and infants and whose marriages have performance bonuses tied to their spousal duty targets. They very much exist and they have turned relationships into business arrangements.

https://www.nytimes.com/2015/05/17/opinion/sunday/poor-little-rich-women.html

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[–] Gullible@sh.itjust.works 1 point 2 months ago

I’ve certainly not encountered most of this. But, once again, this is a greentext community. Objectively, I’d be an idiot to believe anything here. For an abundance of reasons, this simply isn’t a place to have a conversation about the negative qualities of people, particularly women, with the expectation that others should or would listen.

You’re in the bread line beside the leaners and the laughers, talking about dividends.

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