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How do I stop envying prettier women? in c/asklemmy@lemmy.world
[–] 4 points 2 hours ago

Looks, or looks?

I mean, is it stuff they DO or something they are? I had a sort of duck-to-swan progression, your day may yet come, and if it's a styling, grooming, taking better care of themselves thing, and if you actually want to look more "beautiful" you likely can, by finding your style, taking care of yourself, and not worrying about looking good to anyone but yourself. If you were friends with you, would you call your friend ugly? I hope not. Be a friend to yourself.

There will always be someone better looking. There will always be someone smarter. There will always be someone richer, someone more magnetic, more outgoing and comfortable.

If you are really suffering, it's your mind doing that to you, not your looks, and please know that if you had supportive parents you had more than a lot of people do.

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    Return to basics in c/lemmyshitpost@lemmy.world
    ¿How communism actually work in practice? in c/nostupidquestions@lemmy.world
    [–] 1 point 4 hours ago

    The Bruderhof Christians are communist in the way I understand it. They live in community with all assets belonging to the community, and it works for them.

    I don't think anyone really wants that as some universal scheme, mostly people just want to have way more worker-owned businesses and still have an economy based on money, just a fairer one.

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    WaPo IRL in c/lemmyshitpost@lemmy.world
    [–] 1 point 7 hours ago (1 child)

    Maybe 1/3 of straight women, 2/3 of bi women, and most gay & bi men is enough of a dating pool, though? I'm sure not near 1/3 of straight and bi guys would be into me personally.

    And I can believe the 2/3 thing. I land in the 1/3 and it feels like a minority view.

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    • Could you help me decide if I’m choosing the right size of women’s sport leggings as a man? in c/asklemmy@lemmy.world
    [–] 1 point 18 hours ago

    My leggings do roll down like that in yoga, I'm a lady. Not very curvy though. I don't size down but in the ones that are very light & stretchy I could, usually there are 2 sizes that fit, pick the one that feels best to you.

    It's funny that leggings even are gendered. I do prefer women's pants except sweatpants - mens sweatpants are better, big pockets and a deep rise. But leggings, what is the difference? Do men's have a different gusset?

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    Non-europeans: would you travel to europe right now? in c/asklemmy@lemmy.world
    Man O' War in c/cocktails@lemmy.world
    Centrism did not win the Democratic party the election in c/politics@lemmy.world
    Man O' War in c/cocktails@lemmy.world
    [–] [S] 0 points 1 day ago (1 child)

    I used Evan Williams Bottled-in-Bond (so cheap and so good, it's our house bourbon) and the Dolin vermouth simply because it comes in half bottles and I don't use a lot of vermouth. Someone else may be able to help if you want recommendations. I would recommend an assertive bourbon, though - with the other stuff it will be a little watery if you use a gentler one.

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    • Are both groceries & eating out cheap for Americans who earn $ (minimum wage) in the US? in c/asklemmy@lemmy.world
    [–] 1 point 1 day ago

    Social security is regressive so the floor is around 8% before FWT but you are probably right, I am coming up with 16%. Still - I don't think it's enough after fixed costs to go out to eat, unless you can get 4 wage earners in your household (which is not impossible, I did, and some of my kids did as well)

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    • Are both groceries & eating out cheap for Americans who earn $ (minimum wage) in the US? in c/asklemmy@lemmy.world
    [–] 4 points 1 day ago* (2 children)

    Are you trying to ask how many hours of work it takes to buy a reasonable meal at a restaurant? Minimum wage in Florida is $15. You can buy something that would make a day's food or one cheap meal (without a drink) at a cheap restaurant for that one hour of work, but of course we pay taxes so the net in the paycheck doesn't equal $15. Also you can't just exclude housing like that. Nobody can use groceries if they aren't housed.

    At $15/hour and 25% going to taxes, gross about $2,000/month. Net about $1500 Average rent here 2,500 so with one roommate, rent is still taking most of that.

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    cognac? in c/cocktails@lemmy.world
    [–] 4 points 1 day ago

    Sazerac, you can make that with cognac not rye if you want something cognac forward and boozy and interesting.

    You can use it instead of bourbon in a paper plane, but change the proportions from equal parts to 2x as much cognac, or in other words half of everything else.

    Sidecar is great.

    Best way to serve it, alone? I like on a big clear ice cube, that's how I like anything strong tasting.

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    Halloween! 2026 Edition (lemmy.world)
     

    We are having a party tonight(though nobody has arrived yet) and the cocktails are:

    Toxic Avenger - fresh pineapple juice, Mezcal, Chartreuse, honey.

    Blood Orange Margarita with green mango tequila.

    Black Jellybean, always my Halloween favorite - vodka, sambucca, vanilla, cream soda, this year no lime just a pinch of citric acid in the pitcher, much cleaner

    Mojito.

    Friend Zone (N/A) - strawberry kvass, tonic, lemon. Shockingly good.

    Also: Tepache de pina, coffee, diet coke. Beer & cider.

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    Some of the watermelon (thelemmy.club)
     

    Got near a hundred mini watermelon this year, the very late ones were no good but for a couple months they were glorious. Mini love variety, it was a brutally hot summer and they flourished, I let them take over the whole garden.

    Two plants survived being overrun by watermelon, the asparagus and the hong tsoi. I'm sort of resting it until "spring" which is planted around Feb here.

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    This weekend's bread (thelemmy.club)
     

    Very basic scoring this time. One line one x. I was happy to find some "golden whole wheat flour" yesterday.

    350g Golden whole wheat flour

    650g strong white bread flour

    20g sel gris

    675g tap water

    200g starter made with all purpose white flour and tap water, hydration 100%.

    Just mix, rest, stretch and fold 4x at 30 minute intervals. Bulk rise took awhile, maybe 4 hours this time (it varies, one hour to 8 - is a condition not a time). Split and bench rest then shaped, into cloth lined baskets wrapped in plastic bags, overnight in the refrigerator. Baked cold bread in very hot closed pans 20 minutes then open lids and 20 minutes more. 450F.

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    Breakfast in Tampa (or, guava pastry & a cigar, while reading la gaceta) (thelemmy.club)
    submitted 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago) by [M] to c/cocktails@lemmy.world
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    (Sorry for the mixed measurements - I had a bunch of egg white so had to weigh out 1 egg worth)

    35 grams egg white

    1 Tbsp guava jelly or guava paste

    1 oz good mezcal

    1/2 oz over proof reposado tequila

    1/2 oz Aperol

    3/4 oz lemon juice

    ETA I failed to list one step. First: whisk or muddle the jelly and booze to incorporate it.

    Shake without ice, then with ice. Just as good as it sounds and so beautiful.

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    El Diablo (thelemmy.club)
     

    It's not a looker, but tastes great.

    2 oz tequila (any)

    1 oz lime juice

    1 oz creme de cassis

    2-3 oz ginger beer (I used 1 oz ginger syrup, 3 oz fizzy water, 2 squirts of fire tincture)

    Result of googling "what else can I make with tequila and lime"

    Husband is having a Stella, that's the bottle in the background.

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    Legolas lounging (thelemmy.club)
     

    He's up to 7.5 lb from under 1 lb when we found him. (From 300 grams of baby to 3.5kg of kitten in only a few months, crazy.)

    Here is a "before", the day my kids texted to say they found the source of the meowing I had heard before work. Just a wee handful. Always bold as anything though, he was never afraid of us or our 75lb mutt of a dog.

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    Today is Yesterday is Tomorrow (thelemmy.club)
     

    1 oz barrel strength bourbon

    1 oz barrel strength reposado tequila

    1 scant oz Aperol with a splash of Campari to make an ounce.

    1 oz Amaro Nonino

    1 oz grapefruit juice

    1 oz lemon juice

    Shake together with ice. If you are somewhere it's not still summer, serve up in a chilled coupe. Tart enough for a sugared rim. But it's still hot here, so everything is iced. This is sort of 1.5 servings, I just find it fussy to measure .75 of an ounce. Equal parts is the key.

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    Banderilla (thelemmy.club)
     

    https://makemeacocktail.com/en/cocktail/9953/banderilla

    Equal parts tequila, mezcal, Apricot liqueur and lime, half part Aperol works best IMO, any more Aperol and it gets too sweet.

    This is a pantry recipe for me as I keep Giffard Abricot in stock always. You want a good apricot in this, I think passion fruit or peach would be equally delicious but make sure it's made from real fruit. Also can sub Campari for the Aperol if you want a little more bitter.

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    Clarified watermelon tequila drink (imbibemagazine.com)
     

    Ok so my garden is basically a watermelon patch right now, so I was interested in this as it uses one whole mini watermelon, but this says the juice lasts one day, the drink once clarified lasts months.

    I guess I could freeze the rest, or simply make less, or since the final version keeps well, make more of that - but why does the recipe say to make so much more of the watermelon juice than one would use, if it doesn't keep?

    Has anyone on here done milk clarifying, is it very fussy?

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