[–] 2 points 4 hours ago

What's funny is that this is so not a male/female split. I wanted casual between my long term guys, was thinking to just keep it that way, but then decided to date more seriously and was shocked at the response from these guys I only wanted casually - apparently what they wanted was to date seriously but I didn't see them that way? It seemed like guys were settling for casual hookups because that's what they could get, or what they were expected to want?

I didn't want to date any of them like that! But felt kind of shitty that I hadn't picked up on it, at all. There was zero awareness on my side that these guys were wishing for anything other than the casual hookups.

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  • [–] 1 point 4 hours ago (1 child)

    I do know Catholics who are anti-abortion, anti-death penalty and anti-euthanasia; they strongly believe God should decide the beginning and end of anyone's life.

    Not saying they are right but they are consistent.

    I'm anti-abortion for myself, never had one never thought it was an ok thing. But I don't think laws should apply at all - the existing woman always matters more than the as yet unborn and I've met exactly one person ever who used abortion freely and as her birth control and she was crazy. It's such an edge case law is not the right answer.

    So in short I agree with if you don't think it's right don't do it. Don't try to control other people who aren't harming you. You don't walk in anyone else's shoes, you don't know their pain. If your friend is having an abortion when she wants the baby, but can't figure out how to manage tell her how you can HELP her, don't judge her.

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  • [–] 1 point 4 hours ago

    Oh tonight I made kimchi butter noodles and plopped an egg yolk on it, oh so delicious, and I think you do sourdough? The boy who bakes sourdough discard chocolate chip cookies use yolks and are legit one of the best recipes ever to hit the internet.

    If you are looking for some egg white, those are my two usual egg yolk using foods.

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  • [–] 1 point 4 hours ago*

    If it's like I remember - you can choose to use rules & tools to mod on Reddit, you don't have to, but I am not exaggerating, there were hundreds of reports per day on the normalnudes one I helped with, and hundreds of guys a week who ignored the "no isolated erection shots" and had their posts removed, also so many women advertising, both of which were disallowed on that thread- I would not be surprised or annoyed if they got a tool to recognize those.

    Also it was a don't offer critique unless it's asked for place, otherwise if you can't say something nice say nothing, so comments got legitimately reported all day too.

    It's hard to imagine the scale of the bad actors on that site, it's a constant flood being held back.

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  • [–] 1 point 9 hours ago (1 child)

    It's not like it's a beard, though, it's normal on all adults. I personally don't like it on anybody, appreciate grooming but saying it's only disgusting on women is so strange. The worst for me is guy pit hair with deodorant stuck to it, I never see that on women.

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  • [–] 6 points 12 hours ago

    A nice and human scale userbase.

    I did help mod a community on Reddit. Daily, so many reports it took a team of us to manage them. I was on there for about 15 years, it's not a recent problem.

    I single handedly (so far) mod a community here. 2.5 years, two reports total. What a joy.

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  • [–] 4 points 14 hours ago

    Not exactly but they all get old and whiney eventually. Same as us I guess. I didn't LOVE my husband's dog, he didn't train her well, but I did like her ok.

    I did have a kitten so evil I might have taken him to the pound except I couldn't catch him. He would go into unreachable spaces and piss, would hiss at anyone who approached, was just a wee spitfire demon straight from hell. But one day he metamorphed into a gorgeous long haired tomcat, sweet and gentle and smart. He used to give me kisses with paws on my cheeks, no claws. Was jealous of men, but otherwise an utter delight of an adult cat.

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  • [–] 2 points 14 hours ago

    Oh jesuchristo, I guess we just name everything after Amerigo Vespucci now? Every lake is Lake America, every road called America like we are some vast subdivision - America Highway, America Road, America Circle, America Street, America Court, America Way, America Path. Every forest just called America National Forest. Every river the American River.

    I cannot wrap my mind around how idiotic this guy is.

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  • [–] 5 points 1 day ago

    If this isn't a wrong answers only question:

    I would be more comfortable if the guy gave me space, but as long as you are not accosting me, a "good evening" and keep going is fine.

    If it's wrong answers only, choose any of the walks from the ministry of silly walks Monty Python sketch.

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  • Frankenstein (thelemmy.club)
     

    This was a test-and-adjust drink. I was looking for something with Fernet & Mezcal and everything I saw were stirred very boozy things, I was not in the mood for. I saw one though with cachaca and lime so tried a margarita approach.

    Started with these, shaken:

    1.5 oz tequila

    .75 oz each Fernet and Mezcal

    Juice of one lime.

    Nope. Too flat, too sour. Added about 1/2 oz Pineapple Amaro, and a squirt of Agave, shook again and THIS is a keeper. I guess Fernet does like sweeter drinks more. This one is balanced and I can taste all the ingredients but they did cocktail into a new taste. I usually don't taste the pineapple in the pineapple Amaro but it's shining in this drink - I may try another Fernet-Mezcal-Pineapple Amaro variation (when I am in the mood for stirred and boozy) as I think those together are the magic here.

    Small modifications (lemmy.world)
     

    Just made a penicillin with a splash of banana liqueur - it's not really perceptible as banana but makes it rounder, fuller.

    When I make a paper plane I like double bourbon but also replace some of the Aperol with Campari - less sweet and extra bitter is better.

    What small changes do you always make to a standard recipe?

    Green mango (thelemmy.club)
     

    So, I saw this recipe that inspired me.

    https://punchdrink.com/recipes/green-mango-martini/

    But don't have mango eau de vie and not about to make it, and I think as written it would be too sweet for my palate. And of course everything needs ice here in the summer. I did make the green mango tequila.

    So far I can vouch for tequila, green mango and sauternes - it's a surprisingly good combination.

    This is:

    2.5 oz green mango infused tequila

    1 oz Sauternes wine

    .75 oz lemon

    .25 oz Giffard Apricot (because I have no mango liqueur right now and did you hear Chinola is making a Guava liqueur? I am excited for that.)

    Squirt of honey.

    Shaken with ice.

    My thoughts - the green mango tequila is tart and I think the lemon sort of muddies the flavor. I would try this again with more Sauternes and a splash of mango liqueur, leave out the honey and if it was too sweet adjust with citric or malic acid not lemon.

    I would also like to try the green mango tequila with ginger beer but not today, this is a one and done.

    And I was thinking to convert the recipe into a punch or sangria, a pitcher cocktail using a whole bottle of Sauternes, but I think that it might need to go in a different direction. Again, I do love the combination of the green mango with the Sauternes, and tequila - the main flavor combo is good. I've tried amchur and tequila - the green mango infused tequila worked so much better to get that flavor.

    Beach Cruiser (thelemmy.club)
     

    1 oz tequila blanco

    1/2 oz each mezcal, Campari, passion fruit syrup, ginger syrup and lime.

    Squirt of fire tincture

    Shake these together and add 1-2 oz IPA beer.

    I had to substitute apricot liqueur for the passion fruit and it's really good so I suspect anything fruity would be fine. Beer I used is Jai Alai and only 1 oz, I don't like it but as an ingredient in here can't taste it, must add something though. This is bitter in a great way, somehow not too sweet, I went a little heavy on the lime but close to the 1/2 oz. If you do like beer I think you could safely increase it past the 2 oz and still have something really nice.

    The rainy season is finally here too. So happy to be out here watching the rain.

    Suggest a mocktail? (lemmy.world)
     

    I am halfway through the Dry July and would like to celebrate but at a loss. I have the following ingredients, and define non alcoholic as non intoxicating not completely alcohol free, so splash of something ok.

    N/A liqueurs:

    Pathfinder

    Seedlip Spice

    Other:

    Coffee

    Coconut water, coconut cream

    Tepache de piña

    Enough pineapple to make a little pineapple juice

    Strawberries

    Tonic water

    Yuzu lime tonic water

    Ginger, lemon, lime, bitters

    A pretty full bar, and a small amount of good red wine.

    Considering just Pathfinder in tonic, that ends up like Chinola soda. But with all this I just feel like it could be more interesting!

    Dirty Ranch Water (www.texasmonthly.com)
     

    Taking July off (I do dry July every year) but this is going on the list for August!

    1 lime

    1 spoonful Tajin

    2 oz tequila

    1/2 oz jalapeno brine

    Bottle of Topo Chico

    Quarter the lime and use one quarter to make a tajin rim on a glass. Mix the juice of the rest of the lime, the tequila, the brine in the glass, add ice, top with topo chico, keep topping off the glass till it's gone. Then, as is traditional, start over :)

    Not baked, but (thelemmy.club)
    submitted 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago) by to c/sourdough@lemmy.world
     

    Sourdough donuts

    Used the recipe on Perfect Loaf, way too long to detail here but the ingredients are, for 18 of them (he always has these weird odd measurements like 101, I do often round them with no ill effect but will write them as the recipe states):

    203 g very active starter 100% hydration

    253 g all purpose white flour

    253 g strong white bread flour

    187g eggs - use extra yolk to adjust to this weight

    101 g butter

    101 g white sugar

    91 g water

    10 g salt

    It takes a couple days to finish these (I start Friday midnight to get Sunday morning donuts) but most of that time is waiting not working).

    Couple of notes- he says the final rise takes 12 hours but that must be in a cold climate, here in the subtropics it took about 7 to be perfect. And when he says careful attention to shaping he means it, but it's easy if you keep the dough chilled, with the butter in the dough it's not too sticky. Don't be afraid to really stretch it when forming the little dough balls, you want a tight surface all over. If you can shape buns, and your starter is robust, this is about a foolproof recipe.

    https://www.theperfectloaf.com/naturally-leavened-bomboloni-doughnuts/

    I can't see the picture in the header, hopefully you can. Will put below too.

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