Even with the corners tied ours slips so badly. They need more than just the corners secured.

Here, when my ex got 2 months behind, the FLSDU sent me a letter saying they contacted the state department (of the US) to let them know he (the ex) was not allowed to travel out of the country. So I guess that is different from revoking a passport (he didn't and doesn't have one). That would have been like $600 in arrears. I don't think deadbeat parents should be able to leave the country,

The drivers license thing I still think worse and so counterproductive, like WTF. I would never want him to lose that even if deadbeat, too many jobs here require a car.

Not voting SUCKS and voting is a civil right that needs to be protected, you cannot be forced to use a passport as ID when fewer than half of the adults in the US have a passport, that is crazy, it won't stand.

Being unable to get a job so you get even further in arrears and can't support yourself either, is worse.

They have been doing that here for decades. It is certainly not a "little -enforced" law.

It's to keep deadbeat parents from disappearing to another country and makes sense.

What doesn't make sense is that they will also revoke the drivers license. Which then makes it even less likely the parent will be able to make the child support.

I am a fit 50-something lady and no I don't think I could beat up the fascist in chief because fat guys have mass on their side. I can think of ways (like the personal protection fighting that gets taught to women) to do enough to run away, but don't underestimate fat guys. They carry all that weight around all the time.

Oof my husband snores. I let him fall asleep first because it's worst when he first falls asleep, when I get in bed I say please stop snoring and he can for long enough I get to sleep, and I guess it's just not as loud after that because I almost never wake up from it. If I snore it wakes me up though, happens rarely but sometimes if I am on my back will snort while asleep and it jerks me awake - I don't understand how my husband can sleep though his own snoring, at all .

Yeah I have often pinned the whole top edge with a few big safety pins. Those things need more than 4 ties, it really is maddening. And no, I don't have sensory issues. In general I love textures of all sorts. Duvet covers are made wrong. They need to tie all along the top, then halfway down the sides, then the bottom 2 corners.

More recent, I enjoyed The Jinn-Bot of Shantiport and it is different but somehow a similar vibe, I think you would like that one.

I have never struggled with weight. Or not in the direction of overweight anyway. When I am full I don't want food. When emotionally upset, I REALLY don't want food. I don't need willpower or a big bowl of kale before every meal.

If someone can live the life I get to have, with a drug, that is awesome. The GLPs have some good side effects, they have been used long enough now that there's increasing evidence they reduce the risk of dementia, heart attack, and stroke (even in diabetics of normal weight, not using it to lose weight) - not all the side effects are bad, and if it is well tolerated it's a reasonable drug to just stay on.

I do agree that lifestyle comes first. And think most people do enjoy a healthy lifestyle if they try it. But I don't think someone should have to do more than I do, just to get to the same place.

This whole conversation reminds me of getting migraine treatment - the doctors would say oh try avoiding food triggers. What food triggers? Every single food, oh and also fasting. Heat, cold, sex, no sex, stress, relaxation , caffeine , no caffeine. The list of migraine triggers was "life".

I got them with my period though, not something I could avoid, and even though I'm sure the doctor was trying to make me feel empowered to do something about it, it always felt like they were blaming me for getting the migraines.

I have had them managed with emergency med imitrex by injection for 30 years, once a month and now less often with menopause plus estrogen and progesterone daily. Would I rather have had to take extreme lifestyle measures just to avoid crippling headaches? No. The drugs worked so much better.

There is no inherent virtue in avoiding drugs. They are tools, in the same toolkit that holds a good diet and physical activity and meditation.

Are you healthy? I am thin but not as much as I'd like (mental issue) and always have to remind myself that the result of a healthy lifestyle is a healthy body. Not one that necessarily looks like your ideal form. I can walk & dance, stand on my hands & cartwheel, eat healthy, exercise and work on athletic goals not size goals.

If you are happy with your lifestyle and feel like you are nourishing your body and exercising it, weight lands in different places for different people (or as I found, different for same person at different ages.) But you feel good? That seems like a good result.

If you don't feel good, that is when I would push the doctor for more tests to figure out what the heck is going on.

And blood pressure medicine, and plenty of other drugs. If benefits > risks & costs, who cares?

One criticism of this analysis (which I think is mostly spot on) those GLP drugs help people change their lifestyle by turning off the 'food noise'. They don't, by themselves, make anyone lose weight. They help people who overeat be not hungry all the time so that they can eat better and work out more - it's the eating better and working out more that is causing the weight loss.

Yes, also walking to the store, walking to work. I don't use my car much - arranged my life so that I can get everywhere I need to, mostly, without driving but that is unusual as fuck where I live, everyone else in my office arrives by car. I am not usually the only bike in the rack at the grocery but maybe 3, 4 bikes and a hundred cars in the lot. No bike rack at my doctors' offices, nor dentist, nor aesthetician. None at restaurants.

Walking a lot or even biking on e-bike everywhere like I do, makes a difference in what you can eat without getting fat. But also I cook at home, from ingredients, do make sweet stuff for the kids & husband but don't like it much myself. Grow some of our food, and lunch biggest meal.

I don't think it's impossible here, to have a reasonable lifestyle, I do it and am not an unusual person, not super rich or super ambitious or determined. I do think it's more difficult and you have to be intentional AND either be lucky (city grew up around me) or flush with money, to create a life that is the "fifteen minute bubble" with everything nearby.