[-] RBWells@lemmy.world 1 points 6 hours ago

Absolutely not. Arrogant and asshole would disqualify him from being hot, even if in shape and good looking. And obviously he wouldn't be likeable.

I think people misunderstand the "confidence is sexy". It's not arrogance or cockiness, more like the sort of self-confidence that makes you feel the person accepts themselves and you. The people who are easy to talk to and who listen. That kind of just being at ease with the world, that most of us struggle with. That is the sexy confidence.

[-] RBWells@lemmy.world 2 points 6 hours ago* (last edited 6 hours ago)

It really depends on where you live. I'm in zone 10 (subtropical) and can grow successfully:

In the cold season - fennel, collard greens, broccoli, cauliflower, cilantro, arugula, lettuces. Sometimes radishes. Eggplant and peppers (eggplant can last a few years here if no freeze)

In the hot season - okra, watermelon, basil, eggplant and peppers, sweet potato (Stokes Purple). Tomatoes. Hong tsoi (plant survives winter but produces in the rainy season)

Trees - citrus, figs, carambola, longan, loquat, bananas.

If you are in a cold place with little space, radishes are fast growing. Potatoes are filling and good to do in containers so you can find them. Greens are very healthy with so much nutrition per calorie, and collards don't mind a freeze, neither does fennel.

[-] RBWells@lemmy.world 2 points 7 hours ago

I have not found one. If I come in at 9, leave at 18, or 18:30, if I come in at 8, same. So I come in at 9.

But in general here it's a 9 hour day with an hour break for lunch, that makes the 8 hour workday.

[-] RBWells@lemmy.world 1 points 8 hours ago

We have clouds, but in the subtropics solar does pay for itself eventually, the sunlight is so direct. I don't want panels on my roof (we finally got everything hurricane -rated, metal roof, storm windows, and insurers here will sometimes drop houses with solar panels on the roof) but would like solar carport, back porch, and if it was possible, yeah over the garden but angled for the dappled light - I lose a lot more food plants to too much bright sun, than any other factor.

[-] RBWells@lemmy.world 8 points 10 hours ago

It's SO sunny here that I'd probably get better results in my garden by shading it under solar panels, there are plenty of places they help ag, not harm it. You don't have to space them so tightly or have them completely flat like that picture.

[-] RBWells@lemmy.world 1 points 1 day ago

No. IF they ask, and you know they are really asking, sure. Or if usually they are an awesome cook, and you are also an awesome cook, and this meal is bad, they already know, so sure, especially if you have actual advice to give. But if someone gives you a meal they are enjoying and you don't like it, I don't think a critique is appropriate, and particularly if the critique is just "man, you suck at cooking." Generally speaking, if someone makes you a meal there is only one correct response and it's "thank you." No don't praise the food if you think it sucks but just say thanks.

[-] RBWells@lemmy.world 1 points 1 day ago

I know dark is more traditional but used the Stade's white rum, it has a nice flavor and I have a whole liter left over from a wedding reception one of our kids had at our house.

[-] RBWells@lemmy.world 13 points 1 day ago

Ouch. That is so fucked up. I am older and have been structurally tight (skin too tight at opening) sex hurts when it goes on too long. The "husband stitch" is abusive. And doctors do it because they do episiotomy, which is also awful because that cut doesn't heal as well as a repaired natural tear and you might not tear at all.

Complimentary tightening surgery my ass. That doesn't help mothers at all.

Rehab with kegels does help and obviously if you tear, a repair. The midwife recommended working up to fisting before having a baby and man I wish I had taken that advice.

But being tight right at the opening of the vagina just hurts, there is no advantage to it.

[-] RBWells@lemmy.world 19 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 hour ago)

I think the point of communication is to communicate. People who "have no filter" aren't communicating because they don't care how their words are received. (ETA, neither are those who send emails to cover their ass, just to prove they 'communicated') Knowing your audience is half the battle, right? I am harshly straightforward with other people who are, because if they can dish it they better be prepared to take it. But mostly I try to speak in a way that can be received by the person I'm talking to.

I'm ok with the no filter people unless it's someone using it as an excuse to be mean, that does happen. "I'm just brutally honest!" No. You are not.

[-] RBWells@lemmy.world 76 points 1 day ago

She was 9 months pregnant and they couldn't wait and schedule her court date after the birth?

Clearing the room is not a good defense. Have you ever had a baby? I have, and handcuffed it would be terrifying. Being in court IN ACTIVE LABOR should not be allowed at all, how can you give real answers or pay any attention to what is going on?

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Piña Colada (lemmy.world)

No pictures but made piña coladas for my family today.

1 can unsweetened coconut cream

10 oz rum

10 oz fresh pineapple juice

Juice of 2 juicy limes

4 oz simple syrup because all the pineapple was tart

Frozen pineapple chunks, probably 2 cups in volume but not packed.

Scoop of ice, also probably 2 cups in volume but not packed.

First cooled the liquids, mixed, in the freezer. Then everything into the blender. Really good, boozy pineapple smoothie. And it's raining!

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2 oz fresh pineapple juice

2 oz overproof bourbon (or one with strong flavor)

1 oz amaretto (I used Adriatico)

1/2 oz pineapple amaro

1 oz lemon

Squeeze of agave syrup - if your amaretto is traditional & sweet, omit this, and add a tiny pinch of fine salt.

Shake everything with ice, pour over fresh ice.

It's really good, but I think would be better with a drizzle of syrup from amaretto cherries and a garnish of the same, and probably better with a sweeter amaro. I don't have either right now. But honestly pineapple and whiskey is hard to mess up. It's good.

Yes I moved the glass off the magazine right after the picture.

[-] RBWells@lemmy.world 13 points 2 days ago

A huddle they were doing soon after a shift change. They were chanting, and I found it so creepy and unsettling. The last thing we need is a Walmart cult.

[-] RBWells@lemmy.world 19 points 2 days ago

I am a mom, but used to sometimes carry my oldest by her feet, in one hand, squirming like a fish, when she had a fit somewhere out in the world when she was toddler age. The change of perspective seemed to help. That kid also ended up being an acrobat.

My brother always held babies so awkwardly, even his own, it was funny.

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The Belmont (ish) (thelemmy.club)

2 oz Glenglassaugh

0.5 oz Galliano

0.5 oz Giffard Abricot

1 oz lemon

1 inch piece ginger

Small spoonful brown sugar

Shake everything with ice, strain into a glass over new ice. Very nice! Galliano is underrated.

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You can't read it on the board but this was the special at the hotel bar today, they have a Bourbon bar, all sorts of good whiskey on the shelf. Always a sucker for a fruity bourbon sour!

Don't know exactly what is in it but my guess is bourbon, lemon, cherry heering and soda water. Can taste the whiskey, the cherry is not dominant, nor the lemon. More refreshing than I'd expect from something 'bourbon cherry'

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Three years old and I've not had to moderate even thrice! Will have a cocktail later to celebrate but wanted to say thanks for making this place great!

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submitted 3 weeks ago* (last edited 3 weeks ago) by RBWells@lemmy.world to c/cocktails@lemmy.world

Featuring Juno, our velvet hippo.

This made 2.

4 oz gin (Farmer's)

6 oz grapefruit juice

1 oz Campari

1 oz lime

8 oz tonic (fever tree light tonic, la mejor)

Stirred with ice, strained over fresh ice with one lime wedge squeezed in and put in. A little watery, the grapefruit maybe not quite perfect but it's good.

Because the fever tree comes in weird sized bottles, there was left over so I made a gin & tonic for my daughter's girlfriend. She did not like it but a splash of St. Germain fixed it for her.

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Strap on your adblocker, this is a very adsy website but this story was good. I do a lot of waste diversion drinks but no trash can in a bar is absolutely incredible.

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I'm having a Friend Zone, a non alcoholic cocktail, as I still have strawberry kvass. One of the most delicious cocktails around. Batched it for a party once and nobody could even pick it out as the booze-less one.

https://imbibemagazine.com/recipe/friend-zone-a-zero-proof-strawberry-drink/

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Rhubarb martini (thelemmy.club)

2 oz vodka

1/2 oz lemon

1/2 oz St Germain

1/2 oz rhubarb amaro

Not sure what else to call it. If a drink can be said to be vodka-forward, this is. It's balanced, a little sweet, barely tart, a little bitter, and I don't think I'd want anything adjusted but it is sort of like a really good flavored vodka. I am enjoying it. And I do love a pink drink. May work on this as a start to a Thanksgiving punch.

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Spumoni Highball (thelemmy.club)

1 oz Campari

1oz orange liqueur

2 oz gin

2oz fresh grapefruit juice

6oz Fever Tree light tonic water

Shook first 4 ingredients with ice, stirred in the tonic water. Tried it and OMG way too sweet for me, bitterness perfect but so overwhelming sweet. Added:

Juice of an entire lemon

And it's delicious now. Like a bitter sparkling grapefruit lemonade. This recipe made 2 servings but I am having both. One for an aperitif and one for dessert.

Regular spumoni recipe has the Campari, gin, grapefruit, tonic and SUGAR. I cannot imagine.

Featuring my neighbor's ever so American truck, and my in between front garden, looking bare but I planted sunflowers & cosmos & giant marigold, they are wee sprouts now. Hopefully won't all get eaten by birds.

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Today's Bread (thelemmy.club)

The crumb

30% whole wheat, the rest strong white flour. 70% hydration, no mixer just stretch & fold 5 times 30 minutes apart, rest until puffy, split into loaves and rest overnight in lined baskets, covered with plastic bags, in the fridge.

Bake next day in hot cast iron (you can see it in the picture) this time 450F for 20 minutes closed then 30 minutes open.

This (or slight variations) is the bread my kids call THE Sourdough.

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Tommy's Margarita (thelemmy.club)

Basically a tequila daiquiri. I used my beloved Tequila Ocho.

2 parts tequila, one part lime, squirt of agave (to taste. Less in mine, more in the one I made for my daughter). So simple, so good.

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