[–] 3 points 6 hours ago (1 child)

I personally don't wear a bra except at work. Got so tired of the unnatural barbie doll look being enforced. Even at work I don't bother trying to pad so heavy there is no shape.

That too - padded look seems to be falling out of favor in the mainstream as well.

It's not a sexy thing for me, it's comfortable. I don't need the support so no bra feels best.

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  • [–] 2 points 9 hours ago

    Burned tomato paste is delicious though. Burn it.

    When using jarred sauce I usually first brown some tomato paste in olive oil, maybe with an anchovy or two. Then a half bottle of wine and let it reduce. Then the jarred sauce and let it all simmer together while the pasta cooks.

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  • [–] 5 points 9 hours ago (2 children)

    Yeah I miss my sadistic masseur so much, I used to go to a guy who was like 6'5" and strong and gay - ideal combination - and the massages hurt but I would feel so much better after. I don't need it to feel good during the massage, what I want is to fix whatever is going on. I realize logically that the hard pressure is not necessary to release muscle tension and fix things, but it has been more effective for me personally. I want to feel better after the massage than I do during it.

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  • [–] 17 points 20 hours ago (2 children)

    There is a very severe lack of non-sexual touch In the world right now. Massage is so nice, it's therapeutic. I get esthetician facials too - if you want a less fraught (for you) experience of the same sort of experience I highly recommend those, and so good for your skin too.

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  • [–] 14 points 1 day ago (2 children)

    This is such an odd problem. Are massage therapists not licensed in your state? I haven't ever run into that - I am a lady and prefer a male massage therapist, and nobody has ever been any sort of unprofessional. Husband is a man, prefers a female massage therapist and same - he jokes about it but it doesn't happen with legit places. My brother in law and his wife go to a Korean bathhouse that looks sketchy but they say it's similarly very safe, professional and no sex stuff. Because they don't want to lose their state license. If massage is regulated in Florida I don't understand how it's not regulated everywhere.

    I'd probably tell the manager on your way in that you want massage! Only massage, nothing extra.

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  • [–] 1 point 1 day ago

    We have 2 kids in the military and as long as it doesn't affect them, they are just waiting it out like most of us would with a bad boss. They aren't highly placed though.

    I do think he's a raging misogynist and racist, and doesn't hide it. Both our military kids are white (mostly, enough to pass certainly) and men, so they aren't being targeted directly by his policies. They do know he is making the military weaker but figure they can wait him out (again, like most of us would do with a bad boss)

    I don't think it's so much that people are just placating him, more that he, like Trump, fires anyone who opposed him so then ends up surrounded by yes men, with no idea he's making bad decisions. Like if I relied on copilot to help me make decisions, yes? "Oh yes, that makes perfect sense"

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  • Small modifications (lemmy.world)
     

    Just made a penicillin with a splash of banana liqueur - it's not really perceptible as banana but makes it rounder, fuller.

    When I make a paper plane I like double bourbon but also replace some of the Aperol with Campari - less sweet and extra bitter is better.

    What small changes do you always make to a standard recipe?

    Green mango (thelemmy.club)
     

    So, I saw this recipe that inspired me.

    https://punchdrink.com/recipes/green-mango-martini/

    But don't have mango eau de vie and not about to make it, and I think as written it would be too sweet for my palate. And of course everything needs ice here in the summer. I did make the green mango tequila.

    So far I can vouch for tequila, green mango and sauternes - it's a surprisingly good combination.

    This is:

    2.5 oz green mango infused tequila

    1 oz Sauternes wine

    .75 oz lemon

    .25 oz Giffard Apricot (because I have no mango liqueur right now and did you hear Chinola is making a Guava liqueur? I am excited for that.)

    Squirt of honey.

    Shaken with ice.

    My thoughts - the green mango tequila is tart and I think the lemon sort of muddies the flavor. I would try this again with more Sauternes and a splash of mango liqueur, leave out the honey and if it was too sweet adjust with citric or malic acid not lemon.

    I would also like to try the green mango tequila with ginger beer but not today, this is a one and done.

    And I was thinking to convert the recipe into a punch or sangria, a pitcher cocktail using a whole bottle of Sauternes, but I think that it might need to go in a different direction. Again, I do love the combination of the green mango with the Sauternes, and tequila - the main flavor combo is good. I've tried amchur and tequila - the green mango infused tequila worked so much better to get that flavor.

    Beach Cruiser (thelemmy.club)
     

    1 oz tequila blanco

    1/2 oz each mezcal, Campari, passion fruit syrup, ginger syrup and lime.

    Squirt of fire tincture

    Shake these together and add 1-2 oz IPA beer.

    I had to substitute apricot liqueur for the passion fruit and it's really good so I suspect anything fruity would be fine. Beer I used is Jai Alai and only 1 oz, I don't like it but as an ingredient in here can't taste it, must add something though. This is bitter in a great way, somehow not too sweet, I went a little heavy on the lime but close to the 1/2 oz. If you do like beer I think you could safely increase it past the 2 oz and still have something really nice.

    The rainy season is finally here too. So happy to be out here watching the rain.

    Suggest a mocktail? (lemmy.world)
     

    I am halfway through the Dry July and would like to celebrate but at a loss. I have the following ingredients, and define non alcoholic as non intoxicating not completely alcohol free, so splash of something ok.

    N/A liqueurs:

    Pathfinder

    Seedlip Spice

    Other:

    Coffee

    Coconut water, coconut cream

    Tepache de piña

    Enough pineapple to make a little pineapple juice

    Strawberries

    Tonic water

    Yuzu lime tonic water

    Ginger, lemon, lime, bitters

    A pretty full bar, and a small amount of good red wine.

    Considering just Pathfinder in tonic, that ends up like Chinola soda. But with all this I just feel like it could be more interesting!

    Dirty Ranch Water (www.texasmonthly.com)
     

    Taking July off (I do dry July every year) but this is going on the list for August!

    1 lime

    1 spoonful Tajin

    2 oz tequila

    1/2 oz jalapeno brine

    Bottle of Topo Chico

    Quarter the lime and use one quarter to make a tajin rim on a glass. Mix the juice of the rest of the lime, the tequila, the brine in the glass, add ice, top with topo chico, keep topping off the glass till it's gone. Then, as is traditional, start over :)

    Not baked, but (thelemmy.club)
    submitted 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago) by to c/sourdough@lemmy.world
     

    Sourdough donuts

    Used the recipe on Perfect Loaf, way too long to detail here but the ingredients are, for 18 of them (he always has these weird odd measurements like 101, I do often round them with no ill effect but will write them as the recipe states):

    203 g very active starter 100% hydration

    253 g all purpose white flour

    253 g strong white bread flour

    187g eggs - use extra yolk to adjust to this weight

    101 g butter

    101 g white sugar

    91 g water

    10 g salt

    It takes a couple days to finish these (I start Friday midnight to get Sunday morning donuts) but most of that time is waiting not working).

    Couple of notes- he says the final rise takes 12 hours but that must be in a cold climate, here in the subtropics it took about 7 to be perfect. And when he says careful attention to shaping he means it, but it's easy if you keep the dough chilled, with the butter in the dough it's not too sticky. Don't be afraid to really stretch it when forming the little dough balls, you want a tight surface all over. If you can shape buns, and your starter is robust, this is about a foolproof recipe.

    https://www.theperfectloaf.com/naturally-leavened-bomboloni-doughnuts/

    I can't see the picture in the header, hopefully you can. Will put below too.

    Leña (thelemmy.club)
     

    1 oz tequila claro (Tequila Ocho, la mejor)

    1/2 oz mezcal

    1/2 oz Luxardo Bitter Bianco (see note)

    1/4 oz Ancho Reyes rojo

    1 oz fresh pineapple juice (see note)

    3/4 oz fresh lime juice

    1/3 oz agave nectar (again, see note)

    Shake all with ice, pour into chilled rocks glass over fresh ice. It is delicious.

    Notes: I don't have that luxardo, used half Campari half bitter rhubarb liqueur; doubled the pineapple juice because I literally just made it and it's amazing. This doesn't need 1/3 oz of agave, less is better. Finally - it was quite difficult to make one of these with those teeny measurements. I would recommend making two at a time.

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