Our office is full of oddball people. Tips first:

I think making friends is the most important move. Talk with people a little even if you don't personally need it. Learn how they talk, what they are working on, what are the pain points for them in their own work.

Pay attention to communication styles. The VP of finance, I can just send her a message like "hi, X, you didn't send the file, could you send it?" But my boss (who does have ADD) I have to go talk to him before I send him anything, and repeat what I told him inside the email, he is not bothered by that.

If you are good at getting to the end product using different paths, that shows more understanding than someone who can follow a process without missing steps. Make sure to ask more about what result they want, or what they want to know, less about how to do it.

And know when to cut your losses - I know about myself that I shine in a startup situation and at a chaotic time at any company. I can solve problems for other people! If I worked somewhere people didn't like to get suggestions, I would be so irritating, right? So I don't work in those places and I cultivate the environment I want too. Eventually this job will get too corporate and I'll probably find a startup for my last job then retire if possible.

Being in tune with other people works so well that I tell you here - we have a boring daily meeting and I was in there one day just trying to think of animals whose names started with the letter C. Because man, that meeting is so dull and repetitive. The next day I asked when we went in "what animals start with the letter D?" Everyone plays this game during the meeting now, even my boss. We did animals, jobs, now movies. Because it's not so distracting or disruptive, and it makes the meetings more fun, every once in a while someone will stop and say "Fast and Furious!" And I write it down.

If their struggle is because they are in a more political sort of bureaucratic place, where the heirarchy is strict and enforced, 'you have your boss talk to my boss" place, where people are angling to take other people's jobs and you are given responsibility without empowerment, I would say find a different job. There are positions where the ability to ride out chaos and see new ways of working are valuable.

I am a senior now and a lot of what I do is take the harder tasks, try to clean them up and then hand them off to someone else, now with a good process. There is always another problem.

It will sound stupid, but the main thing you need, to succeed in a job, any job, is to understand people. It comes naturally to some. For those of us not natural at it, you have to do it on purpose - mirror people's communication styles some, remember to say good morning.

Also set so many reminders on your laptop or phone.

On the counter: Microwave, kettle, coffee grinder, toaster.

Kept in pantry:

Blender, instant pot, food processor, slow cooker, immersion blender, big Kitchen Aid mixer.

There have been times the mix has been different. In my household it's my husband who would want everything tucked away, I would keep more out.

Red Dirt Girl, all of it really but this always gets me:

She loved her brother I remember back when

He was fixin' up a '49 Indian

He told her, "Little sister, gonna ride the wind

Up around the moon and back again"

He never got farther than Vietnam

I was standin' there with her

When the telegram come for Lillian

Fontaines DC song A Hero's Death is probably the most uplifting punk song in existence, I love it.

Chorus:

Life ain't always empty.
Life ain't always empty.
Life ain't always empty.
Life ain't always empty.
Life ain't always empty.
Life ain't always empty.

Don't get stuck in the past.
Say your favourite things at mass.
Tell your mother that you love her.
And go out of your way for others.
Sit beneath a light that suits ya.
And look forward to a brighter future.

(Chorus)

Sink as far down as you can be pulled up.
Happiness really ain't all about luck.
Let your demeanour be your deep down self.
And don't sacrifice your life for your health.
When you speak, speak sincere.
And believe me friend, everyone will hear.

(Chorus)

Bring your own two cents.
Never borrow them from someone else.
Buy yourself a flower every hundredth hour.
Throw your hair down from your lonely tower.
And if, and if.
You find yourself in the family way.
Give the kid more than what you got in your day.

(Chorus)

Never let a clock tell you what you got time for.
It only goes around, goes around, goes around.
Take your family name for your own great sins.
'Cause each day is where it all begins.
And don't give up too quick.
You only get one line, you better make it stick.
If we give ourselves to every breath.
Then we're all in the running for a hero's death.

The heck? I do have like ten pair of jeans and don't wash them unless I get something on them, but still end up washing a pair of jeans every second week at least. Always manage to get them dirty in some way.

My husband used to not wash his much but got a rash on his thighs & the doctor said to wash them more often. Not like every time you wear them, but not just twice a year.

Can you dry your clothes on the hangers that go into your closet & just move them into the closet when dry? Or dry them in the closet with the door open? Do you need the rack at all? I dry my air dry stuff on hangers a lot.

I was going to say merino & silk, because I don't have to wash mine often, until I read that it's the putting away you don't like.

Or maybe get nice baskets on a shelf, or a dresser with drawers, and go back to your sort-and-toss.

ETA: or trade chores. Everyone in my house does their own laundry, but my husband washes the dishes, I put them away, because he doesn't mind washing dishes, I hate it. I cook because he can't. If there is something else you can do for your spouse that they don't like, maybe they would put away your clothes in return.

I'm not worried about population decline but regret to inform Anon that I was around when there were half as many people and it was not better. Sorry. There was terrible pollution and more crime.

Well it's more often too warm than too cold here, so what I use to keep the starter stable is the refrigerator; the house is a proofing box so when I'm reviving it, the countertop. But 5 years after we moved in here, I realized my oven has a PROOF setting. Which seems to simply turn the light on, lol.

Eh? Just buy a house in a city, not in a house farm. I wouldn't ever live in any of those communities. Maybe they are different elsewhere but here they are crazy, rules about what color your door can be. And all the houses in them are garage houses, the ones with the garage out farther than the front door. If that's what you mean by modern, I hate them.

We buy old and slowly renovate and retrofit. But there are new houses nearby too, though mostly they are the garage houses, yuck. In the city there is still code enforcement, if you really ignore the grass you can get a ticket. but no rules about landscaping type (you don't have to have a lawn out front) or what color you paint the outside of your house. Or whether you have a clothesline.

I make a kimchi jigae with tofu & bacon or pork belly and my kids think it's one of the most delicious things they have ever tasted.

Kimchi grilled cheese is so good if you have some left over. Look up the video "late night kimchi grilled cheese" it's not a recipe, grilled cheese doesn't need a recipe (I'd argue a stew doesn't either) but it's awesome.

https://music.youtube.com/watch?v=PV8LmXEjpTQ

I'm kind of picky about wine, don't like many of them, but some of the ones I like are cheap and others pricey, different wines taste very different from each other. This is a step up from liking none of them, before.

Coffee I tend to think the preparation matters more, but have certainly had bad coffee and good coffee.

Cheese you are just wrong on. There is quality, some cheese is made with xanthan gum and wishes and is not really cheese, or is so rubbery and flavorless it is bad. I do like so many different kinds, am not limited like with wine. But don't think it's reasonable to say that processed shreds or slices are "as good as" a real cultured milk cheese.

I do agree it's not a benefit to develop a palate to the point you loop back to being really picky like someone who just likes white bread and chicken tenders, and that it's better to enjoy more things.

Oh God his knees are facing forward though. That is someone looking at a lifetime of pain. Hips rotate, that's how ballet turnout works. Not by torquing your knees. Keep your knees pointing in the same direction as your toes, or pay for it in pain.