[–] 2 points 51 minutes ago

BMI is bullshit but mostly in the other direction - people who are overfat without being overweight by BMI. It's much less common to be overweight without being overfat.

What is also true, though, is that the risk curve for underweight is sharp but for overweight is pretty flat - a few pounds over just doesn't add much risk, while a few pounds under does add some risk.

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  • [–] 5 points 1 hour ago

    Millions, certainly. Probably about 2 of them, if we had that today I would be pretty confident. That is not likely to actually ever happen, or at least not before it wouldn't be enough.

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    She said love love love is everything.
    I said yeah, I guess, whatever.
    She said what the hell does that mean?
    I said nothin', it's just good to have a backup plan.

    She said I guess that means you don't got love.
    I said maybe I love everyone.
    She said that's the same as loving no one.
    I said ok, I guess, whatever.

    Dan Bern in his New American Language song.

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  • [–] 7 points 8 hours ago (1 child)

    GenX - I think I look my age but when I tell people my age at work they look so surprised. So to some extent I think people just think, say, 50, looks older than it does. It's true I don't look like my mom did at this age (and she wasn't a smoker) skincare and sunscreen do work. And I work out more. Like the lady in the images, I did look about 25 at 15 but then looked like that for a long time.

    As someone else here said though - if you are looking at celebrities, in general they have also had work done, and Botox, the lady in the picture looks botoxed for sure.

    If you go farther back, most people had harder lives. My maternal grandmother aged faster because her husband beat her; her mom was in the Great Depression, and so on. We complain now because we see how good it could be but it's still better than the past was.

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  • [–] 6 points 22 hours ago (1 child)

    I hope you can let this go. It was not your intent to do something illegal and you almost certainly didn't accidentally do anything illegal either.

    It is ok to like even gross things, lol. Women make money on onlyfans doing things I find gross but they have a paying audience. You are obviously not alone if you found others who were into the same stuff. It's going to be ok.

    Don't overreact. Breathe, give yourself grace, you are a person like all of us.

    And again I hope you can relax soon.

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  • [–] 9 points 23 hours ago (3 children)

    It took me a long time to figure this out but - would you judge a friend for having kinks? If it was someone else, not you, who was into whatever this is, would you treat them how you are treating yourself?

    Think of yourself as a friend, don't judge. If you aren't wanting something truly non consensual, don't judge yourself. Enjoy what you enjoy, you probably are not the only one who does.

    Now - having said all that, I'm assuming that you really do enjoy what you enjoy. There are situations where you get sort of dragged along by an algorithm, not something coming from your own desire. In that case sure, maybe de-escalate some and see if you get more enjoyment that way. But still, don't judge. You did not build that algorithm.

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  • [–] 1 point 1 day ago

    The interior of properly baked potato is fluffy and delicious, and is unlike roasted chunks of potato (though I like those too). I do like the toppings as well, butter, cheddar, sour cream, scallions - but I would put the same in mashed potatoes, that's separate from the baked potato question.

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  • [–] 3 points 1 day ago

    To get sleepy? Yin Yoga knocks me right out. Cold and slow yoga, lots of forward folds calm the nervous system.

    Otherwise I just wait until I get sleepy to go to bed.

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  • [–] 3 points 1 day ago

    The complaining and bad kissing. It is nice to connect with someone on a mental level like that but you didn't write about any sort of physical chemistry (I would be out of there was none). And your initial post focused on the complaining, it sounds like that impressed you. Did you complain he was early or complain about where he took you?

    Don't worry, please. There are other guys who will fit you.

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    Got near a hundred mini watermelon this year, the very late ones were no good but for a couple months they were glorious. Mini love variety, it was a brutally hot summer and they flourished, I let them take over the whole garden.

    Two plants survived being overrun by watermelon, the asparagus and the hong tsoi. I'm sort of resting it until "spring" which is planted around Feb here.

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    Very basic scoring this time. One line one x. I was happy to find some "golden whole wheat flour" yesterday.

    350g Golden whole wheat flour

    650g strong white bread flour

    20g sel gris

    675g tap water

    200g starter made with all purpose white flour and tap water, hydration 100%.

    Just mix, rest, stretch and fold 4x at 30 minute intervals. Bulk rise took awhile, maybe 4 hours this time (it varies, one hour to 8 - is a condition not a time). Split and bench rest then shaped, into cloth lined baskets wrapped in plastic bags, overnight in the refrigerator. Baked cold bread in very hot closed pans 20 minutes then open lids and 20 minutes more. 450F.

     

    (Sorry for the mixed measurements - I had a bunch of egg white so had to weigh out 1 egg worth)

    35 grams egg white

    1 Tbsp guava jelly or guava paste

    1 oz good mezcal

    1/2 oz over proof reposado tequila

    1/2 oz Aperol

    3/4 oz lemon juice

    ETA I failed to list one step. First: whisk or muddle the jelly and booze to incorporate it.

    Shake without ice, then with ice. Just as good as it sounds and so beautiful.

    El Diablo (thelemmy.club)
     

    It's not a looker, but tastes great.

    2 oz tequila (any)

    1 oz lime juice

    1 oz creme de cassis

    2-3 oz ginger beer (I used 1 oz ginger syrup, 3 oz fizzy water, 2 squirts of fire tincture)

    Result of googling "what else can I make with tequila and lime"

    Husband is having a Stella, that's the bottle in the background.

    Legolas lounging (thelemmy.club)
     

    He's up to 7.5 lb from under 1 lb when we found him. (From 300 grams of baby to 3.5kg of kitten in only a few months, crazy.)

    Here is a "before", the day my kids texted to say they found the source of the meowing I had heard before work. Just a wee handful. Always bold as anything though, he was never afraid of us or our 75lb mutt of a dog.

     

    1 oz barrel strength bourbon

    1 oz barrel strength reposado tequila

    1 scant oz Aperol with a splash of Campari to make an ounce.

    1 oz Amaro Nonino

    1 oz grapefruit juice

    1 oz lemon juice

    Shake together with ice. If you are somewhere it's not still summer, serve up in a chilled coupe. Tart enough for a sugared rim. But it's still hot here, so everything is iced. This is sort of 1.5 servings, I just find it fussy to measure .75 of an ounce. Equal parts is the key.

    Banderilla (thelemmy.club)
     

    https://makemeacocktail.com/en/cocktail/9953/banderilla

    Equal parts tequila, mezcal, Apricot liqueur and lime, half part Aperol works best IMO, any more Aperol and it gets too sweet.

    This is a pantry recipe for me as I keep Giffard Abricot in stock always. You want a good apricot in this, I think passion fruit or peach would be equally delicious but make sure it's made from real fruit. Also can sub Campari for the Aperol if you want a little more bitter.

     

    Ok so my garden is basically a watermelon patch right now, so I was interested in this as it uses one whole mini watermelon, but this says the juice lasts one day, the drink once clarified lasts months.

    I guess I could freeze the rest, or simply make less, or since the final version keeps well, make more of that - but why does the recipe say to make so much more of the watermelon juice than one would use, if it doesn't keep?

    Has anyone on here done milk clarifying, is it very fussy?

     

    My coworker went to renew her driver's license.

    They sent her back, said she needed a birth certificate because she didn't have the star on it yet. She's old and from some small town up north so this took 6 months plus another to get another DMV appointment.

    She went back yesterday and they said no, you also need the marriage certificate from your first marriage, the divorce documentation, the marriage certificate from your second marriage and the divorce documentation from that too.

    So now her license is expired, and she can't renew it until some tiny vital statistics department far from here responds to her with paper copies of all those items.

    I am wildly infuriated.

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    This was a test-and-adjust drink. I was looking for something with Fernet & Mezcal and everything I saw were stirred very boozy things, I was not in the mood for. I saw one though with cachaca and lime so tried a margarita approach.

    Started with these, shaken:

    1.5 oz tequila

    .75 oz each Fernet and Mezcal

    Juice of one lime.

    Nope. Too flat, too sour. Added about 1/2 oz Pineapple Amaro, and a squirt of Agave, shook again and THIS is a keeper. I guess Fernet does like sweeter drinks more. This one is balanced and I can taste all the ingredients but they did cocktail into a new taste. I usually don't taste the pineapple in the pineapple Amaro but it's shining in this drink - I may try another Fernet-Mezcal-Pineapple Amaro variation (when I am in the mood for stirred and boozy) as I think those together are the magic here.

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