[–] 6 points 3 hours ago

Yeah what the fuck, I hate stuff like this. Surely the kids had the babysitter's phone number. I remember having to work while the kids were on summer break and think 11 is the age you are allowed to leave them unsupervised in FL. My kids did babysitting at 14! Overnight with literal babies, sometimes. And the 14 year old in question acted appropriately, obviously they aren't irresponsible.

My parents left me at home, if I didn't want to go on a trip, from 10 or so years and it was fine. Even before cell phones, and back when crime rates were exponentially higher here. It was so nice for me, to have time alone, I remember how nice it felt.

It's a bigger example of the laundromat problem. I drive to the laundromat with a baby in a car seat and the laundry in baskets. Do I leave the baby in the car and take the laundry in, or take the baby in and go back out to get the laundry? I can't carry all of them at once, it's an impossible situation.

Hopefully the charges are thrown out and the kids stay with her. Abusive dad seems a much worse choice.

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    Not sure I enjoyed my 20s, had more of an "it gets better" arc but I would say value your friends. It gets harder and harder to meet up and to make new friends, do the most you can to stay close to the ones you have now & your life will be better for it.

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  • [–] 1 point 17 hours ago

    Jason Isbell has such a good song about anxiety, appropriately titled "Anxiety".

    Anxiety, why do you always get the best of me, I'm out here living in a fantasy, and I can't enjoy a goddam thing!

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  • [–] 2 points 22 hours ago

    We have 2 grocery stores in walking distance, not great ones but one has a liquor store and also sells 10 limes for $1 so I do go there sometimes.

    The one we do weekly, is about 4 miles I think? So an easy 20-30 minutes on the electric bike (if my husband can't go I take the bike) or a quick drive. Better store though.

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  • [–] 2 points 1 day ago* (last edited 4 hours ago)

    I have a funny experience with kids and people guessing my age. I had one set in my early 20s, and another set in my late 30s. People who knew me from my first kids thought I was the age I am, people who saw me with my second kids thought I was much younger than I am, and people who saw me with all of them thought I was older than I am because they thought I was the grandma. Except occasionally my oldest complained, she said people thought we were a lesbian couple with kids, that people thought she was a lot older than she was.

    Which taught me, people don't really look at you much, they make assumptions based on your situation, and that colors how they see you.

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  • [–] 2 points 1 day ago

    A hat helps too, every inch of hat brim helps.

    I was allergic to every sunscreen on the market from when I was 12 and got a bad allergic reaction to one (face swelled, such a rash) but then the mineral ones eventually got better (that's what I mostly use) and the Korean ones got available here (those are amazing, gentle and effective) so for the last 30 years I have been able to screen and my skin is good enough people comment & ask for my routine. In my early 20s, like you, there was a period I could only use water, or a little pure jojoba.

    So I think to some extent you can recover it. Retin-A and sunblock every day.

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  • [–] 1 point 1 day ago

    If it meant I could download language packs, likely yes. Otherwise probably not. And not in the current setup where some company could likely turn off your brain if you missed a payment.

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    I didn't have hard periods (well not in the sense of cramping, migraine at the start and heavy bleeding) so this may not align with how you are feeling, but I'd just say "sure, as long as it's not a hike or mountain climbing, I just got my period and feeling it a little, not hungry & can't drink for a couple days but would love to hang out and talk, had such a nice time with you". Or something like that, however you would say it.

    Walking is good for cramps though. Also ibuprofen 3x a regular dose right as you are getting your period can prevent them, if you can stomach it.

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    Got near a hundred mini watermelon this year, the very late ones were no good but for a couple months they were glorious. Mini love variety, it was a brutally hot summer and they flourished, I let them take over the whole garden.

    Two plants survived being overrun by watermelon, the asparagus and the hong tsoi. I'm sort of resting it until "spring" which is planted around Feb here.

    This weekend's bread (thelemmy.club)
     

    Very basic scoring this time. One line one x. I was happy to find some "golden whole wheat flour" yesterday.

    350g Golden whole wheat flour

    650g strong white bread flour

    20g sel gris

    675g tap water

    200g starter made with all purpose white flour and tap water, hydration 100%.

    Just mix, rest, stretch and fold 4x at 30 minute intervals. Bulk rise took awhile, maybe 4 hours this time (it varies, one hour to 8 - is a condition not a time). Split and bench rest then shaped, into cloth lined baskets wrapped in plastic bags, overnight in the refrigerator. Baked cold bread in very hot closed pans 20 minutes then open lids and 20 minutes more. 450F.

     

    (Sorry for the mixed measurements - I had a bunch of egg white so had to weigh out 1 egg worth)

    35 grams egg white

    1 Tbsp guava jelly or guava paste

    1 oz good mezcal

    1/2 oz over proof reposado tequila

    1/2 oz Aperol

    3/4 oz lemon juice

    ETA I failed to list one step. First: whisk or muddle the jelly and booze to incorporate it.

    Shake without ice, then with ice. Just as good as it sounds and so beautiful.

    El Diablo (thelemmy.club)
     

    It's not a looker, but tastes great.

    2 oz tequila (any)

    1 oz lime juice

    1 oz creme de cassis

    2-3 oz ginger beer (I used 1 oz ginger syrup, 3 oz fizzy water, 2 squirts of fire tincture)

    Result of googling "what else can I make with tequila and lime"

    Husband is having a Stella, that's the bottle in the background.

    Legolas lounging (thelemmy.club)
     

    He's up to 7.5 lb from under 1 lb when we found him. (From 300 grams of baby to 3.5kg of kitten in only a few months, crazy.)

    Here is a "before", the day my kids texted to say they found the source of the meowing I had heard before work. Just a wee handful. Always bold as anything though, he was never afraid of us or our 75lb mutt of a dog.

     

    1 oz barrel strength bourbon

    1 oz barrel strength reposado tequila

    1 scant oz Aperol with a splash of Campari to make an ounce.

    1 oz Amaro Nonino

    1 oz grapefruit juice

    1 oz lemon juice

    Shake together with ice. If you are somewhere it's not still summer, serve up in a chilled coupe. Tart enough for a sugared rim. But it's still hot here, so everything is iced. This is sort of 1.5 servings, I just find it fussy to measure .75 of an ounce. Equal parts is the key.

    Banderilla (thelemmy.club)
     

    https://makemeacocktail.com/en/cocktail/9953/banderilla

    Equal parts tequila, mezcal, Apricot liqueur and lime, half part Aperol works best IMO, any more Aperol and it gets too sweet.

    This is a pantry recipe for me as I keep Giffard Abricot in stock always. You want a good apricot in this, I think passion fruit or peach would be equally delicious but make sure it's made from real fruit. Also can sub Campari for the Aperol if you want a little more bitter.

     

    Ok so my garden is basically a watermelon patch right now, so I was interested in this as it uses one whole mini watermelon, but this says the juice lasts one day, the drink once clarified lasts months.

    I guess I could freeze the rest, or simply make less, or since the final version keeps well, make more of that - but why does the recipe say to make so much more of the watermelon juice than one would use, if it doesn't keep?

    Has anyone on here done milk clarifying, is it very fussy?

     

    My coworker went to renew her driver's license.

    They sent her back, said she needed a birth certificate because she didn't have the star on it yet. She's old and from some small town up north so this took 6 months plus another to get another DMV appointment.

    She went back yesterday and they said no, you also need the marriage certificate from your first marriage, the divorce documentation, the marriage certificate from your second marriage and the divorce documentation from that too.

    So now her license is expired, and she can't renew it until some tiny vital statistics department far from here responds to her with paper copies of all those items.

    I am wildly infuriated.

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    This was a test-and-adjust drink. I was looking for something with Fernet & Mezcal and everything I saw were stirred very boozy things, I was not in the mood for. I saw one though with cachaca and lime so tried a margarita approach.

    Started with these, shaken:

    1.5 oz tequila

    .75 oz each Fernet and Mezcal

    Juice of one lime.

    Nope. Too flat, too sour. Added about 1/2 oz Pineapple Amaro, and a squirt of Agave, shook again and THIS is a keeper. I guess Fernet does like sweeter drinks more. This one is balanced and I can taste all the ingredients but they did cocktail into a new taste. I usually don't taste the pineapple in the pineapple Amaro but it's shining in this drink - I may try another Fernet-Mezcal-Pineapple Amaro variation (when I am in the mood for stirred and boozy) as I think those together are the magic here.

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