I mean, that is gardening though. I can't baby things (well, except the jaboticaba I'm trying to bonsai), I just plant things and figure out what works. Winners stay and eventually you get a garden.

Okra and watermelon love the heat here, and the trees do fine. Most food plants I grow in winter though. Well from October through April.

It's hard to say without knowing the first name, go with what sounds good together. Or use your first name as your last name. Olivia Olivia or Esther Esther.

WHAT?

Just kidding.

There's a range of actual volume, my boss I cannot hear half the time because he is quiet but a couple of coworkers have voices that really carry, it's not exactly volume or not just volume, it's throw.

Talkative we are, overall. Not everyone of course, but there is a lot of talking.

And pushy and curious we are, overall, too. I think that can read as loud too.

If you are rich, you can self insure for everything. Home insurance costs us 4k a year on average, for 25 years now. They insure up to about 300k. No claims. Do that math. If I had a half million to escrow, no way would I be paying that. I would just hold onto enough to rebuild and let it make money.

Health insurance like I carry should also cost a lot less than it does, but I guess it's the same kind I would have if rich, high deductible but insured against very high cost events.

When I was poor, though, no health insurance and overall we paid less every year, than I pay for insurance now. Yes even the years I gave birth and even the years there was an emergency room visit, not carrying insurance was cheaper than having and using it. But the problem with that here is that unlike home insurance, the possible cost of care is essentially unlimited without any insurance. You could get some disease and end up with tens of millions of dollars of bills. It ought not be like that but it is.

I can't. One of my job requirements is that I need to work someplace I think is at least neutral, or is good. So far it's only been neutral and I am ok with that.

I do think some people can be a force for good in a bad place but I am not strong enough to do that.

Edit to add an example - I heard a story about a guy working in corrections - a prison warden - who was working to change the system from punitive to remedial, and had reduced recidivism by a huge amount, like it's 5%, compared to 50% in most of the nation. I think he is a good person in an evil industry (the American prison industry). Randy Liberty. Not kidding, that is his real name.

For me this has been a curve not a slope. Hard childhood, getting better in later middle age, expect a harder time later but so far things have been easier.

So I think "it gets better" is a reasonable thing to say to kids having a hard time. It can get better.

Old old? Yes I agree. Even healthy old people, your friends are dying around you, it hurts.

Well. Everyone has a balanced life that includes work, exercise if able, fun free time and rest. Everyone has enough to eat and the economy is more at the bottom than the top. All companies are employee owned.

I don't think anything would collapse, there are enough examples of big and small employee owned companies to know it works.

We are not driving much anymore and the city is hella crowded because now nobody wants to live on the outskirts anymore, we all want to live close enough to everything to walk there. we will have to deal with it. But at least it would leave room for farms & wild spaces. Farmers would still want to farm but small farms only oh no everything is expensive but well, no more profits being funneled up and out so we can afford it, it will settle out.

I wouldn't worry about being tan here, we are diverse. And I don't borrow trouble. But those requirements are insane for someone just visiting.

If it's for work and he has the return ticket he'd probably be fine - our European/Asian/Australian employees have been coming here for meetings no problem but -

They land in Tampa or Orlando not Miami or Jax

They have round trip tickets and an agenda for what they will be doing (not an hour by hour thing, but a purpose for being here)

I don't think there will be trouble but why risk it, and why not vote with your dollars or Euros and not come? That is the only language the fuckers at the top speak.

(I do not think it's nice to say Caucasian is a standard human though)

I cannot imagine anyone jumping to that conclusion, this has to be a joke. Like, when I first saw the house of my now husband, the front door opened to a big empty room and my first words were "oh, this is wonderful, it's so empty it looks like a ballroom, you could have a big party here!'. Like, sure, he cannot decorate and defers to me on home renovations now because he always likes what I design (I design, he has veto power) but how is that dysfunctional? He was just fine with the open space, it worked and a house is for the people who live there. And a big empty space is such a flex in a way, like look - I have more house than I need. Guys aren't waiting around hoping someone comes and fills that up, they are enjoying the space, right?

If someone compliments your home, I just can't see getting mad about it.

Like more vertical height in torso, not just long legs. Lots of room between crotch and natural waist. I am like that, but tall clothing seems to think tall women are short women on stilts. I do not need more inseam, I need higher rise because I'm long waisted.

Can confirm. Am same 5'9".

Like there are two measuring systems. One for guys that rounds up by a few inches. What also is funny is I am keeping my height better than my husband (yoga really rocks for that), but he is always taller than me in his mind, and probably always will be.

It's normal & I don't care, only care about behavior - I expect straight guys are looking at women, aware of attractive women, notice nice figures, men are very visual in general, nothing bad about it. And I expect gay guys are constantly checking out men as well.

Bad is remarking on it all the time, touching, staring really hard when the lady looks uncomfortable about the staring, looking at boobs when someone is talking to you - you already know all this! Just noticing, you aren't going to be able to turn that off and ought not if you could.

Me, I notice looks but not often turned on by anyone's look. And I notice guys looking and do not care, don't think it means anything.