Yes. All except search by genre.

I listen to community radio, look at music related websites, let the music app dj, sometimes my kids show me music or vice versa, and opening acts at shows.

Sexy time? No thanks

Movie? No thanks

What do you want to do?

Sit on the porch with you, have a drink and talk, go for a walk, sleep, whatever.

Why not just ask? Or:

I'm gonna watch Hot Fuzz, do you want to?

OMG you are so hot I want you right now.

Not that it's someone's responsibility to know how to ask things, but I think it does help to you know, know your partner. Someone asking "sexy time?" wouldn't make me want sex, and I might want to watch a movie if I know which one.

Even better - "I'm gonna play Genshin, unless you wanna watch a movie, is there anything you want to watch? "

Like, there are probably a thousand better ways to approach this. Maybe it's in the delivery not the suggestions.

I've met plenty of Republicans who just think that the R means a better economy. Single issue voters. Not socially conservative, live and let live, but terrified that Democrats will crash the economy somehow. Don't ask me, I don't understand it either.

And plenty of liberal Christians, which actually makes more sense.

Woah is that safe? Losing height? I'm 5'9" and a woman and honestly always wanted to be 5'10". Dad was 6'4" so I had hope but no. Don't actually care if it knocks out guys, nobody needs to be universally attractive, just a good enough person overall to find what they are looking for.

Glad for you, though - happy it helped you feel more womanly, that must have been a nice surprise.

But he's taller than both the girls in the top picture. How is that even short?

So, anecdotal, but I have found this runs both ways. Tall guys go for short girls. Short guys go for girls shorter than them usually. Guys my height (the average height here) are less likely to care.

Average height of men in the US is 5'9" or a smidge shorter, for women 5'4" or a smidge shorter. In this YouGov survey the title was "ideal height for a woman is 5'6", for a man 5'11" which I think is kind of funny, like everyone just wants to be two inches taller.

Leaning into it is kind of funny but yeah it makes sense, gives you a sense of control.

Mostly what I do is exercise though - I run it off physically, that helps so much.

Ha, same. I have always called it "minority attractive" because most guys would not be into me, but there is an enthusiastic subset who are.

I don't think I was ever ugly enough to lose the beauty privilege though, if that makes sense. The bar is not set that high. What I am now is older, though, which starts to work the same way. It gets more difficult to get hired, people don't see you as much. Lower on the totem pole of priority. I'm ok with it, had sort of a duck-to-swan progression already, back to duck is ok.

Age laws (children have developing brains and are not assumed to be able to legally consent)

Right to treatment for addiction.

Right to know what substance you are using (free of contamination, if it's cut the carrier substance should be disclosed)

Prohibition on operating heavy equipment or weapons while high.

I think that about covers it for me.

I chunk it, don't think of it a a project just an ongoing work.

So for example we are renovating the half bathroom but it is necessarily a slow project. I need to:

Clear the closet space we are opening up, which required:

2 outdoor storage units (one done one pending)

Relocating the indoor stuff to other spaces (done)

Painting (also done in steps, there are a bunch of splotches painted on one wall from testing colors - chose now but need to buy the gallon of it)

New cabinet in that closet (purchased and sitting in boxes will assemble after painting)

Move cat box into former closet space (done)

I am just doing what I can when I can, not letting go of it.

Also I want to whine a little - most of the work in life isn't something that's ever finished. Getting to be Done is sort of a imaginary idea. It's never going to be done. I feel so sexist about it, too, probably falsely but my impression is historically men get to work on projects and then rest on their laurels, women do the ongoing maintenance afterwards because it's not actually done but something that needs to be maintained. Like "here, I have built you a house! I am done!" But then someone else has to do the endless ongoing work of maintaining it.

So I honestly don't really ever think something is done, and am sort of at ease with that.

The website The Perfect Loaf has been a big help. His recipes look funny but it is because he's using bakers %, you don't need to be that precise.

The book Tartine Bread also helped me get better at making bread.

If you have a robust starter, sourdough is so much easier and more forgiving than a dough made with commercial yeast.

I do a lot of gardening and cooking.

Sourdough bread is probably my favorite because it still blows my mind that flour, water, and salt are the only inputs and can deliver a loaf I could sell for $8-10. Literally some of the best bread I've ever eaten, and there is no reason it should even work.

Gardening is sometimes magical and sometimes tragically frustrating.

Yoga I value because it keeps my body and mind in good shape.

Language. I would always choose language. That can unlock the other two.