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I always took the bus to college even though buses are slow here, because on the bus I could read (the college was the last stop) and I didn't have to pay for parking, and it got me closer to the school than the parking was, and was free because it's free for college students. All that added up to make it well worth the time. I didn't have to transfer though.

The time isn't the only consideration.

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  • [–] 1 point 1 hour ago

    This job sounds like a bad fit for you, all round. I'm a less than detail oriented accountant and nobody questions me when I say monotonous tasks lead to errors. That's true for most humans, we aren't machines. But my job knows I am good at figuring things out, good at finding new ways to do things, good at understanding things.

    They don't see that it's because I can't do the same thing the same way twice, and am fundamentally incapable of doing any work I can't understand.

    You didn't need to tell your boss HOW you were doing better work. You were doing better work. It's the end product that counts.

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  • [–] 4 points 5 hours ago (1 child)

    Sure. But plenty of women enjoy doing makeup to please themselves, and there's nothing inherently damaging in most of it, some is even made to help your skin.

    My husband likes the no makeup too, but he sure would not try to tell me it would "ruin my face". I mean - at this point he knows it doesn't as I'm holding up a lot better than he is. But regardless, it's just not really his call.

    Those eyelashes, yeah - I think they are dangerous. Also filler, Botox, not gonna do any of that, they don't look good long term and would not object to an "intervention" if I did because it's at least ruinously expensive if nothing else.

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  • [–] 6 points 6 hours ago

    I feel like these are all things you could share with him. But if you pay good attention when he talks to you, and he doesn't pay good attention when you talk to him? Deal breaker.

    On doing gross things in bed - is he asking you to do gross things or maybe just trying to let you know he is willing to do whatever you like? I had a lover like that - he literally got off on me getting off and I swear if I'd told him I wanted to do a clown in front of him while he popped balloons, he would not have blinked just would have found a clown and balloons. It was so strange but he was fun, it can be a nice time to have someone completely non judgemental. He was not "relationship material" really but I remain so glad to have had that time.

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  • [–] 12 points 12 hours ago (5 children)

    Oof, I don't think I'd like being told that. I don't even wear makeup now that the better Korean and mineral sunscreens are available but for decades used foundation to protect my skin and it worked. I'm with you on the eyelashes but makeup is not in any way ruinous to skin and to come out the gate with a declaration like that, I would have found it so off-putting.

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  • [–] 9 points 1 day ago

    The one that got me was "probably has a husband who doesn't like lotion"

    I always figured Amazon knew the most about me because what you buy probably says more about you than what you search. Like Google may think I'm a raving lunatic but Amazon knows I am a householder and what I use. So I was honestly pretty relieved most of it was very general except that oddball example above.

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  • [–] 1 point 1 day ago

    Stevia is so gross. It ruins anything it touches. Aspartame is ok. Splenda is a migraine trigger.

    For coffee, a demitasse spoon of sugar - moderation is the way, or I like a lot of milk no sugar (but that probably ends up with the same amount of sugar from lactose)

    For tea, mostly unsweet is fine.

    For soda, moderation again but I like the diet version better than the sugared ones. Diet coke is fine and doesn't give me a headache. Once in a while though, not every day. Just when I want something that is nothing.

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  • [–] 1 point 1 day ago

    I love that flavor, though. Licorice candy, aniseed cookies. Sambucca (not alone, too intense. But good in a cocktail). Fennel. Whatever that flavor is called I like it. Mastiha can be good too, I have one by Verino that is lovely.

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  • El Diablo (thelemmy.club)
     

    It's not a looker, but tastes great.

    2 oz tequila (any)

    1 oz lime juice

    1 oz creme de cassis

    2-3 oz ginger beer (I used 1 oz ginger syrup, 3 oz fizzy water, 2 squirts of fire tincture)

    Result of googling "what else can I make with tequila and lime"

    Husband is having a Stella, that's the bottle in the background.

    Legolas lounging (thelemmy.club)
     

    He's up to 7.5 lb from under 1 lb when we found him. (From 300 grams of baby to 3.5kg of kitten in only a few months, crazy.)

    Here is a "before", the day my kids texted to say they found the source of the meowing I had heard before work. Just a wee handful. Always bold as anything though, he was never afraid of us or our 75lb mutt of a dog.

     

    1 oz barrel strength bourbon

    1 oz barrel strength reposado tequila

    1 scant oz Aperol with a splash of Campari to make an ounce.

    1 oz Amaro Nonino

    1 oz grapefruit juice

    1 oz lemon juice

    Shake together with ice. If you are somewhere it's not still summer, serve up in a chilled coupe. Tart enough for a sugared rim. But it's still hot here, so everything is iced. This is sort of 1.5 servings, I just find it fussy to measure .75 of an ounce. Equal parts is the key.

    Banderilla (thelemmy.club)
     

    https://makemeacocktail.com/en/cocktail/9953/banderilla

    Equal parts tequila, mezcal, Apricot liqueur and lime, half part Aperol works best IMO, any more Aperol and it gets too sweet.

    This is a pantry recipe for me as I keep Giffard Abricot in stock always. You want a good apricot in this, I think passion fruit or peach would be equally delicious but make sure it's made from real fruit. Also can sub Campari for the Aperol if you want a little more bitter.

     

    Ok so my garden is basically a watermelon patch right now, so I was interested in this as it uses one whole mini watermelon, but this says the juice lasts one day, the drink once clarified lasts months.

    I guess I could freeze the rest, or simply make less, or since the final version keeps well, make more of that - but why does the recipe say to make so much more of the watermelon juice than one would use, if it doesn't keep?

    Has anyone on here done milk clarifying, is it very fussy?

     

    My coworker went to renew her driver's license.

    They sent her back, said she needed a birth certificate because she didn't have the star on it yet. She's old and from some small town up north so this took 6 months plus another to get another DMV appointment.

    She went back yesterday and they said no, you also need the marriage certificate from your first marriage, the divorce documentation, the marriage certificate from your second marriage and the divorce documentation from that too.

    So now her license is expired, and she can't renew it until some tiny vital statistics department far from here responds to her with paper copies of all those items.

    I am wildly infuriated.

    Frankenstein (thelemmy.club)
     

    This was a test-and-adjust drink. I was looking for something with Fernet & Mezcal and everything I saw were stirred very boozy things, I was not in the mood for. I saw one though with cachaca and lime so tried a margarita approach.

    Started with these, shaken:

    1.5 oz tequila

    .75 oz each Fernet and Mezcal

    Juice of one lime.

    Nope. Too flat, too sour. Added about 1/2 oz Pineapple Amaro, and a squirt of Agave, shook again and THIS is a keeper. I guess Fernet does like sweeter drinks more. This one is balanced and I can taste all the ingredients but they did cocktail into a new taste. I usually don't taste the pineapple in the pineapple Amaro but it's shining in this drink - I may try another Fernet-Mezcal-Pineapple Amaro variation (when I am in the mood for stirred and boozy) as I think those together are the magic here.

    Small modifications (lemmy.world)
     

    Just made a penicillin with a splash of banana liqueur - it's not really perceptible as banana but makes it rounder, fuller.

    When I make a paper plane I like double bourbon but also replace some of the Aperol with Campari - less sweet and extra bitter is better.

    What small changes do you always make to a standard recipe?

    Green mango (thelemmy.club)
     

    So, I saw this recipe that inspired me.

    https://punchdrink.com/recipes/green-mango-martini/

    But don't have mango eau de vie and not about to make it, and I think as written it would be too sweet for my palate. And of course everything needs ice here in the summer. I did make the green mango tequila.

    So far I can vouch for tequila, green mango and sauternes - it's a surprisingly good combination.

    This is:

    2.5 oz green mango infused tequila

    1 oz Sauternes wine

    .75 oz lemon

    .25 oz Giffard Apricot (because I have no mango liqueur right now and did you hear Chinola is making a Guava liqueur? I am excited for that.)

    Squirt of honey.

    Shaken with ice.

    My thoughts - the green mango tequila is tart and I think the lemon sort of muddies the flavor. I would try this again with more Sauternes and a splash of mango liqueur, leave out the honey and if it was too sweet adjust with citric or malic acid not lemon.

    I would also like to try the green mango tequila with ginger beer but not today, this is a one and done.

    And I was thinking to convert the recipe into a punch or sangria, a pitcher cocktail using a whole bottle of Sauternes, but I think that it might need to go in a different direction. Again, I do love the combination of the green mango with the Sauternes, and tequila - the main flavor combo is good. I've tried amchur and tequila - the green mango infused tequila worked so much better to get that flavor.

    Beach Cruiser (thelemmy.club)
     

    1 oz tequila blanco

    1/2 oz each mezcal, Campari, passion fruit syrup, ginger syrup and lime.

    Squirt of fire tincture

    Shake these together and add 1-2 oz IPA beer.

    I had to substitute apricot liqueur for the passion fruit and it's really good so I suspect anything fruity would be fine. Beer I used is Jai Alai and only 1 oz, I don't like it but as an ingredient in here can't taste it, must add something though. This is bitter in a great way, somehow not too sweet, I went a little heavy on the lime but close to the 1/2 oz. If you do like beer I think you could safely increase it past the 2 oz and still have something really nice.

    The rainy season is finally here too. So happy to be out here watching the rain.

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