I think anyone drinking daily has a problem, and anyone doing more than 3 drinks once a week or more (bingeing) also a problem.
I do like a cocktail on the weekend, usually do about 3 per week, and take 2 months off completely each year. It does seem to affect me but not much & I really don't want to be obsessive about health, just overall healthy. As long as I wake up feeling good I figure it's ok.
When I see movies and people are in situations so dangerous, they need their wits about them, and they show these people drinking, I always think that is the last thing I would want right then.
Yeah, in my experience (and at this point I'm pretty experienced) so many men are threatened when my sex drive is higher than theirs, they want to be the one who wants more than I do, no matter what they say. They feel unmanly in some way if I am not the limiting factor, or think it unladylike to want so much.
Only twice have I had a guy who really and truly was so turned on by my wanting it all the time and I married one of them. Now I get it everyday at least and more if I want, even if he doesn't get off he will do me & edge himself so that he can still do it later, and is way ok with that since he knows I will also want it whenever he's ready to finish.