Ask his wife.
If she is ok with it, he's not cheating.
There really isn't any other way to know.
Yes. I am a woman and really enjoy sex. Less so when I was younger but it is not supposed to hurt, no. Two questions:
What happens when you put in a tampon?
Are you really very aroused before trying penetration?
We love sex and do it everyday, and generally do compromise up (if either of us want to we do) but I so love me some nuance, too. Often, approach does matter and it's nice. "wanna fuck" because I am bored is less likely to land than if I approach my husband physically, I know this. He knows me too, and how to get me started.
Again - I don't think it's necessarily a requirement, just good to know how to ask, and to be aware of how your partner is feeling at the moment. Likely better results if you care to.
Yes. All except search by genre.
I listen to community radio, look at music related websites, let the music app dj, sometimes my kids show me music or vice versa, and opening acts at shows.
Sexy time? No thanks
Movie? No thanks
What do you want to do?
Sit on the porch with you, have a drink and talk, go for a walk, sleep, whatever.
Why not just ask? Or:
I'm gonna watch Hot Fuzz, do you want to?
OMG you are so hot I want you right now.
Not that it's someone's responsibility to know how to ask things, but I think it does help to you know, know your partner. Someone asking "sexy time?" wouldn't make me want sex, and I might want to watch a movie if I know which one.
Even better - "I'm gonna play Genshin, unless you wanna watch a movie, is there anything you want to watch? "
Like, there are probably a thousand better ways to approach this. Maybe it's in the delivery not the suggestions.
I've met plenty of Republicans who just think that the R means a better economy. Single issue voters. Not socially conservative, live and let live, but terrified that Democrats will crash the economy somehow. Don't ask me, I don't understand it either.
And plenty of liberal Christians, which actually makes more sense.
Woah is that safe? Losing height? I'm 5'9" and a woman and honestly always wanted to be 5'10". Dad was 6'4" so I had hope but no. Don't actually care if it knocks out guys, nobody needs to be universally attractive, just a good enough person overall to find what they are looking for.
Glad for you, though - happy it helped you feel more womanly, that must have been a nice surprise.
But he's taller than both the girls in the top picture. How is that even short?
So, anecdotal, but I have found this runs both ways. Tall guys go for short girls. Short guys go for girls shorter than them usually. Guys my height (the average height here) are less likely to care.
Average height of men in the US is 5'9" or a smidge shorter, for women 5'4" or a smidge shorter. In this YouGov survey the title was "ideal height for a woman is 5'6", for a man 5'11" which I think is kind of funny, like everyone just wants to be two inches taller.
Ha, same. I have always called it "minority attractive" because most guys would not be into me, but there is an enthusiastic subset who are.
I don't think I was ever ugly enough to lose the beauty privilege though, if that makes sense. The bar is not set that high. What I am now is older, though, which starts to work the same way. It gets more difficult to get hired, people don't see you as much. Lower on the totem pole of priority. I'm ok with it, had sort of a duck-to-swan progression already, back to duck is ok.
Age laws (children have developing brains and are not assumed to be able to legally consent)
Right to treatment for addiction.
Right to know what substance you are using (free of contamination, if it's cut the carrier substance should be disclosed)
Prohibition on operating heavy equipment or weapons while high.
I think that about covers it for me.
I chunk it, don't think of it a a project just an ongoing work.
So for example we are renovating the half bathroom but it is necessarily a slow project. I need to:
Clear the closet space we are opening up, which required:
2 outdoor storage units (one done one pending)
Relocating the indoor stuff to other spaces (done)
Painting (also done in steps, there are a bunch of splotches painted on one wall from testing colors - chose now but need to buy the gallon of it)
New cabinet in that closet (purchased and sitting in boxes will assemble after painting)
Move cat box into former closet space (done)
I am just doing what I can when I can, not letting go of it.
Also I want to whine a little - most of the work in life isn't something that's ever finished. Getting to be Done is sort of a imaginary idea. It's never going to be done. I feel so sexist about it, too, probably falsely but my impression is historically men get to work on projects and then rest on their laurels, women do the ongoing maintenance afterwards because it's not actually done but something that needs to be maintained. Like "here, I have built you a house! I am done!" But then someone else has to do the endless ongoing work of maintaining it.
So I honestly don't really ever think something is done, and am sort of at ease with that.
Sourdough donuts
Used the recipe on Perfect Loaf, way too long to detail here but the ingredients are, for 18 of them (he always has these weird odd measurements like 101, I do often round them with no ill effect but will write them as the recipe states):
203 g very active starter 100% hydration
253 g all purpose white flour
253 g strong white bread flour
187g eggs - use extra yolk to adjust to this weight
101 g butter
101 g white sugar
91 g water
10 g salt
It takes a couple days to finish these (I start Friday midnight to get Sunday morning donuts) but most of that time is waiting not working).
Couple of notes- he says the final rise takes 12 hours but that must be in a cold climate, here in the subtropics it took about 7 to be perfect. And when he says careful attention to shaping he means it, but it's easy if you keep the dough chilled, with the butter in the dough it's not too sticky. Don't be afraid to really stretch it when forming the little dough balls, you want a tight surface all over. If you can shape buns, and your starter is robust, this is about a foolproof recipe.
https://www.theperfectloaf.com/naturally-leavened-bomboloni-doughnuts/
I can't see the picture in the header, hopefully you can. Will put below too.
1 oz tequila claro (Tequila Ocho, la mejor)
1/2 oz mezcal
1/2 oz Luxardo Bitter Bianco (see note)
1/4 oz Ancho Reyes rojo
1 oz fresh pineapple juice (see note)
3/4 oz fresh lime juice
1/3 oz agave nectar (again, see note)
Shake all with ice, pour into chilled rocks glass over fresh ice. It is delicious.
Notes: I don't have that luxardo, used half Campari half bitter rhubarb liqueur; doubled the pineapple juice because I literally just made it and it's amazing. This doesn't need 1/3 oz of agave, less is better. Finally - it was quite difficult to make one of these with those teeny measurements. I would recommend making two at a time.
1.5 oz rye (Emerald Giant overproof)
0.5oz each of mezcal, Aperol, and Ancho Reyes (rojo)
1 oz lemon juice
Squirt of agave
Shake all with ice, and I would say serve up in a coupe but it's summer, still 90f at 19:00. So I'm having it on ice, and just enjoying the hot weather.
Variation on a Devil's Soul. It would benefit from a float of the Heirloom Pineapple Amaro (and being served up), but had enough oddball ingredients I didn't want to add another. But if you have it, go for it.
2 oz bourbon
3/4 oz lemon
3/4 oz peach liqueur (I used apricot)
2 oz ginger beer
Sprig of mint for muddling and one more for garnish. I used mojito mint, it barely survived our double tap freeze, so it was fresh from the garden.
Mix the first 3 ingredients then use a little of that mix to muddle the mint, then put in the rest & shake with ice, top with ginger beer.
It does sound like you are lonely.
I quite like being alone and doing things alone, because I am not often alone so it is luxurious and indulgent.
If you think everyone in the world except you is a loud drunk idiot, that might explain why you are so often alone though. Why in the world would you judge everyone else and hold yourself apart? There is zero chance that you are not like anyone else in the world and the rest of us just suck.