79
submitted 4 days ago* (last edited 4 days ago) by [email protected] to c/[email protected]

it's hot. also i'm growing cacti from seed which is new to me and i'm excited, a few of them are sprouting now. how are you?


Join our public Matrix server!

https://matrix.to//#/#tracha-space:transfem.dev

https://rentry.co/tracha#tracha-rooms


As a reminder, please do not discuss current struggle sessions in the mega. We want this to be a little oasis for all of us and the best way to do that is not to feed into existing conflict on the site.

Also, be sure to properly give content warnings and put sensitive subjects behind proper spoiler tags. It's for the mental health of not just your comrades, but yourself as well.

Here is a screenshot of where to find the spoiler button.

top 50 comments
sorted by: hot top new old
[-] [email protected] 4 points 4 days ago* (last edited 3 days ago)

hi, does anyone wanna make the mega in the upcoming weeks? if so, reply to this post and i'll add you to the list!

the list as it stands:

Disaster_of_Passion (7/7 - 7/13)
sodium_nitride (7/14 - 7/20)
peanutbuttercupola* (7/21 - 7/27)
BountifulEggnog* (7/28 - 8/3)    
oscardejarjayes* (8/4 - 8/10)
Seryph (8/11 - 8/17)
Shaleesh (8/18 - 8/24)
GayTuckerCarlson* (8/25 - 8/31)
Eco* (9/1 - 9/7)
nemmybun (9/8 - 9/14)

​ * after name denotes someone who has posted before and will be skipped by first-time posters

load more comments (12 replies)
[-] [email protected] 8 points 2 hours ago

dogs are aware of how cursed the fourth of july is as a holiday

[-] [email protected] 5 points 1 hour ago

can confirm doggirl-growl

[-] [email protected] 4 points 2 hours ago

fireworks are the worst

[-] [email protected] 4 points 2 hours ago

I'm going to try to touch grass, exercise and read some books.

I had influenza b for two weeks and got so sick. All I did was lurk the internet and it's been really bad for mental health.

[-] [email protected] 6 points 3 hours ago* (last edited 3 hours ago)

dysphoria/euphoria posting?

really dysphoric about my tits, feel like they're still tiny compared to cis girl tits

all the other trans girlies in the discord are swapping tit pics

figure i might as well throw mine into the pile

they look bigger in the pics than i'd thought they'd look

one of them straight up says they thought I had a BA already (14 months HRT, + 8 months prog, zero surgeries)

actually measure them

C cups

okay holy shit never mind uh... i guess i got some real fuckin boobs now, don't i?

[-] [email protected] 5 points 2 hours ago

waow-based

how did you know when you were ready to add prog? I've been on E for almost 6 months, but my booba are still pretty small, and I've heard that it's best to only add prog when they've reached a certain stage.

[-] [email protected] 2 points 1 hour ago

waited about 6 months and asked the nice person at planned parenthood for it and they said "sure girl why not?"

from what i recall, the idea that you need to get your breasts to a certain stage before adding prog is mostly just based off of old guesswork from doctors of old playing it safe because it more closely mimics how the hormones are added to a cis girl's hormone schedule. you don't actually NEED to wait, there's anecdotal evidence from some trans women (read: i half remember a few reddit comments saying this) that you start prog as you start E and your tits will be fine

[-] [email protected] 7 points 3 hours ago

Grrr I didn't really want to post about this but I'm dornk enough to rn

I'm helping my sister move in a few weeks and I'm going to take the opportunity to also come out as trans to her. We haven't been close since she moved away a little over 10 years ago. I wanted to do this last Christmas but it felt weird since I was still pre-everything at the time, plus we were with our parents as a mini-family gathering, which made it all weird. But this time I'll be going on my own at around 6 months on HRT and with some fem clothing. I know she's somewhat accepting of queer people, but idk how she'll react to her lil "bro" being a trans girl.

Idk I'm not looking for advice or whatever, just wanted to vent my anxieties about something coming up 🤷‍♀️

[-] [email protected] 5 points 4 hours ago* (last edited 4 hours ago)

stuff that might trigger dysphoria for trans womenis it fucked up that I like looking like a guy with long hair and tiny boobs

like I don't pass as a woman at all but I look like a guy who's far from masculine, and I'm okay with it, not just in a coping way. my face is still rough and exposes facial hair shadow. my shoulders are wider than most women my size

I wish I had less fat around my midsection but aside from that I like myself

^boobs^

[-] [email protected] 4 points 3 hours ago

damn I really made two contradictory posts back to back 🫠

[-] [email protected] 3 points 4 hours ago

You can play no-copyright secret rings and black knight on dolphin with a controller and while I have beaten both with my wii mote before the controller method is good too. Secret rings is the one recommended most for this method, black knight is alright and if anything I prefer it that way since swinging the wii mote like a sword will always be sick.

Part of me really wants to enjoy black knight more but with it being the end of the series I just keep putting off the 100% of it more and more since I don't wanna be done with it catgirl-cry

[-] [email protected] 6 points 6 hours ago

butching the fuck out tn. my solovair leather boots arrived, drank some beers and put together an ikea shelving unit for my gfs with my drill. affirming as shit

[-] [email protected] 3 points 5 hours ago

Feeling kinda down ngl, always happens be hanging out with friends and then they gone and I'm here just alone. It's a feeling that passes after a bit at least the more intense part and just sticks around like a dull ache before it clears up. Loneliness sucks but like it's just the highs and lows of social interaction for me shrug-outta-hecks

[-] [email protected] 8 points 7 hours ago* (last edited 7 hours ago)

I had to find a new roommate this spring because my old one moved in with his gf. I thought it would be cool to live with another trans women. It was going to be a good friend, but then she backed out last minute and I went with a stranger. It went well for a while tho, we were friends and would do stuff together, and she was clean and stuff.

But recently, she began trying to touch me. Like sayiyshe was anxious and wanted a hug, leaving me no space when we were on the couch, weirdly putting her head on me. Then she straight up asked me out on a date.

Now besides the obvious issues with dating a roommate, I am not even slightly attracted to her. I don't think we have that sort of connection at all, whatsoever. I guess normally that would be fine, like if someone asks me out but im not interested, I just politely decline. But for some reason, this whole thing has really bothered me.

Part of it is because she's my roommate, so it's awkward. But idk I've also spent a bunch of time helping her with stuff, like getting her on a better HRT regimen, or recommending a place to get her hair cut, or shopping together. I felt happy to do those things because I love helping out other trans women. But idk, now I just feel used I guess. I find myself feeling really annoyed when I see her, and I barely want to talk. I have no idea how to make things right, cause the last four days it has been very awkward.

I wish it was easier to make trans friends in general without there having to be gay drama involved. A good platonic friend seems to me to be worth so much more than another confusing situationship. It's often so hypersexual when I meet other trans girls. Like I wanna hang out and do normal woman stuff, and instead I get invited to the Discord with the NSFW channel, and I'm forced to learn everyone's kinks, and if they hang out it's to try and get in my pants.

It makes me want to only befriend straight girls, but the worst part is that im not even straight. Maybe I just hate myself? Idk I would still never ask out my roommate.

[-] [email protected] 6 points 7 hours ago

Hey love , I’m so sorry you’re going through this ... that sounds so uncomfortable and frustrating. You deserve friendships that feel safe and supportive, without all that pressure. Please don’t blame yourself; you’re not wrong for wanting platonic connection. Sending you love and strength 💙

[-] [email protected] 3 points 6 hours ago

Thank you, that was a really nice thing to say. I honestly do have some really wonderful friendships with other trans women that mean so much to me, idk I'm not even sure why this thing in particular has made me so upset.

[-] [email protected] 4 points 6 hours ago

pushing the boundaries like that with a roommate is not something i would consider acceptable. sorry you had to go through that. it would be one thing to just confess her attraction in an honest and direct way but the touching is very icky. solidarity comrade, i hope you can push through this and get back to normalcy, although it's unfair that that responsibility is even on you at all. if you were made to feel uncomfortable you def need to communicate that even tho ik it might be mad awkward. wishing you the best with navigating this 💜

[-] [email protected] 3 points 7 hours ago

Being LGBT is so confusing because we dont have any of the nice relationship stuff handed down to us anymore, its all in the air. One would think being polite and some common sense might preclude one from asking out a roommate - but roommates to lovers is a thing that sometimes happens. Its all in the air, especially a freshly cracked trans girl just starting out. I bet there's some crossed wires with specifically your roommate between platonic love and romantic love and the love we show the trans sisterhood in general, and hopefully she'll get a handle on it as hormones settle (dont discount the horniness of second puberty and the power of a crush towards someone who is nice and frankly life saving to them, I get it as a nurse too)

We so often had to repress and feel ashamed about gender feelings along with however much dealing with romantic feelings as an egg was. Its easy when its been repressed for a couple decades at least for it to come out way strong.

You didnt do anything wrong, she shot her shot and hopefully didnt let the hinting phase get too awkward. Embarassing lesson, but ideally the both of you can come back from this and settle in to just roommates. If not, you or her might have to figure out alternate housing arrangements (especially if she cant let it go). Im surprised you feel used - I think you should interrogate that and think about it, you've extended help with gender stuff like HRT and fashion, youre roommates, and you seem to have done that on your own. Why feel used when she asked you out? Im sure she would've needed the help if she was straight and not interested in you. I can appreciate you feeling used when she touched you, hopefully you shut that down then or will going forwards with others - and hopefully she learns to start asking for consent, although I know it feels weird and unusual

[-] [email protected] 3 points 6 hours ago

Imagine if my roommate was a man and you wrote that....

[-] [email protected] 3 points 6 hours ago

dont discount the horniness of second puberty

What a gross thing to say. She's been on E for 3 years and is older than me btw.

I think you should interrogate that and think about it

I think you should interrogate why you think that was ok to say, weirdo

[-] [email protected] 2 points 6 hours ago

Whoa clearly I had misread what you'd said, cause I thought this was a situation where you were like the trans sister helping someone out who'd just come out like just before moving in with you

I appreciate you feel used but I really don't get the hostility? I was honestly confused, I thought you felt used because you'd helped someone and then they asked you out - Im not aware of anything beyond what you posted, so if she was way creepier than what you wrote or did way more boundary pushing, I wasn't there physically. Clearly this was way more intense than what I had read.

[-] [email protected] 3 points 6 hours ago

Im sorry I was hostile, but like the situation is that I'm living with someone older than me, who I don't know well, and who feels like it's ok to weirdly try to touch me and get close to me.

[-] [email protected] 7 points 7 hours ago

OMG you're so hot. I love it when you are that confidant, I love the way you love yourself, I love how optimistic you are even when things seem bleak

[-] [email protected] 3 points 5 hours ago

This is my current arc fr

[-] [email protected] 3 points 6 hours ago

I miss having friends

[-] [email protected] 3 points 7 hours ago

Everyone knows there's sexy stereotype of ladies wearing glasses, but its definitely cross gender cause some of these dudes look fine with glasses

[-] [email protected] 2 points 5 hours ago

I can attest to this because I saw myself in the mirror with my safety glasses the other day

[-] [email protected] 8 points 10 hours ago

When the gay hits

[-] [email protected] 12 points 12 hours ago
[-] [email protected] 6 points 12 hours ago

What species? I love cactus

load more comments (1 replies)
[-] [email protected] 10 points 12 hours ago

friday? rice? friday. rice.

[-] [email protected] 5 points 10 hours ago* (last edited 10 hours ago)

I finally had rice on a Friday!

I also ate rice on Wednesday and Thursday and i will eat rice on Saturday too because i made it too spicy.

[-] [email protected] 5 points 10 hours ago

I eat rice almost everyday. Rice is really good

load more comments (1 replies)
[-] [email protected] 10 points 13 hours ago

I used extra chili sauce in today’s Friday Rice doggirl-smug

[-] [email protected] 6 points 12 hours ago

Ever since I started my training been noticing hvac things more often, playing yakuza and I see a mini split unit in the Earth Angel bar niko-wonderous the air handler does look to be higher than 8 feet up but still pretty cool.

load more comments (8 replies)
[-] [email protected] 4 points 11 hours ago* (last edited 10 hours ago)

im trying to translate a manhua but the scenes im more passionate about turn out not-very-accurate to the chinese wording, cuz i just translate it the way i imagine the interaction in my head, which i feel a bit bad about

[-] [email protected] 12 points 20 hours ago

I would love to limit my dating pool to only trans people at this point, but there's just not many enough around for that to feel like a viable strategy

[-] [email protected] 9 points 14 hours ago

I think I might only date queer people, but maybe a cool non-queer communist could do

[-] [email protected] 8 points 15 hours ago

Depends where you live. Also gotta get used to dating your friends exes and your friends dating your exes, just queer things. My trans friend circle is composed entirely of people who've dated people, except for me and ONE other person lol

load more comments (2 replies)
[-] [email protected] 5 points 17 hours ago

Back to dreaming of going fast and listening to no-copyright specifically secret rings ost. That game has so many artists like it's nothing new but I think the popularity of crush 40 kind of takes away from all the artists who've done sonic songs if I'm being real.

load more comments
view more: next ›
this post was submitted on 30 Jun 2025
79 points (100.0% liked)

traaaaaaannnnnnnnnns

1276 readers
116 users here now

Welcome to /c/traaaaaaannnnnnnnnns, an anti-capitalist meme community for transgender and gender diverse people.

  1. Please follow the Hexbear Code of Conduct

  2. Selfies are not permitted for the personal safety of users.

  3. No personal identifying information may be posted or commented.

  4. Stay on topic (trans/gender stuff).

  5. Bring a trans friend!

  6. Any image post that gets 200 upvotes with "banner" or "rule 6" in the title becomes the new banner.

  7. Posts about dysphoria/trauma/transphobia should be NSFW tagged for community health purposes.

  8. When made outside of NSFW tagged posts, comments about dysphoria/traumatic/transphobic material should be spoiler tagged.

  9. Arguing in favor of transmedicalism is unacceptable. This is an inclusive and intersectional community.

  10. While this is mostly a meme community, we allow most trans related posts as we grow the trans community on the fediverse.

If you need your neopronouns added to the list, please contact the site admins.

Remember to report rulebreaking posts, don't assume someone else has already done it!

Matrix Group Chat:

Suggested Matrix Client: Cinny

https://rentry.co/tracha (Includes rules and invite link)

WEBRINGS:

🏳️‍⚧️ Transmasculine Pride Ring 🏳️‍⚧️

⬅️ Left 🏳️‍⚧️🏳️‍🌈 Be Crime Do Gay Webring 🏳️‍⚧️🏳️‍🌈 Right ➡️

founded 2 years ago
MODERATORS