Trying to figure out what I potentially want to do with my hair going forward, but it’s hard because you see people with all kinds of hairstyles but you have no idea if your hair is suitable for it or what they have done to it necessarily. 
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Meredith, one of my other hamsters || Trans Megathread from May 12th, 2025 to May 18th, 2025
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I'm kinda in this phase rn too, what my friends told me to do was to ask my hairstylist literally everything while I was getting my haircut. What kind of hair do I have, what products are you using, what styles can I make with this, etc...
For general stuff I second Terminal's post.
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You should try shoulder length hair or a little longer, with bangs, framing hair on the sides. Use a good shampoo and conditioner but only wash your hair every other day (still wash the rest of your body every day). Use argan oil, a small amount from mid length to ends, but only when you wash your hair.
You should also try a blow out with curls, you should get your hair braided including braids overnight, you should try a fun loose bun, try a bunch of stuff!
Wtf doxxing my hair and haircare routine without even seeing me...
(Also the argan oil only being for mid or lower explains a lot of why it looked awful when I tried it years ago...)
I'm supposed to sit at my desk and work even when I'm overwhelmed with sapphic yearning? wtf, this is homophobic.
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Came out to all of my friends today, they all knew me as a trans nb they/them
Now they know me as a woman 
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My knowledge of Big the Cat is great and my ability to lie is sufficient that I can be spreading lies about him to glaze him but my boy don't need the hype train pulling up to the station 🐸
just got my day one chip from bedwetters anonymous :)
Omg pee pee girl is back! Glad to see you going back to your roots 😁
stop. you're banned
I'm just so happy for you though! You deserve to openly be your true self: a pee pee girl
Not getting your bed wet is kinda tough for a whale. You have my deepest sympathy.
every time i pee the bed i go back to being a tadpole
think I’ve figured out what I’m gonna do for weight cycling.
I’m gonna go up 5 pounds then down 10 then up 5 then down 10 until I’m around my goal.
So probably like 3 or 4 times.
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Hope you feel good in your body!
Got a haircut recently and this time it actually turned out really well. Last time I got my hair butchered and was really upset about it.
Kind of regretting getting mine 
I was leaving the bathroom as some guy was going in and he had to go back out to double check that he was in the men's bathroom lol
Reminds me of this time I was going to the restroom, and there was this old white dude behind me going there, too. I was thinking that he was just going to wait his turn and go in after I left, but when we got to the bathroom doors, he just tries to go into the men's restroom first, and I let him. I wait outside for him to get out, and he sees me standing there and says, "Oh, you were trying to use the men's restroom?" with a pretty baffled face and tone. And I just responded with a masculine voice and said, "Yeah..."
What gets me is that this was much earlier on in my transition.
On this note, fuck these gendered single-person restrooms especially.
Okay
I've obviously not been in the best spot lately
Is coming out to my friend/manager a good idea or no? She's gay and has gay friends tbf. But I don't know about trans people. Also my shave still fucking sucks. It'd be in like 9 hours, maybe a bit more. Or uh I could chicken out again. Just has been on my mind a lot.
It's always a gamble with the cis, but being queer increases their chance of being supportive.
You also don't have to worry about things like your shave. You can say that you're not safe at home to transition, so you may not look it, but you're a trans girl.
It would be nice to be around someone who knows who you are at work.
After that, if you feel safe, you can talk name and pronouns with her.
I know a lot about shaving. So if you need some help, I can definitely give you some tips, which will drastically improve your shave.
Just let me know. 
I'm 98% sure I know every trick in the book, but I'm willing to hear you out.
I'm already using a safety razor.
Well, if you already know every trick in the book, there’s not much I can tell you.
You could try some different shaving techniques like in this video.
Or you could analyze the geometry of your razor to see how it would work best. For example, I have a Mühle R41 which is really aggressive but doesn’t have the best blade support. So I always ride the cap whenever I use it to make it glide smoother across my skin
Skin prep and lathering techniques are always something that you can always improve on (and make sure that water hardness is not a problem for you)
Don’t scrape your blades across the paper when you take them out. That’s something a lot of people overlook.
If you want a different experience with your razor, you could try Kai blades, which are slightly wider and thus more aggressive
But that’s all I can think of. The rest is pretty much just endlessly trying out new gear and soaps and experiment with different razor/blade combinations to see if you can get tiny improvements. There’s a reason why most people in those shaving communities have absurdly huge collections.
what soaps and skin prep / lathering techniques do you recommend? i don't really know anything. i have sensitive skin that's been getting more and more irritated with each shave lately. i've just been using bulldog shave gel but it does get a bit dry, i just don't really know what's best to switch to cause i tend to get overwhelmed by so many options 
I have sensitive skin too and before delving deeper into this topic, I could only shave once a week. Now I can pretty much do it every single day, with a recovery day every once in awhile. So I cannot stress enough how important a good lather is.
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If you’re overwhelmed by too many options, then I have some good news: You can ignore almost all of that. Canned foam, gel, conditioner, etc... all have subpar performance. What you want instead is a good shaving soap.
What I do is take a guitar pick to scoop out a little bit of soap, press it down on the bottom of a small bowl and use a wet shaving brush to whip up a nice lather. The amount of water is really important. So start off with less and slowly add more until you have the right consistency, which can be up to your preference. In general you should aim for a yogurt-like consistency, but experimenting is important here. There’s also the possibility to load up the brush directly on the soap instead of scooping it out, and you can also skip the bowl and lather it on your face.
Now to the face prep: It’s always good to soften up your beard hair with warm water before the shave, so shaving after taking a shower is never a bad idea. Using a gentle face cleanser is also advisable, as is gentle exfoliation (might want to skip that depending on your skin).
Now the final step would be gear: There are special shaving bowls and other stuff that you can buy, but a cheap metal bowl does the trick too. Of course you also need a brush. Traditionally, they’re made with badger, boar or horse hair, but nowadays you can get really good synthetic ones that are also a lot cheaper. They come in different knot sizes and handles, and there’s differences in softness and backbone of the fibres. I managed to get a Mühle Silvertip Fibre for pretty cheap, which is very soft, so it’s perfect for my estrogenized face. Other people prefer really stiff ones. Again, it’s up to your preference.
And of course you need a good soap. There’s massproduced classic ones that you can get for pretty cheap, which have great perfomance, like Cella, Arko or Tabac. But if you really want to get the best performance possible, you have to take a look at artisan soaps. I wish I could recommend Southern Witchcrafts to you, which I am using, because their vegan soaps are absolutely amazing and I love them, but they recently closed their business. So instead I’m just going to say that Barrister and Mann is currently regarded as the best-performing soap by a large part of the community, and if you live in Europe, you should take a look at Saponificio Varesino.
This reddit thread might help you a bit: https://old.reddit.com/r/wicked_edge/comments/1ed6okv/honest_2024_shave_soap_tiers/
wow thanks so much for all the advice! i'm definitely looking into getting some good soap cause that all sounds so much nicer. being able to shave almost everyday would be amazing! 
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I got approved for bottom surgery!!!!
So happy for you! It is one of the best things to ever happen to me, even only a month and a half out.
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