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Hiiii!

Today: a short yap about computer hardware:

Damn I love the AM4 socket its so upgradable yay, bought a Ryzen 9 5900X for our old desktop soon to be homelab and so excited for it.

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[–] [email protected] 5 points 38 minutes ago (1 children)

Today I experienced that awkward situation where people will start spouting transphobic opinions without knowing you're trans. Funnily enough, one of them was the guy I recently went on a date with😬 I almost want to tell him I'm trans just to fuck with him as he's very interested in meeting up again, but I'm just going to break it off and luckily I'll likely never see him again as he's a few semesters ahead of me and the course we are currently on together is basically finished😅

[–] [email protected] 3 points 33 minutes ago (2 children)

Why do people even feel the need? Especially if you aren’t a Fox News boomer uncle.
Like how is it even brought up??

[–] [email protected] 3 points 18 minutes ago* (last edited 17 minutes ago) (1 children)

Yaa it's weird, the conversation was about height and then it turned to Thailand, I don't remember how😅

transphobia

But of course the usual came up about how you can't know if a woman in Thailand is a woman🙄

Then the guy I went on a date with said that being trans couldn't be healthy because trans people have to take hormones and cut their dick off, and he was sure that trans people would at most live to 50 years of age🙄

And then they finished off by misgendering Elon Musk's trans daughter and saying that she fumbled the bag by disowning Elon🙄

I honestly don't know why it's something that gets brought up. Like trans visibility is generally quite low here in Denmark too, but bigots gonna be bigots I guess.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 9 minutes ago (1 children)

I’m so sorry you had to experience that. Like, even for a transphobe this was just really cruel. catgirl-cry

[–] [email protected] 1 points 43 seconds ago

Yaa it was kind of a weird situation to be in (especially since he kissed me twice during the break today lol), but it means I won't have to waste my time or out myself unnecessarily. I kind of see it as his loss, like we vibed together and he seems very interested, he even wanted to watch a movie together today.

And thank you❤️ Dating as a trans person truly is miserable😫

[–] [email protected] 2 points 13 minutes ago

transphobia

It makes them feel happy when they can hurt us. And because most of the media and politicians are on their side, they are currently feeling very emboldened to take advantage of that and say transphobic shit as many times as they want, even in the middle of completely unrelated conversations. Because in the end, they know that there won’t be any consequences for them.

[–] [email protected] 6 points 2 hours ago (1 children)

My sleep has been so broken lately, a few hours in a row at most. This sucks smoking-fish

[–] [email protected] 5 points 1 hour ago

cuddle shit's so ass; you have my sympathies

[–] [email protected] 10 points 3 hours ago

I want to learn how to knit so I can make sweaters for my plushies blahaj catgirl-heart

[–] [email protected] 9 points 9 hours ago

I had no idea people were DMing me on discord. I had no idea I had DMs from people other than my friends on discord. So many people have tried to hit on me only to whiff because I'm like Mr Magoo and literally didn't notice it lmao

Keep at it strangers online, I will continue to ignore you because it's way funnier if I never notice

[–] [email protected] 17 points 12 hours ago* (last edited 12 hours ago) (2 children)

privileged question

which countries should I be trying to nudge my family towards if shit ramps up untenably in the states. they're considering the UK primarily atm so I absolutely have to find a different avenue if we are to pack and abscond

[–] [email protected] 1 points 41 minutes ago

The Anglosphere is generally the best bet as they have the best gender affirming care. Europe is mostly shit, Spain, France and Germany seem to be the better countries here, but e.g. the surgical coverage in Europe is terrible compared to blue US states and some European countries are equivalent or probably even worse than some of the red US states in terms of trans rights and gender affirming care.

From what I've heard the UK is quite awful. Canada, Australia and New Zealand seem to be decent with Canada probably being the best of the three.

[–] [email protected] 16 points 11 hours ago

spoiler

Probably wherever they might have a claim to citizenship.

New Zealand had a good program for skilled immigrants (all their young people move to Straya for work), so potentially you could move down there. And Canada is, like, right there across the border. You don't even need a passport if you're a permanent resident if the US or a US citizen. I dunno about moving outside the Anglosphere, but your money might go further anyway

[–] [email protected] 16 points 13 hours ago (1 children)

Well, I wasted a fair number of syringes and a couple doses getting it right (I think I got it right...), but I completed my first intramuscular EV dose!

[–] [email protected] 10 points 12 hours ago (1 children)

Congrats!! Good job

[–] [email protected] 9 points 12 hours ago (1 children)

Thanks. Trying to eliminate the air bubbles was the annoying part. I've worked with injections before but didn't expect how viscous the carrier oil would be. The injection itself was pretty easy. No pain during the injection whatsoever. It's a bit sore right now, but pretty sure that just means that the needle reached the muscle properly?

[–] [email protected] 8 points 12 hours ago

Depends on where you put it. When I've given IM injections, the triceps is the standard and especially the one that has your dominant hand cause using your arm helps with the soreness. I've done thigh and butt, thigh is nice and big and walking probably helps. Butt is a nice easy spot without any major vessels for an emergency (also the easiest for smaller uncooperative kids).

IM are always thick and viscous, not sure why but every IM med I've ever given it's thick. Soreness means you put it in the right spot, if you want walk around a bit today and tomorrow. Usually they're sorer the day after than the same day.

[–] [email protected] 12 points 13 hours ago* (last edited 12 hours ago)

Want to post through the pain (not actual pain or mental pain don't worry I'm just using words wrong) but I'm realizing I jus kinda need to see a psychiatrist or some shit. Also get friends but that's even harder somehow

[–] [email protected] 12 points 13 hours ago (1 children)

Secondhand enterprise IT equipment should be considered gender affirming medication covered by insurance

[–] [email protected] 6 points 13 hours ago

Well it does involve a rack so…

[–] [email protected] 9 points 13 hours ago (2 children)

Everyone talking about eyebrow threading is right. I got a men's eyebrow threading. Because I am a coward. And even this has drastically altered the way I look. Much more androgenus.

[–] [email protected] 8 points 12 hours ago (1 children)

Threading?

[–] [email protected] 7 points 12 hours ago* (last edited 12 hours ago)

They use a sort of snare made out of thread to yank many hairs out at once. As opposed to plucking or waxing.

The advantage being you can sort of pluck by length instead of just location. So debulking as well as tidying up.

[–] [email protected] 7 points 12 hours ago

I did like getting my brows done, waxed or threaded whatever. It does do a surprising amount of work to feminize. Like with makeup

[–] [email protected] 9 points 13 hours ago (3 children)

possum-mama aaaa aaaa aaaa

[–] [email protected] 6 points 8 hours ago (1 children)

screm-a

[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 hour ago

of course I grabbed the wrong possum lmao

[–] [email protected] 2 points 8 hours ago

New creature!

[–] [email protected] 6 points 12 hours ago (1 children)

possum-mama TR aaaa aaaa aaaa

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[–] [email protected] 11 points 13 hours ago (2 children)

I've been a dog person my whole life. I was such a dog person that I'd let the outside dogs jump in through my bedroom window to sleep with me (my room was in the basement). I never actually got my own dog though, I never had the room or proper space. I've had a couple cats and an ex who is more or less a cat lol, I did like the cats but I miss doggies more

[–] [email protected] 5 points 10 hours ago

I am now picturing you as makima makima-think

[–] [email protected] 7 points 13 hours ago

Dogs are just better doggirl-smug

[–] [email protected] 8 points 14 hours ago* (last edited 13 hours ago)

Been getting into wearing jewellery in particular rings, as well as the history of queer symbology of certain rings. It’s funny that no one can really agree on any of it.

What I’ve gleamed is:

-Signet rings on left pinky were normal in the late and early 20th century for men. One on the right pinky might have suggested you were gay. But this is flimsy in evidence. For example Oscar Wilde has his on his left in all pictures as was the normal fashion,

-Signet rings however on women on any finger were a big sign of being a lesbian in the early to mid 20th century. Because it was a traditionally Mens ring.

-for a brief moment late 20th and early 21st century, civil union bands were worn on left middle fingers, but now with gay marriage everyone just uses the ring finger if married

-everyone thinks thumb rings are associated with lesbians but that’s largely vibes based

[–] [email protected] 8 points 15 hours ago

you will never lead an army into battle carrying a battle standard

:catgirl-flop: why bother

[–] [email protected] 10 points 16 hours ago (2 children)

the feminine urge to get thee to a nunnery

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[–] [email protected] 9 points 15 hours ago (2 children)

does anyone know what kind of office-appropriate clothes i should buy? work's starting to enforce RTO so i want to look good when i'm arrested for arson

[–] [email protected] 10 points 14 hours ago (1 children)

I bought some cute button up long sleeve blouses, slacks, and skirts and tights for the times I need to present in business casual (otherwise I just wear scrubs at work anyway lol). I always hated masc business casual, turns out I love wearing a floral print shirt, some jewelry, and a mid length skirt and heels. I shouldve figured

[–] [email protected] 2 points 7 hours ago

thanks for the tips! was shopping all day and just got back with a few things so i should be sorted now (assuming i can match with some existing pieces i have). i always struggled with masc formal as well, the most well-dressed i would ever do would be a collared tee + jeans and that never felt right. today was really fun though! my partner's mum joined us and gave me a bunch of advice. i'm still really stressed about going in tomorrow but at least i won't be focusing on my outift

[–] [email protected] 12 points 15 hours ago

if anyone's interested, here are some of the questions (none of them answered) from our company meeting about this

What if there's no direct benefit of attending the site? e.g. my coworkers are at a different site

literally me (and by the sounds of it, a lot more people working here), hence why i've been allowed to wfh so far

Can you quantify the reduced productivity that you say you're seeing?

they can't quantify shit, in the same meeting they were discussing rising profits ffs

Will there be exceptions for neurodivergent individuals?

maybe, if they've spent hundreds of dollars on a diagnosis (still need to test this myself however)

Covid hasn't gone away, people are still dying from it. What steps will take to make sure the more crowded workspaces are safe?

fuck all. they don't give a shit if their actions cause further deaths if it can save them some money

bonus:

It's not hard to work in the office. We did it prior to covid and 5 days a week!

fuckyoufuckyoufuckyoufuckyou

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