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Hiiii!

Today: a short yap about computer hardware:

Damn I love the AM4 socket its so upgradable yay, bought a Ryzen 9 5900X for our old desktop soon to be homelab and so excited for it.

Computers are fun! ~~(and expensive)~~

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[–] [email protected] 5 points 38 minutes ago

I want to learn how to knit so I can make sweaters for my plushies blahaj catgirl-heart

[–] [email protected] 7 points 6 hours ago

I had no idea people were DMing me on discord. I had no idea I had DMs from people other than my friends on discord. So many people have tried to hit on me only to whiff because I'm like Mr Magoo and literally didn't notice it lmao

Keep at it strangers online, I will continue to ignore you because it's way funnier if I never notice

[–] [email protected] 14 points 9 hours ago* (last edited 9 hours ago) (1 children)

privileged question

which countries should I be trying to nudge my family towards if shit ramps up untenably in the states. they're considering the UK primarily atm so I absolutely have to find a different avenue if we are to pack and abscond

[–] [email protected] 13 points 8 hours ago

spoiler

Probably wherever they might have a claim to citizenship.

New Zealand had a good program for skilled immigrants (all their young people move to Straya for work), so potentially you could move down there. And Canada is, like, right there across the border. You don't even need a passport if you're a permanent resident if the US or a US citizen. I dunno about moving outside the Anglosphere, but your money might go further anyway

[–] [email protected] 14 points 9 hours ago (1 children)

Well, I wasted a fair number of syringes and a couple doses getting it right (I think I got it right...), but I completed my first intramuscular EV dose!

[–] [email protected] 9 points 9 hours ago (1 children)

Congrats!! Good job

[–] [email protected] 9 points 9 hours ago (1 children)

Thanks. Trying to eliminate the air bubbles was the annoying part. I've worked with injections before but didn't expect how viscous the carrier oil would be. The injection itself was pretty easy. No pain during the injection whatsoever. It's a bit sore right now, but pretty sure that just means that the needle reached the muscle properly?

[–] [email protected] 8 points 9 hours ago

Depends on where you put it. When I've given IM injections, the triceps is the standard and especially the one that has your dominant hand cause using your arm helps with the soreness. I've done thigh and butt, thigh is nice and big and walking probably helps. Butt is a nice easy spot without any major vessels for an emergency (also the easiest for smaller uncooperative kids).

IM are always thick and viscous, not sure why but every IM med I've ever given it's thick. Soreness means you put it in the right spot, if you want walk around a bit today and tomorrow. Usually they're sorer the day after than the same day.

[–] [email protected] 12 points 10 hours ago (1 children)

Secondhand enterprise IT equipment should be considered gender affirming medication covered by insurance

[–] [email protected] 6 points 9 hours ago

Well it does involve a rack so…

[–] [email protected] 9 points 9 hours ago (2 children)

Everyone talking about eyebrow threading is right. I got a men's eyebrow threading. Because I am a coward. And even this has drastically altered the way I look. Much more androgenus.

[–] [email protected] 8 points 9 hours ago (1 children)

Threading?

[–] [email protected] 7 points 9 hours ago* (last edited 9 hours ago)

They use a sort of snare made out of thread to yank many hairs out at once. As opposed to plucking or waxing.

The advantage being you can sort of pluck by length instead of just location. So debulking as well as tidying up.

[–] [email protected] 7 points 9 hours ago

I did like getting my brows done, waxed or threaded whatever. It does do a surprising amount of work to feminize. Like with makeup

[–] [email protected] 10 points 10 hours ago* (last edited 9 hours ago)

Want to post through the pain (not actual pain or mental pain don't worry I'm just using words wrong) but I'm realizing I jus kinda need to see a psychiatrist or some shit. Also get friends but that's even harder somehow

[–] [email protected] 8 points 10 hours ago (3 children)

possum-mama aaaa aaaa aaaa

[–] [email protected] 4 points 5 hours ago

screm-a

[–] [email protected] 1 points 4 hours ago

New creature!

[–] [email protected] 6 points 9 hours ago (1 children)

possum-mama TR aaaa aaaa aaaa

[–] [email protected] 6 points 9 hours ago

[–] [email protected] 9 points 10 hours ago (2 children)

I've been a dog person my whole life. I was such a dog person that I'd let the outside dogs jump in through my bedroom window to sleep with me (my room was in the basement). I never actually got my own dog though, I never had the room or proper space. I've had a couple cats and an ex who is more or less a cat lol, I did like the cats but I miss doggies more

[–] [email protected] 4 points 7 hours ago

I am now picturing you as makima makima-think

[–] [email protected] 7 points 10 hours ago

Dogs are just better doggirl-smug

[–] [email protected] 8 points 10 hours ago* (last edited 10 hours ago)

Been getting into wearing jewellery in particular rings, as well as the history of queer symbology of certain rings. It’s funny that no one can really agree on any of it.

What I’ve gleamed is:

-Signet rings on left pinky were normal in the late and early 20th century for men. One on the right pinky might have suggested you were gay. But this is flimsy in evidence. For example Oscar Wilde has his on his left in all pictures as was the normal fashion,

-Signet rings however on women on any finger were a big sign of being a lesbian in the early to mid 20th century. Because it was a traditionally Mens ring.

-for a brief moment late 20th and early 21st century, civil union bands were worn on left middle fingers, but now with gay marriage everyone just uses the ring finger if married

-everyone thinks thumb rings are associated with lesbians but that’s largely vibes based

[–] [email protected] 8 points 12 hours ago

you will never lead an army into battle carrying a battle standard

:catgirl-flop: why bother

[–] [email protected] 10 points 12 hours ago (1 children)

the feminine urge to get thee to a nunnery

[–] [email protected] 7 points 12 hours ago (1 children)

You could be like the nuns in The Sound of Music and steal a nazis spark plugs

[–] [email protected] 6 points 12 hours ago

I could be like the nuns in Little Nuns

[–] [email protected] 9 points 12 hours ago (2 children)

does anyone know what kind of office-appropriate clothes i should buy? work's starting to enforce RTO so i want to look good when i'm arrested for arson

[–] [email protected] 9 points 11 hours ago (1 children)

I bought some cute button up long sleeve blouses, slacks, and skirts and tights for the times I need to present in business casual (otherwise I just wear scrubs at work anyway lol). I always hated masc business casual, turns out I love wearing a floral print shirt, some jewelry, and a mid length skirt and heels. I shouldve figured

[–] [email protected] 2 points 4 hours ago

thanks for the tips! was shopping all day and just got back with a few things so i should be sorted now (assuming i can match with some existing pieces i have). i always struggled with masc formal as well, the most well-dressed i would ever do would be a collared tee + jeans and that never felt right. today was really fun though! my partner's mum joined us and gave me a bunch of advice. i'm still really stressed about going in tomorrow but at least i won't be focusing on my outift

[–] [email protected] 11 points 12 hours ago

if anyone's interested, here are some of the questions (none of them answered) from our company meeting about this

What if there's no direct benefit of attending the site? e.g. my coworkers are at a different site

literally me (and by the sounds of it, a lot more people working here), hence why i've been allowed to wfh so far

Can you quantify the reduced productivity that you say you're seeing?

they can't quantify shit, in the same meeting they were discussing rising profits ffs

Will there be exceptions for neurodivergent individuals?

maybe, if they've spent hundreds of dollars on a diagnosis (still need to test this myself however)

Covid hasn't gone away, people are still dying from it. What steps will take to make sure the more crowded workspaces are safe?

fuck all. they don't give a shit if their actions cause further deaths if it can save them some money

bonus:

It's not hard to work in the office. We did it prior to covid and 5 days a week!

fuckyoufuckyoufuckyoufuckyou

[–] [email protected] 15 points 14 hours ago (1 children)

I see all the suffering in the world and feel like I don't deserve to be safe or happy.

[–] [email protected] 14 points 14 hours ago (1 children)

I know it doesn't always feel like it, but you deserve safety, happiness, and prosperity cat-trans

We're gonna make it.

[–] [email protected] 10 points 14 hours ago (4 children)

I feel like I shouldn't buy anything or do hobbies when my time and money could be used to help people instead.

[–] [email protected] 10 points 12 hours ago (1 children)

You can only do what you can do. The scale of suffering is enormous and it dwarfs any individuals efforts. There are grand scales of machines and institutions set up to create this grinding, human eating, oppression machine.

You can help people, they would appreciate if you do. If you do anything, starting small with the people near you will do a lot. Small acts of kidness count for a lot. You don't have to take on the entire globes struggle in order to be helping.

And never light yourself on fire in order to keep someone else warm. You need to stay alive and healthy too in order to keep doing good things.

[–] [email protected] 6 points 12 hours ago (1 children)

but I could give all my money to those who need it (outside of what I need to survive) I could spend all my time volunteering.

[–] [email protected] 10 points 11 hours ago (1 children)

That's the proverbial lighting yourself on fire to keep someone else warm. It's not an effective long term strategy because you are valuable as a person in and of herself. Take that feeling that you need to do more and turn it into something actionable or join in somewhere ongoing, but don't feel like you're falling short unless you're giving everything.

This is a side bit, but utilitarianism is a common ethical framework and is probably the default one in the west. If you follow it, yeah the conlusion is inevitably we should donate all our time and our money and even our organs in order to maximize "good" - which is absurd and the point of the absurdity is that our ethics isn't complete by just saying "go and maximize the well being of everyone." Don't go and burn yourself out, go and be a resilient and sustainable force of justice and right the wrong you can right.

[–] [email protected] 7 points 11 hours ago

don't you ever compare me to a utilitarian again badeline-disgust

[–] [email protected] 10 points 13 hours ago (3 children)

It's maybe a little grim but all of us here are kinda helping each other out just by staying alive doggirl-sweat

Doing those things that bring you joy to get through the day and give even just a little bit to look forward to in the future is part of that staying alive.

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[–] [email protected] 10 points 13 hours ago

You have to realize that not doing anything for yourself will only cause you to burn out. Reducing consumption is a great thing to do but denying yourself any joy is not a way to live. Everyone absolutely should have a safe space that they can relax feel joy in, including you. Just don't become a complacent and morph into a liberal, alright?

[–] [email protected] 9 points 13 hours ago

But if you dedicate your entire life for others then your mental health will probably suffer a lot and you will have a breakdown sooner or later. If you really want to help, do it in moderation and make sure that your wellbeing comes first.

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