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submitted 10 months ago by [email protected] to c/[email protected]

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I am still very early in this whole process, and there is still a lot of self doubt, so I am reading a lot of literature on "Am I trans" and dysphoria.

One concept that people often like to propose in these ressources is the button that makes you the opposite gender, and, crucially, also makes everyone else believe that you have been that way forever.

I don't really like this, because my time as a boy/man is part of who I am. I would not be me without it, and despite all of the problems I had and have due to my gender, it is still part of who I am. I fought through all of this and worked to find out who I want to be by myself. I wouldn't wanna be cis, and I also don't want to cease being the me born out of this struggle.

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[–] [email protected] 11 points 10 months ago* (last edited 10 months ago) (2 children)

Y’all were born men and women? I was born a baby! /s

Seriously though, it sounds about right to me. Thank you, I needed this.

Edit to clarify: I’m pretty confident that I’m trans at this point as weird as it still sounds to say it (not in the bad way like calling myself cis though in a not ironic egg way lol) My dysphoria didn’t start until early puberty and I’ve actually got new dysphoria after giving myself permission to be trans. Giving myself permission to try more out without worrying about if I’m really trans enough (very trans thing to do) is a good idea.

I think you hit the nail on the head here in pointing out that we definitely shouldn’t gatekeep being trans on dysphoria — getting euphoria from switching should be enough, and even cis people should get to experiment too!

[–] [email protected] 10 points 10 months ago (1 children)

“I actually got new dysphoria after giving myself permission to be trans”

Same, lol

[–] [email protected] 4 points 10 months ago (1 children)

Yeah I think thars pretty common haha

[–] [email protected] 1 points 10 months ago

yea

[–] [email protected] 1 points 10 months ago

I'm happy to help! If you're interested: I put the video into my first comment.