International Transgender Day of Visibility (TDoV) is a day for celebrating the lives of transgender people, recognizing the contributions we make to society and rallying against the discrimination we face. TDoV also functions as a counterpart to the International Transgender Day of Remembrance (TDoR)^[TDoR is observed on November 20th and memorializes those of us who's lives were stolen by transphobic violence, particularly trans women of color. TDoR was initially founded in 1999 in remembrance of Rita Hester, Chanelle Pickett, and Monique Thomas, three black trans women who were murdered in the Boston area.]; with TDoR being a somber occasion and TDoV having a more celebratory nature.
For this week, in observation of TDoV, I invite you all, the posters in our community to write a little bit about the celebration of trans lives.
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dysphoria/confusion
Kinda buried the lede on my sex crash out last week... The way it started was my friends talking in pretty graphic detail about the experience of getting a pelvic exam and the weird ways the fingering mechanics would line up with being fingered in an intimate context and how odd that situation is. I didn't think about it at the time, but later on I wondered if it might be a dysphoria thing. My therapist immediately highlighted that as a possibility, and my answer is... I don't know?Like, I guess I've never really had a problem with having a dick before. But I've also never considered the alternative because the idea of a botched surgery scares me, as well as having some kind of permanent upkeep with dilating. Although I guess I already have some permanent upkeep I have to do to prevent atrophy. Idk. And it would be nice to be "normal" I guess. But otoh I've never really had the opportunity to use my stock equipment with a partner, maybe I'd really like it how it is?
bottom dysphoria, bottom surgery
You do not need full depth - and the amount of dilation needed is a bit overblown even with it. Its "permanent" but really after the first few months thats about the depth youre gonna have (and maintenance schedules after a year is once a week and getting something in there e.g. sex counts). If you don't get full depth, there is nothing to dilate and recovery is significantly faster.I was ambivalent about bottom dysphoria too. Its only after bottom surgery and getting my vagina do I feel how much I was living with before. I was very toppy, and I had the bit which could be used for that, so it was always an uneasy alliance. I was happier using a strap even before bottom surgery than using my gock. That might not be the same as it is for you, but from my experience... you ain't missing much if you use it PIV mode lol (also straps and double sided dildos exist anyway).
If you would be happier with a vagina, look into it. If youre just ambivalent about what you have - consider it and think about it, for real think about it.
Yeah ambivalent is how I'd describe it... although
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Wearing women's pants has been causing some distress because of the occasional bulge, but I don't know if that's just not wanting to look like a creep.Get panties that have a pattern and not a solid color, it helps hide the bulge pretty well and they're CUTE!!!
My issue is with how it looks over my pants, not sure how a pattern below them would help? Although I have just been using boyshorts for underwear so maybe switching to panties proper could be good
Also have you tried tucking?
No, frankly I have no clue how to find my inguinal canals or how to shove the homies up there
how to tuck
Hmm I do not like the idea of hernias. Shame cause I was figuring it out a bit in the shower this morning
Sorry, I read that as panties and not pants. But if you are looking into panties and your on the bigger side Hanes line of "just my size"are good quality that or Duluth trading company. They're good quality and will last