Trans Megathread from February 16th, 2025 to February 22nd, 2026 (thelemmy.club)

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[-] BountifulEggnog@hexbear.net 7 points 17 hours ago

just being pissed, dysphoria

Sorry I know this is shitty but I feel super shitty inside. No one here really made me feel this way I just have been for a while.

I wish E did more. I wish I could just take it for a couple years and pass and look cis and not have to do anything else. Like laser is kinda whatever, 1500-2500 or whatever and some pain and shit isn't that bad in the grand scheme of things. With working and living at home I have enough saved I'm not worried about that. Voice and all the things I have to learn. There's too much shit I have to do to transition. And a lot that even effort can't do.

I don't even really consider voice training to be effort because its not possible but whatever. You get the point. I just want to shoot up hormones and get to be a woman.

Also like I wish the mental effects for me were as good as they are for some people. Distinctly remember at least one person telling me after starting hrt her depression just went away. I definitely feel better then on T but I'm still miserable and depressed. Why the fuck wouldn't I be.

[-] BountifulEggnog@hexbear.net 5 points 16 hours ago

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Why am I miserable and dysphoric and hating being trans and suffering and everything all the time. Why are so many people happy and I'm not. I haven't been. I don't feel any hope of being happy. Why did this happen to me. Why is my brain like this. Why is everyone else okay.

[-] TerminalEncounter@hexbear.net 2 points 2 hours ago

spoiler - talking about my own suicidal ideation

I suspect part of what is making things significantly harder is you still have to deal with misgendering (like incidental by people who dont know you and while youre boymoding etc) and life in the closet. You did start HRT and came out yo a few key people which is dope!

HRT for me was like a low dose antidepressant. I still had the stressors in my life that I had, my ex, school, nursing, etc. I still considerd suicide and had a plan and a time picked out. But it was much easier to deal with while I was on estrogen than it was ever before and part of that, for me, was that I could name my emotions and felt them in a much more fine grained way besides also just the relief of being on HRT. I said it but Ill say it again, it was like the emotional equivalent of wearing glasses for the first time after a lifetime of being nearsighted.

Things are hard for you, and you do seem profoundly depressed being transgender aside. I do hope you continue to attend support group, find some therapy, keep up taking those transition steps. You said you are feeling better (than on T) which is a good sign, things are moving in the right direction even if its still quite difficult and dark.

[-] BountifulEggnog@hexbear.net 5 points 16 hours ago

I wish being trans made me happy or was even neutral instead of making a miserable inconsolable piece of shit but here we are

[-] BountifulEggnog@hexbear.net 4 points 14 hours ago

current events

saw a comment here talking about how bad things could get in the states and it always scares me so bad

fuck this shitty life and shitty world. never going to get to be happy. I fucking hate my life. I hate that I was born.

[-] communistlara@hexbear.net 4 points 12 hours ago

We have to live in spite, to hold onto one another, not lose one another

We lost far too many people as is, we should take care of eachother wherever we can, however we can

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