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Today: a short yap about computer hardware:
Damn I love the AM4 socket its so upgradable yay, bought a Ryzen 9 5900X for our old desktop soon to be homelab and so excited for it.
Computers are fun! ~~(and expensive)~~
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I don't know any other trans people, actually I've only ever met two trans men (at least that I know of, most likely I've interacted with more than two). I also do not participate in any LGBT+ communities IRL as my number one priority in life is to go stealth. I guess I'm also worried that dating another trans person would make my dysphoria even worse, maybe it's irrational idk😵💫
Can I ask why you think that would be the case? A transmasc person's transition is quite different from yours.
In my experience, t4t relationships haven't just been eliminating the initial transphobia worry, but they also provide an understanding that I don't think cis people will really have (through no fault of their own)
dysphoria/dating
Idk, I guess I just don’t want to deal with any more trans issues. I hate being trans with all my being and I don’t want to be reminded of it. Also, I wouldn’t want my hatred of being trans to affect a partner of mine. Generally I suppress what is necessary to not out myself, e.g I’m slightly bisexual, but I won’t date women.I can definitely see how it would be nice to not have to worry about transphobia and also have an inherent understanding, but I’d prefer a partner to never bring up me being trans, I hate talking about it or being reminded of it (to such a degree that I’ve considered cutting off anyone who knows I’m trans including my family even though they are supportive)
But idk, it’s not like I’ll completely rule out dating another trans person, but it’s unlikely due to my dysphoria and the fact that I don’t know any trans people IRL. I’ll have to see what the future brings😅
::: spoiler spoiler There are lot of reasons the world gives us to hate being trans, I think even the most principled trans positive person is bound to feel it sometimes. I'm sorry it's been so difficult
Being stealth for whatever the reason is fine, but maybe it doesn't all have to be hate and shame. Easier said than done, of course, but I think any trans person you've shown kindness to would want you to feel some of that kindness and understanding as well.
To whatever the future brings!