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DEMOS (Dialogovaya Edinaya Mobilnaya Operatsionnaya Sistema: Russian: Диалоговая Единая Мобильная Операционная Система, ДЕМОС, lit. 'Interactive Unified Portable Operating System') is a Unix-like operating system developed in the Soviet Union. It is derived from Berkeley Software Distribution (BSD) Unix.
It's development was initiated in the Kurchatov Institute of Atomic Energy in Moscow in 1982, and development continued in cooperation from other institutes, and commercialized by DEMOS Co-operative which employed most key contributors to DEMOS and to its earlier alternative, MNOS (a clone of Version 6 Unix). MNOS and DEMOS version 1.x were gradually merged from 1986 until 1990, leaving the joint OS, DEMOS version 2.x, with support for different Cyrillic script character encoding (charsets) (KOI-8 and U-code, used in DEMOS 1 and MNOS, respectively).
Initially it was developed for SM-4 (a PDP-11/40 clone) and SM-1600. Later it was ported to Elektronika-1082, BESM, ES EVM, clones of VAX-11 (SM-1700), and several other platforms, including PC/XT, Elektronika-85 (a clone of DEC Professional), and several Motorola 68020-based microcomputers.
The development of DEMOS effectively ceased in 1991, when the second project of the DEMOS team, RELCOM, took priority.
An archive of the DEMOS source code can found here: https://github.com/bpr97050/DEMOS There's some interesting comments and mailing list archives in that repository as well. :)
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How do you accept that you might never pass?
Accept that not passing is ok actually. Easier said than done tho and I struggle with the same thought a lot :(
You already passed at the airport, you silly puppy
I didn’t, at a glance maybe, but that doesn’t really count.
I mean it's all relative right? If you're applying transvestigator level scrutiny, then even cis people don't pass. Passing at a glance is already huge progress <3 I don't get why it "doesn't count"
passing at a glance is passing. urge you to try not to twist facts to invalidate yourself like this, i know it's hard<3
I feel like in order to pass they have to actually focus on you
it seems like that is a definition you have settled on because you can't bring yourself to validate the fact you did pass. you are bullying yourself unfairly, I know how much that sucks and it's a hard habit to break but please u gotta try. people rarely focus on strangers and interrogate their gender... it's a split second decision the cisnormative brain makes. you did pass! you can pass! i really want you to see this!
Usually people won't do more than glance at you though. If you pass at a glance, chances are that's how most people see you
Didn’t go into the game with this as a goal. Never really gave a shit. I’m not cis, I do not strive to be cis.
must be nice
We all have our challenges going thru transition, for sure.
i more or less managed to kill the concept in my head by doing the litany against passing or something. im not sure how. i first want to acknowledge it was easier for me than its gonna be for many binary trans folks cause im very content looking like a kinda androgynous gremlin and fine with normies seeing me as a confusing queer or whatever. i kinda relish those reactions. back when i cared more, realising a whole lot of cis women wouldn't "pass" if i applied the scrutiny i was applying to myself earlier in transition helped. also talked about this on here a tiny bit before but getting the fuck off twitter so i'm not allowed look at timelines posted by beautiful onlyfans models who look good for a living has like, all but cured my body dysmorphia. it's just a negative behaviour that i had to cut out. i still get dysphoria days but am wildly more comfortable in my own skin now on average.
sorry if it doesn't really answer your question, for something like that you need to try to practice radical acceptance and understand it's an ongoing process that needs active renewal not a binary switch. there is no silver bullet and it is really hard. but also some of your comments on here have indicated you do pass at least now and then. and you are tiny which is a huge boon if you want to pass. so you may be framing it in a bit of an overly negative way to start with.
glad i could share comrade. it's something i'd be happy to potentially effortpost more about, it's one of the things that really stuck with me from my one round of DBT (therapy that actually works for people like me? :o) and i think even a passing (hehe) understanding of it can rly benefit a lot of folks
Wholeheartedly agree. Would love to see an effortpost if you feel the call. I do emdr, and that has really helped me with a positive sense of self in many ways. Still have a long way to go though. Might just be my neurodivergence, but passing never made any sense to me.
Yes, I experience dysphoria, not that this is a part of what makes me trans. This dysphoria is not due to any conception of comparing myself to cisfolk, really.
thank you for sharing:) radical acceptance is wild lol I remember straight up hating the concept when it was first introduced but now i rly see how valuable it is. it's hard as shit though.
Likewise! And as you said, the work is never done. It is a continuous process of renewal.
Idk it's a difficult thing to accept. I'm just holding out hope I'll get there. I think also managing expectations is good. Like I don't expect to pass as cis, my own goal is to just pass as a woman and be treated as a woman and not constantly misgendered. I think it's an ok goal and the bar is way lower for that
Never having goals to begin with. Am an NB though, but I still don't like automatically gendered as a man by everyone else (except by people at my work so I don't have to deal with coming out there).