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this post was submitted on 15 Jul 2024
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talking about privilege, social anxiety, all the things
I too speak from a position with a lot of privilege. I live in a lib area where for the most part I don't have to worry about getting harassed for presenting queer in public, I've never really had to agonize about passing, and I don't experience much transphobia in my daily life. I came out at 16 and had a really smooth social transition. I'm transmisogyny-exempt. The thing that I struggle with the most is the fact that I'm not on HRT yet (due to living at my parents house) but while that does cause me dysphoria, it hasn't really stopped me from being out and open as trans and generally getting accepted as such.I also struggle socially. My social problems may manifest a bit differently to yours β I struggle to hold conversations, and I especially struggle with responding to people (which in a day and age where ghosting is like a cardinal sin does feel really bad.) I have a difficult time gauging what people will take offense to and I overcompensate by masking my entire personality. I've always really admired people who openly gush about their interests because it's something I want to be able to do.
I've never gotten the vibe from you that you are lecturing from a position of privilege or anything, but that you are passionate about queer liberation and want to provide an empathetic voice. And that's super fucking cool! I love reading your posts about gender because while I'm also nonbinary, my experience of being nonbinary is very different from yours and I enjoy seeing different perspectives on the whole gender thing. Not to mention your queer lit posting is also fantastic, it's some of my favorite stuff to read while scrolling the bear site.
To me you are one of the posting cornerstones of the trans mega. I've loved watching this little community grow over the past few months, and you are one of the people who helped build that community. I would be sad to see you go.
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I feel kinda good reading this actually. I'm pretty much considered a weird, lucky special case wherever I go, so it's really cool to hear from someone similar to me. Fuckin rad =) Glad to hear being trans is going at least okay for you so far.
Yeah I can relate, I respond okay online but in person or realtime chat I will drop spaghetti and run away. I do okay not offending people at least... I found masking to be exhausting and goofy, so I try not to as much as possible. In some social situations it's necessary, and I still have to talk to like service workers or cab drivers, but generally I try to live without the 'tism mask, and mainly that means fuckin infodumps and essays. I want to talk BIG about my goofy interests. And so...
Okay awesome, thank you
I guess people have different perceptions, I haven't heard anything super negative though so that's good. I do in fact luv me queer liberation and want to be empathetic!!! I can see myself in our beloved dorky eggs in so many ways. The mega is splendid and I wanna give back to it any way I can. Contrasting and comparing different experiences of being NB is great, I love that.
I wish people would stop saying they enjoy my book posting though
I have an audience and they actually like that shit... wtf scary........ (translated: I am shocked and flattered and pleased, I fucking love bookposting)
Waow
I have loved watching this place blow up and grow, 912 comments the last week of pride was super cool. I guess I will Never Stop Posting 
NB stuff is epic. I too, do not mask irl. I donβt think I have much of an autistic social deficit, but I do got the ADHD surplus. Iβm either βfuck you for trying to speak to me,β or cannot stop talking, esp about special interests. Online I love special interest posting if I have the same interest but scroll past if not, but irl I just love hearing people talk about fixations.
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Yeah I get that, I think I'm probably younger than most people in the mega yet I've been out as trans for just as long or longer. I think of it as a testament to the fact that being trans is a much more understood thing now than it was even just ten or fifteen years agoHaha I find responding online to be really difficult. I'm also autistic but I mask a lot and I honestly aspire to mask less? But also I've had very little in-person social interaction for over a year outside of my family so honestly idek how I come across now.
... maybe I will try to do some more infodumps about my silly little hobbies
I love this mega. May the Posting continue
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I think it kinda helps not going outside, I'm allergic to grass anyway tbh.
Tearing off the mask is hard work, it can get ingrained as a defense mechanism or survival tool, but it's worth it to tear off imo. I like being autistic.
If you do infodumps I will upbear them, lfg