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Do you ever just feel like shit about how much effort you have to put in just to be a girl? I wish I could just exist.
Thinking about it is putting me back into depression.
I kinda did, so I just started existing. Makeup? Naw. Body? Unshaven. I still do haircare of course, but with this hair it wouldn't matter what gender I am. Outfits? Jeans or trackpants and an oversized t-shirt. Maybe a flannel and a tank if I'm feeling dykey.
I read a lot of posts on the womens' autism subs about cis women who dress and exist this way, and sort of appropriated it for myself. It feels really good, I like that I can just exist, zero effort. I still do have days where I dress up a bit, but y'know โจ
felt. it's easier for me than some binary trans femmes. I rly like being a futch tomboy gender gremlin. i rarely wear makeup. i rarely shave other than my face. I tried out skirts and stuff for a bit earlier in transition but just ended up gravitating back towards black jeans, big pants and black t shirts and it makes me happy:) all power to the high femmes out there but I'm honestly grateful personally for how comfortable I am putting not much effort into my fits/presentation and being content.
Being a futch tomboy gender gremlin FUCKS SO HARD
it's great, often comfy too. I also like that I can swap stuff around and present different ways, presentation is fun to play with.
gender gremlin gang
It slaps honestly, like shedding the artifice of feminine expectations and going, I guess you would call it "natural" lets me feel femme in a different, cool way. Kinda "1970s feminist but aweaome" way. Very healthy โจ
Even ciswomen have to put a ton of effort into it thanks to societal expectations. It sucks. Like, in the "beforetimes" I could just shower, throw on whatever and call it done. 20 minutes max.
Nowadays, I shower including shaving a good chunk of my body, long sit-in hair conditioner, and meticulous washing, I brush my hair, I blowdry my hair, I straighten my hair, I put on makeup, and I change out my earrings. Takes like 2 hours now granted some of that can be skipped if I'm not going out for the day.
And all that is just showering.
Know what though? It's so fucking worth it. I feel so much better when I look good and can show my face in public =w=
To some extent sure, but most cis woman can just wake up and be women if they want, the other stuff is just if they want to be attractive.
It doesn't really feel the same.
I'm basically a mormon girl with no makeup and a dress. If I might ask, how long are you on hrt?
Iโve been on a shitty dose of spiro and pills on and off for years, but I just recently have been taking cypro and injections for 3 months-ish
3mo stable is no time at all, you got this. quite a lot of people begin to pass around 2 years, some take even longer than that even. im of the opinion that the vast majority end up passing (as a person that organizes trans stuff IRL for 10+ years now), cis women are a very wide group.
if you ask around on tttt and most trans places, most people are early transition and very doomer. people eventually grow out of this as time goes on, and they leave these places. a goal of mine here is to try to buck this trend and have people from all stages that feel comfortable, so we can organize better aid for people in early transition.
ime, best thing to do is to try to find your "least bad" routine (for me i just wore skinny jeans and a tshirt) and stick to that and sort of hibernate until things get easier. i found things very hard early on and only felt safe dressing androgynously, whenever i dressed super feminine i felt like it accented my masculine parts too much and it made me super self conscious. over time, this concern went away as my body changed. this is just what i did, probably isnt the perfect thing to do for everyone, but for someone with ptsd and stress issues, it was great for me in hindsight.
It's wild what society expects from people.
I found the idea really restrictive
I like to just wear what I want how I want. I wear makeup when I feel like wearing it, I cut my hair in a curly little bob because I think it suits me. I wear any kind of clothes I find comfortable for me (autistic comfort comes first) I love my perfume and smellies.
Dressing androgynous I get she/her'd regularly, but I'm agender, I don't wear a bra unless absolutely needed, and I shave the body hair when I feel like it
I don't conform by existing.