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I kinda did, so I just started existing. Makeup? Naw. Body? Unshaven. I still do haircare of course, but with this hair it wouldn't matter what gender I am. Outfits? Jeans or trackpants and an oversized t-shirt. Maybe a flannel and a tank if I'm feeling dykey.
I read a lot of posts on the womens' autism subs about cis women who dress and exist this way, and sort of appropriated it for myself. It feels really good, I like that I can just exist, zero effort. I still do have days where I dress up a bit, but y'know β¨
felt. it's easier for me than some binary trans femmes. I rly like being a futch tomboy gender gremlin. i rarely wear makeup. i rarely shave other than my face. I tried out skirts and stuff for a bit earlier in transition but just ended up gravitating back towards black jeans, big pants and black t shirts and it makes me happy:) all power to the high femmes out there but I'm honestly grateful personally for how comfortable I am putting not much effort into my fits/presentation and being content.
Being a futch tomboy gender gremlin FUCKS SO HARD
it's great, often comfy too. I also like that I can swap stuff around and present different ways, presentation is fun to play with.
gender gremlin gang
It slaps honestly, like shedding the artifice of feminine expectations and going, I guess you would call it "natural" lets me feel femme in a different, cool way. Kinda "1970s feminist but aweaome" way. Very healthy β¨
Any recommendations on reading autistic womenβs experiences? Reading on autism is still frustratingly male centered, in my experience.
Uh not really sadly. I never drudged up any theory on the subject, unfortunately... Just what's left of the subs I guess, or like Uncomfortable Labels by Laura Kate Dale?
Thank youuuuu
There's two subreddits I read through ages ago, autsiminwomen and aspergirls ymmv but there was some good anecdotal conversation, I got a lot of good information from them.
:D Thank you!
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I could say some /tttt/ brainrot shit right now, but I won't
you want me to be mean to you?
Yeah honestly, let's go. I can do it, I'm curious to see what you say and pretty sure I'll have a good rebuttal.
I was gonna say
that's easy for a youngshit passoid to sayThe intensity of transvestigation increases proportionally with transgender visibility. This implies a transvestigation singularity in the future in which all cis and trans women will be unable to pass.
At which point passing narratives will collapse right?
Yes I presume so.
I will celeberate that demise
I second that, big time.
Alright. So. I'm nowhere near whatever this amalgamation of nonsense is. So I can speak from experience.
I'm in my mid-30s. I started transitioning 2 years ago. I have a massive body ravaged by testosterone to just be huge and wide. I'm talking I'm 5'10" and have a rib cage that's easily over 40" in circumference without issue. Probably closer to 42" or so. My shoulders are wide and I have a fairly rectangular body that's slowly shaping into an hourglass shape. And I pass.
The sheer amount of effort I've had to put in to pass is staggering. I've dedicated an enormous amount of my life over the past two years just to get to this point. I've meticulously learned how to put on makeup. I've picked up gesturing and body movements. I forced myself to voice train, refusing to ever use my "old voice" ever again. I learned how to my hair even if it is rudimentary knowledge at best. I threw out my old wardrobe slowly over time and replaced it with fem clothes. I forced myself to go out into public with all of the above even if I knew I wouldn't pass at the time because I knew it would eventually pay off.
I genuinely wish I could show you before and after pictures of myself. I was a manly man just a couple of years ago, and now I can stealth without issue (aside from a slouch due to a deteriorating spine, but that's beside the point). Sure, some people have to put more effort into it than others, but like, most of us are moving towards the same goal. You just need to identify what you need to work on most, actively work towards it, and you will eventually achieve your goal.
Well yeah, ugly fuckin' terminology aside I do try to keep in mind that I do pass, tall and skinny. But also like... I pass, somehow? I have not done a lot of voice training, my figure is pretty androgynous, without a bra you could miss the boobs. The biggest thing I think is the long hair signals to people that I am femme, or "a girl" I guess, but I put so little effort into voice sometimes I'm surprised I don't get misgendered more often.
I have a very strong jaw, deep-set eyes and a not-small forehead though, so this isn't like I went through cis female puberty or anything. My pelvis is small, my arms are long. I was 17 when I started, Idk. My wife transitioned in her 30s and does this too, does she fit your term too?
Maybe there is hope for me
Of course there is, don't be a nerd