I was literally just talking to a friend about this last night. I used to live in a super conservative small town where almost everyone was elderly, it was like basically a glorified retirement community. People would take one look at me, see my really long hair, and gender me correctly. But now I live in a progressive college town and even with my hair and painted nails and shit people still misgender me. It is so painful to get gendered correctly less 15 months on HRT compared to pre-HRT

Suffering from success or something

I actually go into panic mode every time I see somebody that looks queer here and I have to use their pronoun in an upcoming sentence lmao

How are you in my head??

Honestly hard for me to even figure out how I want to present because of stuff like this. Do I like to present broadly masc for its own sake, or to signal to other lesbians? Do I like to add a bunch of fem signifiers because I like the contrast or so cis people will at least hesitate before he/himming me? I'm genuinely not sure.

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Also it's weird, due to autism I dress basically androgynously with shapeless clothes like 90% of the time, and by accident I became a scary genderfucker forcing people to guess my pronouns. I get they/them'd somewhat frequently irl, by straight people, which is funny

This makes me think of an old /tttt/ brainworm. Brainworms at 5am.

I can remember clear as day, some trip on there complaining that once normies knew about the tr*** nobody would be able to pass anymore bexause everyone would know 'the signs' or whatever. I internalised this as a genuine fear for the wellbeing of trans people as a teenager.

This is like the reverse of that I guess? Everyone's so progressive that nobody can pass anymore?

Hexbear is my post-/tttt/ therapy group