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Can't improve on perfection

I'd like to improve almost everything but I get paralyzed and disheartened when I realize how far behind I am at my age. Maybe a comm would be cool though.

It's already over if you're gonna use 4chan slang and memes

I'd be up for this if we can mix together things in a way that makes it unlike any other.

Reading, artistic improvement, personal improvement, physical improvement, emotional improvement, spiritual improvement, interpersonal improvement, all rolled up into one.

Spaces like this are usually super exclusionary, cis white straight, the "improvement" is usually only in one direction such as something like getting physically stronger when in reality some people might want a more femboy body or a more womanly body or a more androgynous body and the methods for achieving all of those things are completely different. An environment where everyone is comfortable asking about all of these things would be a good one.

My job has started to eat into my ability to take care of myself. In the new year I'd love to get back into cooking for myself more regularly, reading regularly (I read 50 books in 2022 and like 23 this year), and even just brushing and flossing better, but I really might have to leave the job behind.

The other thing that I've figured out with the help of a therapist is that my avoident attachment style has made it hard to lean in and be vulnerable in my relationships, romantic or otherwise, and that it's too easy to withdraw at the first sign of tension or imbalance. I'd like to do better at openly telling people that I love them or want to spend time with them instead of keeping my cards to my chest in order to accomodate and mirror how they're feeling.

Other than that I had a fantastic and exhilerating 2023 and mostly just want to build on it.

Hi, I am trying to kick my videogames addiction

I've already decided that 2024 was gonna be my year a few months ago.

I'm going to get my upper body drum technique comprehensively together, I have just a few topics I want to hit left: the one I'm currently on which is shoulders and forearms, then I'll move to press rolls and then lastly traditional grip. I'm worried the traditional grip might take longer than I'm hoping so this one and the below might blend together.

After that I'm going to spend a few months focusing in on one drummer at a time. I'm thinking Max Roach, Art Blakey, Philly Joe Jones, Roy Haynes to start myself off. I'd also like to dig deep into Brian Blade, Kenny Washington and Ralph Peterson as they were two modern drummers that made me feel something when I first became interested in music. Some other drummers I think are worth investing into are Ed Thigpen and Harold Jones.

I also want to lose ten lbs and eat cleaner.

Oooooo I'm about to improoove!

I am already a self-improvement freak and I would like to continue improving in many areas, including sleep, nutrition, exercise, reading, grass-touching and so on.

Some stuff that I want to do:

• I want to learn to cook more healthy meals. My nutrition is mostly healthy but I'm always eating the same few meals that I've learned. I also want to eat more plant-based food.
• have a regular sleep routine and read books before bed instead of shitposting in the megathread lol
• read 12 books
• exercise regularly and go running at least once a week but ideally twice a week
• touch grass more often and hang out with people

There's more of it but it's all pretty basic stuff

I often find myself playing video games when I could be reading, even though I know I'd enjoy reading more, at least in the long term. Gonna try to change the habit.

I might be an improover

Well, I stopped, to a degree

It was too productivist and too negative.

acknowledging bmf's sketch of a critique ("neoliberal-subject.jpg" or w/e), this is probably cool -- we're already posting, an ur-practice of neolib subjects, but working at setting and achieving goals, and discussing these with others, mitigates that concern, at least somewhat.

maybe there could be a cross-over with the theory reading group (is there such a thing? sometimes a book gets pinned i think), or the fitness sub.

I'd like to try to lose a little weight, find a new living situation, spend more focused time on my hobbies, waste less time mindlessly on the internet and maybe get a bit more involved in the local organizations. lots to improove especially compared to the current year where ive really felt i kinda let myself go

Been drinking about half of what I usually do over the past few weeks. Started reading some decolonial marxist theory the other day. Going to try and complete the Chunka Luta network's "required reading" list. Choosing better stuff to eat. Going to try going to the gym in a couple months after the new year's crowd dies down. Things are looking good, honestly

Same. Here's my list in no particular order:

Get back to college, get some skills I can put on a resume, get friends and a gf, get a hobby, get abs.

I would like to improove. Gonna brainstorm some stuff

If a comm does not get approved, maybe a weekly mega on /c/chat or something?

https://www.google.com/search?q=how+to+learn+to+read+Mandarin

I should probably stop vaping so much weed but also, i'm probably not going to do that

i also am looking to lick some capitalist boots and get a new job that pays more, i already started the job search. Looks like we're heading into a depression so probably not going to find anything, but whatever, i'm gonna do pirated job training so eventually i'll get a better job.

I philosophically disagree with self improvement as a mindset, this idea that you’re supposed to change yourself to be better. I don’t think that’s how anything worse, you adapt your circumstances so you are inclined to do what you want to do instead

Self-improvement implies an inherent dissatisfaction with oneself, a fundamental and cosmic insecurity which one attempts to overcome through superficial changes in routine or habit. It would be hypocritical for me to suggest people simply kick that attitude away, though, especially because it’s obviously instilled through years of social interactions and attitudes that enforce it; Not some sort of personal attribute

Im in a sort of partnership with someone I met in November and I’m hoping for the best I really want to keep seeing this person for many more years

In 2024 I would like to, in no particular order:

• Find better coping mechanisms when I'm stressed and feeling sad
• Be better at asserting my wishes and boundaries in a constructive and positive way.
• Be better at opening up about my emotions
• Start the process of getting something done about my abysmal personal finances and my mountain of debt
• Loose weight and get a healthier body
• Dress better
• Eat less junk
• Get our new place fixed up and build all the stuff that's going to make it nice and cozy.
• Have a social life and see people on a regular basis who are not family members or work related
• Somehow manage my time better to get more leisure time and less stress.

All of these issues are intertwined and affects eachother. On good days I hope that improving one is going to make the other ones easier, on bad days I fear that trying to improve one will divert energy from keeping the other ones at bay, eventually forcing me to abandon my efforts in order to put out the fires created by neglecting the others.

The megathread is the improvement comm if you post there every time you do something to better yourself

gonna be traveling from jan 8 until october so i'm prolly gonna lose a bunch of weight and get tan just from that. otherwise im tryna cut back on drinking and weed, plus learn to code(tm) so i can get a less boring office job if teaching english doesn't work out

Death to America

I hope I can finally pull my studying together systematically.

I have a yearlong membership to a music learning program and I will practice [the instrument I play] every day. Even if it's only 5 minutes I will not go a day without touching it unless I'm traveling.

Also I have to exercise more, I'm at the age where I can't afford not to be fit. 2x a week minimum but 4x would be ideal.