Women are not a unified organism controller by a singular hive mind? Isn't that the job of Queen Kerrigan?

Yeah, some people want to be abused too, and they feel the ick if the person isn't abusive and starts avoiding them.

Which is ironic cos no bonding gets done in that case

So you just stop bonding?

Thats not a problem with "liking someone back." I think the post would have read along the lines of " i hate when someone isn't who they seem to be" in your scenario.

I don't really think it's that simple.

I think it's about that weird thing people (not women) do that makes them attracted to strangers but not friends. I find it mentioned everywhere, both online and offline.

I think that's what anon is experiencing too.

I really don't understand why people just lose all attraction as soon as mysteriousness is no longer a factor. And I've seen it happen with my own damn eyes, to me AND others.

I don't get it.

It's as if as soon as I become readily available to anyone, I suddenly become much more worthless and disposable too... Suddenly every other aspect of theif life takes priority and I'm number last. I guess because other things are only available conditionally whereas I'm pretty much always available? Idk.

Also if I'm not interested in someone, that someone always wants to interact. It's as if life constantly works to spite me.

Edit: I'm so glad I didn't get downvoted to oblivion...I feel so validated. Thanks y'all...

Nah I was raised female and legit had friends like this some women (as with men) just never grow up. On a very tangentially related note I've been reflecting recently on the very primal attractiveness of a man who is visibly strong and horny enough to fuck me up but who is also visibly restraining themselves. The testosterone + self control combo is just an immediate vagina geyser.

Yeah, the whole situation is too vague to read for certain, even if it really happened.

I do find it more likely that this was a "Never meet your crushes" than an "OMG wtf would they like me" just out of the blue.

Most "greentext" is propaganda to make everyone hate each other.

Go find some other greentexts then and post them here.

that's not at all impossible, a lot of the time it's really about a guy

https://sh.itjust.works/post/62957191

Just for you

Is it a blatant repost? Yes

Is it about a 'girl'? No

😅

or you just stop looking because you are sick of all the miserable bullshit and you just want to enjoy your life without other people's miserable bullshit weirdo nonsense in it.

and you're shocked that... you feel really good most days instead of feeling like shit most days... almost as of how other people treat you has a huge impact on your mental health and cutting out people who treat you poorly makes you feel a lot better about life.

I mean, I would like first to make a point of order - "ghosting" is when someone who you already have an established relationship with stops responding to all messages. It doesn't mean "someone you were interested in but had no significant relationship with simply lost interest". For example, if you match with someone on a dating app, and then you exchange a few messages but they stop responding, they are not "ghosting" you - they have simply lost interest.

Anyway, if you have people on dating apps consistently losing interest with you, then it usually means that your problem is.... nothing. The vast majority of OLD interactions go no where. This is fine. Most people arent a good match for each other. They might have found someone who is a better match for them, or they may have simply become exhausted with dealing with OLD.

Its like if you thought someone at a party was cute, and you went and had a convo with them, and then they went to get a drink and got drawn into another convo, and then you never saw them again. They didn't "ghost" you. They aren't being mean to you. They are just living their life, and you are not a major player in it, and that's fine.

However, if you don't like how conversations just peter off sometimes, you can significantly reduce this by seeking explicit rejections instead. Be clear about what you are looking for, and then pitch meeting up in person.