I'm disabled so I'm in a very different class position from many of my old friends. The longer they own their own homes the worse it gets, and as soon as they have children the more invested they are in preserving the status quo despite that status quo fucking them up at every turn.
They are mostly run of the mill libs "normies" type of people.
I totally get it, comrade. I love my friends but they frustrate the hell out of me sometimes. How often do they tut-tut you for being too "negative"?
Meanwhile: https://www.theonion.com/study-confirms-it-becomes-harder-to-make-childhood-frie-1850600357
Yeah, I completely understand. My first close friend had a child recently and I'm dreading what that's going to do to things. I'm not particularly good with kids and I certainly don't want any of my own so that makes it hard to relate when the thing that is going to be their top priority in life isn't on your radar.
Definitely been chastised for negativity.
Good article haha very funny.
I'm dealing with this right now. I mentioned one such friend in a post I made yesterday. It's hard to deal with the reality of friendships that only exist because of history and not wanting to formally end things.
I had a shower thought last night and for all of my reasons not to end the friendship, I didn't think that it's because I missed them or enjoyed their company.
I think it's nice to remember friendships fondly and showing respect and gratitude for what the friendship was, but if it's not something I currently enjoy or want to maintain, then I shouldn't.
We grow up and change and we find people more in line with our values. We just also live in a world where it's harder to disconnect with people. In the past, you could just go to another city and you'd never see certain people again. Now we have social media
If there's no like values anymore, cut 'em off. Otherwise, what are you hanging onto? The hope that you'll recapture the halcyon days where you weren't worrying about what you have to now?
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