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Greetings, salutations even! I know this is a tough time of year for many of us, and all I ask is that you all make this the best week you possibly can. If the holidays are a struggle, take time to care for yourself if you can. Hang out with friends, do the things you love, find that sweet gender euphoria, follow what makes you truly happy. Oh, and continue to be yourselves :). Alright everybody, get ready for the largest mega I’ve ever written (I think).

Welcome to the TMGC mega! I have been hyping this up, probably for months now, and it’s my time to deliver on what might be the one of the best Fire Emblem experiences of all time. Buckle up, because this is going to be a long one. Most of the post will have light to no spoilers, but some parts may have a moderate amount of spoilers. With that out of the way, let’s find out what this game has to offer.

What is Fire Emblem? (no spoilers)Fire Emblem is a strategy role-playing game series where you move your units to fight enemy units on a grid. The simplest way to think about it is like chess, where you have a large team of units fighting another large team of units, while your units are more like characters in that they have personalities. In most entries, these units are also able to have conversations with each other, providing more detail to the characters or the story, while also making the supported characters stronger. The games take place in a medical fantasy setting, with swords, axes, lances, different magics, and staves, with creatures like horses, pegasi, and wyverns.

What is Fire Emblem: The Morrow’s Golden Country (TMGC)? (no spoilers)TMGC is a romhack of Fire Emblem: The Sacred Stones. It has it’s own story, characters, maps, mechanics, and for all intents and purposes, it’s a whole game built in the engine of Sacred Stones.

Story Outline and Characters (light spoilers)TMGC features Blair as the protagonist. As a young lesbian lord from the Aercolyn territory within the Dalstinian Alliance, the game follows her around the continent and throughout the many nations. At first, the game features a pretty standard Fire Emblem plot, where one of the nations declares war on a couple of the others, which kicks the story into action. However, it evolves greatly beyond that point, with political drama, suspense, mystery, conspiracy, and so much more that make the story stand out. Of course, I also find the story to be very well written, especially when compared to many other Fire Emblem games. Along for the ride with Blair is Arin, her closest friend and self-taught tactician/advisor. They will also meet and recruit many of their friends and allies, both ones that existed before and during when the story takes place.

spoiler A little more on the story (moderate spoilers)

What exactly makes the story of TMGC compelling? Well, it’s the depth. The story involved Blair doing a lot to earn the approval of others, which often has her doing some very ethically questionable things. The plight of the commoner is shown in this game, with entire places on the continent being uninhabitable, yet having poverty-stricken inhabitants. Banditry runs rampant, and yet nobody has attempted to reach out to the struggling masses. The society is still feudal, most of the nations are either ruled by kings or lords. The class divide, that between noble and commoner, is very noticeable, and while it is not explicitly addressed like in some other entries, TMGC makes heavy use of “show don’t tell” with these kind of things. The many aspects of war are also shown, among those who do fight for their country. Mevion, the one country that managed to overthrow it’s king in a revolution, has a lot of revolutionaries who now live mundane lives due to being alienated by a revolutionary movement that was corrupted by opportunists are we still playing Fire Emblem? These people, along with the soldiers/knights of other nations, serve their countries or the people of them, and face the reality that what they fight for is not what they first thought. There are multiple characters that serve their lords and their country, but there are just as many deserters, those dissatisfied with how their lives ended up. There’s also political manipulation. Something happens that should lead to certain people taking power, but through political manipulation puppets are put in place. Countries are occupied by invading forces, and the results of that are felt. The frustrations of working within a political system is felt, as characters try again and again only to realize that it’s never going to work. That the only option when a political entity is inherently corrupt is to fight it.

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Characters and Queer Representation (light spoilers, moderate character spoilers)First of all, the characters in this game are all pretty great, there’s a lot of them, and their supports are written well. The game also lists pronouns for all of the characters in-game as well. Nice touch.

Apollo is a trans man. It’s not revealed that he is at first sight. He’s a man, lives as such, and doing none of his supports leave it at that. However, as his supports are triggered, he gets into more and more of his past. A support chain with the Archbishop reveals that he was rejected, and may have been kicked out by, his parents. A support chain with another trans enby character has them recognizing their similarities, even if they transitioned to different genders. It was good to see a trans character in the game, and while I have not seen all of the supports, I would hope that some of the others manage to go into this as well. To get the lore on this, as far as I know, make sure to do the support chain with Apollo and Vladimir.

There’s also many non-binary characters, including a protagonist character (Viridian) that gets their own arc of the story! Not to mention that sooooooo many of the characters are gay, bi, or pan it’s amazing. I could go over all of them, but I don’t actually know all of them! So, I need to go over a special example. TMGC’s poly characters. Heavy character spoilers, of course.

There’s also everyone’s favorite genderfluid (maybe) enby (maybe) possibly agender (maybe) assassin with a heart Olson. She goes by she/they/he pronouns. I have not seen much to this character, I’ve just gotten them, but his introduction already has her requesting a great title, and they’re a really good unit in combat (100% crit rates and a skill that insta-kills on crit). All hair the Ser Duke-Duchess o7

If Blair gets a B+ support, and crucially does not A support, five of the other women, they all get married at the end and start a polycule. I do not know exactly how the ending goes, I messed up the support chains, but I do know who the people are. Arin, Natasia, Avan, Yuyu, and Estelle. For the poly ending, Blair can only support these five people, which will make more sense once I go over game mechanics. This might be the most queer fire emblem of all time.

Mechanics (no spoilers)On the topic of supports, each character can only have up to five supports. I’m guessing this is due to hardware limitations, and this is fine for many characters. However, for characters like Blair or Arin, supports have to be done more carefully, considering whether or not you like a character enough to go through a support chain, or even going through another playthrough to see all of the supports. These supports increase stats between the characters, just like in normal FE, but they can also allow for other things, such as class promotions or new weapon proficiency. These can be game changing, with some characters gaining classes that make them the best characters in the game, to once mediocre characters gaining a weapon proficiency that makes them stand out. This not only makes supports more rewarding, but allows for more replayability, with more builds available to the player. TMGC also takes features from other Fire Emblem games in an attempt to create a definitive experience. While the GBA games are great aesthetically and aged really well, they were lacking in some aspects that later games would innovate on. For example, Path of Radiance and Radiant Dawn make use of a Base Area that the player can use to go over supports and buy items and such. TMGC adds this, also changing supports to be story-based rather than combat-based a lot of the time. This means that characters don’t have to be fielded to go through their supports (most of the time). Considering how many characters are in this game, it’s a really helpful inclusion. TMGC also adds the save points that were in the DS games. This means a mistake doesn’t necessarily equal a reset, and it’s great for quality of life, especially considering how big some of these maps can get. Of course, it’s a double-edged sword. Not saving can leave you losing a lot of progress, and saving in a bad spot means you either have to either reset the whole level, or continue on without certain characters. Yes, this game has permadeath and only permadeath, there is no casual mode. However, there are also SOOOOOO many characters. Losing a few characters won’t be the end of the world gameplay-wise (I’m still a perfectionist for supports and story, although R.I.P. Butch, there goes My Hero), and you won’t likely find yourself unable to complete the game. TMGC adds personal skills as well, something that was featured in certain entries of the series, removed for the GBA games, and the added again for the following entries. These really make each individual character stand out. For example, you can have a normal mercenary, or you can have a mercenary with a hit chance skill, who can level up high stats except for skill. The game likes to do this a lot, and it allows for certain units to be strong while posing some sort of challenge. There are of course alternatives to these units, I don’t have to use Gaylord if I don’t want to (yes there’s a character named Gaylord, yes he’s really good, and yes, he’s straight). Something really interesting about certain skills is that they become combat arts. For a certain amount of weapon durability, skills like Luna (ignore defense/resistance) and Sol (heal HP in damage dealt) can be triggered manually on the player’s turn, rather than having a chance of activating during an attack. This can allow for many interesting strategies. There’s one boss that has really high resistance, defense, and legendary tome when most of the characters aren’t even promoted. However, Kenneth (a dark mage) has the Luna skill, which I can manually activate to come up with a plan to kill the unkillable. As a reward, I received a gem I could sell for 30,000 gold (that’s a lot). This also ends a defend map early, meaning it could be easier to keep certain weaker units safe. Back to the Tellius games (Path of Radiance & Radiant Dawn), TMGC adds movement skills! Characters can shove, smite, reposition, swap, etc. with other characters. This allows for great strategies, and I’ve found myself utilizing shove in order to push a certain unit into position a lot. It’s quite fun, and going back to the vanilla games is always a shock when I find that I cannot, in fact, push my units around for extra movement.

There’s also a lot of new classes, spells, weapons, animations and so much more!

I’m realizing that I’m treading a lot of the same ground as I did in my last post, and I’m trying to think about what else to write. The thing is, I don’t know what else to say. I don’t want to spoil the game for you wonderful people! So, you’re going to have to play this for yourself, especially those of you familiar with Fire Emblem.

For those of you unfamiliar with Fire Emblem, this might be difficult to pick up. If you’re willing to figure things out, or DM me for help (seriously, I’m willing to, don’t be shy :)), go right ahead! It’s a great game. However, there are definitely better games to help you get into Fire Emblem as a series. I would recommend Fire Emblem: Three Houses for the Nintendo Switch, or Fire Emblem Echoes: Shadows of Valentia for the 3DS. These games both go over basic Fire Emblem mechanics, while having some of the things TMGC takes inspiration from. Both games make use of combat arts, for example. They are also both really good games, and I would consider Shadows of Valentia to be one of my favorite Fire Emblem games, especially in it’s presentation. And yes, if I do a Fire Emblem mega next time, it’s going to be a Shadows of Valentia mega. Those who saw the last time I hosted the megathread are sure to recognize the characters :)

If you want to play Fire Emblem: The Morrow’s Golden Country, you’ll need a GameBoy Advance emulator (I use MGBA) as well as a copy of Fire Emblem: The Sacred Stones (shouldn't be hard to find). From there, download the patch (sorry for google link, the patch is regularly updated) and apply it to the Sacred Stones rom using RomPatcher. From there, you have a functioning TMGC rom and are ready to play.

I think that’s going to be all from me today. Again, I hope the holidays go well for all of you. I know this is a tough time of year, and I wish you all the best of luck. I also encourage you to keep up the posting in both the mega and tracha. I’ll likely spend some time in tracha myself, and who knows, maybe we can even talk about Fire Emblem. Don’t suffer in silence, feel free to vent frustrations. Love you all, let’s have a great week!


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[–] [email protected] 7 points 2 weeks ago* (last edited 2 weeks ago) (1 children)

hi, does anyone wanna make the mega in the upcoming weeks? if so, reply to this post and i'll add you to the list!

the list as it stands:

SadArtemis (12/30 - 1/5)
Eco* (1/6 (The Darkest Day in Our Democracy.) - 1/12)
Yukiko (1/13 - 1/19)
oscardejarjayes* (1/20 - 1/26)
SwitchyandWitchy* (1/27 - 2/2)
SILLY [email protected]* (2/3 - 2/9)
AshenWolf* (2/10 - 2/16)
GayTuckerCarlson* (2/17 - 2/23)

EstraDoll (3/2 - 3/8)

​ * after name denotes someone who has posted before and will be skipped by first-time posters

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[–] [email protected] 26 points 2 weeks ago (1 children)

I really wanted to actually engage with everyone this christmas instead of wall flowering and hiding in my room as per usual but the second i do my mom calls me "he"

why the fuck did i get these people anything for christmas

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[–] [email protected] 26 points 2 weeks ago* (last edited 2 weeks ago)

Christmas without cis is HRTmas, so merry hrtmas and a happy down with cis to all

[–] [email protected] 25 points 2 weeks ago (9 children)

god i might have a potential girlfriend or a rejection this saturday and i am full of the most lesbian thoughts imaginable right now i want to kiss her so fucking badly

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[–] [email protected] 23 points 2 weeks ago (2 children)

I interacted with people in a party setting for the first time as my new self a bit ago (I've been chronically offline for the past few days so I'm just now talking about this now even though it happened like a week ago lol).

I did my hair nice and wore my favorite cute lil outfit and I don't know how to explain it. I felt like every part of me that day was fem as fuck. The way I talked, the way I sat, the way I stood, the way I walked, my body language, my facial expressions, everything. Felt. Soooo much like a woman. And the weird thing is it almost felt like the power was coming from the cardigan I was wearing. Almost like having other people see me wearing that particular item of clothing amplified my fem perception of myself to an absurd degree. I'm not even sure that any of the things I listed above even physically changed. It's possible the only thing that changed is my internal perception of them. Like I still walk the exact same but it feels like a woman's walk now.

But the wild thing is that it hasn't worn off. I'm with my family and have been for the past few days. I'm not out to any of them except my sisters. I'm wearing my boy clothes, not doing my hair, going by my legal name, everything. And yet everything about my body movements feel like a woman is doing them. So much so that I'm sitting here thinking there's no way it's not obvious.

Long story short, one lil cardigan jolted my brain into perceiving all of my body movements as fem.

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[–] [email protected] 23 points 2 weeks ago (3 children)

stacking 6 cuddly transfems on a 3 seater couch is now officially known as t4tetris

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[–] [email protected] 23 points 1 week ago

hahahahahaha fuck everything

CW: STI discussionMy asshole of an ex informed me that one of the fuckheads he slept with while married to me just recently tested positive for Syphilis. HAHAHAHAHAHAHA oh fuck you you piece of shit. Time to go get tested :)))))))))))

[–] [email protected] 22 points 2 weeks ago (1 children)

tfw 7 months HRT and 2 months prog doesn't give you J cup anime tiddies cri

[–] [email protected] 17 points 2 weeks ago

tfw 5 years HRT and 10 months prog doesn't give you B cup anime tiddies pathetic

[–] [email protected] 22 points 2 weeks ago (2 children)

Trying to explain to my gf that it’s the second day of Christmas so I’m allowed to still hum Christmas songs and she is not having it doggirl-smart

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[–] [email protected] 22 points 1 week ago (5 children)

My mum and my older sister are both trying to teach me how to knit doggirl-grin

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[–] [email protected] 22 points 2 weeks ago (3 children)

spoilerMfw I'm putting on my maid outfit since I'm the only person home this week and wanted to wear something more risqué than usual only to realise this is the second year in a row where I've worn a maid outfit for christmas. 😳

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[–] [email protected] 21 points 2 weeks ago (3 children)

I found this artwork of two mii characters I think that I have saved specifically because the resemblance to my wife and I is uncanny. We actually just look exactly like this. My favorite unintentional fanart of us from some random stranger many, many years in the past, lol

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[–] [email protected] 21 points 2 weeks ago (2 children)
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[–] [email protected] 21 points 2 weeks ago (3 children)

tiddies hurting again. no pain no gain agony-wholesome

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[–] [email protected] 20 points 2 weeks ago (2 children)

(cw: dysphoria, surgery regret, self harm/suicidal ideation) - I want my last post to be about where I've been, who I am, and what haunts meIt's been 825 days since surgery. After saying no and being convinced I was just nervous in the morning and crying on the way to the operating room, I had vaginoplasty. I told the anesthesiologist to let me be the one to say go, but I don't remember doing that. Everyone was so happy for me when I did it. I was weak and tired, I could barely stay awake and all I knew was I didn't want to look at what I had even when they offered. I told them I would wait until the final day they take everything out. I didn't know what to feel, but everyone was happy for me in the room, so I accepted the kindness. I haven't been surrounded by support like that in person before.

I spent the next three months recovering, that's all my day was. I didn't have time to think about things. It was nice to know I didn't have to tuck anymore, but it was because I didn't have to tuck away my being a trans person anymore. I could deflect being trans now. When I go back to day to day life, the weird feelings came back. It took about a month and a half for me to find the words and ask myself "was this wrong?" Bit late for that, so I debated it with myself. After two months it became unbearable and I was understanding things weren't right. I knew I hated the v*gina on me, but I didn't understand why - it looked good, after all. It took a trip to the ER for the panic attacks and trouble breathing for me to start a path of healing my deep transphobia and hatred. I had to tell three cis men I was trans to even explain what was going on in my life. I braced myself, but it was fine. They were nice. I posted about this on @[email protected] and decided to be open about being trans on there. It was the first time I did that on main here. People were nice again. My shame was withering. I spent the next month coming out everywhere, even starting a new job and being open about being trans. I made new trans friends and was open with them, joined servers, posted along in the comms/subreddits. When I finally looked back, I didn't even recognize the girl who denied herself and forced a surgery to remove the transness.

I spent most of 2023 fighting with friends, a therapist, a partner, medical professionals to listen to me and accept that I made a mistake. There were people who made it very hard for me and I let myself spend too much time trying to appeal to them. In the same way that they ignored the warning signs before surgery, they ignored my saying no, they denied my revelations once again. They're not in my life anymore, but still, it took a lot of stamina to fight for myself all year - on top of dealing with the PTSD surgery left me with. I was tired.

2024 has been spent forming new friendships, finding a supportive therapist, and inadvertently meeting a partner too. There were really good things that happened this year, but all of them in the shadow of dysphoria. The horror of not just having a misaligned body, but a body that was once exactly what I wanted and then misaligned. I fought all year to get a surgeon to say yes to helping me, he finally said we can move onto scheduling, then he called me a few days later and said he changed his mind. He told me he would contact me in a few weeks after talking to people and seeing what options he could find, but it's been a month and the silence continues. I'm left with being unsure of how to proceed and exhausted. More than anything, I'm heartbroken at the thought of finding relief.

I hate this thing on me. The labias, I fucking hate them. They are remnants of my scrotum in a state that may not even able to be re-configured to be a scrotum again. The canal is so horrifying to me. I douche every day to make sure a biome doesn't form down there. I hate it so much and I'm scared to check if it's mostly closed at this point. No one will surgically close it for me, so I just try not to think about it and hope that it's mostly gone now. It's also so messy to pee now. I have to clean the v*gina everyday and try my best to not think about it when I do. Fuck the clitoris, taken from the most sensitive parts from my dick and used in a way that will never be able to be reconfigured into what is was. It can be buried in a phallus one day for hopeful sensation in one area, but it will never fill the phallus like it once did. I hate every piece of this thing on me. It horrifies me and ruined my life. I've started feeling the urge to self harm it recently. I want it to hurt, I don't want it to be on me and no one will take it off of me despite how much pain I'm in. I know it won't do anything and only get in the way of a successful phalloplasty, so harming it will never happen, but I just hate it so much.

I really feel alone so often. I have incredible people in my life, but it doesn't stop me from feeling like I'm on an island with these feelings. I want them to go away. I want to go away. If there's even a 1% chance I can die without having a v*gina on my body, I'll continue. For now it's still above 1%, so life continues.

Sorry there's not anything more, that's it for now.

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[–] [email protected] 20 points 2 weeks ago

that girl in the mirror is starting to look really pretty crush

[–] [email protected] 20 points 2 weeks ago* (last edited 2 weeks ago) (6 children)

saying something different for a changeSuckoff the Headnose Braindeer

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[–] [email protected] 20 points 2 weeks ago (1 children)

I'm overwhelmed by the love I feel for my trans comrades. Keep going! Keep fighting! You're worth all the hassle and you will know it too someday

notethat last part is aimed directly at myself tbh (⁠╥⁠﹏⁠╥⁠)

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[–] [email protected] 20 points 2 weeks ago (7 children)

that hoodie and necklace I was talking about

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[–] [email protected] 19 points 2 weeks ago* (last edited 2 weeks ago) (2 children)

I love you all so much. I'm so happy I switched to this server 🩵🩷🤍🩷🩵

i love hextube, i love the megas, i love the comrades, i love all of it. best place on the internet i have ever been and i have been around since the internet started.

keep being yourselves you beautiful people. and thank you for helping me find myself.

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[–] [email protected] 19 points 2 weeks ago (4 children)

bought myself an offbrand pink blåhaj. might need to do surgery because the stuffing feels kinda cheap, but otherwise super happy

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[–] [email protected] 19 points 2 weeks ago* (last edited 2 weeks ago) (1 children)

big fucking shoutout to my therapist as i continue to come back to every session with way too much dumb bullshit for one person to have done in two weeks every session

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[–] [email protected] 19 points 1 week ago

friday rice egg-dog

[–] [email protected] 19 points 1 week ago (1 children)

operation deliberate force feminisation

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[–] [email protected] 19 points 1 week ago (4 children)

welp. i just mentioned to my mom that i changed every part of my name including my middle and last and while she says she supports me she also started crying so that's fun and awkward :)

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[–] [email protected] 18 points 2 weeks ago

I get to see my sis today

[–] [email protected] 18 points 2 weeks ago (3 children)

Pain is hair leaving the body

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[–] [email protected] 18 points 1 week ago (5 children)

Waiter! Waiter! More gender please

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[–] [email protected] 18 points 2 weeks ago (2 children)

finally booked an appointment for HRT, it’s online in about a week. what kinds of questions should I expect from them? also will they require blood tests before prescribing anything? I assume so, and if that’s the case, would I be better off changing to an in person appointment?

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[–] [email protected] 18 points 1 week ago

Friday Rice doggirl-grin

[–] [email protected] 18 points 2 weeks ago

Queer open house xmas night was wonderfulllll! catgirl-heart catgirl-cry it was such a nice turnaround from yesterday im so happppyyyyyy (and stoned classic )

[–] [email protected] 18 points 1 week ago

cannot put into words how much i appreciate this site. everywhere else have turned into varying degrees of hell holes. this is the only place that feels sane hexbear-retro

[–] [email protected] 18 points 2 weeks ago (1 children)

Can scientists just create human tails already? Dying over here without being able to wag my tail near cuts girls

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[–] [email protected] 18 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago) (4 children)

When I transitioned years ago, I hoped that HRT would also help with better anger management control because it's something I've battled with since I was a kid. While things have improved dramatically, and I don't have a tendency to display outward aggression anymore in real life, I'm still dealing with feelings of intense inner rage when I see people spout reactionary garbage like transphobia. The thing that seems to help at the moment (aside from letting me smash popuko-hammer the skull of every single transphobe) is vaping some cannabis to calm me down. Reactionaries are in serious trouble if I ever run out of ralsei-doobie

[–] [email protected] 17 points 2 weeks ago* (last edited 2 weeks ago) (4 children)

dysphoriaI want to be young, and it feels like it's too late to become that way. If I were to transition, I'd be doing so in my 30s. When do I get to be young and wild and free? It wasn't when I thought I was a boy, and it's not now that I'm just confused.

What would it be like to be at parties? What would it be like to show up in pictures with my friends? What would it be like to be thought of? Because that boy that I've been pretending to be, is in zero spontaneous photos with his friends. Never goes out. And nobody thinks about him.

Like, I want to be comfortable, but I also want to be witnessed, to have who I am and want to be affirmed by other people. Otherwise why am I working on myself lol just to feel good in a room alone until I die??

What would it be like to be a girl who hangs out with girls? What would it be like to have a bad day and be comforted? What would it be like to need to comfort someone who has a bad day? What would it be like to just decide to meet up with "the girls"? Ugh.

spoiler am I doomed because I didn't transition sooner I hate the idea that I'm "later" to this stuff because I was depressed about other stuff when I was a kid. Those kinds of little observations make me really self conscious.

I already feel like a stupid repressed former-Catholic boy with zero social skills anyway so like, telling me I'm even more behind and that it's my journey "to figure out, or like whatever, dude" is a cold fucking comfort. But when nobody replies, it's like, oh, I'm the only person on earth who has ever felt this way. Neat. :::

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[–] [email protected] 17 points 2 weeks ago (2 children)

lewd, endocrinology questionhey uh, is it normal to get like, abruptly stupidly horny out of nowhere after exercising and having like a runner's high endorphin rush mixed with "holy shit why am I in heat all of a sudden"

like I never usually get worked up outta nowhere anymore so now I'm worried my levels might be fucked up or something

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[–] [email protected] 17 points 2 weeks ago* (last edited 2 weeks ago) (3 children)
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[–] [email protected] 17 points 2 weeks ago (1 children)

Is it attraction? Is it gender envy? Who knows!

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[–] [email protected] 17 points 2 weeks ago

bottom dysphoria? yeah i'm a bottom with some dysphoria sometimes, what about it?

[–] [email protected] 17 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago) (5 children)

Any other nonbinary people here who are “close” to their AGAB?

I haven’t changed my name or pronouns but I’m on a low dose of HRT. I feel like this is more common for AFAB people but I’m AMAB. Sometimes I wanna come out to people but I’ve gotten the reaction multiple times of them being confused that I’m “not changing anything”. It almost feels like they’re saying, “if none of the stuff affects me, why are you telling me?” which is just alienating. My gender exploration has been and is a major life event and it feels big but talking to people about it makes it feel so small.

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[–] [email protected] 17 points 2 weeks ago

Will pride month next year make trans mega Big™ again?

[–] [email protected] 17 points 2 weeks ago (2 children)

::: spoiler idk what to put here

Just a kinda sad evening. Sitting on my own when i used to be with family every year at this time. Now theyre gone and idk, its just weird and difficult.

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[–] [email protected] 17 points 2 weeks ago

This would usually be a c/disability post but Idk, cw chronic pain mention of vomitMy better half and I went out on a cartrip with my dad to get my brother from the airport a few towns over, he sucks way worse at driving than he did ten years ago tbh.

Aside from the wash of small towns built around churches conjuring some kind of old existential dread, I could not last the full five hours in the car and right at the end I fuckin puked. Probably my first genuine car sickness in my life, which figures between bad driving, the car being musty (he has a dog and never washes it) and my fuckin body deteriorating.

Thing is I guess it hurts A LOT because various parts of my ribcage haven't stopped screaming at me since. It hurts to even use my arms for most stuff, lmao. Guess I'll keep going but Idk.

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