officially alcohol free for a fortnight

In a thread on shit.justworks calling us names for having the 'we're banning misogynists' thread, users are literally arguing over the definition of transphobia, and not banning the transphobes, oh yeah

Hearing myself over someone’s mic in voice chat

I had an exhausting downer of a day but these fluffy doofuses make it a little better

They have their own barstools so two of them can look out the back door at the same time when the sun's out but they always want to crowd each other sitting together and that's very sweet to me

My hairless estrogenized body was not meant for the cold

Seeing the cis lads cry about being "discriminated against" because of "my gender which I didn't choose" PICK A BETTER ONE LOSER

down bad and it hits harder than it used to

I love you all. Be trans be gay be yourself be happy :)

I should make a hexbear account

edit: I applied for bearitizenship paws crossed

made the c/disabled comm request

florida is not so noice, comrades

🙂🙂🙂

it would be funny if someone wrote a script to temp ban all he/hims for 1 day on april fools

an old lady at work called me "dear" earlier. I'm pretty sure that's a unisex term but honestly I'd rather be called dear than ma'am so I'll take that as a win

Big gender moves on Hexbear this week.

The cissies in my life are absolutely clueless. I can not imagine what they think when they see me. They must think this is just what I look like with long hair and a shaved face. But when I catch a reflection of myself, all I see is my mom.

ALRIGHT NERDS

Bought a couple fuckin, As Recommended By Hairsnobs (r/curlygirl rec) shampoo and conditioners. Primarily the HE Jojoba + Lavender curl conditioner, and the hemp oil frizz control shampoo. Only my fourth or so shampoo/conditioner combo. Please work.

the existence of a trans mega has made the main mega much less interesting

I dunno what Floridians are gonna do, like, long term. People lived on Florida for millennia, but the particular western way of living and the western mode of builidng/habitation along with climate change means I don't think people can live there like... anymore (unless one if the above changes). Hurricanes aren't going to stop. You'll still need insurance for a mortgage, or maybe they'll just stop offering both in Florida. It's not like there will be a collective effort to rebuild, there wasn't for New Orleans, they're still fucked over.

I think hexbear.net is a safe space to be online for transpeople, nobody's perfect, but this place is alright

I did just see the 'grr cheaters' thread from last fortnight, and haha wow, there's some people on this website who need to 'touch grass', (I hear the grass is nice in Siberia)

in lighter news: I realised I've been using neo pronouns ('ey/'em/'er/'im) and its just because i speak with kind of a drawl or something

Everyone always told me I acted like a bottom long before ever realizing I was trans but I never really felt like I actually wanted to do that in bed

and then I started E and good lord has it turned me into something completely different now

I'm working on fixing up my life, chat. What do we think:

1. Switch from American to Chinese cigarettes

That's all I've got right now but I think it's a good start

damn i think i could make a plan to transition to look like this in about 5 years

I love epilation. I'm so awful at shaving but epilating is my JAM i'm so goddamn smooth now everywhere and it's a euphoria machine.

Howdy beautiful people, I've made a post outlining our planned next steps regarding the site's misogyny problem here, please have a read through it when you get the chance

Idk if I have the heart to tell my work apprentice that I’m not a woman, haha. She sees me as a “strong woman in a male dominated field” and I think I’m ok with letting her think that for now, since she can see herself in that image. But I can’t do it forever. Fortunately I think she’ll be cool with it when I eventually tell her I’m nonbinary.

need a big button that says "please flirt aggressively. i am very dumb and can't do it back"

I have so many things I want to do

• I'm still grinding away learning frontend coding stuff
• Started learning Japanese finally (almost done learning hiragana)
• I want to write stories again
• I want to make videos again
• I want to see more places, especially more countries

So much to do, maybe I'll even do it

lmao, my dumbass was tapping the comment box in the old thread for like a full minute wondering why it wouldn't work

thank you all for posting a bunch so i can do upvotes instead of laundry please keep it up i don't want to do laundry yet

BIG cw: loss, sadness, sui

"I've never done anything with a boy before... please be gentle..."

I could pull it off. Cmon.

found a friend's reddit account and boy have i lost a tremendous deal of respect for them as a person

Hey Trans comrades, got a question about questioning. If it's inappropriate to do this here, lmk asap and I'll delete. Don't wanna intrude in an undesirable way but pretty sure I'm not breaking any rules.

So I've said before that I feel no strong attachment to my gender, but I live daily as a masc-presenting cis-man and am not bothered by it. But the Q-label is always something I've questioned whether I can apply it permanently to myself. Seems like I'm constantly questioning, for years, what kind of gender would really apply to me because just "average Man" doesn't seem like me, but nothing really does either (not even agender). But I'm confortable enough with myself that I think I will never do anything except continue enjoying the questioning itself and learning from that questioning about myself and others. But I comfortably just go with cis-man and feel intrusive in queer spaces as anything but an Ally.

So the final question, is Questioning dialectical and possibly permanent for 1 person or is it dialectical as in it will have to be subsumed in something else during a person's lifetime (assuming you get the chance to complete such a thing)? Any comrades that have experience here want to pitch in? Ready to learn :denguin:

yep. the day i was worried about when starting HRT has come. my tits are too large and visible to hide under my shirt anymore

eh. it was high time to stop pretending to be a man all day

trying to tell a girl i like her by thinking about her all the fucking time and not saying anything to her

god she's the cutest thing i've ever seen ♥️♥️♥️

all these idiots getting raptured didn't even take their clothes and money and stuff with them

they may have got into heaven, but i have their doc martens

Had two medical appointments today and both predictably asked for a list of prescriptions I'm taking. Decided to list E and spiro for both (usually I haven't)... both times the only prescription either nurse asked about was the E/spiro (and for the second one, I just listed off like 6 other prescriptions, perhaps mispronouncing some of them and never was even asked to repeat any of them).

The spiro, I can understand given its also used as a bloodpressure med and a diruetic. How many other uses are the for E in people with a "Sex: M" on their medical chart?

why the fuck does planned parenthood keep telling me that "Estrogen that makes you look like Misato Katsuragi" doesn't fucking exist. I know it does, hand it over!

you aren't sexy? easy fix

1. put on bralette

2. put flannel over it. don't even button

3. combo with whatever pants you like

congrats girl, you're the sexiest bitch alive

hey someone tell me that they're coming over to my place and want to fuck. my room is a mess and i need motivation to clean it. we don't have to fuck and you don't even have to come over actually

EDIT: i come back to hexbear and there are 5 fucking trans people in my notifications saying that they're coming over to play legos today wtf??

@[email protected] when are all 17 of us getting together for legos today

I successfully convinced the gender clinic I'm trans enough to go on the bottom surgery wait list 💪

Now it's only another year long wait

Being out to even a few friends feels really good.

Highly recommend. Way better than the closet.