Millennial woman right here. Have a top 10 list for why I personally don't want kids:
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Even if I wanted kids, I wouldn't want to have them pre- successful working class revolution. A lot of people will probably die or at least be maimed, not to mention go homeless, before and during a revolution so yeah I'd rather not put an innocent little fucker through that.
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We aren't doing shit about climate disaster. I'd like there to at least be some solid plans put in place that can't be torn apart just because a chud became president again.
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I'm so fucking tired and anxious and depressed all the time. Even if my kid didn't inherit that genetically or pick some of it up by being raised by me, kids deserve better from their parents.
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My partner and I are both autistic and there's a good chance our kid would be too. Don't get too excited, I'm not saying this from a disgusting eugenics angle. I'm just saying that autism, with our current society, usually comes with extra alienation that can be really depressing and exhausting. Even if you luck out and have no learning disabilities and learn to mask really well, that too is it's own form of alienation that builds up the longer you do it as an adult. And if the kid had the kind of autism where they would be our financial dependent for the rest of their life, I don't think we could manage financially. We certainly wouldn't be able to build a nest egg for them to live off of by the time we both pass away.
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Again on us having autism. We'd lose our patience so quickly with a little kid that screams, shouts, gets sticky, pisses, shits, laughs and whines all the time. Our own kid would constantly overstimulate us and I'm afraid we'd yell at them a lot for little things and eventually burn out from parenthood.
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Personal financial responsibility was drilled into my head during most of my childhood, and while I can recognize that a lot of it was capitalist indoctrination passed down from generation to generation, I still am stuck seeing financial security in a very specific order. That order being Graduate High School > Graduate College > Start a Career > Marriage > Buy a House > Have Kids. If I were to follow those in order, then like many people I'm stuck on career. My partner has technically just started one, so let's count that and let's even assume we're really happy with each other and get married in the next year. You know where that leaves us? An awfully big step: Affording a house. And I know if we have kids before we have a house we'll probably be stuck renting for the rest of our lives. The annual expenses would simply be too high to even have an emergency savings, much less a house down payment.
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I can't afford medical costs for myself and procrastinate on health care constantly; I couldn't live with myself if I did the same thing to a kid. And if the kid doesn't come out completely healthy? I'd be setting them up for failure, maybe even a preventable death.
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Pregnancy is body horror. And I'm not even talking about the cosmetic "aww shucks I'll get stretch marks and fat and then no one will love me :(((((". I'm a fatass that already has stretch marks and my partner loves me regardless, so if anyone says that they're either incredibly young or holy shit that's a massive red flag on their partner's part. No when I say pregnancy is body horror I'm talking about teeth falling out, constantly puking, early balding, having your walk pattern permanently fucked up, pissing yourself from sneezing, hormonal hell, constant body aches, forcing an entire kid out of your womb, potentially getting surgery via C-Section, and oh yeah FUCKING DYING AFTER ALL THAT. And then I probably won't get to take more than a week off work AND EVEN THAT WILL BE UNPAID??? Fuck everything about pregnancy holy shit.
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What about adoption? I've heard mostly bad things about it even on Hexbear, so I'd rather not risk human trafficking. Even worse things about fostering. Also they do require you to make enough to support the kids soooooooooo no lol. Also I'm not paying someone else to go through pregnancy body horror on my behalf (even if I could afford it) just because "ooooooh wouldn't it be SO CUTE if our kid looked like us". Fuck that I don't care if my dependents are related to me by blood or not.
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NUMBER ONE TOP REASON POGCHAMPS:
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I just don't want a kid. I didn't want a kid when I was 5. I didn't want one when I was 10 or 15 or 20 either. I entertained the idea in my head multiple times but each time it just didn't make sense. It was never my dream. I used to chose stuffed animals over baby dolls as a kid and my mom joked about me becoming a crazy cat lady. I used to tell her that as long as I could pay the bills living by myself with cats actually sounded really nice. She'd scoff and say I'd learn eventually. Now I've got 2 little gremlin cats with no regrets, and as a bonus I even snagged an amazing partner that also only wants cats, and honestly I think my life is a lot happier for it.

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In central Florida it's not uncommon to see 1 bedrooms and even studios priced a little under 1.6k, so if it's a huge mcmansion with your own bedroom and the cost includes utilities that seems about right.
I imagine this is common in many urban and nearby suburban areas across the country.