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Is it cope to think being moderately to heavily overweight during my late teens and early twenties might have helped estrogenize me a bit?
Where's the cope though?
Well I just don't know if that would really have much of an effect. Just grasping at straws hoping to find ways that those years weren't a complete waste
Ooooh, I see. I dont think they're a waste. I get why people do, I've fantasized the same fantasy lol where I transition at 5 or 11 or whatever. There's parts I liked and wouldn't have had otherwise and there's parts where being a trans girl in the 00s could've been quite bad. I've never struggled with reconciling myself living as a boy and man with also being trans woman who's really happy she's both of those.
I do get the lost time feeling, I suppose in the abstract. Even with my ex, I don't consider any of that time lost or not worthwhile even though we were together a very long time.
I don't mind so much my younger years as a boy, really until high school. Just frustrated at all the changes to me physically that make what I'm trying to do now harder. After 18 or so the anguish of lost time does start to kick in pretty hard tho
I transitioned at 27! I don't same feel the anguish but I do understand it.
I did it at 35! I've had regrets but therapy helped a lot, (integrated family systems) in particular led me to understand and appreciate myself in those years before as a woman who worked really hard and actually achieved a lot, especially with this enormous unfixed hormonal issue.
Same. I kind of feel developmentally stunted? Like, I spent so long not wanting anyone to look at or touch me that I kind of forgot how to be anything different.
Same (except I was slightly older). I feel like rather than stunted (which I feels implies it was something I never had), I sorta feel like parts of me have been broken as a way to get by during a time where that was temporarily beneficially? Still working on trying to undo some of those old mental habits.
Real, for me too.