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Thank you.
(Sorry if i'm grossing everyone out. i'm far too awkward with the irl people i could ask these things to actually ask them in this level of detail)
cw: surgery, sex, masturbation
Yeah I'd pick FFS first too if it were an option. But I'm glad you're happy with your bottom surgery and you've definitely got me thinking about getting full depth. Like, imagine just being able to have sex whenever with no planning or preparation. I know you said you're a top, but are you able to say how vaginal feels compared to anal or nah? I think they position everything so you still get prostate stimulation, right? Did you keep full sensitivity of the various tissue that got moved around? How's masturbation? I typically use a magic wand, but the idea of perhaps just being able to use my fingers is kind of nice. Do you ever miss having the bits to top with? Do you feel more comfortable topping with a strap?Oh also, did you need to get electrolysis on the area first? Was it more painful than face or about the same? And was it done at a hospital or in a regular hair removal salon? The latter concerns me quite a lot because they're all (presumably) cis women at the one I go to.
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I was never interested in bottoming anal, so I have nothing to compare it to lol. From the people who I know whove had both, its comparable ish. Some people still need prep with a neovagina, I dont and I dont think Im rare for it - I get wet and all just fine. As far as I know most people are able to get wet after, but some people still need a little prep - but not full on bottoming prep, like just lube. Which is the same as plenty of cis women with vaginas they were born with.Youre able to check and touch and otherwise stimulate the prostate from the front yeah~ also they save a bundle of tissue and nerves that acts more or less like a g spot too. I kept sensitivity, and for me it does feel more sensitive and pleasurable but it might be more down to no more bottom dysphoria rather than anything they did to nerves or tissue. Fingers feels great, vibe feels WONDERFUL. I did not know how good it felt. Its also nice how long it can go? And it just keeps going and going too, with my gock it was like - build up then its more or less done in one release. It has not been like that post op.
The only stuff I miss about my old gock is the ease of peeing standing up and how much faster masturbation was. I can still pee standing up but it takes some awkward stances and muscles lol, and while masturbating was a lot faster - it also wasnt fun, more of a chore. I topped with a strap before (occasionally) and after, I preferred it to my gock even before. Now, I get to use a strapless strap on (like a double sided dildo kinda, you hold on to one end inside you and use the other) - thats been great.
I got laser for one session before, but honestly it wasnt necessary. It didnt hurt much, I have a high pain tolerance but honestly it barely hurt compared to my face. They like scrape off your hair follicles during the surgery? I dont have any hair inside my neo vagina, and out of the other post op trans women I know I think only one had a couple hairs inside? Anyway, they can get rid of any spare hairs inside if some happen to make it past surgery. I had my laser session at a place that has a lot of trans and gender diverse clients, and I had the same tech for my face as I did for full brazillian. Cis guys get it too, not often but they do so if you wanna boymode aboht it - well you can.
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Def not me only just finding out that vagina-havers can pee standing up. Humans are truly magical creatures.Thanks for answering so thoroughly and being so patient. That all seems really good and I kind of think i want it.
Do you mind me just asking a little more about recovery? How long were you bedbound for? Did you have someone to look after you to begin with? How long until you were able to go up and down stairs and stand long enough to shower and prepare food? Did you need a ring cushion to sit down (I guess there's a lot of swelling in the whole surrounding area)? If you work out/cycle/run, how long until you were able to start again?
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I was up and walking day after surgery! They get you to walk, early mobilization helps with keeping inflammation down - which means better healing and less pain. I was walking up and down a couple flights of stairs I think... a couple days after surgery? And then at home, my apartment is on the 6th floor - and I used the stairs.I was never bedbound or strict bedrest, closest was the first day after. I didn't move tons for the first month, besides bed or couch. Sitting did hurt - they had little cushion rings for us at the recovery house but I do wish I had my own for the flight home and then for the first few weeks. I took a class during recovery, it was only an hour but it definitely felt a little sore the first couple weeks.
I had my mom with me the first week, my sister helped with groceries or chores, I also had a lot of friends who helped with tasks for the first couple months but I stopped needing much of any help after about 6 weeks. It was a strict 10 lbs lifting limit, which can be like a big house cat - so it doesnt take much to stress the surgery site and stitches that first critical month. I showered at the recovery house! It was very nice. So maybe a few days or a week in?
I didnt start working out again until after the first month, and then it was very gentle bodyweight stuff the next two months. But I stayed active with walking, stairs, etc. I stayed active the whole time, starting from post op day 1 or 2.
As much as recovery sucks, it is a temporary part of your life - and then the rest is, you have a vagina, and jts just there~ ♡
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More prep then lube?
Edit: oh idk how I missed the rest of that paragraph, I swear I read the whole thread. But is it just lube? Like because you said it's not full on bottom prep... Is there still more/other stuff then natal vaginas?
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Dilators were invented for women with vaginisumus I think, so even natal vaginas sometimes need some pain control or numbing. Otherwise, more or less all of the prep is foreplay and/or lube depending on the person.