It's quite important that you do not make the mistake of thinking that if you tell someone it is easy to do, because you find it easy to do, that does not make it easy for them to do.

With a kid, for example, you can tell them this and they will believe that it's easy for everyone, then try it and fail, and suddenly believe they are fucking stupid and it must be their fault entirely. Which makes them feel bad. Which might make them eat more, or become anorexic, or any one of a number of eating disorders.

So instead, realise that there are many factors here beyond energy in and activity out. Those are important, but not the whole story. Be kind, and take your time.

Strawman. I was saying no such thing, merely that for some it is harder than for others. Just like some would starve to dewth in a famine sooner than others at identical feed intake and rate of activity.

This is no excuse for anything, just a fact. People can gave an influence on that, no matter the genes.

I was such an asshole after I dropped 100 pounds in my 20s. I did it, you can too!

I was such a dick. I had actual anger towards fat folks for a few years.

Its like being mad folks are poor, just, knock it off. None of these comments actually help people lose weight. It actually scares them off further into the downward spiral. Lest not forget age gets us all, and you dont know what these people have been through, or are going through. You dont know.

My country, the shit stain one, they dont allow citizens to walk anywhere. Start there. I stayed fit when I could walk/bike places. Once I moved somewhere carcentric, guess what happened. Im not a dick to fat folks anymore.

Its not so black and white. The older I get, the more I realize its systemic, at least here in the god forsaken states.

remain positive, internal work is internal, and you cant make choicss for others. I wanted to give fitness to everyone when I was younger. But not everyone is brave enough to ride a bike in car city. I still get mad when I see parents giving their fat children candy. Sets them up for a lifetine of failure. I used to have my gaurdian lock me in a room, call me fat bitch, and literally throw a bag of mcdonalds at me in my teens.

you never know what someone has been through. Always kindness.

It's not cope, it's biology.

Youre so mean

Muscle mass is directly tied to how much you use the muscle.

I'd describe it more as a loose correlation rather than "directly tied." There's the obvious example of sex differences, where a typical untrained woman will not respond as quickly to weight training as a typical untrained man of similar size. There's a lot of individual variation, too, and more recent research is revealing new insights into high and low responders to resistance training. See, for example, this review.

I learned to be less of a dick to others about this stuff when I learned I was an outlier high responder in muscle strength and growth, getting much better results from near identical workouts with some of my friends. Realizing that I was lucky helped me extend some more grace to others.

I know you're sort of joking, but metabolism is extremely badly understood (most is not understood at all), and different people extract different amounts of ATP from food than others, that's just a verifiable fact. And eating less will make you lose weight, but how much less depends on, you guessed it, metabolism... So just saying "eat less" isn't very helpful IMO.

And it has not really anything close to do with thermodynamic laws, or you Had to have the emc2-gene for it to matter, thats all.

It's like relativity physics and car driving, it does intersect, but really not in any meaningful way.