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When I came out, I thought my relationships with friends and family would qualitatively change. However, things are exactly the same.
I have to imagine this is good. I'm not a new person after all. But when I'm hanging out with friends, and it's the same as it has always been, I get in my head that they're still treating me like a guy.
I have no evidence of this. I have no idea what it means to be treated like a girl. Wouldn't even know if I would like it from them.
Even with my wife, things haven't changed at all (except she loves me even more โค๏ธ). I feel like we interact the same way we always have.
Idk is it supposed to feel different? Am I overanalyzing?
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YesI guess I can only tell after I fully transition and meet new people and see how they treat me.
People here treat me like a girl because you've only ever known me as a queerdo, but also you're all legally obligated to treat me that way or you'll get gulaged.
But upon further investigation, I'm not even sure I could point at a comment and say "yeah, this is a good example of someone treating me like a woman"
I'm just spinning my wheels at this point.
If a friend or family member came out as a woman to you, someone you've known for a while say, what would you want to change when you two hang out?
Idk. That's kind of what I'm stuck on.
Could be they've always treated you differently than they treat guys. Even before I realized I was trans, I realized the way my best friend treated me was clearly different than he treated pretty much all other guy friends. I don't think he exactly treated me as he would if he thought of me as a girl, but like I'm not a girl either and there's extra social pressures for het people to not be gay and such.
Definitely not this.
They've always known I was a weirdo tho. But distinctly a weird flavored guy.
None of them saw it coming, but, because I've always been weird, they were like, "yeah, okay, checks out"
I don't think any of the people who seemed to be distinctly treat me as not a guy had any suspicion I wasn't a guy. And my brother was quite doubtful when I came out despite wanting to believe.
Also my mom is sometimes treated socially somewhat like a guy even by people who knows she is a woman. Doesn't mean they think she is a guy and I think most people would be surprised if she came out trans.