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Hiiii!

Today: a short yap about computer hardware:

Damn I love the AM4 socket its so upgradable yay, bought a Ryzen 9 5900X for our old desktop soon to be homelab and so excited for it.

Computers are fun! ~~(and expensive)~~

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[–] [email protected] 11 points 6 days ago (1 children)

how do you feel your relationship between gender and sexuality is connected?

[–] [email protected] 9 points 6 days ago

I guess I was equally confused about both for a while, and didn't fully recognize them as separate until I had to explore my own sexuality.

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My sexuality feels ambivalent. It's like, I'll see someone and like their vibe, and their gender doesn't occur to me.

But with my gender, I'm like, what expresses who I am? When do I feel like me, when do I wish I felt some other way? I default to these very short grunted replies and I'm like, embarrassed to be using my "guy voice" even though it's just my voice, default, you know?

Sometimes I can live with being male enough, a "dude", but I don't want to be a man. I feel like presenting as male stops me from pursuing a lot of friendships and relationships that I probably otherwise would pursue.

I assume that people see me a certain way and just don't want to talk to me because I look like a tall pale skinny awkward man. Like, i know I'm a recovering nice guy and people pleaser, I'm just the exact type of guy I've heard so many people complain about in relationships. Why do that to someone else?

I don't feel like I can like express my sexuality in a way that makes sense until my gender expression is more settled, mostly because I worry about how I come off. I worry about making people uncomfortable.