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[โ€“] [email protected] 9 points 6 months ago (1 children)

you want me to be mean to you?

[โ€“] [email protected] 8 points 6 months ago (1 children)

Yeah honestly, let's go. I can do it, I'm curious to see what you say and pretty sure I'll have a good rebuttal.

[โ€“] [email protected] 6 points 6 months ago (3 children)

I was gonna saythat's easy for a youngshit passoid to say

[โ€“] [email protected] 17 points 6 months ago (1 children)

The intensity of transvestigation increases proportionally with transgender visibility. This implies a transvestigation singularity in the future in which all cis and trans women will be unable to pass. power-genius

[โ€“] [email protected] 14 points 6 months ago (1 children)

At which point passing narratives will collapse right? bloomer

[โ€“] [email protected] 12 points 6 months ago (1 children)
[โ€“] [email protected] 14 points 6 months ago (1 children)

I will celeberate that demise leslie-shining

[โ€“] [email protected] 12 points 6 months ago

I second that, big time. leslie-shining

[โ€“] [email protected] 15 points 6 months ago

Alright. So. I'm nowhere near whatever this amalgamation of nonsense is. So I can speak from experience.

I'm in my mid-30s. I started transitioning 2 years ago. I have a massive body ravaged by testosterone to just be huge and wide. I'm talking I'm 5'10" and have a rib cage that's easily over 40" in circumference without issue. Probably closer to 42" or so. My shoulders are wide and I have a fairly rectangular body that's slowly shaping into an hourglass shape. And I pass.

The sheer amount of effort I've had to put in to pass is staggering. I've dedicated an enormous amount of my life over the past two years just to get to this point. I've meticulously learned how to put on makeup. I've picked up gesturing and body movements. I forced myself to voice train, refusing to ever use my "old voice" ever again. I learned how to my hair even if it is rudimentary knowledge at best. I threw out my old wardrobe slowly over time and replaced it with fem clothes. I forced myself to go out into public with all of the above even if I knew I wouldn't pass at the time because I knew it would eventually pay off.

I genuinely wish I could show you before and after pictures of myself. I was a manly man just a couple of years ago, and now I can stealth without issue (aside from a slouch due to a deteriorating spine, but that's beside the point). Sure, some people have to put more effort into it than others, but like, most of us are moving towards the same goal. You just need to identify what you need to work on most, actively work towards it, and you will eventually achieve your goal.

[โ€“] [email protected] 12 points 6 months ago* (last edited 6 months ago) (1 children)

Well yeah, ugly fuckin' terminology aside I do try to keep in mind that I do pass, tall and skinny. But also like... I pass, somehow? I have not done a lot of voice training, my figure is pretty androgynous, without a bra you could miss the boobs. The biggest thing I think is the long hair signals to people that I am femme, or "a girl" I guess, but I put so little effort into voice sometimes I'm surprised I don't get misgendered more often.

I have a very strong jaw, deep-set eyes and a not-small forehead though, so this isn't like I went through cis female puberty or anything. My pelvis is small, my arms are long. I was 17 when I started, Idk. My wife transitioned in her 30s and does this too, does she fit your term too?

[โ€“] [email protected] 11 points 6 months ago (1 children)
[โ€“] [email protected] 11 points 6 months ago

Of course there is, don't be a nerd meow-hug