On my end, my parents did wrong me insofar as they raised me as conservatives do, treating me and my siblings more like a household project than as people. Their love isn't just superficial, but totally directed toward the version of me they invented in their heads before I was ever born who would fit neatly into a Third Reich propaganda poster of a nuclear family.
As a side note when I first read your post I read "parents" as "partners" and it worked until I hit "blood relation".

You ought to read Calvin and Hobbes if you haven't. Very thoughtful comic.