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My parents had a scheme when I was a kid to raise me into wealth, but they believed in the whole "get good grades and you'll be rich." So they tried for a while, taught me multiplication tables when I was like 4, taught me world history and stuff. I could read and write way before I started school. I could even use a computer, which was a rare skill for even adults back then. I did become fairly advanced by the time I was 6 and the school district offered to let me test out of grades 3 and 4. (Parents didn't like that idea since they said I wouldn't be able to network as well if I skipped grades)

Problem is my parents were racist, unprepared, and not too bright themselves, so their lessons didn't last much further than 3rd grade. They exhausted what they knew, so my grades dropped fast because of anxiety and pressure. Also I'm not actually smart or motivated

The attempt to get my grades higher always centered around them. They wanted me to become rich to buy them a house and nice cars. They wanted me to be on TV so I could praise them in front of crowds. Elon Musk wasn't famous yet, but they wanted me to be him in every possible way, including the racist parts. That's what they would always describe, they wanted me to be a business scientist rocket engineer, except not an idiot fraud like Musk. I think part of this scheme was motivated by how my parents were the poorest of all their siblings. I was from the "poor" branch of the family, so it must have been embarrassing for them to show up to family gatherings and our uncle is showing off his new boat, or our aunt has a new diamond necklace. Then my parents are there driving the same truck they had in high school

Nowadays we don't talk much. Their plan failed and also I'm a communist

As a newly married person, being asked if we’re trying to have kids is fucking weird to us.

“Congratulations! So are you nutting raw?”

Little do they know, my balls don’t work anymore lmao.

But yeah, the general public at large is very much just following a script and checking off boxes on the life bingo card.

You sometimes see strange people online call others "genetic dead ends" as an insult, and it always strikes me that these people have a view of life itself that is so completely alien to me.

I don’t want my intentions to be misconstrued. I am not at all anti-child. I am very much anti-have a kid for the sake of producing a nuclear family and neglecting your children. Is that not the epitome of patriarchal conservatism?

Should have also added that this post stemmed from a mother (kids in private school) who said she was going to send her kids to a babysitter for the holidays so she and her husband could have peace

A lot of women in my family have kids out of loneliness. It’s a terrible idea, but at the same time I understand the motivation.

Private School parents are some of the worst people imaginable and they all work in the most ghoulish fields. Went to a private school and majority of these kids would talk about how their parents went out to golf after work and not come home until late at night. I'm not privileged either. I only got in on an athletic scholarship after a scout saw me running and wanted me for his team.

The questions as to whether or not my partner and I will be having kids have grown worse since we got engaged. My country is very conservative and being past 25 unmarried without kids will lead people to think something's wrong with you.

I'll love them unconditionally but also I'm going to brainwash them into creating a revolutionary army

Yeah they do, my """""mother""""" was one.

She viewed children as pets and property. We were there to serve her financially and emotionally, and she had friends who viewed their children the same way.

reading this thread has made me feel much more confident i'd be a good parent. lotta ppl out there having kids who absolutely are not emotionally mature enough for it lol

Death to America

wow, just a portion? we are surrounded by them and it's fucking disgusting

"what do you mean by 'you should treat your child as a human and not force them to do exactly what you want without caring about their opinions'?" can summarize most of the conversations we have had with people like this

We need a portion of the population that wants kids as communist drones to balance it out

Yeah I've seen people like that, at least 2 in my family too. I could talk shit about my parents parenting all day, but at least they recognized me as a person and not some property.

The Venn diagram of these freaks and Quiverfull freaks is just a circle. Absolutely terrifying shit.

this is my dad

Or free labor while you condition them to be comfortable selling their own labor

Probably not, not exactly. Because having a child is clearly a bad investment.