Last year I went on many dates and the average expense was like $25. Yes, I did sometimes go out to restaurants, but they'd be either coffee shops with food or fast casual places. And yes I pay for her meal too. How are people spending $200 on a night out?
Wait it's the average vs the median probably. A couple extreme outliers are inflating the average.
Probably the old standard dinner and a movie. Assuming $20 for a main (x2) $10 drinks (x2 to 4) $15 show tickets (x2) maybe a $20 snack that's already over $100 and I low balled all of those prices. It could easily hit $200 especially if this is looking at larger population hubs.
Took my wife out for almost this exact date last weekend. Dinner was $45/ea for the main, $9/ea for drinks. Plus tip. Local live theater show was $40/ea. Skipped snacks because we were full from dinner. All-in, the night was just over $200.
Wife and i would eat out about once a week sometime 2-3 times for the past 20 years, now it's once ever 2-3 months at best.
I have no idea how niche I am, but I wouldn't want to date anyone who is ok spending $200 on a date. Lets walk in the park and talk for hours. That's my kinda date.
Wait, you guys are getting dates?
i get a few dates a month, yeah. it's easy. just be tall and look rich.
What if I make good money but like my cheap car and lifestyle in general?
just be tall and look rich.
Well… shit.
Relatively new to dating via apps as an elder millennial freed from a life time of monogamy. (Only been at it 6 months)
Who are these people who want to go on a first date that involves being in a situation like a restaurant?
Seems like with apps people skip the whole courting thing and jump straight in to something that should only be for once you get to know each other a bit better.
For me, first meeting is a coffee or a drink at a well populated cafe or bar. Maybe a walk after somewhere busy in the city.
Maybe I'm just old and out of touch.
No, you're right. People don't date for relationships, maybe some think they are, but really it's just having a dinner experience and potentially getting laid and moving on.
The mainstream apps owned by match group as well as bumble appear to have a lot of people like you describe. I am sure there are decent people on there also, it's just the signal to noise ratio sucks, as well as the whole gamified bullshit of the apps themselves. I uninstalled Tinder/hinge/bumble not long after trying them and I have no plans to return. I suspect people who would put up with the way tinder functions are the same people who would put up with forced ads on their phone and smart tv etc. I would not be a good fit for people like that.
I've had a lot of success on less mainstream apps by simply being honest about what I'm looking for (ENM / casual ongoing) and have found many with the same views.
They're decent people, they're just falling into the trap of seeing an ad and thinking it can help them. Of course, the ads are just designed to extract as much cash as possible from you but that's our culture i guess.
Who is spending $200 on a first date‽
people with money. if you are a professional single person you're making like 200K a year, a $200 dinner is chump change.
if you live in a city full of professionals, that's a common expectation. especially as you get older.
Just going out for two cocktails where I live is $50. add two appetizers, now you're looking at close to $100.
I make more than that and $200 for dinner is not "chump change".
Maybe date people who are responsible with money.
Money isn't worth anything until you spend it. Very easily to have an extra $200 in your pocket after all your expenses and savings targets have been hit, when you're making that kind of money.
I don't think it's irresponsible to grab a bottle of wine with dinner or front the door fee for a trendy night club.
I also don't think you need to drop $200 to have a good time. Street food and public theaters and dive bars are also options.
But if you've done that before and you want to try the Michelin star restaurant or do the scotch tasting menu or the omakasi with a cutie you just met?
You got to cut out a lot of people if you want to make $200 an "average"
Holy shit. And here I thought that the price of a cup of coffee was less than $10.
Because that’s what you do on a first date - coffee and chat, either at the coffee house or on a walk near it.
Spending $$$ on a first date is a great way for any guy to get hosed, and just sets up unrealistic expectations. You don’t do anything expensive until several dates in, once compatibility and mutual interest have been confirmed.
That's like 30 minutes with a mid-tier escort.
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