Tollana1234567 comments on Dating has gotten so expensive that nearly half of U.S. singles say it’s no longer worth it, as the average night out approaches $200

last year they had a poll on NPR in my city. 80% of women said men should pay for the first date and it should be an nice dinner. only 60% of men said they should pay for the first date.

the vast majority of people are the same. if only 20% of women single women agree with me that means I have very few choices to date. and frankly, it's only getting worse year after year. this same poll 10 years ago was much power.

it's a general truth that in economically difficult times people revert to conservative mindsets, overwhelmingly.

statistically there is a growing gap in the dating world between people's expectations and the reality. largely fueled by social media. and the vast majority of people use it.

I don't use social media, it makes me a pariah among most people I meet. They dont' think ti's admirable or good in the real world, they think it's weird and snobby.

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[–] athatet@lemmy.zip 5 points 3 months ago (6 children)

So fyi, not every woman who lives in your city took that NPR survey.

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[–] TubularTittyFrog@lemmy.world -2 points 3 months ago* (5 children)

lots of women don't date. by definition they aren't in the dating pool. plenty of men don't either.

the ones in the dating pool, are the ones i can date.

just like i don't date married women. who also didn't take the survey.

you can only date who is available to date and who is interested in dating you. for most people, that's not a lot of people. it's a small percentage of people and if that small percentage of available people are very similar... they are going to have very similar attitudes and expectations.

I'd love to date some low key easy count low expectation lady, but they don't exist in my city among the single dating pool, because in order to live here you have to be a highly driven professional, because easy going people can't afford $3000/mo rents.

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[–] Kage520@lemmy.world 4 points 3 months ago (4 children)

You keep running into the stereotypical "date", which is a dinner and sometimes includes a movie. You actually can do better with just like "hey I've been wanting to try bouldering at this rock climbing gym, want to check it out together?" Or similar. Don't think in terms of dinner dates. Think in terms of activities you would like to do with your significant other long term. My wife and I currently take adult gymnastics classes and almost never go out to dinner.

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[–] TubularTittyFrog@lemmy.world -2 points 3 months ago (3 children)

I'd rather kill myself than go on trendy expensive activity dates dude.

I invite women to go on bike rides and hike and go to museums and other stuff, and they never say yes. They ALWAYS say yes to dinner and drinks. WEIRD.

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[–] eneff@discuss.tchncs.de 2 points 3 months ago (2 children)

Well, maybe that's because they are not interested in you, but wouldn't mind free dinner. And maybe they aren't interested in you, because you come off as a bitter misogynistic prick.

Who wouldn't prefer free dinner over hiking with a potentially murderous stranger?

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