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Talk about what’s happening queerly in your life - like coming out, getting HRT, questioning, and all that good stuff.
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I went on a date with someone who I think is cool and want to keep seeing them but they live kind of far away and we're both busy and I don't know how to proceed from here. I want to at least be friends and hang out occasionally because I have no queer people in my social circle.
I love my girlfriend, and I love being her girlfriend :)
Researching HRT currently, lot of info to learn
I like men. And also women.
Have a date set for meeting my partner's mom. The mom who constantly tells her son to be straight, mixes me up with his high school ex-girlfriend, and when he told her that I'm trans, willfully forgot it, then when reminded started referring to me as his "friend".
Also also, said bf told me "I'm not sure about most things, but at least I'm very sure about being a man." and he has no idea how much that means to me as one of those gals who keeps accidentally dating eggs.
It's dumb, but it's a fucking relief.
I'm fresh out the psychward and I missed my gf so much but she's asleep right next to me rn and my dog is cuddling next to me too. I am so fucking happy. I have so much to worry about but right now I just feel so loved.
hii everyone 
Starting to feel a little nipple pain. It feels quite early but the doctor said it can start at two weeks so I guess that's normal since I'm at like 3. I'm just gonna assume the actual growth takes a while.
I am very very excited and can't stop thinking about it all the time though. Especially since it's the first tangible change I've noticed outside of libido stuff which was instant and felt more like the Spiro than the Estro to me.
I got noticeable growth beginning pretty soon after the increased sensitivity starting (within weeks). Like by 6 weeks there was clearly something there, and now I'm just over 3 months in and it's actually pretty remarkable. It probably depends a lot on genetics, though.
Oh no why did you tell me this my brain is burning with excitement now. I'm turning into a happy mush.
But just remember it happens differently for everyone, sometimes it can take longer and it will probably take years to finish.
Realized that I need FFS, but it seems my options are to either risk going to a cheap surgeon or save up for several years in order to afford going to one of the more reputable clinics. Being trans under capitalism is just so great...
Gonna happypost a little - nine years on from starting hormones, I'm pretty pleased with myself & my life.
In some ways it kind of feels like I haven't changed dramatically, because I don't do makeup or dress fancy like all the freshly-trans transfemmes do, but I also feel very chill. I have shed my personally-unhealthy compulsion towards aggressively feminine clothes and commonly wear jeans and oversized men's tees, or just loose flannels/button ups. I dress for a balance of comfort and aesthetic, and the resulting androgynous-leaning-femme look is something I like. I don't even wear a bra most days, because they're UNCOMFORTABLE AND SUCK! I basically dress like a tomboy I guess, and it feels so good.
I share a home with my wife who I love, I've been out full-time for the entire time I've been on hormones, and shockingly I am building a small social circle of queer people online, which is not something I've ever had before. I'm working through issues around being asexual, I love myself & my body, I'm happy being autistic in my own space. Who I am now is who 15-year-old me desperately wanted to be. I am my own goals from a decade ago.
Also I'm gonna read Blackshirts & Reds this coming week which is gonna be awesome.
I asked my friends and family to call me they/them. I went by any pronouns for a while, but people just defaulted to what they were already used to, which didn't feel quite right. They're all cool about it, but still getting used to it.
Day n of questioning whether I’m ace
yeahh kinda same for me
nsfw talk
I think it's very notable that when I'm looking at porn I tend to skip the sex parts lol, usually the leadup is so much more hot and a lot of the time the sex stuff is just kinda gross 
i'll probably start calling myself semiasexual or something because I definitely wanna get banged and have historically enjoyed sex just not in any normative way
Gonna have my yearly checkup tomorrow, time to see if they were telling the truth about gel being exactly the same as patches when they denied my request for a premature blood test cause supply issues forced me to make a switch.
Also gonna see if they make a comment about my chest this time, so far Im pretty sure Ive received some sort of comment about it every year.
Gender clinic confirmed as finally hiring nurses with tact, or maybe they wrote in my notes "don't ask if they're real"
Took like 2 months but I'm finally out to my immediate family as trans
awaagh
mood, girls shouldnt have to work, i should just make a living by laying around looking all cute and twinky and being spoiled by some woman who's at least roughly a decade older than me
just like me fr fr
me toooooooooooooooooooooo
LOL your new avatar is so good
hell yeah
Just sittin here twiddling my thumbs waiting for bottom surgery clinic to finally take me on as a patient and get on their wait list. I'm waiting to wait, ugh.
It feels like I'm getting closer to being my authentic self. I don't know if this is appropriate here, but I've been thinking a lot about my role in m/m relationships and the kind of dynamics I'd prefer. Just the idea of bottom shaming and how that intersects with race feels like an important conversation in leftist circles. Especially when we're trying to find the right words for the feelings we're experiencing.
For example, I'm attracted to people who I consider more masculine and assertive than how I present for personal safety. If the situation calls for it, I'll be the one to talk to the waiter if someone gets my friend's/partner's order wrong. I don't mind doing that and I am happy to do it when I can, but I think I want a consistent presence in my life who would actively do that for themselves. Or maybe I just want to have a fairer workload in those relationship situations.
In my head, a lot of the things I'm looking for align with what is considered a traditionally masculine man. I don't want to pressure my partner to be things he's not, but that is what I feel drawn to. I've felt like a bad leftist for that and I hate the way dating puts a value on being a straight guy. I've been on the receiving end of rejection based on not being masculine or feminine enough. I'm ashamed that I rejected people on the basis of not being masculine enough.
I'm working with an LGBT specialized therapist to help me unpack this and see what's shame from misunderstanding myself, or what's valid feelings I'm pathologizing.
I swear to god my lips have gotten fuller and more femme from HRT, I looked at my personal trans timeline and it's noticeable over the last couple years
HRT-related sex problems, advice needed
You know how it's a "use it or lose it" situation with sexual function of you dick once you go on HRT? Well I've kind of lost it and now I've been trying to use it again and it's not going well and I don't know what to do. HRT initially tanked my libido so I made no real effort to get regular erections to maintain function, progesterone kind of brought my libido back but also I've been in a depressive episode for the past couple of months so I still wasn't in the mood to try to masturbate much. Well I've been trying to use it again these past few weeks and now getting erect is quite painful and cumming is extremely painful. I've tried to push through it a bit but I'm worried I might fuck up my body and even after a couple days in a row masturbating it isn't any less painful, like not even a little bit. Am I just fucked now? Is this something I can push through and if I do it regularly enough it will stop being painful? Or is it just always going to be painful to get hard?
I feel like I'm stuck in an unwinnable situation though because even if getting daily erections eventually fixes the problem I don't really want to masturbate that often, like my sex drive just isn't that high, it's something I'd want to do like once or twice a week max. But doing it that infrequently is going to make it super painful and not enjoyable. I feel like I'm stuck in between either being cumbrained or celibate and I don't like either option.
This is entirely second hand and anecdotal but I have heard other transfeminine folk I know talk about this and mention getting a testosterone gel to specifically use on their genitals to counteract this?
But Im not entirely clear on if this is like a thing that is within the average doctors vocabulary or if its one of those things that very specific ones do, but it is something Ive heard can help and is probably worth looking into.
Ah okay, I’ll look into that. My endo seems pretty cool so I’ll bring that up with her, thank you!
https://reports.mountsinai.org/article/urol2021-03-a-pioneering-approach-to-sex-reassignment-surgery
If this is real, my gock is absolutely on offer
Hmmm so I am going to Thanksgiving next week and like it's gonna be a full week with my family. I only recently started presenting fem and am not ready to come out to my family, but since I've gotten so used to seeing myself this way... I am seriously dreading going to Thanksgiving. My mom wants to shop for glasses with me. My dad wants to buy me a suit. They are going to call me their beautiful boy or their son and he and him and dude and bro and I can't take it. This is like the first actual break I have which i actually NEED badly.
My work is incredibly stressful. I have like 10-12 hours of work to do every day, in 8 hours. I am so so so burnt out. Transition is very stressful, even when it's joyful. People stare. People misgender, there are like a million little things that hurt me whenever I go out because cis people are just so unaware or clueless.
I don't think I can handle a week when I need to relax with my family being misgendered, having my glasses and hair criticized, worried about my family seeing my legs or my armpits and then asking lots of probing questions. If I go on this trip i get back at midnight on fucking Sunday to start work again at 7am the next morning.
Sorry for the vent. I think I'm just gonna tell them I got covid. This is really stressful for me though because I do want to see my brother and I don't want to leave them alone with my parents because I know he wants to see me too. But liek, even then, I don't think I can handle it. I can't handle not being myself. My patience for this shit is just so low now,.
This week was incredibly gay, like every week in my life. It started with me playing my first Thirsty Sword Lesbians session with my new RPG group, and damn do i love that game and that group already. We're talking about an RPG where GM means "gaymaster", do i really need to say more?
Also, as of this week, i've been on HRT for a whole year! Got my blood results this week, too, everything's looking great even after i've halved my CPA dose. Got a script for progesterone, which already works nicely for my sleep and hopefully will work just as well for my boobs.
Also had my kitty over this weekend, but i'm not gonna turn this into a hornypost.
Kind of annoying to know trans ppl with no sympathy for the humble cisphobe. Like sorry that I've grown to despise the people that oppress me and the people constantly shit on me. Sure my life would probably be easier if I could take it easy and not get filled with hatred but like not all people can do that. Oh well. (Had the admin of a discord server I'm on basically say that you can't be cisphobic or anything like that and if you are cisphobic she didn't want you on the server sooo)
Instead of thinking about cute guys my age, since yesterday when I talked to this (relatively) older man.. God damn 
Yall. I am not out to my family and jm set to go to the beach with them over Christmas-> they have no idea so I will be expected to, liek all other years, wear shorts and hang out on the beach (I shave my legs). I also have the opportunity to start HRT this week. What's the chance that I'll have noticeable physical affects after 1 month? Wondering whether I should postpone starting.
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