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[–] [email protected] 9 points 11 months ago (2 children)

yeahh kinda same for me

nsfw talkI think it's very notable that when I'm looking at porn I tend to skip the sex parts lol, usually the leadup is so much more hot and a lot of the time the sex stuff is just kinda gross lea-think i'll probably start calling myself semiasexual or something because I definitely wanna get banged and have historically enjoyed sex just not in any normative way

[–] [email protected] 4 points 11 months ago (1 children)

spoilerHonestly still hard to wrap my mind around the fact that people get enjoyment out of watching other people have sex. It kinda grosses me out, I think all the porn I’ve ever consumed is soft core I was 18 the first time I masturbated, believe it or not, which adds to my potential ace case.

I have only had penetrative sex once and really hated it. I had a sexual experience with a guy once too and hated it as well

My brain fucking sucks

[–] [email protected] 5 points 11 months ago

spoilerYeah that's super understandable honestly. Figuring out the sexuality is really annoying but I'm sure we'll both get to a good point with it 😔

[–] [email protected] 1 points 11 months ago* (last edited 11 months ago)

There's ace ppl who have sex "just" because they like the feeling, or because they do it for their partner. In the end it comes down to the definition: asexuality is about not experiencing sexual attraction to people. are you sexually attracted to people? Or only when you're good friends (demi), or only rarely (aceflux/grayace)? Or not at all (ace)? Or somewhere inbetween? Maybe I'm not saying something new, maybe this helps, and you can also tell me to delete this if I spoke out of turn